This is Day 12 of the 14-Day Kindness Challenge where you practice kindness for 14 days. This challenge is now over but you can still do the tasks in your own time! Visit the overview page for all Kindness Challenge tasks and posts.
Hello everyone! 😀 Welcome to Day 12 of the 14-Day Kindness Challenge! 😉
11 Tasks so Far, and Two More Days To Go!!
Do the tasks which you have not completed yet and be sure to share your progress in the comments section!
- Day 0: Get at least ONE Friend / Family Member to Join the Challenge! | 31 Comments
- Day 1: Give a Hug to Everyone You See! | 89 Comments
- Day 2: Give Up Your Seat To Someone | 46 Comments
- Day 3: Write 3 Thank-You Notes to 3 People You Appreciate | 51 Comments
- Day 4: Sign Up For Volunteer Work (On Top of Whatever You Have Been Doing) | 54 Comments
- Day 5: Give a Genuine Compliment to at Least 3 People | 38 Comments
- Day 6: Talk to Someone You Don’t Normally Talk To | 48 Comments
- Day 7: Make a Donation | 46 Comments
- Day 8: Pick Up Litter | 34 Comments
- Day 9: Write a Letter to Someone Who Has Made a Difference in Your Life | 35 Comments
- Day 10: Send Flowers to Someone | 21 Comments
- Day 11: Be Kind to Someone You Dislike | 2 Comment
Day 12: Forgiveness
What is forgiveness?
It means “to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.)” and “to cease to feel resentment against”.
I’m no saint. There are some people whom I feel harbor negative sentiments towards. It’s not common, but it happens. Usually it’s because they violated some of my personal values.
For example, when this somewhat prominent speaker in the training circuit tried to befriend me several years ago to get a business contact. I saw through the ruse later on and was disgusted by the way he would use friendships to further his business objective. I later learned from fellow trainers that this person had a reputation for such antics. The reason why I was so disgusted by this person was because his approach violated my personal value of authenticity, which is about being upfront and sincere with your communication.
Another example is this “friend” whom I mentioned in part 2 of my anger series. She was unruly in the way she handled the conflict and displayed an extremely ugly side of her persona during the argument. I could not help but feel hurt by how callous she had been in the final moments of the friendship, before I realized that this is not a person I would ever want to communicate with anymore.
Like me, I’m sure you have people whom you harbor resentment towards. People whom you feel aggrieved by.
Well, today’s task is about forgiveness. Part of kindness is about forgiving other people, even when it doesn’t seem like there is a reason to do so. I have deliberately scheduled this task for Day 12 as it is mentally more “challenging” than a task like say, hugging, giving a compliment, or picking up litter.
I’m ready to take up the challenge and forgive the people I just mentioned above (plus more). Are you?
Your Task: Forgive Someone
Level 1: Forgive one person
- Identify a person whom you resent or bear grievances towards. The grievance can be over one small action he/she did or something serious (such as breaking a promise or cheating on you).
- Why do you bear grievances towards him/her? Write down the reasons on a piece of paper, for your personal reflection.
- Work on letting go of these grievances today.
Level 2: Forgive at least three people
Do the exercise above to at least three people. The more people you can forgive today, the better. I’m planning to identify more people (on top of the three people I have mentioned) to forgive later today.
Remember that Forgiving Others = Forgiving Yourself
Here are some quotes on forgiveness which I’d like to share with you:
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ~ Lewis Smedes
“The past can’t be changed, can it? It can just be forgiven.” ~ Elizabeth George
For those of you who own Be a Better Me in 30 Days Program, check out Day 25: Forgive Yourself while you’re at it. The task is about forgiving yourself (which I see as interrelated with forgiving others) and includes a step-by-step exercise on how you can go about doing it. Many participants achieve breakthroughs when doing that exercise.
Share Your Results!
How many people have you forgiven today? Who are they and what did you used to resent them for? How have you forgiven them?
Check out the responses of other participants in the comments section!
After you are done, proceed to Day 13: Give Someone a Treat!
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