This is Day 10 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge held in March 2012, where we work on being positive for 21 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
21DPC Day 10 Question
Today’s positivity question is:
Are There Any Negative People in Your Life?
If your answer is a ‘yes’,
Who Are They? And Why Are They There (In Your Life)?
Your Task:
- Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express yourself.
- Evaluate each person you come across today …and consciously ask yourself: Is this person a positive or negative energy in your life?
- Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!
Share Your Answers!
After you are done, share your answers in the comments area.
If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then work on your positivity task throughout the day, then return at the end of the day to share your results for your positivity task and your end-of-day positive reflection.
Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!
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I generally find my mom quite negative, she generally thinks most of the people are trying to deceive her or hurt her. She is quite honest and straight forward, she always thinks for the best of the others but the words she chooses to communicate can be too straight forward and may cause reaction of others. I find myself tryin to explain others what she really means and her intention is not to hurt anyone. But she generally ends up with broken relationships.
Another person negative in my life is myself actually, I learned this recently. Altough I consider myself as an optimist person I found out in my coaching practice that when it is about my potential and abilities I always see the blank side of the glass, this is a goal in my life, to overcome this and change it into positivity
Since these are my mom and my own self it is not easy to throw out of my life:)
positive thing for the day
Had a very chatty and fun breakfast with my old collegues
got very nice presents and a letter of appreciation from two of my friends
Yes, there are two negative people in my life. One of them is a co-worker. I want to like her, because is she generous person and has a good sense of humor. However, she has a very negative mindset and always thinks the worst of every situation. She’s very judgmental, close minded and sometimes it seems like she tries to go against the grain for the purpose of being difficult. While she’s gotten better about controlling it, she has a very hot temper and thinks nothing of screaming at and belittling you if she feels you made a mistake
The other person is my dad. My dad has made some poor choices in life over the last several years which has left him quite depressed. I often dread asking him how he is doing because I know all he has to say are negative things about how his life is. This makes me very sad for him and I usually feel drained after talking with him.
Something positive for the day was that my mom called me randomly and invited my husband and I to dinner with her and my stepdad. They bought a new grill and were trying it out, so we got a free meal and some good company for the evening out of it. :mrgreen:
Are There Any Negative People in Your Life?
Yes there are some colleagues, some people in my sports club and unfortunately also in my family
Who Are They?
My Colleague Monika – she is moaning all day. There is Johannes in my sports club – he is a nice guy, but sometimes overbearing. And there is my only aunt Petra – she is moaning all day, only talking about herself and her diseases. And my brother Martin – he is very lazy and arrogant.
And Why Are They There?
Monika bullied my 7 years ago, but I managed to handle it and I have grown since then. But she didn´t and I think she is jealous of my happiness. She is there th remember me all day how wonderful my life has grown since 2005 and how disastrous the alternative looks like. Johannes remembers me that sport is about havong fun and not about being perfect. Anger wont´t get me very far. My Aunt is the example for me of how I will never ever end up – frustrated from life, without a partner, having high expectations which will never be fulfilled by everyone, annoying to all people so that everyone is glad when she leaves. She reminds me that I am on the right way, that I have understood that only I can make me happy. Why my brother is in my life I don´t know. For 2 years i share a flat with him and he annoys me all day. I think it´s because I have to learn to clean the flat for me and I it has to be done without the other part which is also in duty. But this is very unfair to me and I have a big problem with this.
Evaluate each person you come across today
Mother – helpful and positive, Father – grumpy but positive, Brother – grumpy neutal, Sister – nice and positive
Identify at least one positive thing about your day.
I cooked a meal for my family – the first time for years and it was very delicious!!
Are there any negative people in my life? Who are they? And why are they there?
:twisted: Hell yeah. There are negative people in my life right now. They are toxic. They drain my energy – both emotionally and physically. I always believe that the negative (to me, also difficult) people are in my life to teach me a lesson or two about dealing and living with them. So I’m realistic about the existence of such people in my life. There are about four of such people in my life; two of whom have been strategically deployed in my office as my staff; and one of whom is my mother.
:angel: The only person I’ve come across is my Personal Trainer. And he represents the positive energy that I wish to have constantly in my life. He is upbeat, encouraging, supportive and shows relentless patience and positive attitude. He is what I would look for in a friend… and also in myself… to be a motivating factor in others’ lives.
:clap: The one positive thing about my day today is being able to find strength amidst my emotional drain and make it to the gym for my personal training. I mean there have been other days when I hit the gym… but not today. It has taken me tremendous effort just to peel myself off the bed to make it for the training because I’ve felt so down the day before and I’ve let the previous day’s event affected me. So I feel like I’ve achieved so much just making it to my car to start driving off.
I’ve always been around negativity. My mom is very very negative. I’m around her because I have to be:)
My job requires that I deal with negativity every day – complaining people. I wish I had chosen a different career – it’s too late now especially with our economy.
Positive for the day was going out to dinner with my hubs and oldest daughter. We had fun and laughs just the 3 of us.
I have no one unbearably negative in my life at the moment. I quit my last job, so my mad-as-a-hatter-and-worse bosses are out of the picture. Before that, the big negative character in my life was my last boyfriend. I gave up that unhealthy relationship after a 2 1/2 year struggle to make it work and I’m SO glad I did… one of my best decisions ever. However, I also consider that time as a learning opportunity, so I don’t regret it terribly and am recovering pretty well. I now have the most fantastic boyfriend ever, who is also the most positive person I have ever met.
What frequently bugs me is my friends’ attitudes.
I’m not all sunshine either, and we’re all going through difficult times, being almost finished with our studies etc, not knowing what’s next… but they can really be incredibly negative at the moment. I love them to bits, really I do and they’re all lovely people and can be really supportive, but sometimes I just can’t believe how bad they’re negativity is…They bitch and moan about everything at our school all the time, freak out about the upcoming finals, causing a panicky atmosphere that makes it hard to work in and in the past year or so they’ve for some reason gotten incredibly paranoid about our headmistresses and the semester under us, believing everything they say to have some sort of double meaning and being a personal attack.
Agreed, possibly there are some things being said about us behind our backs by some people, but I get the impression they think everyone’s out to “get us”. Who gives a fuck what they’re saying. We’re nearly finished. We’ll never have to see those people again if we dont’t want to.
The level of paranoia here is getting ridiculous to the point I can’t bear to be around them when they get into this mode. I don’t spend much time at school anyway anymore as the atmosphere’s getting too stressful towards the finals and I prefer to work at home anyway.
Apart from this fact, they’re lovely friends and I wouldn’t miss them for the world. That’s why they’re still in my life. They’ve been there for me in difficult times and they’re a great laugh when they’re not being paranoid, and I do allow for the current stress levels too.
Apart from that lots of people in my life aren’t at optimum positivity, but seriously, who is. Those are few and far between. I just try not to let other people’s negative sides affect my choices and dreams in life. Not always easy, but I think I’ve picked my own path pretty well so far.
My ex and his family and my ex-bosses were the most negative people in the past year or so, but that’s history. My ex and I parted on good terms, I learnt a lot from the relationship and he’s still lending me money. So it wasn’t all bad.
I’m currently trying to connect more to people I find inspiring and supportive, in a sense trying to create a new core of more positive people inside my life.
Other people are frequently both positve and negative factors, such as family members, who have points on both sides. My dad is one of the most inspiring people in my life and I hope I’ll turn out as good a person as he has one day, at the same time he has a deeply ingrained belief that art makes no money. Which is part of my envisioned dream life and very close to my heart, so that hurts.
Interpersonal relationships are tricky, but I am currently actively focusing on spending more time with those I find uplifting and inspiring and less with those who stress me out or cause me to doubt myself or my dreams.
Positive things:
Good sex ;)
Nice hot lemon-scented bath for relaxation
Got some project work done
Had a great insight about how I should be living my life/what I’m doing wrong
Cuddles <3
I think both of my parents can be negative. They are in my life because they are my parents and my mum looks after my son. My brother a little bit, although I don’t see him as much. He’s in my life because he’s my brother. My friend St has been at times, though we’re not so close. We’ve been friends for years and tend to stay in touch. My in-law family, especially the dad, I see them when dropping off or picking up my son and they are his family so that’s why they are in my life. SJ can be a bit like a spoilsport parent. She’s in my life because we met and really got along, although our energies are diverging a bit now. My colleague E can be quite moany as well, he’s in my life because I sit next to him at work.
This question made me evaluate my own positivity. I think I could be more positive about my job and feel more at ease to share my blessing with other people I meet.
The most positive thing about my day was running 10.5 miles and exploring London at Night. :clap:
Luckily, there are no specific negative people. However, I do notice a lot of apathy towards things that matter, which makes me sad at times. Then I realise that I cannot force them to follow me blindly. They’ll have to explore the world themselves before they can see what I see :)
Why are they there? Because most of the world is that way by default. That’s how we started out – living in a world of scarcity, unpredictability and competition. Like most other animals today (strangely enough, in this sense bonobos seem to have evolved higher than us, being very peaceful and cooperative animals…)
The people I met yesterday were all positive though! Went to work on our student allotment. Brilliant spring weather!! Got some digging and planting done. I’m still a complete newbie (typical urban kid…) but I hope I’ll learn lots over the coming months! :D
Yes, there are indeed some negative people in my life. One of those is my mom who always complains about her problems to me and I cannot remember when she ever said something good. And, of course, I have to deal with her every single day and I tried, but I cannot change her in the way I want her to be. And it’s a real bugger, so I can’t wait when I will start to live on my own.
Then there is this on friend I have and she caused me a lot of headaches because she was so different from me. What bonded us was our sense of humor, I don’t have the same thing with everybody else.
But I believe that she herself has noticed this quality of her and tries to change it. :D
My grandmother. She is old ans all she does is talk about her sicknesses which is unpleasant to hear for me. But that’s a gran thing I guess and all the other times she’s quite civil.
Positive of the day:
Went on a bycicle ride through the woods.
Negative family members can be a real bugger, cause you’ll be seeing them daily! I think most people complain hoping someone will notice and sympathise. Which is obviously hard to do if you have your own life to live and they have so much negativity in them.
What kind of things does she complain about? Anything you can agree with? It really helps a person to know they’re not the only one who’s noticing something’s wrong. It will give them the courage to vent it all out with you (*not* at you!) and feel better afterwards. For example, yesterday me and my friend were complaining together about our homework and writing it afterwards wasn’t so bad anymore :) (sometimes after complaining to someone else, I feel I went a bit overboard and realise it’s not as bad after all!!)
If you feel you can’t take it, try spending some time with good friends and talk to your mum when you feel stronger and able to give support.
Are there any negative people in your life. Who are they and why are they in your life?
Yes i have some family who can be very negative. Sometimes they can really spend a long time being angry or upset about certain things. Recently one family member told me she can holdgrudges for a longtime and was proud of it! She also complained to me about a few things that happened to her during grade school. Also i can meet people through work who are very negative.
The negative family members are in my life because i want them them there. I wouldn’t want to sever ties with them ever. The negative coworkers are in my life because that is where I am employed for now.
One positive thing that happened to me today was the weather. It was a bright sunny day. I went for a nice long walk.
Are There Any Negative People in Your Life?
Yes.
Who Are They? And Why Are They There (In Your Life)?
My parents. I live in same house with them.
Evaluate each person you come across today …and consciously ask yourself: Is this person a positive or negative energy in your life?
My father is generally a negative person. He will tend to complain with self-righteousness about the government of the things it should and should not do. He scolds my brother consistently in an effort to force him to study so that he can get good grades. He is a fearful and sometimes paranoid person.
My mother is generally a negative person too. She will scold and make personal attacks over minor things, like putting stuff in the ‘wrong place’. She wants things her way, and if I do not do something her way, she will threaten me instead. She can be an extremely stubborn person too.
Both my parents do not have much self-awareness themselves. They are both bad listeners and really do not do much to get into others’ viewpoint except their own. They expect us, their children, to treat them well with love and respect but they do not really do so themselves. They are not really good role models too.
Identify at least one positive thing about your day.
I went to a Toastmasters’ meeting today and had fun watching the speeches and interacting with the people there.
This is an extremely good question, especially the second part, “Why are they there?”
I’ve had negative people in my life because I worked with them and I was not, at that time, able to change jobs. I’ve had negative people in my life because I couldn’t figure out how to get them out of my life without hurting their feelings! I’ve had negative people in my life because I thought I had to let them stay in my life.
Most of them are gone now. Those that remain are:
my brothers. I don’t see them a lot, and they don’t say or do things to drag me down, but they both are depressed and negative and unhappy and their outlook on everything is gloomy.
my brother-in-law (mys sister’s husband). He has a dry sarcastic wit and can be funny but he is usually only sarcastic without being funny, and never has anything kind or sympathetic to say to or about anyone, including his wife and daughter. I rarely see him and try to avoid talking to him even on the phone but I can’t keep him out of my life altogether.
Three family members who have schizophrenia. Sometimes they are okay to be around but sometimes they are not.
My husband’s sister-in-law. I see her very seldom and don’t find her at all congenial. She is an ordained minister and is one of the most sanctimonious and self-centered persons I’ve ever known.
I am very happy to say that I don’t have to spend much time with any of these people. I wish my brothers were more optimistic, and that the family members who are mentally ill could be cured or at least be more stable. The in-laws seem to have chosen to be negative and nasty and I wish they would inflict themselves on each other so the rest of us wouldn’t have to deal with them.
Aaaack! Forgot the positive observations!
1. I didn’t see any of the negative people!
2. My husband got out of the hospital!
3. My friends.
Well, I’m all scatter-brained. I keep forgetting things. Like the instructions to evaluate each person you come across today.
1. My husband: he was being discharged from the hospital today so he was all cheerful. He is not inclined to negativity anyway. He has a lot of health problems but has a good attitude about it.
2. The doctor and the hospital staff: they were all kind and encouraging. The doctor said the situation that led to my husband’s hospitalization was unusual for him (my husband, that is) and therefore worrisome.
3. One of the schizophrenic family members, who was at the house when we got home. He seems pretty stable so the brief interaction we had was pleasant. There are things that he says he wants to do, and that would be good for him but he resists actually doing them and that brings him down emotionally and mentally.
4. My sister and my friend that I talked to on the phone to tell them my husband was home. Neither one tends to be negative, and I enjoyed talking to both of them.
Are there any negative people in my life?Who are they?Why are they?
I feel the negative people are my co workers. Because they keep talking about either money (for them which is most important in life) or cosmetics or talking about that’s gossiping about other co workers or telling about their boy friends.
Thank God!!! I just have to talk to 2 or 3 people in my office who are of this kind with regard to my work.. Other people i will just ‘hi’ and ‘bye’ so just having formal talks…
Positivity about the day:
I went outside with my hubby to a new place in our City and did some shopping over there :)
Well unfortunately the negative person in my life now is my wife. We had the discussion last night that I can no longer live in limbo. That I’m not happy anymore, and it was a pretty intense fight last night. I did lose my temper once and said something things that i regret. But there were things she said that provoked me to say it. I know I should have not said anything. But I can only take so much.
I ended up sitting in my office and stayed there until I was able to calm down. And eventually feel asleep in my office floor for the night.
But we are both done, but she said if I want the divorce then i need to file. So I put down a goal for this month and next is to find a lawyer, and start the process. I am also thinking of going to see a doctor about my depression. I saw him a while back, when i was first going through the depression in 2006.
I left the house today to be away from her, and she emailed me a few times today, saying all she wants is for me to be happy, what ever it is. Why do I feel that is not the truth from her. With the things she said about me last night it seems like her controlling characteristics is the complete opposite of what she says. I just wish she could be honest with me… That is all I ask.
So today I bought a new book to read, found a new journaling app, and I started a 100 dream list. (not a goals list but a dream list) I’m only up to 25 or so. But I will get there.
Positive thing for today, is my best friend was there this morning to cheer me up. I told her what happened last night, and when I got up in the morning she was right there. We talked for a while, and I went from being OK to feeling much better. I ended up at the gym and worked twice as long because I skipped the night before with the fighting we had. Then went shopping.
And she was honest with me, which I needed this morning. I really haven’t been pushing myself with the goals/things I want to do for the month of March and she cracked the whip today. This is what I love about her. She knew I was not in the right mind, I was down, but this is when i need the wake up call. Because I was already down, she pushed me a little bit more. Because I know I took two steps back this morning, and this after noon I took four steps forward. There are no elevators in the steps of life.
I needed it today and she pushed me.
I’m going to add one more positive thing for today. Like I said this morning I worked extra long at the gym this morning. This evening I needed to blow off some steam. My wife just laid in bed the whole day. I can’t stand it when she doesn’t do anything, and she just sits around or lies in bed.
So I went out to the gym again. Grand total today I think I did the elliptical and bike for 12 miles. Unheard of a year ago today. I use to get tired just driving 1 mile…
Anyway I got to talk to my best friend tonight while at the gym. She is such a sweet heart, that she checked in me before she was going to bed. She was worried about me today, and I reassured her that I was feeling much better today than last night.
The one thing I still have a hard time dealing with is how/what my wife may do. She is pretty depressed, and I’m torn between the going after my own happiness and peace with myself, and possibly her hurting herself. I know I can’t control what she will or will not do, but the guilt is what is scaring me. I know I should not give up my happiness, but I how can I over come the guilt if she does something.
Kinda.. but not really. Some people (boyfriend) says I’m the negative one.. but I really don’t think I am. I do have my moments in which I “complain” but I do it to get it off my chest and then I’m over it. I move on to more positive thoughts. Negative people need to be in our lives. How else are we to learn what being positive is all about without them??
The negative people in my life are my mother and my ex-husband and my coworker. I cannot avoid any of them right now:
– my mother is limited in her imagination and puts me down every time we talk. It is very frustrating.
– my ex is mentally ill and refuses medication. He rants about everything! I keep tabs on him because he is homeless, and I want to make sure he at least has enough to eat and stays warm and dry.
– my coworker works too hard and gets angry easily and swears a lot. We have adjoining offices, and I leave the doors open so sunlight and fresh air get in to her office.
Today I got to be with 2 of my sons, who are in Boy Scouts, and it is a joy to see how happy they are with their progress! They are kind, thoughtful, happy children. I had a photographer in to take photos of my house for AirBnB, and he was… racially sensitive, and kind of accusatory. Which was surprising, but he is a recent transplant to our little valley. Maybe he’ll get to be okay with it in time.
One positive thing about my day is that I talked for a long time to my sweetie, who treats me like a princess, even though I am really a middle-aged single mother with a logical mind. It’s romantic, and cute, and I think I’m in love! :heart:
I have negative people in my life. I think they might not just be negative but don’t want you to prosper. Sometimes they are the most difficult to get rid of because they hold on tight, especially if they think you are moving on.
Are There Any Negative People in Your Life? Who Are They? And Why Are They There (In Your Life)?
– To be honest, there really aren’t that many people in my life, period. And since we moved a few months ago, there are even fewer than before. If I had to pick someone, I’d say my dad has had a negative influence on me, but he’s not really “in my life” much. I’m pretty good at getting away from people whose company I don’t enjoy or who are nothing but a burden.
Evaluate each person you come across today.
– The only people I’ve been in contact with so far today have been random people and cashiers while I was running errands. I did get to chat with the two guys who work at my local pet supplies store, but they are definitely postive people (in other words, they adore my dogs). :)
Identify at least one positive thing about your day.
– I won a gift basket from the pet supplies store! I got a call from the owner about an hour ago, so I can go pick up the basket any time in the next few days. My dogs will be so happy. :D
I don’t have many negative people in my life as I find it really difficult to be around negative people and find that they make me feel depressed and anxious (their negativity rubs off on me and triggers my worst perspectives on life, fear being the main one). The most negative person I know and cannot keep away from is my grandmother, someone I love dearly but as she has got older she has become more and more negative, and it seems there is nothing that can be said or done to change her perspectives… you can’t change the habit of a lifetime. Now I have recognised how I am affected by negativity, I am careful not to listen to her fears, panics and negative comments as if they were truths. I feel like I have to be careful or it would be easy to become persuaded by her perspective.
Today I spent time with a friend who is very positive and encourages and supports me.
Positive things about today: enjoying local food, lie-in, bought a flowery hairband for Spring :)
Yes, there are a couple of friends, family and colleagues that fall into that category. Family members and colleagues are there because I don’t have a choice. My boss for example is quite negative and complains a loooot, I guess those are the worst influence I have to deal with since I interact with them every day, my aunts don’t even live in the same country where I am, so it is just from time to time that I talk to them. Now, my negative friends: why are they there? That is the tricky one, I guess I value some other values that they have over the negativity. Nevertheless, recently this topic has come to my life from different sources, just last week listening some podcast the guy was asking the same question and suggesting you should do a list of the people you spend time with, and ponder them depending on the good or bad influence they have on you. Also two weeks ago I read a book called The Seasons of Life, where the author clearly states that your environment should be full of positive and energetic people if you want to keep motivated and succeed in life. So, I am seriously considering starting reducing the time I spend with those friends.
A positive thing, well I spent my day with my husband, had a lovely lunch in my favourite restaurant, watched a movie… Many positive things : )
well There is one person in my life with black energy in me but i don’t like to mention it. the thing is I can change nor cut that person out of my life at least or now. the only thing I can do is to avoid her effect me in the minimum.
There weren’t many person who I come across today but they where all positive people except one, the one I mentioned before.
I had a quite day today and i managed to avoid a big fight. that’s great.
I have a friend that is very negative with some things. I met her few years ago, and it is hard to tell her that she drains the energy out of other people. I know she has problems,but she doesn’t care to improve , rather talks about her problems until story gets old..and beyond.
2 friends left her recently because they couldn’t handle her. We already didn’t talk for a year, until she apologized for falsely accusing me of something I didn’t do and didn’t have in mind to do. I think she likes to be in that “victim” role in any friendship. I don’t like crappy life, mine or anyone’s and I would like for everyone to try to be happy and fix things in their lives. But if you just talk about it for few years in a row and not doing anything else, what can people think of you? Friends advised her how to fix some things, helped her to feel a bit better, and when you think she worked something for herself, you see she did nothing and keeps you busy with same story. As those 2, I want a positive persons in my life too, not energy suckers.
I don’t know how to tell her that I wont be her friend until she at least starts thinking how others feel and what mistakes she makes. In some way she is very selfish, and wont believe she makes mistakes like everyone else. Even when she insults someone, she finds an excuse why that was ok.
positive thing today : I feel very happy because I met a friend from Facebook yesterday. She is really nice and we spent some great time together. I’ll also meet her tomorrow and when I had to leave home yesterday, i felt like I had a lot of energy.Like i wanted to spend more time with her. :heart: I believe this is going to be a really great friendship in my life, it already is :) (I could jump with all the joy I feel! :dance: )
You know how it feels when people do not tell you the things they think about you, some may keep it for them self some may start talking to all they know except you… Well all you want is for this people to tell you how they feel or how they think.
Same thing goes for everyone, so if it’s that what you think of her just be sincere and tell her how you feel and how you thing in the most honest way! It will be the best thing for both of you!
Thank you for a good advice. :) I’m going to do it as soon as possible. Even tho I’m a bit scared to tell her because I know she wont except it as my opinion but as an insult. I once tryed to start a conversation about it, and told her she is a bit hard to deal with, and I felt earthquakes and storms even tho we chatted online. It is definitely the best thing for both of us. Just wish me good luck for it to end since I know there is nothing else I can do for her, and dragging this causes just pain.
Thank you! I’m glad you gave me such advice and i feel much braver to do this at once. :hug:
You are welcome! Good luck! :hug:
A woman who used to be my best friend. She moved a couple of years ago, she changed a lot. She now lives with more hatred and negativity in her heart than anything else. It’s sad and slowly I try to move away from her. I am the godmother of her 6 years old son, so I can’t do more, but knowing she has a negative effect on me ,I am more cautious.
My boss and till I find another job or idea I will have to deal with him and his negativity.
As for a positive thing for today:
I went to Zumba
Had a relaxing afternoon home and had a chat with a good friend of mine (who is all about ideas, changes, plans) and it felt good to see her.
A nice evening to all!
You now, there are some times that you can not disconnect completely from some people even when you want to. But maybe there is a reason. In your case I would say you should help your godson not to be effected by his mother negativity.
Thanks Jola. Yes it would definitely something I would like to be able to do.
Stay well
1. My boss is very negative. I joined Toastmasters to improve my public speaking skills and his response was “Why do you need that? You don’t do any public speaking here?” Any suggestions or ideas I have are also treated the same way.
2. I seem to have a lot of somewhat positive people around me.
My Daily Positivity
I got through a medical procedure fairly well. Still in some pain though.
Hi Tina, It feels like you are talking about my boss. Every time he says to me to talk about my ideas but when I talk he moves on to something else or just say it’s wrong. Quite difficult to manage isn’t it?
I hope your pain will ease soon. Take care
Maybe your boss is scared you will take his/her job?
My friend gave me this quote one day. “The leader’s job is not to provide energy but to release it from others.”
She gave me this quote when a position at my company opened up for me, and I kept that in mind. And a month later I got that position.
Could this be your chance at opening a door for you at your company? There is no reason for you to stop improving yourself.
To answer your question, I would say No. I simply ignore naysayers.
The person I’m currently fighting against is myself. I’m my own poison. No one else.
I’m a hyper positive person by nature. So, I do not admit negative thoughts especially from others people.. Constructive thoughts is very appreciated but not negative ones.
No, not any more.
There are people in my life who are not happy all the time, and who have days when they’re not feeling particularly positive. They’re in my life because they’re humans ;) and we all have days like that sometimes. I get very drained by overly negative people – I’ve even been known to get irritated at my boyfriend when I perceive he’s being ‘too’ negative (you don’t need to point out the utter illogical nature of that!!) So that’s something I really need to work on. :shy: :(
Today, I went to an aerobics class. We have a couple of instructors who take the sessions, and the lady today wasn’t our regular one. I’ve met her before, though – she’s super-energetic, really motivating and makes the class really fun. Definitely a positive influence! Then I spent the afternoon with my boyfriend, one of our housemates, and two of our friends. All positive, definitely – I love spending time with them.
One positive thing about my day? I got to see two friends I hadn’t seen for a while, and I had a really lovely yoga/meditation session after this morning’s workout. Also, the new running shoes I bought yesterday don’t give me knee and ankle ache, like my old ones used to. To be fair, I’d had the old ones for so long that I’m not surprised they weren’t giving me enough support!
Yes.
I’m not sure if my partner’s negative, so much as it’s ,more a question of surrendering to debilitating anxieties.
I also have a pretty pessimistic sister.
Positive: I m looking forward t watching a movie with my dad tonight.
The people I know (and I include myself here) are a good old mix of negativity and positivity. And each person fluctuates – their negativity and positivity levels are not the same each day or even each hour. If someone is being negative I like to see this as an opportunity for me for good practice (ie deflecting, hearing without being contaminated, remaining friendly and upbeat etc). If someone is being positive I also like to see this as an opportunity for good practice (ie modelling my behaviour on theirs, appreciating, enjoying, etc.
I appreciate that, sometimes, we need to look after ourselves and disengage with person who is being particularly negative – but hopefully not for too long. Sometimes, I must confess, I feel the need to disengage with someone who is being relentlessly positive as it can feel a bit false and unreal.
Is it to do with not becoming too attached to either negative or positive outlooks?
I read people’s responses to this question and I was struck by how many people experience their parents (especially mothers) as being particularly negative. Thank you for sharing this – it has certainly made me more conscious about how I behave around my children now!
My positive thing for today is finding just the right card for my daughter and son-in-law’s wedding anniversary.
It is so fascinating and helpful reading what people write – well done all of us, for making the efforthttps://personalexcellence.co/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/heart.gif
Exactly – people do fluctuate and I’m always really wary about saying that someone’s a ‘positive’ or a ‘negative’ person. It’s really constricting :( I definitely think that it’s only in absolute ‘worst case’ scenarios that you should ever cut someone out of your life for being ‘too’ negative. It’s those people that need love the most ;)
Thanks very much for your comment, Squiggle, and I agree with you.
Getting a bit behind here, but back again.
Negative people, yes, there are a few in my life. I won’t name anyone, but they’re there. Some of closest to me aren’t too negative. More insecure if anything. Those I find the most negative are either casual aquaintences or friends of friends.
Why they’re there? I can’t give a precise answer. Friends of friends I sometimes can’t avoid at social get togethers are a good example. Those I find the most negative I won’t bother staying in contact with. Those with much less negativty may possibly be attracted to my positive energy? I don’t know, but I’ve heard recently of others saying some nice things about me.
I evaluated a number of people today and sensed a lot of negativity. But thankfully these aren’t people close to me.
Positive things today. A good friend came to visit us. We only just found out he finally got a drivers licence 9 days ago and bought himself a car the same day. He tooks us for a drive and I bought us all lunch.
Then tonight I went to a birthday get together. Had some great coversations with a few people there, and got to know a few people a bit better than I knew them before.
Are There Any Negative People in Your Life?
In my life, I encountered a few people who are very negative. One of them is one of my net friends. He used to be a very negative thinking person when I first knew him. We both argued, or I should say, we “discussed” about our own philosophy, our thoughts. He always thought that the world can never be peaceful, which always full of dangerous people around us, and he always met something bad in his life. Although we discussed a lot, but at the end, we always have an agreement on our own thinking: Everyone has different thinking.
After 5 years knowing him, one day, he told me that his mindset changed after knowing me. He thinks positively now, and now his life is getting better. He has just started his software development business on his own. I hope that he could continue doing well in his life.
The other friends, they complain a lot, even my colleagues always complain about the students. I personally complain about my students for not working hard too. But, when I reflect back myself, it could be my problem that I cannot teach in a way that to attract students in listening to me. That’s what I should be learning. :)
Evaluate each person you come across today
This morning, I went out with my friend for a swim. Both of us didn’t swim too much, but we chatted a lot. XD
To me, he is a very cheerful person. Although I don’t really like some of his attitudes, but still, he is a very cheerful person, and he can always release his stress very fast. To some people, he might be an irresponsible person, as he doesn’t really care too much of his work. However, in the other way round, he is a happy-go-lucky person. As long as he has done his work, that’s it.
Besides him, I didn’t meet up with anyone else except my family members. My family is a happy family. Although sometimes we have arguments, but those were not big argues. We can always resolve the problem easily. All of us know that we want to have a peaceful family, and because of the traditional family style, we respect the elders, so it is always a peaceful world in our family. ^^
Identify at least one positive thing about your day.
Today, I went swimming with the friend that I mentioned above. After that, we went to a shopping center and saw a book fair happening. Wow~~ I was so excited! XD Initially, I planned not to buy anything, just had a look in the book fair will do. But, I ended up… bought all these… =.=” Anyway, because of the books, I felt happy for the whole evening. :D
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