Gratitude Challenge Day 7: Give Thanks to Yourself

This is Day 7 of the 14-Day Gratitude Challenge where hundreds of participants around the world gathered to practice gratitude for 14 days. This challenge was conducted in Aug 2013 and is now over–however, you can still do the tasks in your own time! Visit the overview page for all Gratitude Challenge tasks and posts.

Gratitude Challenge

 Hey everyone, welcome to Day 7 of our 14-day gratitude challenge! :D We have finally reached the mid-point of the challenge! How time flies, aye? ;)

As of the posting of this task, I’m actually on my flight from Glasgow to Singapore. I’ve pre-written this task and scheduled it to go live on Day 7 of the challenge, so all is well. Much gratitude to WordPress’ scheduling function which makes it possible for the challenge to run undisrupted despite my travel! :)

Day 7: Loving Yourself

Love Yourself

More self-love quotes at Personal Excellence Quotes

In Day 16: Appreciate Yourself of our premium character transformation program on PE, Be a Better Me in 30 Days Program, I assign participants the task of self-love, where they assess their level of self-love, write a list of 30 things (or more) they appreciate about themselves, and finally write a letter of appreciation to themselves.

For the participants, this task is always revealing, because they realize that they don’t love themselves as much as they should, or for some, not at all. It’s unfortunate because of all the people we encounter in our lifetime, we are the one constant who is always there. We are always so cognizant of others’ presence, always trying to be there for others–to help others–yet we don’t realize that we are a person too.

This little “me” in us — he/she has always been there since we were born. He/she has always been there to weather challenges, overcome hardships, and help us craft the life that we want. He/she is always there during our heartaches, our moments of sadness, moments of insecurity, times of loneliness  and times of disappointment.

Our gratitude challenge is to cultivate the habit of gratitude and express gratitude for all things in our life–and that includes ourselves. As we give thanks to the marvelous things in our lives, from the things in our lives, to our food, to other people, to our adversaries, to even our lives themselves, let’s not forget to give thanks to us.

So today, your task is to give thanks to yourself.

Your Task: Give Thanks to Yourself

Write a gratitude note to yourself in your gratitude journal.

In your note, you may want to include:

  1. What you are grateful for about yourself
  2. Why you are grateful for you
  3. Why you wouldn’t want to be anyone else but you in this lifetime

Once again, there is no limit to the length — you can write something short or even long, like two, three, four, or even more pages! This task is about expressing your utmost gratitude to yourself, something which many of us don’t do enough actually, as evidenced by some participants’ sharing for Day 5’s task on appreciating your adversary.

(Some participants felt that they are actually their own biggest adversaries. Self-sabotage, anyone? Read: Are You Self-Sabotaging Yourself? (Understanding Self-Sabotaging Behavior and Breaking It))

Daily Journaling: Write 3 Things You Are Grateful for Today

On top of today’s task, identify 3 things you are grateful for today. These 3 things can be events that occurred today, mishaps which could have happened but didn’t happen, or simply things which have always been in your life but which you suddenly came to feel grateful for today.

3 things I’m grateful for today:

  1. Thanks to WordPress’ scheduling function, today’s task can go live at the day and time it’s supposed to be posted, despite being caught in a day-long travel transit from Glasgow to Singapore. (I’ll be back in Singapore by Day 8 of the challenge.) Yay to WordPress! :)
  2. By the time this article is posted, I would be back in Singapore. So happy to be back home, where the temperature (even if it’s hot and humid) is what my body is most acclimatized to! Being in a cold place always helps me to appreciate the hot(ter) weather in Singapore!
  3. The option to have vegan meals on flights today. I’m so glad that vegetarian/vegan options are becoming more prevalent nowadays, which I see as the result of the rise in society’s consciousness level. Here’s to healthier living!

Share Your Results!

What did you write in your gratitude note to yourself? What did you thank yourself for? Why should you thank yourself? Would you rather be anyone else in this lifetime, and if no, why?

You are free to share your gratitude note with all of us. Take a picture/screenshot of your gratitude note and share that even if you like!

What are 3 things you are grateful for today?

Share them in the comments section! :)

Once you’re done, proceed to Gratitude Challenge Day 8: Transform an Ungrateful Thought.

Images: Gratitude, Flower

  • Madalina Sraier

    I’m grateful that I can push through a lot of hardships before they get to me, so I guess I’m strong mentally/psychologically speaking. Also, I’m grateful that I’m a fast-learner, and that I can easily make others laugh and feel good (many have told me this). Another thing I’m grateful for about myself is that I can draw pretty well (drawing relaxes me). These are also some of the reasons why I am grateful for being me, and I wouldn’t want to be anyone else since I know I have what it takes to achieve my dreams and to become the best I can ever be. There’s no need for me to be someone else, to have other things and to live in other circumstances – I already have all I need and I can do so much more starting from where I am now.

    3 things that I’m grateful for today:
    -the weather is amazing so I had a nice run this morning.
    -today I got part of my monthly payment so I can add that to my savings.
    -my book-reviews-blog got 2 more followers, yay! (I know it’s not much, but for me it’s a big deal)

  • Ffion

    I wrote a gratitude note to myself, but for now, I think I’d like to keep it private.
    I am however, proud to say that I have recently been getting on very well with myself, a lot better than the past few years. It’s been a difficult journey, but I’m doing swell. And I’m grateful for that. I’ve spent a lot of time being my own enemy, and at the moment, I’m my own friend. I’m proud how far I’ve come :)

    Three things I’m grateful for:

    1) Being friends with myself
    2) People who purchase my wordpress themes on Etsy (woohoo!)
    3) Cool new fonts <3 <3 <3 Got my eye on two new ones!

  • Kiki Maria Valera

    Hey, I’m pretty late to this Gratitude journey. I figured I’d try since I’m all about be content and giving thanks in your life. Okay, here we go!

    I am grateful for the life given to me. That God has
    granted me another day to live; I feel like I’m one step closer to my purpose
    each day. I am grateful for beauty; my smile, my body, my hair(even though it
    doesn’t always agree with me) I am grateful for my skin, my shape, my face. I
    am grateful for the patience God has granted me; I am grateful for appetite in
    food; I am grateful for my work ethic and willingness to get to work. I know I
    don’t always appreciate myself like I do, but I am grateful when I take task
    like these, to better empower myself and grow as a human being. I am grateful
    for my positive attitude and I am grateful for my overall positive outlook on
    life. I am grateful for being myself and being content in myself. I am grateful
    for everything in my life even though I don’t have much. I am grateful for my
    kindness and compassion and my tendency to be polite to everyone. I am grateful
    that I continue to reach out to people. Also for the strength granted to me.

    three things I’m grateful for?
    I am grateful for seeing my friend today. She’s going away to college Thursday so I look forward to seeing her, and being one of
    the last people she’ll see before she leaves. I look forward to seeing her family including dog
    I am grateful to set up a hair appointment today. I want
    to set up this appointment to do something different with my hair. Even though its a long walk; I don’t have a car; I very much look forward to the walk. It’s a beautiful day, and I enjoy the causal stroll.

    I am grateful for just Wednesday
    . I’m looking forward to the weekend; I’m looking forward to my week off
    next week, and just enjoying these last few days, honestly. I look forward to
    seeing my friends, and recharging before school arrives! :D

    And most importantly, I look forward to this journey!

    • Celestine Chua

      Hi Kiki, kudos to you for joining even though you are “late”. Know that this is not a race or competition here but simply a practice in gratitude. Celebrate the fact that you are here with us and we are all together embracing gratitude! xoxo

  • Surrey Mum

    Hi, Its been interesting writing about loving myself – not something that I would normally even think about! I have been thinking about it today, and have realised that yes, I do love myself, and that I do have many qualities in myself that I admire in others.
    I am grateful for being myself because I think that on the whole I am a good and caring person. I am grateful for my patience, empathy and understanding of others.I am grateful for my willingness to help others, even when its not what I had planned that day. I am so grateful for my kind nature and willingness to see the best in other people, and for my loving of giving to others – be it gifts or gestures or time. I am grateful for my creativity and the talents that I have, and my ability to see the beauty and interest in the world around, often in places that others might not see as beautiful or interesting. I am grateful for my trait of perfectionism, which although it can be negative in some instances, on the whole makes me push myself to do things really well, and to a high standard, and not to just accept ‘that will do’. I am grateful for my slim figure, pretty face and lovely eyes (so I have been told!). I am grateful that I was able to raise our two children into such great adults. I am grateful for my positive nature and that I always try to see the bright side of situations. I am grateful that I am a healthy person and that my body is ageing well too! I am a very lucky person and have realised that I do really love myself, and that I would not want to be anyone else at all in this lifetime, because I am happy just the way I am. Thank you to me!!

    Three things that I am grateful for today are:

    A great body balance class today, which i am finally getting the hang of, and really enjoyed.

    A quiet and peaceful lunch in the garden.

    That I am now up to date with the gratitude challenge, after falling behind a few days ago!

    Thank you :)

  • 家梅 李

    1. What you are grateful for about yourself?
    I’m grateful for my optimistic attitude. In other words, I’m always an innocent lady. I do not think much and always think that everything will go smoothly in my life. ^^

    2. Why you are grateful for you?
    Why… That was because I was once staying under a negative psychological shadow for more than 10 years. I was an extremely quiet person and didn’t talk to anyone else. I always thought that everyone around me was bad, thought that they were closed to me because they wanted something from me. That was the horrible thought I had for those 10 years, until the level that I didn’t even know how to talk to people. After I went into college, I decided firmly that I needed a change of myself, forced myself to talk to classmates. And finally I found myself. My attitude changed a lot, and I got happier, I got more friends. Now, my thinking is totally changed to the opposite side as compared to last time. That was the best achievement of myself in my life that gave me a lot of other achievements. :)

    3. Why you wouldn’t want to be anyone else but you in this lifetime?

    I want to be me, myself, because I have everything I want now. I have a good family, have good parents, good boyfriend, good career, good friends / colleagues. What else I’m greedy for? The only thing that I wish to have, is to make everyone around me to be happy! ^^

    Today, 3 things that I’m grateful for:

    1. My mum cooked oat with raisins for me~ It was yummy!! Thank you mum for your time to wake up at 5.45am to prepare the breakfast for me~!

    2. I had an enjoyable lunch with my colleagues after invigilation session! There were 10 of us, who were lecturers from different faculties to joked around without any limitations! What a nice lunch session!

    3. I started to make myself a car cushion. I planned to make 2 cushions to be put on the front seats of my car. ^^ I haven’t completed it, but I have done the measurements and sewing for the first cushion~ I will continue tomorrow, if I have the time~!

    4. I would like to have an additional one. My students decided to come to my house for a barbecue on this Friday~! I will help them to prepare the BBQ tools, and they prepare the food themselves~ Again, I’m so happy to have this batch of students who bring joys to me for one year and four months!

    • Eli

      Thanks for sharing about your quiet period. I had a similar experience during my teenage years although with a different reason – I believed I was not interesting enough for other people :-( It’s good to see that you have managed to overcome fear of people and the way you did it. You took a conscious decision that you want to change and you did it.

      Changing yourself and the way you think is one of the hardest things in the world. I can definitely relate to your situation. I have also noticed that my life and my relations with people are not working out the way I would want them so I started changing myself. It is a long, slow and painstaking process however definitely worth it. And it makes me explore depths of myself I normaly would not :-)

  • Jackson Nyarko

    I am grateful that I was able to forgive and get over myself of some big mistakes that I made beginning of this year till now.
    I am grateful that I accepted to pursue a vision God gave me (to build The Largest Charity Foundation in Ghana), though we are nowhere near it yet. But each day we design and execute projects which tells me that we far closer to the vision than we were yesterday. So there is a sign of victory.
    I am grateful that I am a learned Man of God, and not just any ordinary educated person.

  • Annamarika

    I’m grateful about my body that functions well and is strong and mostly healthy. I’m very grateful for never giving up on myself. I’m grateful about my intelligence and the good use of it. I have good education and I have also a promising career in the making even if I’m still in school. I have my own business I love. I’m grateful abut my positive attitude that keeps me going. I’m grateful to have a loving family: a wonderful husband and a lovely daughter.

    Recently I’m so grateful for my ability to pursue my dreams instead of staying in an ok-environment without real fulfillment. I’m finding my calling in this world. Even if all these constant changes are kind of scary I’ve never been this happy in my life. I’ve jumped out of expecting my life to go a certain way to living an exciting life filled with adventure. For this courage I truly thank myself today.

    Three things to be grateful today:

    1. I did a ton of studying and feel like I really accomplished a lot today.
    2. I went to cranio-sacral -therapy. My therapist is near to wonderwoman as I got rid of both my backpain and my headache. Ah!!
    3. We booked the flights to Delhi! It’s officially happening :))) Me and my family are moving to Kerala in two months.

    • Eli

      Annamarika, congratulations for your move to Kerala. According to an Indian friend, it’s one of the most beautiful parts of India. It is also on my bucket list :-)

      Moving to a country with a completely different culture is a very bold move, especially if you have a family. I must say I admire your courage. Not just for moving to India, also for pursuing your dreams when your life was comfortable. It is easy to do something about one’s life when one has no other choice but to switch your career when you are doing ok, takes extra courage.

      And I guess there is an extra bonus, you get to avoid the long Finnish winter :-) I was told Finnish people have a great appreciation for warm weather because of long winters.

      • Annamarika

        Thank you Eli! In my opinion Kerala is one of the most beautiful parts of the world. I feel it’s like a second home to me. It’s beautiful in so many ways. I’ve never met as helpful and sincere people as I ran into while in Kerala. They are always ready to help. It’s really amazing. The crime rate there is very low so you are safe there as well.

        Thank you for saying I have courage. it’s a new trait in me that I’m just discovering myself :) I agree. It’s hard to move away from a place of comfort if it looks like a “proper life” from an outsiders point of view. But it’s more than worth it!

        Haha, the timing of our stay wasn’t a coincidence ;) We are happy not to wear any winter clothes this season! I feel much better in a hot climate and in a place where you can actually see the sun every day.

    • Annette Hatley

      Annamarika: I so enjoy reading your perspective. I can appreciate being scared by finding a calling. Keep steady; you are strong. Glad to read about the therapist helping you out so much; my mom has back problems and has started going to an acupuncturist and it’s helping! Alternative medicines and therapies are so worthwhile when you find someone dedicated to practicing them with a genuine desire to help people.

      My, my; you and your family are very adventurous! Best of luck with your move to Delhi. I would love to hear about your experience there when you finally arrive.

      • Annamarika

        Thank you so much for the support. Even if it’s scary it’s the best-ever-decision. Yep, I guess we are an adventurous family :) I’m so blessed to have so supportive (and crazy :)) husband and child that they are ready to leave home and fly with me to the other side of the world!

        There is so much potential in alternative therapies! Our bodies are amazing in fixing themselves if we just give them the change.

  • Spešl Pavrs

    Dear Spešl Pavrs,

    today is day 7 of our gratitude challenge and todays task is actually to give thanks to you :) I made a list of all the things I appreciate about you:

    And here goes the thank you:

    Thank you for taking care of your health and your body. Thank you for not using conventional cosmetics. Thank you for playing and trainig volleyball as a kid, so volleyball could became your favourite sport today. Thank you for having courage to start training it again, since you haven’t played it from high school. Thank you for having courage to go surfing. Thank you for realizing you have social anxiety. Thank you for working on it and not letting to stop you from doing the things that you love. Thank you for giving yoga a chance and embracing what it offered you. Thank you for having courage to aply for your todays job. And thank you for not giving up and not quiting, although you had nausea every morning for 6 months cause of being so nervous about the job. Thank you for having enough money.Thank you for your decision to forgive you mom and not resenting her anymore. Thank you for not feeling resentment against anyone. Thank you for being a strong girl when your parents didn’t get along. Thank you for working in pubs, although you said, as a teenager, you would never do such a job like being a bartender. Thank you for changing your mindset, your way of thinking. Thank you for being an optimist. Thank you for being aware that it’s only you who is responsible for your happiness. Thank you for being more free, for setting free. Thank you for keeping things simple. Thank you for giving that boy a chance to become your boyfriend. Thank you for starting realizing that you are good enough, that you are OK the way you are.

    I want you to know, that I am always here, no matter what. You can always rely on me if you need help, advice, a hug. I have everything you need. Follow yourself, follow your inner voice, follow your truth. Its never too late.

    Sincerely yours,



    Today, I am grateful for:
    – writting a letter of gratitude to myself,
    – lending a book to a friend,
    – feeling great at work.

  • Melody K

    I Love Me ~ because there are many things that I can do, have, have
    access to, or will receive/be a part of because of who I am; because I’m
    a mom with great kids, a wife with a great husband, a sister to a great
    sister, a daughter to great parents. I’m grateful to me for hanging in
    there and learning every day how to live this life joyfully. None of
    this would be possible if it wasn’t ‘ME’ who was living it. I wouldn’t have met the people that matter most to me, nor would they have met me, if I wasn’t ‘ME’. Thank you,
    Me. :)

    The three things I’m grateful for today: a bonus at work, a clean kitchen sink when I got home, and a new chapter to read in a manga that I’ve been waiting for eagerly.

    • Kiki Maria Valera

      I love that you started with “I Love Me” It’s really encouraging to see someone who is so positive! It really inspires one to do the same in their life. :)

  • Annette Hatley

    Dear God:

    Thank you for making me who I am. Guiding me through this life with nudges, pushes, and sometimes, knock downs, just to get me to see the correct path. Thank you for letting me see the goodness in myself and that I have something substantive to share. Thank you for believing in me when I didn’t, guiding me when I didn’t have a clue where to go, and reprimanding me when I selected the wrong path. Through the gifts you bestowed and the admonishments, I have become a better person. Not perfect, but willing to appreciate my self worth more and more.

    Your loving, but flawed servant.

    Three things I am grateful for today:
    1. Camaraderie of co-workers.
    2. Appreciation from others when I tried to help them.
    3. A kind and compassionate person who listened to me whine and gripe this evening, all the while offering words of comfort and understanding

    • Kiki Maria Valera

      I love this post; Especially since you thank God for everything in your life. I know everyone is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs. But, I personally feel there’s real humility when someone places their gratitude in something higher than themselves. Although we are strong, I feel like God gives us the strength to persevere. Remember this quote, “We do the possible, God does the impossible.” HAVE A GREAT DAY

  • Derrick R Kearney

    Give Thanks to Yourself

    It is
    rare that we are asked what is good about ourselves in an honest way, and even
    rarer for someone to give a modest answer to the question. Yet there are a few things that I could like
    about the person I have become in life.
    First and foremost would be my sense of humor. I have the ability to find almost anything
    funny, and have an outlet now days for much of it. There is a general level of sarcasm that
    comes from inside me, but until last year it was never seen by many. Now a quick search of Facebook can lead to a
    page with hundreds of fans and thousands of readers each week from around the
    world. I have collected a good amount of
    knowledge and many see me as wise beyond my years. I have bounced back from many challenges in
    life including divorce, death and despair.
    Years of hard work and drive, along with being blessed with a few
    talents have put me in the positions I am in life today. I am seen as “Switzerland” by friends when
    they are having their own arguments, as I try not to get in the middle but
    instead will support those who need it even if they are on opposite sides. I have a giving soul and find true joy in
    making others smile. This comes from
    being able to see all sides of an issue, not just my own. Lastly I think I have finally found my voice
    and now have the ability to express my feelings. In today’s technological town square we call
    the internet it is easy for people to hide behind their keyboards and screen
    names online. I have instead taken
    ownership of who I am not only in the digital world, but also in real

    3 Things Grateful for Today

    Since I only had to work this evening, I was
    able to clear off a good amount of my DVR before coming into the station. Being lazy usually isn’t something to brag
    about, but when you work 70+ hour weeks any free time is welcomed.

    Early calculations say that I should not run out
    of money before payday this weekend.
    There is hopefully enough gas in my truck for the rest of my travels and
    I have enough for the next few meals in pocket.
    Though I should do better with finances, it is nice to know that I can
    make another finish line. It was weird but I was sitting at work listening to a
    conversation between a few people about money.
    One was upset about an article he read saying those on welfare make more
    than those working minimum wage, and he used the figure of $36-thousand saying that was too much. I bit my tongue for the most part but did
    interject to say that not only was his article likely wrong, but that dollar
    amount is not a great deal that people can live and prosper on. I should know since it is pretty close to my
    base salary for my current job. In fact
    many kids spend thousands on college just to make less.

    Speaking of money, I got a bit of news from my
    credit union. They are approving a
    secured credit card for me to use. I am
    sure that it will “cost” me a bit to set up, but is an important step in rebuilding
    my life. When I first moved to the area
    I was flat broke with tons of debt. I
    took kind of an easy way some might say and declared bankruptcy. A good portion of the immediate problem was
    taken away though there is still a big dark cloud that I am attempting to fly
    through. Baby steps…

  • Bette

    Okay Bette, you bundle of joy you….thank you for BEING!


    Patient, compassionate, understanding, positive, persevering, respectful, and considerate.
    You are filled with these qualities and most of them come into play in regard to others.
    Sometimes you need to be more dedicated to these qualities in relation with yourself!
    Yes, you can and do exhibit these qualities so well with yourself, but sometimes, you do not.
    Thank you for your taking good care of yourself in many ways. And for being disciplined, because in the long run, being disciplined really does give you what you need. So think about that when you balk at the very thought of discipline and having healthy boundaries with yourself and others, and being truly conscious and loving with yourself.
    In the meantime, thank you for unconditionally loving yourself. For being willing to face fears and move forward.

    For having a good sense of humor, a sense of playfulness, and for being resourceful and getting done what needs to be done. For having a strong sense of intuition. For being creative. For your sweetness and lovingkindness. For your empathy. For having a mystical side. For generosity of Spirit.

    Beyond anything else, thank you for your spiritual nature that gets you through anything. You have had sooo many challenges and you have made it through to this point. Life is a miracle, and you are a miracle.

    What is in my consciousness increases. As I thank myself and cultivate an attitude of gratitude, I am more aware of all the countless blessings that are in and around me.

    I have chosen to be me, the only me who can fulfill this mission, and I need to be here for me to do just that!

    1. I met a new friend today. It is wonderful when there is a resonance, a feeling of having known the person before, and the conversation just flows so smoothly.
    2. My dear friend made us all lunch and set up the table so invitingly, and it all was yummy!
    3. I have written some things today…a.letter to my Aunt, two emails, and now this assignment. I appreciate that I keep in touch with others who may not even keep in touch with me. I pretty much follow my heart and say what I need to say. I love attracting people in my life who resonate with the things that are really important to me. And when that doesn’t happen, it’s still okay.

  • Carol

    This has been the hardest week for me in a long time. Reading the assignment made me cry and realize I am always there for me, even when no one else is. I feel really alone this week, but realize I’m here for me.
    I’m grateful I am smart and funny and have common sense. I am always there for my friends if they need me and I become more positive every day even with many negative influences in my life. I’m grateful for my artistic talent and for the way my parents raised me that made me the person I am.
    I wouldn’t want to be anyone else. I could say I’d like to be Bill Gats because he has a lot of money or Heidi Klum because she has a great body, but both of them each have their own issues and I don’t know that they are any happier or better than I am. I’ll just be me.
    3 Things I’m grateful for today:
    1) My garden;
    2) The block I live on — all my neighbors are normal compared to one block over;
    3) My little car that’s hanging on to get me to the train every day.

    • Miss Ellen

      Hi Carol,
      So sorry your week is so hard! I hope the bad times will soon pass, and I loved how you found strength within yourself! Sometimes life gives you these challenges, but I read somewhere that “You are never given more to bear than you can carry”, so I’m pretty sure you’ll find a way to cope with these hard times!
      And remember, we’re all together in this challenge!
      Take care!

      • Carol

        Thanks Miss Ellen,
        It was so lovely to receive your kind words.

  • blessedart

    WOW LaTrice!! I am so loving you, if I were not you I would definitely want to be your friend ;=) but I’ve got one better I am friends with me! There are some things that I would like to improve about myself as do we all I’m sure but nevertheless let me stick with the task at hand and note some thing that I am grateful for about myself.

    I am grateful about having a youthful spirit, I’m glad that although I can handle business when needed I am truly young at heart that keeps me happy, laughing, and goofy and I don’t mind at all. Being a loving mom, wife, daughter, sister, cousin, niece and friend is something I’m grateful for. I’m also grateful for acknowledging and accepting me for me flaws and all. I have no desires to be anyone else in this lifetime or in the hereafter, besides I feel we all have our strengths and any weaknesses we do have we can accept or overcome. Another thing I am grateful about me is having a kind heart and being loyal because that I believe is the best part of me. I’m grateful for me because I have natural talents and abilities that I aspire to use to encourage, uplift and inspire. Lastly, I am grateful for sincerely wanting the best for everyone.

  • Calae

    I feel as if my letter is a bit too personal to share here, so I’ll refrain at least for now. It was sort of a combination appreciation letter/pick-me-up. I tried listing 30 things I appreciated about myself first, as suggested in the 30BBM task. And it was very, very hard.

    I was not expecting to have so much difficulty thinking of things I like about myself, as I tend to be very thankful about that which is around me! Thinking of things brought up lots of things I feel were shortcomings, too — I realized between this exercise and a “mind dump” I did last night, that I feel quite hollow and empty. I essentially place so much emphasis on other people’s opinions, on getting other people to like me, and filling up my free time with mindless, distracting activities, that I feel I have very little inside of me that’s “true”.

    Do I work hard? Do I try for my goals? Do I even set goals? Do I take responsibility for my life and my actions? What are my own opinions? What am I aiming for? Who am I?

    The base of -so much- of what I have issues with seems to stem from this same place, this lack of self/self-worth/self-love. Even when I recognize this, I seem hesitant to fix it. I’ll need to look deeper into why that is — lack of self-love/esteem seems to be the root cause for so many things for me!

    Anyway, enough random rambling, here are my daily three things to be grateful for:

    1) Had a delicious dinner with my family at Ruby Tuesday’s!
    2) Managed to pretty much pack everything for returning to school before my dad got home!
    3) Had a great “self-appreciation” session, really learning to love and appreciate myself. =)

    • Susan

      Dear Calae, I always look for your purple flower when I read the reader comments. You are so sweet and pensive. You remind me of myself when I was in college. I struggled with self esteem in my 20s. It wasn’t until I got into the work force and found that I was top performer that I gained my confidence. I wish I could have achieved it earlier. You have the first step down pat by identifying the problem. You are now closer to solving it. Try this affirmation (which I love): I accept myself for all that I am and all that I’m not.

      • Calae

        Hi Susan! Thank you so much for your words. It’s amazing to know that not only are my comments read, they’re looked for! It’s also comforting to know that I’m not alone in this, I certainly hope I can begin to overcome it. I love that affirmation, thanks for sharing! =)

    • Celestine Chua

      Hi Calae! I recall you participated in last year’s self-esteem webinar. Do review the webinar material when you get the chance; you may find new insights in them which you didn’t the first time you attended/watched it! (A.k.a. It might be pre-mature when you attended the webinar last year; but the time might be ripe now for you to fully absorb its lessons!)

      • Calae

        Hi Celes! I very much think you could be right — in fact, looking over that webinar has been on my mental to-do list along with other things (finishing the anti-procrastination course, for example!) I’m hoping I’ll get some time either today or over the weekend to give everything another look. For today, I’ll be aiming mainly to finish organizing my new room (moved into my college-affiliated apartment yesterday…good chance to set up a power environment!), but hopefully that in itself will free my time into focusing inward before school starts up again!

  • Eli

    When I read the challenge for today, I really wanted to skip it. On all of the days, it had to be today. My hormones have a great influence on my mood and they usually run wild during my period and I get very depressed and negative about myself. So in a way it is even more important to seek out the positive in myself :-)

    My thank you note to myself

    Thank you girl for never giving up on yourself :-) no matter how hard things got. Thank you for always wanting more and not being satisfied with average. Thank you for being so caring and full of love. I know it has brought you some heartaches but that’s the only way it is worth living your life.

    Thank you for being an emphatic and caring person although it often makes you sad. Thank you for always being honest although it is often not to your advantage. Thank you for being reliable although people who take things easy seem to be getting better through life. Thank you for taking chances. Thank you for trying to be a better person. Thank you for trying to face your problems instead of living in denial or blaming others.

    Thanky you for taking care of your body, eating pretty healthy and exercising. Thank you for having the courage to go travelling and meeting new people although it does not come naturally to you. Thank you for conecting with people despite feeling anxiety at times. Thank you for having the courage to join this challenge.

    Thank you for working as a waitress although you always said in your younger years you could not do such a job. Thank you for doing that bungy jump although you were scared
    as hell. Thank you for always trying to improve yourself in every area of your life. Thank you for working on your weaknesses and striving to overcome them instead of accepting them.

    Thanks for not being a typical girl. Thanks for not being just a regular person. Thanks for being special. Thank you for being interested in a variety of subjects.

    Thanks for trying to change for the better all the time and yet stay true to yourself.

    Wow, I never realised there were so many things I appreciate about myself :-) That’s great.

    3 Things that I am grateful today
    1. I managed to meditate longer than usually this morning
    2. I didn’t go to bed in the afternoon although I was feeling bad because of my period – physically and mentally. Instead I did some simple stuff in the house
    3. I found many things I am grateful for to myself

  • Miss Ellen

    Hi to myself – and all of you ;)

    Often I forget to be grateful for the nice character traits I have. An inner voice always seems to win the battles by criticizing me, but today I decided to let my Heart win. Here’s a Gratitude Note from my Heart to Myself ;)

    I’m grateful for my sense of humor, for my warm personality and big smile. I am kind and sweet, and I treat people with respect, politeness and I always (try to) listen to what they have to say.

    I’m grateful for having found the strength to cope with some difficult times in life, how I found wisdom in them and grew from them. People often say I am wise beyond my years, and I think it was both because of the way I see the world (and think about it), and because of what my parents taught me.

    I like that I’m always in for a challenge, because that’s how I’ve lived some amazing adventures. I’m open to new people, easily making friends across borders and ages. I’m glad I always give it all, at work, in friendships and love.

    I wouldn’t want to be anyone else in my life, because that would mean I would’ve never met my amazing boyfriend and my fantastic friends. I would’ve missed out on the warmth of my personality, and therefore missing other generous and loving people in my life. And I would have been more scared to take on a new challenge, whereas now I usually find the strength to give it a shot.

    I love you!
    Your Heart

  • Hanna


    I’m not going to share my letter either, but want to say I’m very grateful to Celes for posting this challenge – it was great!
    Years ago I would have resisted looking to see positives in my and my journey, but now I see this as a crucial part of my reflection process.

    The power of 3!
    1. I’m grateful to Stephen for being my yoga student this evening.
    2. Talking to Jamie, a neighbor/ friend from childhood for the first time as adults.
    3. The chocolate I bought for dad and myself.

    Warm fuzzy feelings!! Xx

    • Celestine Chua

      I’m so happy to hear the challenge having a positive effect on you Hanna!! :) Many hugs and kisses to you. xoxo

  • Andi-Roo

    I jotted notes throughout the day and then placed the stickies on a dated sheet of paper. This was a really fun exercise, and I found myself looking for things to be thankful for every few hours. It really did change my perspective. I think I will engage in this activity again soon. I also wrote myself a note thanking me for my moxy. My results are pictured here as well as on my Pinterest board entitled “Gratitude-ish Things”.

  • Suzanne McClendon

    Here is my Day 7 post. Maybe I will actually catch up soon!

    • Celestine Chua

      At this rate, I actually think you will, Suzanne!! Great job on your daily tasks to date, by the way! :)