101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself


“The key to wisdom is knowing all the right questions.” – John Simone

What questions do you ask yourself every day?

Believe it or not, the kind of questions you ask determine the kind of life you lead. That’s because your questions trigger its own set of answers, which lead to certain emotions, which then lead to certain actions (or inactions), followed by results. If you ask yourself limiting questions, you’ll get limited results. If you ask yourself mind-opening, forwarding questions, you’ll gain a lot more out of them.

Some people like to ask questions like “Why am I so unlucky?”, “What if I had done this earlier?” and “Why am I always in such a situation?”. Because these questions are backward looking, the answers you get with them are naturally disempowering. On the other hand, questions like “What can I learn from this experience?”, “What can I do differently move forward?” and “What am I grateful for?” are empowering. They provoke you and get you thinking, putting you on the path to a better life.

If you’re someone who normally doesn’t self-reflect, you might be stumped by questions. However, this is perfectly normal. I remember when I was a small primary school student, the teacher asked us how we would describe ourselves. The question got me stumped, because I had never thought much about it. It took me some time to find some meaningful adjectives to describe myself, but even then they didn’t seem right. That was one of the starting points of my self-exploration journey. Somewhere along the way, I became a big fan of introspection, enjoying the process of self-reflecting and thinking over questions.

Today, I believe questions are a key to self-awareness and personal growth. In my 1-1 coaching sessions, I enable my clients to discover the answers to their goals/questions by asking them the right questions. It’d be easy if I just tell my coachees what they “should” do and what they “should not” do. But that’s not the point. It’s about empowering my clients to discover themselves through asking the right guiding questions, catered to their situation and their profiles. The right questions will help them untangle the blockages in them and connect with their inner self.

It doesn’t matter if you get stumped in the beginning, or if you don’t know the answers to the questions at first. Our minds are boundless. Just because you don’t get an answer immediately, it doesn’t mean there are no answers. The answers are there — it’s just that your mind is too foggy since you’ve not consulted it before. The more you ask, the clearer your mind will be, and the more ready you’ll be to receive the answers.

Here are 101 important questions for your self-reflection, by yours truly. Many are questions that I ask my 1-1 clients during our coaching sessions to help them uncover their inner self. These questions will help you focus on what’s important to you, and what you want. They are not meant to be answered all at one shot — they are to be reflected duly over time, as part of your growth journey. Pick out a few questions to reflect on today, then bookmark and check back a week later to think over the others. Check back regularly to reflect on the questions.

Remember, there is no one final answer. It’s a continuous discovery process. Your answers to the questions today will be different from your answers one month, three months, six months, and one year down the road. Add these important questions to your weekly review sessions. This is a highly important article for your growth journey.

Here they are:

  1. Who are you?
  2. What are you passionate about?
  3. What are the achievements you are most proud of?
  4. What are you most grateful for in life? (Day 14 of Live a Better Life in 30 Days Program is about expressing gratitude.)
  5. What are the most important things to you in life?
  6. How would you describe yourself?
  7. What are your values? What do you represent? What do you want to embody? (On Day 15 of Live a Better Life in 30 Days Program, you will identify your values.)

  8. Do you love yourself?
  9. … Why or Why not?
  10. How can you love yourself more today?
  11. What is your ideal self? What does it mean to be your highest self?
  12. Look at your life now. Are you living the life of your dreams?
  13. If you have one year left to live, what would you do?
  14. If you have one month left to live, what would you do?
  15. If you have one week left to live, what would you do?
  16. If you have one day left to live, what would you do?
  17. If you have an hour left to live, what would you do?
  18. If you have one minute left to live, what would you do?

  19. What would you do today if there is no more tomorrow?
  20. What are the biggest things you’ve learned in life to date?
  21. What advice would you give to yourself 3 years ago?

  22. If you are yourself 1 year from the future, how would you advise the you now? (On Day 22 of Live a Better Life in 30 Days Program, we travel to the future to give advice to the us today.)
  23. Is there something you’re still holding on to? Is it time to let it go?
  24. What are you busy with today? Will this matter 1 year from now? 3 years? 5 years?
  25. What are your Quadrant 2 tasks?
  26. What opportunities are you looking for?
  27. How can you create these opportunities?
  28. What are your biggest goals and dreams?
  29. What’s stopping you from pursuing them? …Why? How can you overcome them?
  30. If you are to do something for free for the rest of your life, what would you want to do?
  31. What would you do if you cannot fail; if there are no limitations in money, resources, time or networks?

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  32. What do you want to achieve 1 year from now?
  33. … 3 years?
  34. … 5 years?
  35. … 10 years?
  36. How important are these goals to you?
  37. What if these goals are doubled? Tripled? Magnified by 10? How would you feel? Would you prefer to achieve these or your previous goals?
  38. Who are the people who have achieved similar goals? … What can you learn from them?
  39. Are you putting any parts of your life on hold? … Why?
  40. What’s the top priority in your life right now?
  41. What are you doing about it?
  42. If you were to die tomorrow, what would be your biggest regret? What can you do now to make sure that doesn’t happen?
  43. For every experience you get: What are the biggest things you have learned?
  44. How can you do this better the next time?
  45. If you have 1 million dollars, what will you do with it?

  46. Do you love your job?
  47. What is your ideal career?
  48. How can you start creating your ideal career starting today?
  49. What is your ideal diet?
  50. What do you need to do to achieve your ideal diet?
  51. What is your ideal home like?
  52. What do you need to do to achieve your ideal home?
  53. What is your ideal physical look?
  54. What do you need to do to achieve your ideal physical look?
  55. What is your ideal life?
  56. What can you do to start living your ideal life?
  57. What would you want to say to yourself 1 year in the future?
  58. … 3 years?
  59. … 5 years?
  60. … 10 years?
  61. What do you fear most in life?
  62. Is there anything you are running away from?
  63. Are you settling for less than what you are worth? … Why?
  64. What is your inner dialogue like? (Day 26 of Be a Better Me in 30 Days Program is about uncovering your limiting thoughts.)
  65. What limiting beliefs are you holding on to?
  66. Are they helping you achieve your goals?
  67. If not, is it time to let them go?
  68. What empowering beliefs can you take on to help you achieve your goals?
  69. What bad habits do you want to break?
  70. What good habits do you want to cultivate?
  71. What are the biggest actions you can take now to create the biggest results in your life?
  72. Where are you living right now – the past, future or present?
  73. Are you living your life to the fullest right now?
  74. What is the meaning of life?
  75. What is your purpose in life? Why do you exist? What is your mission?

  76. How can you make your life more meaningful, starting today?
  77. What drives you?
  78. What are the times you are most inspired, most motivated, most charged up?
  79. What did you do during those times? How can you do more of that starting today?
  80. How can you change someone’s life for the better today?
  81. Who are the 5 people you spend the most time with?
  82. Are these people enabling you or holding you back?

  83. What qualities do you want to embody? (Refer to Q7: Values and Q11: Ideal Self) Where can you meet people who embody these qualities?
  84. Who inspire you the most?
  85. How can you be like them?
  86. What is your ideal life partner like?
  87. Where can you find him/her?
  88. How can you get to know him/her?
  89. Are you afraid of letting others get close to you?
  90. … Why?

  91. Who is/are the most important person(s) to you in the world?
  92. Are you giving them the attention you want to give?
  93. How can you spend more time with them starting today?
  94. What kind of person do you enjoy spending time with?
  95. How can you be this person to others?
  96. Who do you want to be like in 1 year?
  97. … 3 years?
  98. … 5 years?
  99. … 10 years?
  100. Who are your mentors in life? (formal or informal)
  101. What is one thing you’re going to do differently after reading this article?
Get the manifesto version of this article: The Self-Reflection Manifesto

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  3. 101 Ways To Live Life To The Fullest
  4. 101 Important Life Principles To Live By Every Day
  5. 101 Ways To Be a Better Person

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  • http://glenn-thomas.com Glenn

    Hi Celes, a brilliant post as always! Definitely one to refer back to every so often. But what happened to the other 16? :-)

    • http://personalexcellence.co/blog/ Celes

      Hey Glenn, some points have 2-4 questions, so those count as more than 1 question :D In total there are actually more than 101 questions I believe.

      • http://facebook.com/avene Glenn

        Oh yes, of course.. 1 year, 3 years, 5 years :)

        • http://personalexcellence.co/blog/ Celes

          Indeed :D I find that when I think in terms of different time frames the answers that come up can be quite different. It’s very awareness raising.

          • Yamana Raghava Reddy

            thank you very much .
            thank you very much.
            thank you very much.

            i love your work.

  • http://glenn-thomas.com Glenn

    The one minute left to live question is a fun one :-) This might sound a bit desructive, but I think I would smash anything around me. As long there was nobody close by who could get hurt. Throw a laptop through a window perhaps, smash some plates, break some furniture, jars of food or bottles of drink, turn a hose on at maximum water pressure, throw food at people, jump up and down on furniture, and just have as much fun as possible!!

    • http://personalexcellence.co/blog/ Celes

      Yes, the 1 minute left to live is indeed very fun :D For me I think I’ll be call my loved ones and just spend the last minute talking to them. Or meditate and sit in the stillness of the world.

  • http://gracefulbalance.com Clearly Composed

    Wow! That a very thorough list and full of questions that, if answered from the heart, can lead to great insights and serve as a sort of life map as far as letting you know just where you are at the moment along with where you have been and wish to go. Nicely done. :)

    • http://personalexcellence.co/blog/ Celes

      Thanks a lot! :D

  • http://onmymind.areavoices.com/ Qin Tang

    Great post Celes. Anyone who takes the time to answer these questions and follow through will live a better life.

    • http://personalexcellence.co/blog/ Celes

      Thanks a lot Qin Tang :D. Hope all’s great at your end!

  • http://www.reflections-galore.blogspot.com/ Manashree

    Hey Celes,

    How are ya? Here you said, 101 questions, but there are only 85! What happened to the rest?


    • http://personalexcellence.co/blog/ Celes

      Hi Manashree, as mentioned in my reply to Glenn above some points have 2-4 questions, so those count as more than 1 question. In total there are more than 101 questions. :)

  • http://www.arinanikitina.com/ arina nikitina

    Hey Celes! This was another round of fun learning for me. Yes, the questions we ask ourselves do reflect how we look at life, and the answers we give such questions would be ways we live.

    Hmmm… I feel like answering each and every one of them. It sure would be a good time, won’t it? But on the second thought, all these hundred and one questions inspires a series of new discoveries for everyone. It all sure gave me that same number of things to write about, if not reflect on right away.

    So thanks, Celes! Keep posting fun, creative and helpful stuff. They’re always great reads!


    • http://personalexcellence.co/blog/ Celes

      Thanks Arina, and keep your comments coming too! They’re wonderful. :D

  • http://flowerfulutopia.blogspot.com Vanessa

    Hey Celes :)
    I just decided that I want to live my life more passionately and consciously. For a long time, I’ve lived life just going from day to day, waking up every morning, going to school, eating, somehow spending the evening and then going to bed again.
    I think that I was too afraid to really think about what I could improve in my life. I have noticed a lot of fear through the years – unfortunately, there even were some years of depression in which I pretty much was afraid of life itself. And still, I think that my fear hinders me from fully living and living to the fullest of my ability & potential. But now I decided that I want to get rid of that fear. I want to LIVE and not be afraid to risk something. I want to not always think about what others might think of me. I want to stop being scared of the smallest, most ridiculous things.

    I don’t exactly know where that fear comes from, but I know that it’s pretty much ruining my life to quite some extent. And that fear leads to nervousness, and that nervousness leads to tics, which ruin every single day of my life. I want to finally get rid of my tics – for ever.

    I want to start being brave and fearless – and the first step will be answering some of these questions. I am convinced that by doing so, I will already be on my way to a more passionate and conscious life. And that’s what I want – I want to be passionate, consciously experience everything around myself and make the best effort I can – always.

    I’m sorry if the comment is too long and if there are any grammar mistakes I made (English is not my native language, so they happen) – I will most certainly answer the questions on my blog, so if you’re interested, you can look it up (I posted the link to it as my website).

    Lots of love ♥

    • santo

      to be authentically fearless, you have to wake up from waking :) :-P

  • http://hanofharmony.com The Vizier

    Hi Celes,

    Our inner dialogue; the things we say to ourselves and the things we think are very important. If our inner dialogue is not positive, if we do not take care in choosing what we nourish our minds with; be it through reading and music, it could lead to problems in our lives.

    I like how you have identified some questions and backward looking and disempowering. This is indeed true if we think in an ineffective and unproductive manner. It is so easy to slip into this mode of thinking especially if you have thought in this manner all your life. Nowadays I try to focus on the solutions instead of the problems. By asking questions that help me to resolve the challenge at hand, I gain greater control over my life and the things that influence it.

    One of the things that struck me about your list is how you look at your eyes from the future. If we know where we want to go and what we wish to achieve, it helps to set our lives on the right track so that we live the lives we want to live.

    Thank you for sharing!

  • http://www.prolificliving.com/blog Farnoosh

    Dear wonderful and very special Celes, I LOVE this post – I did not finish reading all the questions for a good reason. I want to do this test with Andy – do you think I will have a chance of convincing him? We should sit down together at home and just take every question and answer it. Then we will read each other’s responses out loud and see how we see life….It’s a fantastic exercise – time-consuming yes but very worth while. THANK YOU for sharing such valuable information that I think is truly part of your coaching sessions. And I miss you – hope you have been well!!

  • http://AdvancedLifeSkills.com/blog Jonathan – Advanced Life Skills

    What a great list Celes. I love the way questions activate our minds to find answers. By asking the important questions we are able to discover the answers that help us choose the right path and produce meaningful results.

  • http://www.valwilcox.com Val Wilcox

    This list gives a wide variety of areas to evaluate and create changes. Like you suggested, it would be a good idea to revisit these every few months to keep on track with your vision of life.

    Thanks for sharing these,
    Val ;)

  • http://stumbleupon.com Teresa

    Hi Celes,
    May God Bless you & always keep you, at peace, safe & comforted. You have wonderful in-site. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom, the tools for inner reflection. I think we all get off center sometimes & you have given us, some very practical ideas to recenter, possibly reboot our purpose in life. Thanks again. Keep up the good work. I hope you have Jesus Christ as Lord & saviour in your life. Your special & insightful & I sure would like to see you in heaven for all eternity. Thanks again.

  • http://thedropoutkid.com jonathanfigaro

    What is your mission. Love that one. It allows one to think about a purpose in life. Those who are ready to answer this question, the results are worth the struggle. Great post celest.

  • http://SourcesOfinsight.com J.D. Meier

    Beautiful set of questions.

    I created a 101 list of questions too, so I could share the most effective questions I’ve learned over time.

    My favorite question for driving life is “Who do you want to be and what experiences do you want to create?”

  • http://www.createmymindmovie.com CreateMyMindMovie

    Wow these are truly powerful questions that you are asking here. I don’t think many people ask some of these questions within their lifetime!

    One of the most important things we could do is sit down and think about what it is that we really want and then focus on how that feels, everyday until you attain it. Along with asking these questions, one should also mentally rehearse and visualize on the answers too.

    I will definitely be asking some new questions to myself too! Thanks! haha

  • http://growwithstacy.com Grow With Stacy

    This is a very comprehensive list, Celes! A very insightful post as always. I think that knowing your mission is really important, it is a driving force of all that we do. We will wander aimlessly without a central mission.

  • Stephanie

    This is beautiful. Something to start on the weekend. Thank you!

  • http://www.imjustsharing.com Mitch

    Wow, this one almost hurts my feelings in a weird way because I feel like I should have written it. :D This is almost a meme post, where people should go back to their blogs and answer 8 to 10 of these a day; it would certainly give people a lot to write about, that’s for sure. Heck, this might spark a blog post or two from me. I love the list; thanks for sharing it.

  • http://www.collectiveascension.com Arsjaad

    Dude, you have changed my life so much, How can I every repay you back!!

  • 16 yrl old

    i stumped at the first question jeez

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      The questions need not be answered in the listed order — go down the list and you may find questions that immediately trigger answers in you! :) Good luck–it’s a fun and revealing Q&A process for sure!