This is question #10 of the Year End Countdown Challenge held in Dec 2012, where we count down to the new year with 13 reflective questions. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Welcome to Day 10 of the 2013 Countdown Challenge! :D
2013 Countdown, Question #10…
The questions for the 13-day, 13-question countdown so far:
- #13: How has your year of 2012 been? | 154 Comments | Post Your Response
- #12: What are 12 things you love about year 2012? | 100 Comments | Post Your Response
- #11: What were your lowest points this year? Why? | 105 Comments | Post Your Response
Today’s question, question #10, is:
[Cont’d from #11] What lessons have you learned from those low points?
Your Task
- Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
- Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
- Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers.
Look forward to reading your answers! :)
(After you are done, proceed to #9: What could you have done better this year? (Be honest with yourself))
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Ooooo a LOT:
-Some professional problems: got to get organized and always do things the right way (and find out how to do it). When encounter bad customers just don’t deal with them,
-Not control in my personal relationships: have to deal with my patience and keep my goals in sight at all times, plus understand personal behavior to understand others (especially women).
-Got distracted from my shape: discipline, which is the Key.
-Spent a LOT of money: fist hid some of y earnings from myself and program my spending with a lot more consciousness.
-Wrong people at the wrong places: just stay away from what I KNOW is wrong.
-Distance myself from family and friends: organize my time to share with all.
Every new day is a chance to begin afresh or do it even better.
#2013Countdown, #10: [Cont’d from #11] What lessons have you learned from those low points?
– We need to trust our gut feeling, if we think that something is not good for us, it very probably is!
-We need to face problems as they arise before they become overwhelming.
-We need to LOVE and respect ourselves first, no one will treat us better than we do. We are here to set an example and show other people what are our needs, standards, limits, values. :heart:
-We need to trust other people (our co-workers, life partners, parents, etc.). They have great potential; they are just different from us and often from we imagine they are. If we accept them as they are, support them by giving a message “you are powerful, graceful and you deserve love, I wish you the best / Love you”, they will shine and surprise us, the world and most importantly themselves! :D
– Our relationships are crucial. We know different people in multiple various ways; every connection has a deep sense. True long lasting friendships are our best assets. Thanks to our friends, we grow, feel alive and show our best qualities to the world. :hug:
-The time to show someone we love them is NOW, not later. :heart:
-Our family is our mirror, our roots; it can be our greatest weakness or strength. The choice is ours. Our parents did their best to help us grow, loved us as much as they could. No one is perfect so no one has a perfect childhood. We should forgive what we do not appreciate and be thankful for all the gifts we received. Only when we are at peace with our family /especially our parents, we can move forward into our adult, courageous and beautiful life.
Wishing you All lots of deep insights and gentle actions coming from these valuable “Aha moments”!!
Hugs,
Paulina
Spiritually –
Humility
Emotionally –
What to look out for in friendships/ relationships
Physically –
Eat, but in moderation
• Never let the other person know the intensity of my love for them. It may tempt them for sure to misuse and take advantage of my love.
• Learn to be happy first on my own, then someone else. Because even if I would be alone I would still know how to be happy.
• Never give up my dreams for anyone, no matter how close they are to my heart. They are precious and I deserve rather have every right to make them true. And it’s during the low times, that I would regret the most that they were not achieved.
• I deserve to be respected and loved.
• No one has a right to rule me or my life or undermine/degrade me. If one cannot respect who I am, exactly how I am, then it’s their problem not mine.
• I don’t have to go through any physical harassment/abuse no matter what the relationship of the person is with me.
The lessons I learned from my saddest moments were that life is special and should be appreciated more often. People take for granted that we have an unlimited time and we don’t. We should make the best of every situation.
The most important thing I learned is I have to take my own life’s responsibility and all for myself, not to satisfy others, even my loved ones. Otherwise my self value depends on what others feel and say, which is not under my control. Also I learned I can not achieve anything by “not actioning”. Good lessons learnt however means nothing unless I move..
It’s not my fault – not that the creep down the street took a shine to me when I was a little boy, that I promised him I’d do what he wanted and broke that promise, or that I was too afraid to tell anyone about it until this year. HE was the one who did wrong. HE was the one at fault. I didn’t need to be afraid to tell someone – my mother, aunt, grandmother, a teacher, ANYONE – but I’m not at fault for being unable to do so.
I’m slowly (though hopefully not TOO slowly) getting a handle on the personality and physical changes I need to bring my marriage back from the brink. Making those changes, even if they are not enough or not fast enough to save my marriage, will make me a better, healthier man. And I want those changes, for ME.
And that ties in with my disappointment over my continued failures to get my diet and physical-fitness regimes in order, as well. Not that I’m not at fault there – certainly it’s no one ELSE’S fault! – but I think that I couldn’t succeed as long as I wanted it for someone else, the way I always have before. I’m finally getting to the point where I want it for me, now – and that’s making me far more determined to get it right.
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