This is Day 10 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge held in March 2012, where we work on being positive for 21 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
21DPC Day 10 Question
Today’s positivity question is:
Are There Any Negative People in Your Life?
If your answer is a ‘yes’,
Who Are They? And Why Are They There (In Your Life)?
Your Task:
- Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express yourself.
- Evaluate each person you come across today …and consciously ask yourself: Is this person a positive or negative energy in your life?
- Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!
Share Your Answers!
After you are done, share your answers in the comments area.
If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then work on your positivity task throughout the day, then return at the end of the day to share your results for your positivity task and your end-of-day positive reflection.
Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!
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My best friend is very pessimistic in a way and she tends to think towards the negative side all the time. I try to be more positive and tell her to be too (because she knows and wants to change). I’m negative in my own way, but I try to be optimistic too.
Usually I stay away from negative people, so I think I’m good ;)
One positive thing I did today: I helped out a choir member who didn’t know her music well with her test.
Yes! I was just thinking about this today! I have 3 three very negative people in my life right now. Two are co-workers and one is a friend that I am also working with, all of them are much older than me, so I would be uncomfortable confronting them about it. The two at work are nice people in general, and also nice to work with, but they have a tendency to fixate on the negative aspects of life, particularly politics. It can be very draining to listen to that day after day, especially with people who are so set in their ways. Since that’s the only part of my job that I don’t love, I’m sticking it out for now, and trying to ignore their conversations the best I can. The other negative person in my life, is an old friend that I’ve been working for. Her issue seems to be obsessing relentlessly over worst case scenarios, most of which are highly unlikely. However she doesn’t mean any harm by it, and she really needs the help, as I need the work, so I’m staying in this situation too. All and all, not awful, but I really needed to vent !
Positive things today:
I’ve been eating healthier for a full week now and have lost 2.5 lbs! :dance:
Congratulations on a healthier diet! :)
Also, I agree with you on negativity coming from people who talk about politics and fuzz over things that haven’t even happened yet… Gotta enjoy the present, which is the only time we have :)
Thanks Sara!
Yes, there are negative people in my life and they are there to keep me balanced. They keep me focus on who is in Charge of my situation and life and not the circumstances that surrounds me.
V well said Theresa !! :clap: It’s good that you are learning how to be positive from the negative people. :bow: But you see there s a reason for the saintly preach. So just be aware around the negative people because you never know when negativity will enter inside you.
Thanks, I will keep that in mind. Although I must admit, I have dropped some of them, too much of anything is NOT good. Thanks for sharing!
Not any more! I’ve had maybe 3-4 negative friends in my life and they slowly drifted away. Not by choice. It was funny I actually wanted to keep one person in my life because he reminds me of my brother. His mannerisms and lectures. Maybe some of his negativity too as I feel my brother is somewhat negative as well. When this person (he shall remain nameless) started to drift away I was trying to hang on to our friendship for dear life. Just because I thought we were close and like a family. Apparently I guess he didn’t feel the same way about our friendship. I was frustrated and angry that he didn’t want to keep in touch any more and I was always the one trying to keep in touch with him. It took me a little while but finally I thought about it long and hard. Why would I want to be “family”/close friends with someone who was so negative and didn’t even feel the same way? I totally needed to cut the cord and let go. Once I started to do that more positive and spiritual friends drifted into my life!! Today I try to surround myself with positive energy/people. They help make life so much more. :)
I forgot to leave a positive for today! It’s a beautiful, warm Friday and I’m so looking forward to a really nice evening spent with my hunny and good friends at an artwalk and trying some Ukrainian food! whoo hoo! Happy Friday!
What if someone sometimes give sign of negative tendencies,please?
Otherwise you were right to do your best and leave the rest.
Hi P. Challychurn,
If someone shows signs of negativity – it’s ok once in a while because we can’t be positive all the time. I will help them turn the negativity around to something positive and hope they will be able to see another side of it. However that is their own choice in what they choose to see. Regarding the negative friends- they were the ones that left. There is a reason why the negative people left. I appreciate the universe watching over me.
Lady Di ,
Thanky you for your kind response. You put it so well.
Ladi Di.
Very well stated and , a reThanyou for the kind response.alistic approach indeed.
P.S.
The second reply is the result of a technical error, I suppose. Kindly ignore it please.
I thank you for this post, LadyDi, I read it awhile back and wanted to leave a reply then, but here I am now!
I also held on to someone with whom I felt that sense of family with…OMG, is THAT ever an afternoon of stories over a pot of tea…
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Okay, not to go THERE, with the lonnnng story and all, but the point is, I have had time to take a good look at why would I want to hold on to someone, ANYone who was not feeling close/keeping in touch? Why be frustrated and angry and stay in the mindset that we are close when that is not what is evident? Why spend that energy/time/ feelings/thoughts when clearly I can free up all that and have myself available for more worthwhile matters!I I would have liked to have enjoyed a truly loving relationship, a true, ongoing, “on-growing” friendship, but it takes two. There were many many chances and many years for things to flow more smoothly, but it was not a happening thing. We did not bring out the best in each other, and I long for that kind of compatibility and joy. Why not accept that that is the way it is, cut the cord and let it go. And so I did. I admit that I thought my doing this would elicit SOMEthing, like how are you? every once in a while. (And so my letting go was not complete). I moved on with more acceptance, more trimming the sails, more tuning into my Higher Wisdom…
The universe has been clear in its messages and i have made no contact for a long time now…I don’t even count the time now…I have listened and moved on. Time for ME now…I spent enough time focusing on him, giving to him, and living in his shadow…which certainly served some purpose/teaching for me as well. I have had much time to contemplate my experience and what I have learned. I am motivated to learn well from my experience and not repeat the “same ole, same ole” lesson with a different face or different circumstance.
When he does cross my mind, which is less and less often, I don’t contact him, but I do wonder how he’s doing. I do remember things that I liked about him or our relationship, and I feel wistful or miss that small part, but I can very clearly see how there were sooo many more negatives than positives. I send him blessings and I give all about this matter to the wise, benevolent universe.
I, like you, am open and willing to accept spiritual, positive, like-minded friends into my life.
I feel the winds shifting, and I let that wind sweep through, clearly out any cobwebs. Clean sweep.
Thank you for sharing all that you shared, LadyDi. It mirrors some things for me, and gives me the opportunity to check in and see how I have progressed with my surrender to what IS and my ability to let go. It inspires me to look within, be self-directed, and optimistic and open and receptive to the positive energy of The New.
Hello Bette! A huge Thank YOU for your wisdom and insight! I so identify with you. I felt my letting go wasn’t complete either! However I still do contact him whenever he crosses my mind! Just a simple hello, how are you? When I think back on this – if I still do this does that mean I haven’t let go? I still want to be nice and we run around in the same circles and my chances of seeing him again are pretty good. I appreciate your opinion and can feel your wonderful energy! :)
namaste ms bette ;)
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Good to hear from you…. :D
If you move in the same circles, and see him, that is quite different from yearning to be in touch and family with him, right? And if he crosses your mind, and you contact him, and say a simple hello, that seems to be innocent enuff…
Unless you then get hooked in to those feelings again of frustration and anger that you are the only one getting in touch, thereby losing ground on your decision to “cut the cord” that hooks you into wishing he would do this or that and be a “more in touch” friend, things like that….
In THAT case, “a simple hello, how are you” would not be “squeaky clean” if your expectation of his being or doing differently is still in tact.
In asking yourself these things and trusting/observing your feelings, and being honest with yourself, that is the way to see if you really have “let go.”
Are you “setting yourself up” when you contact him/being nice?
Do you have expectations?
FOR EXAMPLE, when I would call my friend, I would hear his voice and when we talked, I would want MORE of that contact, would want HIM to make the initiative to keep in touch, make the effort/desire to/make it a priority to see each other once in a while, to keep in touch with email/ phone/whatever. I wanted HIM to want all that too, because it was ME (and why ever would he not want ME on his priority list!!! :D ).
I wanted HIM to want the same I wanted. Growing a friendship. Getting closer. Being family. Continuing our history with each other.
So then I observe it’s about my “WANTING” and not about what IS!!!!!
I have come to realize that my thoughts and feelings are mine alone, and another person’s thoughts and feelings are theirs alone, and I can’t MAKE any different thoughts or feelings/desires happen just because I feel it and want it. If two people are on the same page with thoughts/feelings about friendship or love or keeping in touch/letting things grow, and getting closer GROWS out of that, WELL……..
Then, THAT is a GIFT, and i treasure THAT and the times THAT happens, and let the others be what they are. I can share my feelings to a degree, test the waters if someone is also interested in developing a friendship/whatever, and we BOTH see how that goes, but it really does take two, doesn’t it, D?!?!
Does that help?
Tell me what you’re thinking and feeling at this moment about all this, or when you have a enuff time to take it to heart, okay? And if you have had any further thots about this subject since you wrote your reply to me….
Glad you can feel the “wonderful energy”! I feel it too! The “positives” are expanding and life just gets better and better! :dance:
namaste,
B
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P.S. You know what is amazing…when I heard back from you, and you continued this topic, I had little idea of what more I had to offer….I am surprised I had all this within me to share with you AND myself! I write all the time, creatively and I journal, but sharing back and forth like this, allowing myself to dive deep to see what the pearls are, WITH you, has been very revealing and has clarified some things that i have been struggling with, so thank you for being here and for this dialogue of the heart and mind.
P.P.S. Do you journal your thoughts and feelings, date them, and then revisit that entry to see how you are doing? Looking at things on the page allows a great deal to take place if one is really into self-discovery and being honest with the thoughts and feelings that arise. I find it to be an enlightening experience. Self-growth abounds.
P.P.S. I have written down some thoughts about what the process of writing/communication for me is on my post for Day 16. About bringing the invisible thoughts from within out into the visible world on paper. Amazing what all lies deep within…Would love to hear any thoughts you have on any of that… :D
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WOW! lol.. this is very cool and you sound exactly like my spiritual girlfriends!! :D The example you gave was EXACTLY how I was feeling before I decided to let go. The funny thing is I was trying to be friends with my friends mean friend too! lol.. His mean friend always put me down and always said mean things to me on top of being negative. I really don’t know exactly why I was putting up with that at the time. I think I just thought I would be the better person if I was nice to someone mean. Thank goodness I came to my senses haha!
Very true – in the fact that – it was what you or “I” wanted and not was “IS”. Like they say you have to go with the flow in life and sometimes I just fight the flow haha.. I guess it’s my ego talking sometimes which makes me think too much and overanalyze things. I’m stuck in my mind a lot with all the thoughts and feelings. I have to remind myself to step outside and just “be”. I do realize that life is so much more easier and I”m happier if I just go with the flow.
You are totally right – it does take 2 for a friendship or any other kind of relationship. There’s no sense in forcing someone to like you or connect with you in the way you want them to, when that’s just not going to happen.
I do journal but I don’t think I journal enough… and I really don’t revisit my thoughts and feelings that I wrote down until a while later. I do always try to remind myself of things I am working on though because I always want to grow as a person
Are you on facebook by any chance? Would love to keep up with you hehe
I’ll check out your post on day 16 – I was trying so hard to keep up with this daily but I would get busy and the days would slip by and we’ll be on the 3rd day already!! ahhhh!!! haha.
I do try to practice everything we’ve discussed but I think sometimes I just need a little reminder of everything to get me back on the right track again. So I really appreciate you delving deep and sharing. I’m so glad I could be of help to you as well!!
namaste,
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Lady Di, Hello again!
Really enjoy reading your reply…reinforces what i need to hear.
We definitely have similar experiences and awarenesses.
I know what you mean about trying to catch up. Sometimes I really get behind the group flow, And then sometimes I’m really gung-ho and on a roll and in the flow. The cycles of life, right?…ebb and flow…
This part…
“I’m stuck in my mind a lot with all the thoughts and feelings. I have to remind myself to step outside and just “be”. I do realize that life is so much more easier and I”m happier if I just go with the flow.”
This really speaks to me. And yes, you have been/are helpful to me as well!!! :D :heart:
Hope everything is going well with you! :hug:
B
I think it depends on what you consider a negative person. I have a really good friend of mine that has been very supportive of the changes happening lately. He is someone I can trust and who is willing to get behind me on many issues. Yet based on some of his past (and some present) actions some might consider him to be negative. Even though he has not done anything negative towards me (to my knowledge) and always has positive suggestions and plans for life, some still cannot look past certain aspects of his life.
I am normally really good about getting rid of toxic friends. Most of the time if someone does impact my life in a negative way I will distance myself from them. In this case I am choosing to distance myself from those that see the friend as a negative impact. It is a gamble, but one I am hopeful will pay off. To me having negativity towards a person does not help the cause. Those out there who do not like my friend for whatever reason I have found should keep their feeling inside. The expression of hatred right now is greater than any crime done by their target, and I will not subject myself to childish behavior including insults and name-calling towards myself or any of my friends.
Today is payday, so it was nice to get a few bills settled. I also had an interesting time at the vet with Tyson. Though he was not on his best behavior (hates cats) it was still nice to get all of his paperwork cleared up and his vaccines up to date.
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Definately yes!
I will not specify who are they because there are negative people anywhere as we are human and we are all different.
Learn from these people and become better persons ourselves.
Without them, life will be boring..
It’s related to previous challenges, we get stressed with negative people around.
Positive thing today is my friend was feeling really down, and he messaged me in the middle of the night. I am glad he thought of me and managed to help him.
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Way to go!
Oh dear, there are people come into mind…..
1) Flyer – telling me how sad his life was..I do not know about now…. fortunate to leave him…
2) Diamond- who always complaining about her life, to me she lives a good life.
3) Nihc- who always gossip about others, and gossip about all bad things….
4) Chili- used to complain about his job….
positive thing:
– woke up early despite an off day.
– good dance practice.
– good schedule today.
Are there any negative people in your life? Who are they? And why are they there?
Yes of course! Many! Chief among them would be me, next would be my parents, some work colleagues and some friends.
They are there because they are a part of my daily life. They are there because they are part of my family.
Evaluate each person you come across today …and consciously ask yourself: Is this person a positive or negative energy in your life?
My mum is a negative energy person, she would complain about everything under the sky about me and every action I take. That just piss me off and make my day miserable.
How do I manage that? I try not to think too much about it and try to be positive. I try to think the behind the negativity is some positive message she wants me to receive. Which is true. When I think back there were times when I made bludders and because of her negative remarks it made me changed them making the whole thing better.
But having said that I just wish she did it differently. I can’t change her, I can only try to change my interaction with her and try to anticipate what she will do.
Sorry to sound negative but its true.
In any case, one thing positive about today is I get to spent some time with my kids and away from work. Some time for my family that makes me happy. :p
Yep I have one close negative person who I at times have the strenght to walk away from and other times dnt•i recognise now why bad things seems to happen to him however I find I get caught in this download spiral•i am consistently trying to highlight positive results and find this extremely draining•i allow this abuse to occur and re-occur•i need to cut and move•he makes feel so guilty that if have wasted his time in the last two years as haven’t committed to him totally•he has given up his she and moved away from the area where my ex and I live•i know he did cos he had money issies but he says otherwise•i cannot understand why keep going back •please need strenght to stay away•please•he bases all his happiness in life on myexistence cannot handle that•he is not a spiritual or alternative person like me•he feels that physical expression of love is most important•i find my doing things to avoid this physical contact somehow•i need strenght to walk away and stay awawy•i only see him two days a week since he works out of the city•but gosh find as soon I get there I wanna get away •today told him I cannot be in his live any more he just wnt let go :( :cry: :cry:
Positive
I thanked my ex for being the positive lite in my life
I lifted a friends spirit
I stood up to a friend
I stood to a forward neighbor
I saved a lady from an a possible accident
ARE THERE ANY NEGATIVE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE?
Well, first of all let me tell you what I consider the negativity. I think having depressed thoughts, low self-esteem, bad temper, ill will, ego etc. etc. are the negativities a person can have. You can add more if I have missed out something.
So back to the question, Yes! There are negative people in my life.
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WHO ARE THEY? AND WHY ARE THEY THERE (IN YOUR LIFE)? :rolleyes:
I am living with 3 guys. They have many specialties; I see that too, but sometimes there are some things which I notice and I definitely want to keep those things out of my system.
Like one roomie is over protective and afraid of taking risks. 2nd roomie has a bad temper and 3rd roomie just closes himself (stops talking) if anything bad happens to him or if he is offended somehow by us. He has a bit of attitude problem also.
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POSITIVE THING OF THE DAY. :dance:
It’s only 7:25 am here. So I will come back to this later. :D
There are negative people in my life; they are my boyfriend’s sister and some people on my Facebook. My boyfriend’s sister is in my life because unfortunately we live together since I live in my boyfriend’s house. Then there are the Facebook people who are just plain old annoying and I just unsubscribe from their updates to keep that negativity away from my feed.
Today I came across my boyfriend, mom, and boyfriend’s sister. They are all positive energies in my life, except my boyfriend’s sister, who’s been very passive-aggressive since we asked her to move her stuff out the spare bedroom (which she’s using as storage/closet). It took over two months and she still hasn’t cleared up the room but at the end, we let her keep the room because it cannot be used as an office due to feng shui (it’s above the kitchen).
Something positive about my day is that I finally synced my phone for my music. I’ve been meaning to sync it for a long time! Over three months? I cleaned out all my phone pictures and kept significant ones as well, so I cleared out over 3 GB of space… Sounds like a meaningless positive thing about my day but feels so good to have it all backed up! :p
I can honestly say I am surrounded by people that are so positive that I AM the negative!!! WOW!!
Good for you!
How I wish I can say the same! I hope their positivity will eventually slowly rub off on you! :dance:
I have a friend named Nghi. She always have the negative thinking about anything in life.
My mother is also a negative thinker. Every work comes to her as a trouble.
I did this exercise some time ago and understood who were the negative people in my life. I cut down the time spent with them, so now I can honestly say that there aren’t any negative people in my life. Actually, I don’t communicate much these days – I talk mostly to my husband and parents. Oh and of course to my students! And all those conversations are usually positive or neutral. I just don’t want to waste my time speaking about problems and other bad things.
Good thing of the day: I convinced my husband not to go to his parents for the night and stay with me – so we had a really great time together!
Nope! I learned a loooooong time ago, that the only way I could move forward in my life was to not stand for anyone who puts me down or is negative about their life. I try to be pretty careful about my friends because of this!
My positive for today was going out to dinner with a friend when I wasn’t sure I wanted to but am glad I did! I really want to maintain and grow some true friendships and feel like this was a step towards that.
Negative people are like powerful atomic bombs, they can wipe out huge sections of your life’s Hiroshima or Nagasaki and remain there to show the damage for long after….but then, if the world has been strong-willed enough not to let another Aug 6, 1945 happen again, then why not us? :rolleyes:
As for me, i find one of the closest persons in my life to catalyze the culture of negativity, it brings me down, like draining down a whirlpool. At times i can’t seem to grab onto the big branches at the top of the cliff when i’m falling down due to the significant others negativity, but then it so happens that there are the little twigs which are strong enough to bear your weight and allow you to hang onto them only when your mind-set comes out of the negativity…looking up you see more of such twigs branching out so that you can resurface to the point of where you were initially, and looking up, you also see that such twigs and more-so-ever, branches, existed when you just started the downfall….so it makes you wonder why didn’t you catch onto one right there and then??
If you cannot control a reaction immediately due to someone else’s negativity, you sure can act fast to correct your act that causes a threat to you achieving your goals!
Negative people to me are important in a vague way cos if it weren’t for them, the cog of life would be turning smoothly and there wouldn’t have been the pressing need to oil its wheels and experience the new, un-trodden highs of achieving goals in the bid to personal excellence….
Positive of the day: have yet got the whole Saturday and then Sunday in front me, today’s been a mentally good start…and with that, i can go out and buy the world
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Wow, I love your powerful imagery!
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ASLO, I agree with Laurel about loving the powerful imagery… in the imagery behind your words, I travel far and wide, and I thank you for that! :heart:
And the sentence starting with “Negative people to me” is just brilliant, imho. Your economy of words there is just superlative! :bow:
Here’s to an awesome weekend with lots of happy surprises and unexpected pleasures! ;)
Thanks Bette :heart:
yes, 3-4 negative people i have in my life. they are my father,brothers @ sister in law. they see negative in all things. one of my brothers is so negative.he sees only bad in people .all the time angry, full of stress & tension.why they people are in my life because they are my family ,i love them. i visit them 2/3 times a week.i listen them but i keep my thinking positive.
You must be a very strong person to be able to stay positive in the light of all the negativity that you encounter regularly. Well done!
dear sue, thank you very much. :D
Many things made me glad yesterday, actually. I think I’ve found the right state of mind now ! I was very good at my Italian Translation test, then I saw my friends (we’re not together on Fridays so it was a nice surprise), then I read a new book that was really good and worked for Noob all evening : translation, communication, anyway, when I got to bed my brain was boiling and I was really happy ! Also, I finished writing my guest post for Réussir En Licence !
My mother is very negative, she doesn’t miss one occasion for making me feel like I’m worth nothing. My oldest sister (10yo) is also negative in that she demands everything and if you don’t obey my mom puts you in trouble.. Also some of my friends are negative, but I don’t really know how to get rid of them because I don’t have many friends, and can’t “afford” to lose any… I should make new friends before letting them go =)
Today I won’t meet many people, I’ll stay at home and do my homework, I’m just going to jog 1 hour with one of my best friends (and this friend actually is very positive ! ^^).
Hmm, negative people in my life,I’m the most negative person in my own life. I’m in my life cz I cnt escape it. I’m afraid of being hopeful cz I’m afraid of dissapointment n the harshness of life. I’m also negative cz I’m generali an overthinker n a pessimist, very low self esteem, serious regretter n occassionally hv suicidal thoughts. One +ve thing abt today is tht its saturday!yey!
Oh dear, I am sorry that you are feeling so negative. At least you have some desire to be more positive otherwise you wouldn’t be doing this challenge. Every journey starts with one small step…and you’ve identified a positive about today. That’s a great start :) Try for 2 steps tomorrow…
My husband seems to have two mottos: “If life gives you lemons, squeeze them in your eye and bitch
like hell–then squirt them into someone else’s eye to make them feel the same” and “Every silver
lining has a cloud.” Needles to say, staying positive can sometimes be an uphill battle–but it DOES
strengthen my resolve! ;)
I don’t have anyone with whom I have close contact that is very negative. I try to avoid negative people and if I encounter a colleague who tends to be more negative than positive, I try to spin it round and offer a positive to whatever she is telling me. My mum can be negative sometimes, but she is a great worrier and as she tells me endlessly ‘she can’t change’or ‘learn anything new’. I know, I know…I have tried telling her, but she’s also a very stubborn lady. Whilst this is frustrating, it also her stubborness that has kept her going in the past when she has suffered ill-health and has managed to dust herself off and make a determined effort to get her strength back.
Positives today: Had a great night’s sleep; it’s the weekend; the spring flowers are really coming through in the garden and we are meeting with my family tonight, which we don’t do as often as we should.
There were a few negative people in my life in my younger days and strangely enough, as I get older, they have all disappeared!
These people were there in my life to teach me, to make me grow, to be stronger. They needed me and I needed them at that point in time and once the lesson is learned we moved on.
Everybody I met today, at home or in my class, are all positive people. Didn’t meet anybody negative today. I believe, positive energy will attract positive energy too! :cool:
Identify at least one positive thing about your day
* Bought more fish at the market today as I love to eat fish every day.
* Borrowed a book on haiku from the public library. I’ve fallen in love with haiku and want to know more about it. You get a zen feeling when you read a good haiku.
* Vacuumed my house. Everything is spic and span. And my head feels clear! :mrgreen:
for attraction of positivity it is important we have this energy aroud… :mrgreen: :mrgreen:
No. There is no negative people in my life. I t is not that there is no negativity around. On the contrary more and more people are being drugged and dragged into negativity with the result that the common man is asking himself obout what can happen if this tendency is maintained.
As for me I try not to go to the level of the negative element and respond to his/her instinct.There are many around, and all of us in this forum , if I may say who ,deep down themselves are living with a dream for a better world, and are prepared to go the extra mile for this.When you behold the friendship, the solidarity, the urge to come and assist where the need is felt, the spontaneous happiness in the virtues and qualities of others, you can say without hesitation there is still plenty of hope for the world to be better. And there are still more enlightened souls outside too.
Just as the sun sends its rays of light and life to the sinner and the saint alike so is it with the good samaritan who is always there to guide those who think they are lost or let down.
The allusion to the bee and the fly is humbly proposed.
Both are quite similar, but so different in their nature and their function.The fly lives on dirt, produces dirt and spreads dirt. Whereas the bee looks for what is healthy and pure,and produces what can be termed the food for the Gods, Honey, a miracle and near to divine creation. I fever the bee happens to bite you and you hit at it; ifit dies so that’s the end that was destined, but if it comes out of it, the bee will never change its vocation, it will again go about its daily routine to look for flowers and plants ,suck their juice and go the honeycomb and again produces honey incompany of his other friends, a unique example of teamwork.
Among man too it is said we have bees and flies, except that man is endowed with the faculty of choice, and given the opportunity and the incentive, they can join the rank to build bridges instead of creating walls. This is the task and challenge which th positives should empower themselves with. In the scriptures ,this is what the law of Karma is all about, it is said
Well, I’m an optimist but a lifetime of pessimistic
people has taken a serious toll on me three times. I
am now in the process of healing from my losses and
In doing so am also identifying how negativity had consumed
Me. I became the very persons that I disliked. So, i am the last
Real negative person I need to purge by turning my thoughts
Into positive responses and actions. I separated myself sadly from
my siblings and dad until his death. I remain cordial with sibs only as
I have in the past put myself “out there” and been burned again and
Again. I believe though that as “souls having a human experience”
we are touched by people on our life journey/path that once completed
It’s time to lovingly bid them adieu and watch for our new life journeyers
who are here to teach us and/or us they our next life lessons. We are here
to become more enlightened not less so. If you meet people who are
negative they very well may be young souls. The old souls are positive as
they are more enlightened! Grief had overtaken my thoughts and id
become the story. I am writing again to purge out the grief, sadness and
anger. It is working! That along with reading, reaching out again to good friends,
changing my patterns and routines that remind me of the old, recent me
and following Eastern philosophies more in line with what makes me
feel joy and contentment. No, this journey is not for the lazy or faint
of heart but it is leading me back home to that person and place in me
that I have longed for and missed ;)
I love waking these days to birds chirping outside my window, the sound
of my wind homes and crystal rainbows on my walls, to coffee brewing, reading
an amazing book, knitting, music, videos of the ocean I took on my healing
R&R recently, pictures and videos of my grown kids and granddaughter,
checking in on my friends again (huge step in my recovery…no longer “me”
based conversations), smelling my yellow roses from my kids from last weeks
BIG bday, organizing my space and cleaning (feels good again) and taking
baby steps or it step by step, one day at a time to very near future decisions!!!
Two things of great importance that I recently learned or relearned (yes,
Our human side can get the best of us at times):
1. Watch your thought cause they lead to emotions…change your thought
and the emotion never surfaces or fades quickly ;)
2. Stop for 10 seconds and focus on that yummy smell of freshly brewed
coffee or that sound of the birds chirping or beautiful yellow roses in a vase or a
precious picture of a tiny monkey stroking a Dove or whatever moves YOU!!!
Point is, we’re never too old or young to learn or relearn ;) Hope is our
most important emotion. Never let anyone take that away…especially
YOU!!!
With love and in light….( of yea, light a candle each morn to invite the
light/positive energy into your life and space)
Rosie,
All the best to you as you continue your journey of healing. Sounds like you are reallu, truly on your way!!! :hug:
I keep discovering the messages inside the losses, as I proceed down that healing road.
Take heart as you place your feet on the path of remembering who you Truly Are… :heart:
I find that the process is like clearing the dirt and debris that clouds the water from being crystal clear. The crystal clear water is the pure mind. The pure mind is peaceful…the peacefulness that passes understanding is there, all the time, beneath the agitation of the mind. There is hope and possibility there. We are happy when we see that change is possible.
Unhappiness is meaningless. Our true state is peaceful and happy.
Just keep giving yourself permission to go to That Place… and rest…be peaceful, and happy. ALOT! :D :D :D
These are some things/realizations/practices that have been helpful to me on my journey of remembering who I AM! :D :D
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My mother is the most negative person I have ever known. She is in my life because she is my mother. I don’t think she has that long left to live, so I keep her in my life to be a good daughter. Whenever she points out the negative side of something (EVERYTHING), I say in a non judgemental way, “Maybe there is something good about it.” It took me years to stop being like my mother, since she was my role model as a child. I’m still working out of that hole. But at least I can recognize it. She can’t.
A positive thing about today is that it is a blank canvas for me. I can do whatever I want today! I don’t have to work today, and I have no appointments or obligations. So I am going to go shopping, exercise, and read. I will enjoy every minute of it. At the end of the day, my canvas will be full of a beautiful picture of a day in my life.
Susan, you seam to very unselfish and good peron. We dont have to stay in contact with people just because they are our famly. How you deal with your mother shows how open minded and possitive you are and that you have a lot to give.
Thanks for shearing this, I have a similar situation with my mother :-) so I know how it is !
Enjoy your day :-)
Three persons: my parents and one of my friends. While my parents are busy and tired because of work and daily chores, my friend is just limiting herself. That’s why I partly understand my parents (though I’ve told them frequently that continuously complaining about how difficult life is won’t make it any easier), but I can’t wrap my mind around the perception my friend has on life. They are there because I can’t remove them from my life, especially not my parents.
Although it might seem a paradox, the positive thing for today is that I got in a pretty rough argument with my mother regarding food (I had told her I don’t want to eat fried food, she agreed, but then she cooked like she usually does. When I refused to eat she got mad). BUT the good thing that came out of it is that now she’s taking me more seriously. Today she cooked for me a very healthy meal, with everything either boiled or raw. So I’m happy about it :)
LINA its really great progress….yeah how can remove ourselves from our parents life….
stay blessed alwayz :hug:
Great to hear about the meal you mother cooked for you Lina. It must be a good feeling to know that she’s taking you more seriously.
It is indeed. Especially now that I’ve passed over the stage of arguing about it, it gives me a state of calmness. :)
Lina, your efforts are starting to pay off. The resistance you experienced (the rough argument(s) with your mom, your parents not taking you seriously in the past, etc) were like labor pains that are part and parcel of any worthy goal pursuit, and by pushing forward, you are starting to see the fruits of your labor emerge. Keep doing what you are doing and you are going to get more of it. :D At the same time, show appreciation for your parents for *what* they are doing right for you (i.e. cooking a healthy meal), which will encourage them to do more of the same.
Well, we all know how it is said: “No pain, no gain”. Now that I’ve overcome the “pain stage”, I’m looking forward to the gain: I’m searching for healthy recipes, joining mom at the grocery shop to get more fruits and vegetables, etc. I’m really glad :D
Are There Any Negative People in Your Life?
ma life is filled with people of mixed variety,,who are for them optimistic and for others pessimist,,who have hatred for other people life if they somethng for their…yeah m talking about ma family….but sooner or later i will find ma part of happiness…atleast i can burn this hope inside me and keep it alive…. :angel: :angel: :bow:
today ma married sister came home, :angry: ,alwiz angry,,full off hatred,,we had a fight…
Evaluate each person you come across today :
so me met ma sister today…jst
the positive thing for today was that after fight or during fight end was alwiz i started weeping,,whole time wasted in grief,,for 2 or three days mood remained off…but today..it was jst 2 minute react…i laughed in mirror :angel: :angel: :dance: ,,opened fb,,listened half song…then happily continued study with freind on mobile phone…i jst want to b like this alwiz…thanx celes…i think its all because of this challenge i am attending..MAY GOD BLESS YOU..ALWAYZ.. :hug: :hug: :heart: :heart:
That’s wonderful, Faiza! You reacted for only 2 minutes instead of 2/3 days, laughed in the mirror, opened fb, listened to song, continued study with friend – :clap: all these are positive and you are on the right track, baby! That’s the way to go! Fight negative with positive! :clap:
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thanx asni…this all i have done but still state of scold ruled ma mind for few time…bt thats good for me planning ma future more bettrer :angel: :angel:
there are negative people in my life, the one being negative most of the time is my husband. He has constant problems at work and takes it all home with him. He talkes behind his colleage back and they are all stupid lazy and ingorant is his opinion.
I have not thought so much about this before, he has always been like this. But now Im kind of feed up !
He has problems seeing the good possitive thigs about people. We have been together for 29 years, He has always been like this, so I guess Im used to that. But now I have been taking my life up to a higher plan, working on my self and revaluation my values and my goeles. We have grown apart, I have change working on my self and trying to be a better person and having a totally different point of view today.
My possitive thing today is that I was tired when I woke up so I cancelled my appointmen and sleept more and relaxed and pampering myself ! I know if I dont do it maybe nobody else will ! and it makes me happy :-) I have me on my side and can only count on myself !
Negative people. I’ve done a pretty good job of getting a lot of the negative people out of my life the past year. I’ve been focused on only allowing people in my life who inspire me or help me grow. I’ll never get away from all of the negative people in the world. I still have plenty I work with who seem to hate every moment of life. But I try to limit my exposure to them, and make a conscious effort not to get pulled in to their negativity. And if I’m feeling really strong, then I try to make a positive impact on them. There’s only one person left in my life that pulls me down. A lot. But in 30 days, he’ll be out of my life as much as possible. So I’m getting there. I feel like I’ve done everything I can at this point to reduce my exposure to him and the negativity. It makes such a huge difference in your life when you actually make a break from the negative people. I’d always heard that you are the combination of the five people you spend the most time around, and I am starting to see how true that really is. Surround yourself with people you want to be like, and your life will change for the positive.
I haven’t been out of the house yet, so I haven’t been around people yet. But I did talk to my best friend this morning and got re-focused on my goals for the day and I think I inspired him to do the same. So I’ll evaluate as I go along today, but I wanted to get my post done this morning, because I have plans later tonight.
My positives for the day: The sun is shining, I had a great conversation with my best friend this morning, I have plenty of time to work on my goals today, and I have plans to spend time with friends tonight doing something I love!
I personally cannot stand being around negative people. There are several people in my family who have always been negative. I used to spend a lot of my time trying to change how they viewed the world, but all it ended up doing was making life worse for me. Now I simply try to ignore negativity whenever possible.
There are people at work who are negative as well, but I try not to let them affect me either. Work is simply not productive if you are being negative. I personally love my job and have worked hard to get to where I am, and I refuse to let others try to bring me down.
It’s still morning here so I will have to update on my positives later on today, but one good thing so far is I got to sleep in a little this morning. :)
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