This is the final day of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge held in March 2012, where we work on being positive for 21 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
21DPC Day 21
We’re finally here – the last day of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge! *dance*
Thank you to all of you for your amazing participation in the past 21 days. Each of you have been such an incredible spirit to the community that its indescribable. In particular, I would like to give kudos to those of you who played an active part of each day’s discussions, including (but not limited to) the following:
- Alban Brice
- Anna
- ASLO
- Asni
- Bette
- Borjana
- Butterfly
- Cindy
- Chestnut
- Christina
- Courtney
- CourtneyLR
- Cyndi
- CWI
- DarleneC
- derrick r
- Dilip Kumar
- Dora
- faiza
- Ffion
- Glenn
- Ish
- JadePenguin
- Jaleen
- Jared
- jitender
- Jo
- Joe
- Katerina
- Ken
- Laura
- Lee
- leslie
- Lexi
- Lina
- Lottie
- lotusbleu
- marie
- May
- Matt
- mrs
- Netta
- ninschubur
- P.Callychurn
- Paula
- Robin
- Roses
- Sara
- Serenity
- Squiggle
- stacey_dream
- Sue
- Susan
- Susanne
- Theresa
- ugi
- Vasundhara
- Wendy
- Everyone else who has played a role in making 21DPC the success it is
Given that this is the last day of 21DPC, in today’s task, I’d like you to round up your experience in the past 21 days, via the following questions:
- On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you? (Returning to the question on Day 1 of 21DPC)
- Compare the score with what you assigned yourself for Day 1. Is there any difference? If so, how much is the difference?
- For those whose scores reflected a difference, why do you think this is the case? For those who have the exact same scores, why do you think that’s the case?
- What have you learned about positivity and happiness in the past 21 days?
- How can you apply your 21DPC lessons (from #4) moving forward?
Your Task:
- Reflect and answer the set of questions. above Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express yourself.
- Celebrate the past 21 days of positivity! Your task today is to celebrate your completion of 21DPC! :D Throw some confetti in the air, read your favorite book, take some time off, watch your favorite movie, spend some time on your new business endeavor, or do your favorite activity. You deserve this! ♥
- Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!
Share Your Answers!
After you are done, share your answers in the comments area.
If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then work on your positivity task throughout the day, then return at the end of the day to share your results for your positivity task and your end-of-day positive reflection.
Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!
Once again, today’s post is *NOT* the final post. So do not post your final words, thank yous or final goodbyes yet. Tomorrow’s round-up post is meant for that purpose – Stay tuned! :D
(Images: Happy girl in the field, Grass)
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Wow, 21 Days, already over, it was a good!!
On a scale from 1 – 10, I’m going to say 9.5. I feel good, i’m healthy, I love myself and I’m growing, I pretty happy. Not much of a difference from Day 1, but I know that there is always room for improvement and that’s my goal, always getting better. I’ve learn that maybe sometimes, instead of trying to help person see the positive, I must continue to live the positive. This has helped me immensley. I’m also teaching a Bible Study this month on Positive Attitude versus Negative Attitude, this has helped me dig deep and see where I can also critique myself.
Was talking to a former co-worker today, she said I had such a positive attitude, I had to share with her my class and this one too. Good it’s working!
Lovely to hear the challenge has had such a great impact on you. And it’s always lovely when other people notice changes like that in your life. Keep up the wonderful spirit :hug:
When I started this challenge my happiness was a 5/10. Now I would say it is at a 6 or 7/10. It definitely has improved over the course of the month and challenge.
Being able to identify one positive thing that happened to me each day was very significant! Every day something would happen and I would think, “this is my positive moment” then something else would happen later and i would think, “no, this is even better” and it made me realize that numerous positive things really do happen to me daily.
It also made me very aware of what does make me smile – even the little things. For example, I work on the 15th floor and anytime the elevator goes direct from the Lobby to the 15th floor – I smile. It feels like my own personal express elevator and it makes me happy for a split second. I used to dismiss silly things like this but I have decided that, albeit silly, it makes me smile and I shouldn’t take that for granted.
I have learned that I CREATE MY OWN HAPPINESS! Combining awareness of positivity around me (within my environment and friends) and re-framing my thoughts to be more positive really makes a difference! Eradicating words like “stupid”, “dumb”, “tired” and “quit” from my thoughts noticeably cheers me up. I hadn’t realized how draining those adjectives make me feel. I suppose they’re called “downers” for a reason.
I can’t believe it’s already been 21 days! I am sad for this challenge to end. Everyday I have looked forward to getting these emails and answer each challenge question. I will continue, on my own, to write-down at least one positive thing that happens to me each day. I like being aware of this. It helps me realize that my life is not a complete pit of despair!
Thank you so much for creating this challenge! And thank you to everyone who took the time to comment and provide me support here. What a great community! look forward to the next one!
What a wonderful comment :) Yes, there are so many little things that make us happy, that so often go unnoticed… it’s very sad :( Glad to hear you’re being so aware of them, keeping track of all the tiny moments really does accumulate into greater happiness… I’ve experienced that myself several times in life, glad PE has brought me back to that excercise.
“Gather the crumbs of happiness and they will make you a loaf of contentment…”
Nice to see such a positive attitude :heart:
Really appreciate your words this morning, leslie.
The little moments really DO add up, each one is a gift.
When those positive moments happen and they ARE really important, I call them my red letter days in my journaling…Am seeing a lot more red letter days since this challenge began….
Lots of “AH-HA!” moments too!
That we “create our own happiness” is so true! And who but ourselves knows what makes happiness!
I agree…”What a great community!”
I feel very grateful as well.
:D
I thought this question was familiar~ I remember on the first day I gave myself a 9? Somewhere around there. I think I will stay with 9 because throughout the journey, I have noticed that even though I try to be positive most of the time, I still have to improve to make myself better. I’m happy MOST of the time, as long as I don’t procrastinate on school work (and fail tests) , I think I may just move my happiness up to a 9.5 ;)
I want to thank Cele for making the 21DPC and making me (and many others) improve my positiveness!
Always trying to improve myself and push myself to be the best I can be :)
Cheers! :dance:
Something positive today: I practiced violin for a hour! I haven’t done that in a while, usually it’s 30 minutes or so. I also ran for a run, I’m still out of shape but I’m trying my best.
I think I may have typed too fast. :shy:
What have you learned about positivity and happiness in the past 21 days?
I learned that I can be more positive and more happy. I should not dwell on the useless and negative thoughts that will make me unhappy. The questions each day also gave me a wake up call (such as: how much do I appreciate my parents, what DOES make me smile, etc). I think i may have found myself even more so now.
How can you apply your 21DPC lessons (from #4) moving forward?
I can definitely refer back to these questions when I’m feeling a bit more down. I can just read someone else’s response and feel happy for them. Plus, I’d say this is a reminder for me to stay happy and at least positive because that way, I’ll lead a more “stress-free” life :)
I feel I Iearned how much I…ME…MYSELF….plays a role in my own outlook on the world. It is up to ME how I want to face each day…that, in itself, was worth the challenge.
Probably one of the most useful things we can learn from such a challenge. It really is very true.
“As a man thinketh in his heart, so he will be.”
Also wanted to share a really wonderful poem on this subject:
Invictus
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
~ William Ernest Henley
Oh yes, Ffion, it IS, a verrry wonderful poem on this subject! :heart:
Wow, I haven’t seen that poem in many moons!
Thanks for remembering it and posting it. :hug: What a treat! :D
The poem was mentioned in the movie “Invictus” which is about Nelson Mandela, a really fantastic movie. That’s where I first came across it, those words really hold so much truth…
The poem had me in tears :) (In a good way)
I think today I would give myself an 8 on the scale of happiness. It may not seem like a big change from the 7 on the first day, but to me feels like a huge difference. I think I have learned a lot about myself over the past three weeks. It has been a challenge to find answers at time I would be willing to share with the world, but I feel that now I can hopefully share more of myself with others. I think for the first time in a long time I have made a successful attempt at change in my life, and this challenge has helped me obtain the goals I have for the future.
The positive thing of today is actually something that started in what some might see as negative. I received news that a co-worker had passed on. Though it is someone that I do not see daily, this person was helpful in making me into the employee I am today. The thing that makes it positive is how many past and current employees all came together to honor his memory with tributes. That in the end is very touching and something I could only wish for myself when my time comes.
Thank you for sharing, derrick, and sharing what you could share at this time. :D
I look forward to more of your “shares!
And congrats for making progress with learning more about yourself and making headway with change in your life!
Continued success with your goals. :D
I give myself the same rating as when I started-7/10.This challenge has been indeed instructive, illuminating,enjoyable and heart-warming. It was a privilege to learn about the life of people from other parts of the world, the sincerity and the humility with which they exposed their side of the story, positive as well as negative, and more importantly you have an insight into their struggle,the effort they make to improve their condition. So much for themselves, as much as for their nears and dears,. When it comes to the fellow participants, they go any length to make suggestions, provide solutions and moral support through positive encouragement. In this not miraculous.People whom you do not know except through their posts and you say to yourself ‘I wish I could be there to sustain and support. This experience ,I wish helps us to adopt the same attitude to the next door neighbour or to the colleague at work. Not that it is not there, but this challenge helps develop better awareness, and equip the participant to identify and rise up to the situation spontaneously .It is also a miracle because we rise beyond the physical and find ourselves elevated to the universal and spiritual. We do not really know each other, but we know now we are soul mates. The advice that comes from you do not know where is God-given. It raises our hope and faith in the future. As far as we are concerned this is thanks solelely to the PE, and to Celes, and of course the glorious participants. Thank you all.
I have kept my rating the same although I have learned a lot and improved, I could have done more. I have not been regular and consistent..This willprovide me reasons to do better for the next challenge.
Yes, Callychurn, I quite agree that there is much inspiration and encouragement to be found here on this wonderful platform of diversity with amazing, gifted Celes at the helm. :heart: We are so fortunate! I have received so much here and I’m sure I will be back! :heart:
Thank you for being here and offering so much of yourself, P.C. :D
Sincerely hope to see you here at PE in the near future!
When I am helpful to “my neighbor,” I will remember you and your wise, kind words. :D
All good things always,
With gratitude, heart and soul…. :D
1.On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you? Today about a 7
2.Compare the score with what you assigned yourself for Day 1. I was a 7 on Day 1.
3.Why do you think that’s the case? I think it is the same because it is difficult to move beyond a 7 for me. It’s not that I didn’t learn anything. I just need more time. I was a 5 about a year ago. Maybe lower.
4.What have you learned about positivity and happiness in the past 21 days? I learned that I can find a positive thing about every single day, even an ordinary day. And I learned that I can turn things around.
5.How can you apply your 21DPC lessons (from #4) moving forward? I will continue to look for the positive in each day, and to turn the negative thoughts around. I will keep a thought journal where I list the negative thought and then reframe it. [I am studying Dr. Amen’s brain training program, which teaches how to kill automatic negative thoughts (ANTs)].
Positive thing about today: I went to the fitness center even though I was feeling a little low. I also had a long conversation with my husband (which is rare) about some brain research that I had just completed. He is a scientist so he connected with my research.
Dear friends:
I did not rate my happiness at the begining of this challenge, it was just to difficult to put it into numbers. Today I find myself thinking the same. I have so many “different” lives! All involve a different “me” a different persona so I would have to rate each situation/life…as a Mother, as a friend, as a woman, as a sister etc…
Perhaps I did not understand what to do. All I know is that it has been a wonderful experience. I wish I had participated more; but you all were my companion on many sleepless nights. I am very grateful to ALL of you. I was touched to find such sincere, honest, loving people through your answers/posts. I found myself facinated by the fact that, although we are from different countries/cultures, we feel and want the same things.I am very curious to know how many countries “participated” although I am fully aware it has nothing to do with the lovely sentiments and wonderful people I got to meet. The only thing I found difficult was not answeing each and every post!
I feel I have grown as a person by just reading ALL you had to say. It has made me reflect on what I have to work on in order to be happier and more positive. So thank you so much! I WILL MISS YOU and hope to find you again in a new challenge.
May God grant all of us a happier life!
A special thank you to Celes for her continuos encouragement to better our lives!
With love and best wishes,
Anna
On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you?
I guess I’m at 9 now. Honestly, I don’t believe I’ll ever be 10, because the things I need for being at 10 seem unattainable for now. May be later…
Compare the score with what you assigned yourself for Day 1. Is there any difference? If so, how much is the difference?
I had 8 at the beginning of the challenge.
For those whose scores reflected a difference, why do you think this is the case?
There’s just a little difference, and I guess it’s because I’ve learned to accept the reality the way it is and appreciate what I already have. However, the feeling that something important is missing, has only got stronger. So now I’m trying to find a way to forget about my dreams or do something to realize them.
What have you learned about positivity and happiness in the past 21 days?
That every day something good happens to us or round us;
I must love and accept myself to be able to have these feelings to others;
My hometown is not the worst place in the world;
I’m a happy person, even though it’s often not enough.
How can you apply your 21DPC lessons (from #4) moving forward?
I can think about everything good that’s happened to me every day;
Love and respect myself and others the way we are;
Listen to my heart and do what I truly want, not what others want for me;
Be positive and smiling :D
Thank you, Celes! :glomp: This challenge was an awesome idea! (and you know how much I love challenges!) :heart:
Good thing of the day: I had my face skin cleaned – it had been my lifelong dream :)
Stacey_Dream, I understand your sentiment that something important is missing. If you decide to forget about your dream, then find another one and pursue completely! Sometimes dreams are meant to teach us who we are not. So there is nothing wrong with looking at a dream / goal and realizing that is not who you really are.
Just pick another one and keep on pursuing knowing yourself which should be the ultimate goal / dream for everyone :) Best of luck and I look forward to reading your posts in the next challenge!
I think I’m still a 9 because my marriage is still not what I want. My dream is still to eventually be with the woman of my dreams. Someone who is honest, lives by her values, her words will always match her actions, and if our values are not quite in line with each other, willing to make compromises or accept my compromises that I will make, so they are as close to being in line as possible.
I know I can provide the same things back to someone who would be willing to be my wife.
What I have to do now is to get to the point where I can feel comfortable that my current wife will not harm herself when the choice for me to move out is made. I know I will not get to 100% that she will not harm herself but it’s getting there. Right now I feel it’s around 75% she will not do anything. If I can feel 90% sure, I think that will be enough for me to sit down and go on my way.
There will be days that I feel like I have taken a step back, but my friends, especially my best friend said they will support me and help me along. So I’m going to keep surrounding myself with my positive friends and get through this. In return I’m going to do the best to be not only my friends, but co-workers, my direct report staff, people that I know and be their “dream manager”.
It’s on my dream list to be with a woman that I can call my wife, then I will have the honor of rating our happiness at 20.
I did treat myself to something today. I picked up the new iPad on my way home from work. I’m still going to look at a new camera for my favorite past time, motorsport photography. I’m just lucky to have worked hard and earned the ability to enjoy my favorite past time. I worked hard, I should be able to play hard.
I am sad this challenge is over, but I’m sure Celes will have something new next month and my best friend and I will certainly be a part of it.
I will post my positive thing tomorrow since it’s still the 20th.
I feel with you about your current wife… I’ve never been married, but I was trapped in a 2 1/2 year relationship with a person I didn’t really love and which made my life living hell through exactly that same fear, that if I left he would do something terrible to himself. In a way I feel that threat was in part his subconscious way of making sure I stayed with him.
Of course we shouldn’t just heartlessly dump people, but we also mustn’t let ourselves become slaves to fear. That is one of the great problems I face in life, that I am often acting because of fear, not because I’m following my heart.
There came a point, at least for me, where despite that fear, the possibility of something happening, it was time to leave, otherwise it could have cost me my own sanity and my happiness was already down the drain, no matter how hard I tried to convince myself I was happy.
After the breakup, which went quite well, a few weeks later my boyfriend turned up again on my doorstep and was later lying on my bed paralyzed with tears, telling me he’d made the biggest mistake of his life letting me go, telling me he still loved me… He also again made the threat of killing himself in a sort of roundabout way, but there was no way I could go back. I knew I’d made the right decision. All I could do was beg him not to do anything stupid, beg him to get professional help if it was so bad and promise him I’d still be there for him as a friend, even if I couldn’t as a partner.
That was the most terrible moment of my whole life, seeing a person I was fond of in such agony and knowing there was nothing I could do for him. Knowing that nothing I did or said could ease that pain, that sorrow.
But I also knew we would never have been happy together and we never were.
To this day I stand by my decision, and even if he had done something to himself, it was in my right to leave him and any decision to harm himself would have been his decision, not mine. Together we would eventually both have been miserable, dragging the relationship out to some unforseen bitter end would not have been right and would have done irreparable harm to us both.
We’re still friends and there’s now no hard feelings between us and he seems to have gotten over me. Life goes on. We’re not responsible for everyone’s happiness, but we can be responsible for our own.
I can’t give you any advice on your situation, especially since I don’t know all the details, I can only sympathise with you and say how it was for me, even though of course a relationship is not as fixed a tie as a marriage and it was “only” 2 1/2 years, but I’m still convinced if we’re fundamentally unhappy we have a right to leave. In the end, it’s better for both parties.
Thank you very much for your encouraging words and sharing what you have gone through.
When it feels right I will move on. My mother is coming to visit in a few weeks. I’m going to talk to her about it as well. She knows what’s going on and she was the one who even said what am i waiting for. Go after your dreams….
I do know this will be the second time we are going through this. Back in 2006 we separated and we were just three days from filing the divorce papers. I don’t think it was a mistake back then to get back together. I think I needed to know that we tried again. That is one positive thing about this decision.
Here is a positive thing for today. A co-worker came in to my office. I commented on his new glasses. He said thank you for noticing. He’s been in several meetings already and no one noticed. He said he felt a little down that not even his boss noticed the change.
It’s those little things that can make a difference.
Ken:
I have been reading your posts and it hurts me deeply what you are going through with your wife. What a terrible dilema. How nice of you to be concerned regarding her wellbeing. It speaks volumes of your good nature. I love that in spite of your current relationship you are SO SUPER POSITIVE you will find a wife with whom you can enjoy life. I specially think it is wonderful you are willing to make compromises as that is what marriage is all about as long as it is both ways. I wish you the best and hope you join the next challenge.
Thank you very much. For a long time I use to think i wasn’t a good enough husband, let alone a good enough person.
Parts of this was my low self-esteem issue. I’m fighting this issue every day, but by being myself, I feel I am pretty happy with where I am today.
My best friend helped me find that person inside and she has given me hope that any dream I can come up with, I know I will put my best foot forward to reach it. Of course there maybe failures, but she has taught me that as long as I can go to sleep knowing I did my best, that is all that matters.
She does inspire me everyday. I appreciate her friendship, and honored she lets me be a part of her life. This world is a better place because of her.
1. On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you?
I guess i can rate myself 7.5 to 8 out of 10 now. I feel good, fresh, active and energetic these recent days. May be because i have started again my practise of Yoga :)
2.Compare the score with what you assigned yourself for Day 1. Is there any difference? If so, how much is the difference?
3.For those whose scores reflected a difference, why do you think this is the case
Of course there is a difference. On the day 1 of this challenge i gave the rating of 6 to 6.5. So there is minimum difference point 1 to 1.5 of maximum. Its all because of this positivity challenge as each day question for the day made me to think one or more positivity things happening around me. So thanks to celes :)
I myslef also made concisous effort to accept the things as they are, look for positive side in each and every situation and not complaning like these are the reasons for the difference in the rating :)
4.What have you learned about positivity and happiness in the past 21 days?
The basic truth what i got in 21 days is Positive attitude should start from one self and that attitude automatically leads to happy and healthy living :) !!!
Being Positive makes not only the person to be happy but it also helps others the same spirit and brings happiness in thier happy :) I really felt this one day during this challenge. Wish this should happen often :)
Initially i felt that being positive always and developing not complaining traits are difficult to follow and adopt at all times. But neverthless its these are not impossible with practise, practise and practise and small daily improvements one day leads to big achievement on one fine day :)
5. How can you apply your 21DPC lessons (from #4) moving forward?
Making conscious effort to be more and more positive person, looking for positive things in each and every scenario, replacing the negative thoughts with positive thoughts immediately (as i cannot promise that i won’t get negative thoughts at all!!! :P ) Continue to see and make a note of positive things on daily basis :)
Positive for the day:
1. The above comment which i have written itself is positive for my day and it made my day.
2. Reached office on time and did my yoga practise.
3. Happy that my name appeared in todays list of 60 names. Thank you celes
PS: Thank you so much celes for this wonder chanllenge. Looking forward for another one soon…
Hmm… 1-10… I’m going to give myself an 8 right now, although probably overall I’m going to be ending up around 7 (my starting score). But right now I’m pretty happy :)
I wouldn’t say I’m all that much happier than I was to begin with, that’s not to say that the challenge had no effect for me though.
Through all the questions I’ve learnt a lot of things about what does and doesn’t make me happy and some of the things that are seriously preventing me from reaching true happiness.
So I’d say, that though I’m not all that much happier, I think I’ve been given some of the KEYS to my happiness, and that’s a very important thing.
One of the main thing I’ve learnt is that I need to try and stop trying to perfect myself or my life… They’re both perfect the way they are with all their imperfections, if only I let myself accept that. I’m not talking about healthy striving for excellence, I just have this warped vision, that if I perfect every area of my life I’ll be happy, when deep down I even know this won’t be the case. The error is in my thinking, not in my life, “and as a man thinketh… so in his heart he will be”, and nothing could be more true for me.
I’m miserable because I have miserable thoughts. I’m miserable because I have chosen to hate and reject aspects of myself and my life as though they were something easily removed or corrected, even though I think I love myself, but the truth is that I don’t treat myself that way. I have a lot to learn in that respect.
Keys To My Happiness
Self-Kindness, and self-love, not just claiming it, but actually living it.
Accepting imperfection as part of life itself, as something that makes us and our lives unique and complete, not something bad that needs to be stamped out.
Living and loving wholeheartedly, “Falling in love with my life” the way I have with my boyfriend. Love as if I’ve never been hurt, give everything, expect nothing, anger slowly, forgive quickly, enjoy every moment.
Don’t worry about the future. It just robs the present of all joy. And it’s never worth it.
Relax. I don’t have to be DOING something worthwhile every moment and second of the day. I’m just totally stressing myself out.
Choosing Happiness. Every Day. It is a choice, if not always an easy one, but we can choose to be happy, no matter what our circumstances.
Practice Gratitude. As a discipline. Not just in moments there’s something to obviously be grateful about, but all the time. Cherish every moment as if their numbers are limited. Because they are.
Task 2
I will be celebrating by writing a big fat “NOTHING” on my To-Do list today, because I need to do nothing for a change, just chill, give my body and mind a chance to leave the stress behind for a bit before I start applying to agencies next week. Not worry about the future for a couple of days. No obligations. No pressure. Spend time with my boyfriend. Maybe I’ll do some drawing… haven’t drawn in ages…
Positive Things today
Just woke up, feeling the excercise from yesterday’s karate class in my bones, the sun shining on my face. Best way to wake up ever. (Except my boyfriend wasn’t there… okay, almost perfect.) And no alarm clock. I hate alarms.
No tasks to do.
Will be seeing my beloved boyfriend.
Will be making myself a nice bowl of porrige with a mountain of fruit on it and a nice cup of tea in a minute.
And the day’s only just begun :)
Thank you Celes for this wonderful challenge, once again you’ve given me a huge amount of insight into myself and my life. Looking forward to whatever you come up with next. :) Keep up the fantastic work! I’m glad I can be a part of such a wonderful thing as Personal Excellence.
Hi everyone! For those of you who gave yourself same/similar ratings on Day 1 and now, I think you may have realized by now (by the end of the challenge), that your happiness index has nothing to do with your external reality and everything to do with how you perceive it.
Someone can just emerge from a car accident, lose his job, get out of a broken relationship/marriage, be in debt, and still give himself a 10/10.
Someone can just enter a new job, get to have new colleagues/friends, enter a new relationship/get married, have a stream of income rolling in every month, and give himself a 1/10.
It has nothing to do with circumstances and everything to do with how you perceive them. If there’s anything I want any of you to take away from the challenge, it’s this.
So instead of wonder how you can change the external reality to make yourself happy, my challenge and question to you is – what are the inner workings in your mind keeping yourself from giving a 10/10, and how can you address them? Including those of you who gave yourself a 7, 8, 9, or even 9.5. You don’t need X, Y and Z before you can be 10/10 happy; You can be 10/10 happy now AND pursue X, Y and Z.
The belief that one can never be a 10/10 happiness and there’s always things to do to improve is also a limiting belief in itself. Being on the path of improvement has nothing to do with one’s happiness not being 10/10. One can constantly be 10/10 and be constantly improving too (that’s the same as being in the moment; in the flow of the process).
Stay tuned for the round-up post tomorrow, where I seek your wonderful feedback for the challenge! Stay tuned guys!
I was thinking about that the other day too Celes… everything is relative, and that includes our happiness.
I know for a fact that around 1 1/2 years I was so much unhappier than now, yet I have other worries now and though I would rate myself much higher now than then, I still feel my perceived happiness is not that much greater. It’s a strange thing.
But thanks for pointing this out again, you’re absolutely right. I will be working more on trying to experience the positive things in my life more from now on… it’s worked for me when I was 16, and it’s worked for me during this challenge… I’m hoping to stop wallowing in my fears and troubles and self-pities and spend more time being grateful for each individual moment and the good things I have in life… there’s so many of them…
Life’s too short to waste time being miserable.
Thanks again for creating such a wonderful challenge. :) Personal Excellence is a fantastic creation.
Very true! In life you are always in one of three scenarios:
1. Coming out of a storm
2. Heading into a storm
3. In the middle of a storm.
There will never be a time when everything is perfect and peaceful in every aspect of the external realities we are faced with. So it is indeed our internal perspective that determines our happiness scale.
DAY 21 HAPPINESS :D :heart: :D
On the scale of am I tickled pink happy, I am about an 8. (It was a 5.) Why? Because I have taken a point off for not yet being at my goal weight and maintaining it, and not having written/published a book. But i am on my food plan and exercising regularly, so that is a strong 8. I am in a loving relationship with a dear friend, not a lover friend, but I am very grateful to have him by my side, so that counts. My truest relationship is with myself, so having a loving/lover/soulmate relationship would be a bonus that I will delight in if that is in the cards for me. My goal weight will happen in the near future (although I affirm that “I am enjoying my body actively doing things at my perfect goal weight NOW!” and visualize it all the time. :D )
My “score” is up from a 5, because I am looking at the beautiful home I am living in 6 months of the year, and being oh so grateful for that home (that I own/share with my dear friend) even though I am still not unpacked from a big move I made years ago, and all that still remains to deal with in the studio in North Carolina where I live the other 6 months. SO I am LOOKING AT THE BOUNTY, instead of what yet is not in place. So that raised my “score.” Also, more fully realizing my relationship with myself, and cultivating my strengths and the positives about me, has jacked up the “score” higher, because relationship with self is very important, vital, to have firmly in place. Other relationships, including “that special someone” followsTthe primary relationship I have with myself. As for the book, I am really in process of writing all the time, and if that is in the cards to manifest, then that too will be in its time.
My attitude and outlook on life has changed in these 21 days of positivity challenge. And it has set into motion a process that is growing. I can FEEL it. Both sublime and big changes. And more of that on the way, I am sure! I truly AM more positive, having soaked up all the work I’ve done and learned from other participants’ generous sharing, and interacting with others, and I am feeling awkward if I don’t switch out any negative thinking, staying in the moment of gratitude and positivity. And without coming off as sounding like a goody- two-shoes or “know-it-all,” I call forth the energy of positivity when with others and their comments.
I HAVE LEARNED THAT:
:D Unhappiness is meaningless and happiness has true meaning. That to let go of the negative or draining, tiring “stuff” is allowing the good stuff to flow in and through every aspect of my life. Being positive in my thoughts, words, and deeds is revitalizing. Others see this and feel this and want to be part of that positive love and energy. And if they don’t, those people just somehow fall away from my life.
:D It is great to have supportive, loving people in my life , and to show appreciation for them is my joy, and that joy expands when it becomes their joy.
:D It is a delight and I feel happy to do things that bring me joy and happiness. I deserve being happy!
:D Finding positive things in my day and expressing appreciation for all those things outshines any negatives that I observe. And i can do my part in making the world a better place and feel like I have done my best and find peace in that. Turn the negatives inside out to the positives.
:D Living a consistently active healthy lifestyle brings so much happiness and joy to my life. That it’s the little things that add up to the big things, and to keep the faith in myself and the universe looking out for me, and everything is exactly as it’s supposed to be, as long as I stay focused and do my best.
:D I feel more confident and trusting because I am am living true to myself, a vibrant, living force field of positive, loving energy! TRUST MYSELF! Go with my inner guide, invest in myself, live for myself. Then I can truly give to others.
:D I have many passions and favorite pastimes, but writing is far and away the one where time flies by and I am only more and more energized as I write.
:D Paying attention to myself (especially my inner voice and my outer body.) and
:D Giving myself approval is far far more fulfilling than any outer approval or attention. I know myself better than anyone else does, so what I think of myself is more important than what others think or don’t think of/about me!
:D Remembering all the good things my parents taught me and instilled in me and gave me is a wonderful and rich recollection, and I have a lot of gratitude and love for all the good they did and how much they loved me beyond all else. :heart:
:D Living in reality is far and away greater than living in a fantasy world where it’s all about the “wanting” of something instead of about what “is.” (This is a great insight that has developed into a great blessing for me, and in no way negates having dreams and visions and working towards them!)
:D Sharing and caring is letting go of expectation, and letting life flow, going with that wise and benevolent flow. As I give to the world, so the world gives to me.
:D Celes and Personal Excellence is a positive influence to me and to the world and I am in awe of and grateful for Celes and her vision and the way she implements that vision.
:D Many times, in many posts, I heard my very own voice. It was like a mirror, and i was looking back at myself. Sometimes the mirror was very very clear, and it told me things I had not quite realized in just that way. And so, many posts were like they were written just for me, and I suspect that that is true for many of the us here. We are all threads of the tapestry that tells the whole story. When we come together, the whole picture may very well emerge from the depths of out hearts and souls. :heart: :heart:
:D Realizing my Self is progressive, and whatever i think on is what will expand.
:D Remembering to B-r-e-a-t-h-e is a way to center and relax, and, for me, the value of meditation is the ultimate happiness.
:D There is an unlimited abundance in the world, in the universe, and I am a part of that abundance. There is enough time to do what needs to b done, and I hav enough, I do enough, I AM enough!!! :D :heart: :heart:
:D I FEEL better when I smile and have genuine laughter and am positive and I like to share that happiness and positivity with others and it is a contagious energy that glows and grows. :D
:D There is always something about myself, something about the day, something about others, to CELEBRATE! :heart:
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I feel a great and almighty integration happening within me, and it is rocking my world. 21DPC brought a lot of things “home” for me…deep in the heart and soul things that have been brewing, this challenge has brought the pot up to boil, and I am letting it all simmer into the essence that I will move forward with. :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:
:hug: Big Hugs Everyone! :hug: See ya tomorrow! :hug:
Bette, How inspiring your post is. Congratulations and thank you for sharing such positive attitude!
Anna,
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That is a ball of Energy fired up in your soul, beautiful to read —
You are a beautiful writer, I love vibrant words when speaking of life like Tapestry, Contagious, A Mirror… Poetically written —
May the Universe take your soul to greater heights daily!
Warm Smiles
SOO appreciate your encouraging words….helps to keep those fires lit, Terrye! :heart:
Yes , I’m still here cavorting around the posts at the midnight hour….what fun!!! :dance:
Not many peeps here at this hour….have the place all to myself practically! :D
BTW, the last post you sent me about listening to Neil Diamond, etc…..I LOVE that post, Terrye….I have listened to a LOT of Neil Diamond in those days of Cracklin’ Rose, and been cruising in my car, happy as a lark….. I know JUST what you mean about synchronicity and being on the same wave length!! :angel: :hug:
It is just serendipity that we connected and kismet too….we shall we connecting again soon, I am sure!!!! :heart:
POSITIVE EXPERIENCE
Wow. I had a Forrest Gump moment while swimming/working out in the beautiful ocean. :heart:
I told my kinda tired self to just strive for 30 minutes-one hour working out/swimming. After about an hour, i FELT ENERGIZED, andI decided to vary my exercise and snorkle. It was SO fun, that I lost all sense of time or concerns, and just kept snorkling, really using my arms in powerful strokes, as well as doing a great flutter kick. :D I could have continued like that forever it seemed! :dance: I remembered when Forrest started running and couldn’t stop, and that’s what it felt like to me. I was active in the turquoise-y sea for 2 and 1/2 hours!!! And saw beautiful fish and coral formations to boot!!!
I am so grateful to have had this awesome upbeat experience, because it feels like my metabolism has increased as well as fat-burning!! :D
I felt SO good after. SO alive and energized! Working out ENERGIZES!! STILL amazes me how that works! And YAY endorphins!!! :D :D :D :D :D
swimming…… :cry: :cry: rivers have no water in our country,,,girls cant swim :cry: :cry: .. m feeling like i had a swim in eatiful ocean beside you :dance: :dance:
Don’t be sad, faiza, I will take you with me on my swims! :D :heart: :hug:
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I score myself 8 out of 10 and yes it feels good to share the 21 days with you all guys.
Personally I feel better knowing that or reminding us that through Personal Excellence that everyone in the world have their own problems and we are not on our own.
We have to keep in mind, we have to enjoy what we currently have in life. Yes we all go through ups and downs and the experience of life make us stronger person.
Be happy and proud of ourselves of who we are.
Thank you all and all the best!
Best to you and your happiness. It is helpful to share with others on challenges like these some of our problems and outcomes. Sometimes it’s easier to post here than talk to someone close in my life. I know everyone has their own problems and some have more than me, some maybe less, but to each person it is so important to their lives. I wish all the participants happiness! I do believe all of our experiences whether good or bad can be learned from and that when life seems to be at it’s worst, I need to step back and look around at everything I do have rather than focusing on something I don’t have. I have a lot to be thankful for. Being content with ourselves and happy with who we are as a person helps all of us get through the roughest patches. Hope each day brings you some happiness no matter what situation you are facing.
I’d gimme a 9/10….
yes its over this challenge that I fell sick, but as Celes said, some-one can…………yet give himself a 10/10
So that remaining 1/10….is going to be my vision for the immediate future…also it would be good time to re-up the pledge I made over the 21DFC challenge….and combine both of these back to back challenges to a life-long harmony….
As for today I learn’t that if I am to do away with my nature of being clingy, then I’m meant to take it like an onion, peel back one layer at a time…stop being clingy with the people at the far-seat watching/interfering/affecting my life, then gradually going in, working with the people who affect me more…
ASLO….I am so hoping for the best health for every inch of you, and on all levels! :heart:
I like your idea of combining both of “these back to back challenges to a life-long harmony…”! That is a great plan!!! :D :dance:
I also have noticed sooo many changes in my body and in my attitude about life from 21DFC and 21DPC! Just amazing amazing changes that I have made a decision to be part of my life every day. I am soo grateful, and the realization I made about happiness on day one was it is a 10/10 whenever we make a decision to be happy, and nothing “out there” assures us of anything “in here,” so be happy now! :D What a great wide open door for feeling happy that is! :dance: I am soo happy that we shared both these back to back challenges together! I think of you often, over the miles!
Stay true to you, ASLO, true blue, like the friendship we share underneath all the challenges…
Be “in the pink” soon!. :heart:
See you around the campus! :D
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Thank you Bette, for being a great friend…. :D
I saw your reply to Faiza up there, makes me make stronger my visual of you….a strong, vibrant, kind human being….loving and so….darn, I just can’t find the ideal word to express that trait, you know, being so easily able to connect with others and being so, can you say pure, to so beautifully say that i’ll take you along in my thoughts….that’s a great thing to do Bette….hats off to you… :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:
I guess my happiness level is maybe 8/10. I have improved a lot during the last few months….Being grateful in life has helped me to be a happier person in life, early this year I think my score could have been maybe a 5. I still need to improve and grow but I feel I am in a good path.
This experience was great, some of the questions were totally new and they helped me to learn more about me. I think it is so important to understand your feelings and behaviours to consciously make positive changes.
I will apply some of the insights learned from this experience in my personal life, I am sure it will let me to raise my happiness level, step by step. I specially need to control my negative thoughts that unconsciously come to my mind.
Thanks Celes for your time and effort and the rest of the participants for sharing
On a scale of 1-10 how happy are you? What have you learned about Positivity and Happiness
I stepped away from the challenge mid-stream because there seemed to be a little more focus on Negativity, stressors, how to overcome them, how to deal with them, people who have hurt you, what has hurt you than I was ready to emotionally dig up.
I have been following the questions and maintaining a personal journal. I just have not been posting my answers on line. I think it may have been a mistake to post my real name as my identifier when I joined. To write about the negative people in my life, the things that stress me under my real name would be a bigger mistake
This morning when I read this question I felt I was ready again to post a reply.
I had previously stated in a journal entry that on a scale of 1-10 I was happy at 8. I think if I were more financially secure that I could retire today and travel and enjoy the world with my hubby (now, today) who has already retired I would bump up my number. If I had a stronger relationship in a few areas I won’t touch here the number would be 10.
I am far more blessed than many and I thank the gods, the universe, good karmas, great support systems and my backbone for those blessings. My life is a gift and I think I can honestly say you can count on one hand without using your thumb or your pinky the numbers of days that I do not reflect on my own life and see and feel and live those blessings. Gratitude is a gift of the heart and I thank the universal energies for the gratitude that lives within me and all around me. Gratitude is the duvet of my soul
The very real thing that I have learned about Positivity and Happiness is that they are directly linked. There is a correlation of the two that is stronger than any force we have ever witnessed. Understanding that connection, learning about that connection, practicing that connection, living your life with that connection makes a world of difference to the life you can lead. Knowledge is power and you have the power to change your attitude, and change your life. It’s a whole new plane of living and to stay on that plane one must understand and believe and commit to Positive thinking.
Positivity and Happiness: They are the earth and oxygen. They are life and life for Negativity and Happiness would have to be Life and Death.
Louse Hay wrote, “The thoughts we choose are the tools we use to paint the canvas of our lives”……… Choose your colors/thoughts carefully…. Paint vibrantly and live….
The moment I went back to people who upset me, things that upset me, things that are out of my control, things that I don’t care to control even if I can now my soul plummeted to a darkness that I care not to visit for any amount of time. Don’t let the past talk to you, it has nothing new to say.
Positivity = Happiness. There will be, there can be many arguments for this statement but for every statement that one comes up with another can be levied. Why would any of us argue how a positive attitude cannot make a huge difference in our lives? I know I would not argue it.
Happy Journaling to each of you.
Best of luck to CELES…. You do wonderful work, you lift lives, you change lives, and you encourage the soul to open. A gift, truly a gift.
Warm Smiles
Terrye, so glad you are here for Day 21 with your great comments on positive thinking and happiness! I find your post inspiring. :D
:heart: Love “Don’t let the past talk to you. It has nothing new to say.”! LOVE that! I surely do not want to go there, been there done that, right? :rolleyes: I am here and now and that is keeping me quite engaged in THIS moment, and I have decided to stay HERE, NOW! Took a while to get here, but what is that in the face of eternity, right?!!! :D
I had a bit of a hard time with looking at negatives too, and that did unearth some more that cleaned out a biggg space for a lot more positive. I have made a conscious decision to live with positive thinking as my guide, and grow and expand myself, my life, and my world by further understanding and learning about and practicing and living my life with that connection between positive thinking and happiness.
Thank you for your words and wisdom in that last sentence. :hug:
I believe in the positive love and energy underneath all appearances. :heart:
It is wonderful to hear that you and your life are so blessed…even more that you are so aware and so grateful for all that life and blessings. May blessings continue to flow, as you live your gratitude.
In deep gratitude as well…. :heart:
Bette
Bette
I am at the close of another work day and what a truly fab way to end the work day.
Your email made me smile; it is like a hug from a stranger.
I feel so incredible that taking the pen to paper can hold so much meaning for another.
I have many wonderful friends and one in particular that I “ramble” with… That is where we share quotes, positive notes, fun things that happened yesterday, new things to create positive energy, fun ways to build new memories. It’s always something that helps us both stay on a higher plane….
I hope your life can be filled with the same sort of support system and I thank you, truly, for quietly being a stranger who speaks volumes to another soul…
In a world where one might never meet, you have touched my soul
Warmest of thoughts – All positive ones :)
“If the only prayer you ever say is thank-you”, it would be enough ….. ”
THANK YOU Bette………….
Terrye…you are sooooo welcome!
Sheer pleasure it is, being here with you and connecting.
Yes, you just never know what happy surprise is just around the corner! :D ;)
Your words bring a happy surprise for me too! Something really magical does happen when meanings emerge from words on the page….especially when there is heart and soul… :heart: An answer to a prayer that has not yet been spoke is already ready and waiting. :angel:
Wonderful to meet you here, and hope to see you again! Your words really speak a lot to me, and yet it is the positive love and energy behind those words that I really feel from you. :angel:
And yes, your thank you is very much enough…Bigtime! :hug:
I am so glad you have that circle of wonderful friends where you all offer up such a feast for each other. :D And thank you for wishing that kind of support system for me, so heart-warming! :heart:
See you at “that place”…..that higher plane ;)
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Now this is too funny really Bette. Talk about attracting Positive Energy! Ever read the book called , The Secret” ? Great Book….
I was driving to work and I was listening to a song called Crackling Rose, by Neil Diamond. ( I should be embarrassed to put that to print probably ha :) )
I was singing to the top of my lungs in the car when this challenge came to mind, some of the written conversations played back to me, our dialogue played back to me and I thought, even this single moment is a happy moment… How many people are actually “driving to work” with a high energy, happy tune in their heart?
And then when I sit to my desk – Here you are! Karma Confirmation…
Life is grand Bette and I am a realist, very much a realist actually so I know everyone has challenges and hurts and emotional scarring. I just pray for all of us that we can all find a tune that makes us smile and a dialogue in the dark that brings light to the path….
All the best – May our paths cross again
Warm Smiles
1.On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you? (Returning to the question on Day 1 of 21DPC)
its 8.5/10
2.Compare the score with what you assigned yourself for Day 1. Is there any difference? If so, how much is the difference?
difference is i think m improved..1.5 or 2.5….. :mrgreen:
3.For those whose scores reflected a difference, why do you think this is the case? For those who have the exact same scores, why do you think that’s the case?
..yeah improvement,,feeling my self important,grounding ma self and daily analysis of mine…has enhanced positive energy in me…
4.What have you learned about positivity and happiness in the past 21 days?
..lesson is that…happiness lies inside us…we by ourself can make us permanent happy and contented..its our thoughts that ruin our happiness,,not the people..
and if you want to bring some change in life we have to go for it,,create change in our selves to accept challenges of life… :angel: :angel:
5.How can you apply your 21DPC lessons (from #4) moving forward?
i have planned for future to include things in ma life which can help me to reach ma goals,,i have to get for my self for my life,and i have to build habit to say NO to others in ma life..i have added many things in ma life during this challenge and i will move on with them….a freind ASNI also gifted to me thru this challenge…by the grace of GOD…THANX ASNI :hug: :hug:
Celebrate the past 21 days of positivity! Your task today is to celebrate your completion of 21DPC!!
:p :p yeah celebrated it by starting studies with thought that i can and have to do it for my self,,studied ma holy book,talked with GOD for further help..and WANT TO throw some confetti in the air :dance: :dance: :heart: :heart:
positive thing about the day….mmmm…. :heart: :heart: studies are really positive…. :bow: :bow:
MY ENGLISH HAS ALSO BEEN IMPROVED….. :clap: :clap: i can write lines,,my shyness for it is reduced…will improve ma vocabulary more…. :mrgreen: :mrgreen:
Wow! This is something positive for me today. To see you shining and sparkling with positivity! :dance:
I am so happy to know that this challenge has made some positive impact on you, Faiza.
I like what you said about happiness that lies inside of us and does not depend on other people. It’s also great to know that you have made some plans to reach your goals, added many things during this challenge and determined to move on with them. This is the best positive news I have for today. :dance:
I hope you will always stay strong this way. I know you can do it. :hug:
so ma positivity list has improved for the day,,,as a positive person pleased by ma style…yeah m this..a happy fellow,smiling every time ,,wanna ignore pbms,bt problms of come infront of me,,but they are not mine,,if none of their kid give a 2nd glance on those issues so why i…i took action on one bad approach of ma worker and ma mother who 1 day blamed her alot…said whats her fault so m i an idiot to be manipulated time and again mum has spent a hard life i can be a good listener rather spoiling ma mind by ill thoughts..huh…give a break..the thing i cant control or handle,should not be in ma mind…leave on GOD…HE is there for me…..chill…,,baby…do what makes me happy and silence is the best freind…..so as you said…if i decide one thing i will do that…yeah i was once like dat but i let my brain to control me,,it has given spaces to people in ma mind,,i will try to control and train ma brain for success :dance: :dance:
Faiza, very wise words. I hope you continue to not let anyone manipulate you. God made us individuals for a reason. As for being or becoming a good listener, how wonderful. It is a great gift you are giving and I hope you are aware of it. So many times we just need a kind soul that is willing to give us their precious time by just listening. We can not change others or change our surroundings; but we have the power within us to change ourselves and our attitude. Thank you for sharing your personal growth with us.
my pleasure…but all are these jst words…but practice makes a person perfect…m saying wordz cz i had jst a fight with mother with same issue….and she was buying a car for me,,but in anger,i forbade her…but have no regret for it ,,i will buy for my self,,the things on whom i have no right to speak on…so i dont want any thing from them i will make myself what i want,i dont want a debt that is encircling my whole life,people say and forget and i always keep that thing in ma heart,,spoil my time,weep alot,and ruin ma self….m not here in this world to destroy my self if was for this then GOD should had never given birth to me…i am born….so much bad bad in my mind….really….want a brain wash or memory loss…my freind you will also loose your knowledge…but i will be in more peace…bt OH GOD :bow: ….dont do this to me rather grant me strenght to over short comings of life,,grant me serenity to accept things I cannot CHANGE..the COURAGE to CHANGE things that i can,and the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE… :bow: :angel: :angel:
faiza, I too live by that wisdom of the Serenity prayer.
It is a great help to me more times that i can count. :heart:
Keep trusting your self, faiza, you’re doing great! :hug:
It sounds like you are believing in yourself, listening to yourself and being true to yourself, and the positive love and energy that you are. :dance:
It sounds like you are following your heart, and that is a wonderful leader! :D
yeah i want to beleieve in ma self…and trying to listen what ma inner wants from me…started fasting offer prayerz which i have missed in past…still have least peace of mind…i will rather go for meditation not available in ma city..as m coward to start and stick on a new routine…. :shy: :shy: thax for the positive thngs u have mentioned in me BETTE :heart: :heart: :hug:
Faiza do not forget that your parents are the people who most love you, and the only ones that will love you unconditionally. Perhaps you can try to see things from their perspective and make some sort of personal compromise. I will share a lttle story regarding my son. In my “try to be the best Mom ever” I really made him miserable! He had a field trip and asked me to just buy him a bottle of water, since the school would be providing a lunch. I, of course, bought him milk, cookies etc… a big bag of stuff! He ended having to carry the bag all day long, thus making him very unconfortable. The point I want to make are 2 things. First I should pay attention and do what I am asked to do. Second it was a great opportunity to teach my son to be firm in his desitions. You see he did not wanted to dissapoint me, so he took the stuff!
Some times as parents we really goof! We are just human beings and we need for our children to tell us what is going on in their minds. I hope that in this positive journey you have started you find it in your heart to see things from another perspective. I loved your quote, it reminded me of my sister, may she rest in peace, she used to say that all the time.
I know parents think best for us but to be a person u dont like to be and compelled for it and still u expect a happy smilin person is not usual…i try to see according to their perspective but after a quarrel i jst want a habit to see before quarrel…. :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
and beside all this parents must keep their fights in their bedroom not infront of children,,its not upto us to hold that weight on our back coz we have our own problems…and way to respond and they must under stand the thought process,habits of their every child,,if they dont how can they expect from children….its not the luxury a neonate,infant,toddler,kid,teenager,adult wants..its the TIME that matters which parents give…but they never understand…. :( :( :( :(
My positivity level is 10 but I’m feeling a little bit down today! A few of my blogging friends and even those who I’ve met here on 21DPC are undergoing some challenges in their lives. Friends’ happiness affects us all in one way or another. I wish they can be happy too but it’s out of my control. I can just offer my prayers and support as well as kind words. I have to respect and give them their personal space to find themselves.
Identify at least one positive thing about your day
* Went home half an hour earlier because I started work half an hour earlier today.
* My son was home earlier too.
* Had a chit chat with my next door neighbor.
great ASNI u are really helping but its truth every person has get through his/her own storm…u can jst pray and thats u are doing already..soo be happy as always…stay blessed… :heart: :hug: :heart: :hug: :heart: :hug:
Thank you, Faiza! It’s so great to see this coming from you. I really appreciate your kind words and am comforted by it. :hug: :heart:
On a scale of 1-10, my happiness level is now at around 6/7 which is higher than it was when I started the challenge.
One of the day’s questions led me to a personal discovery about what has been an emotional blockage for me and has been hidden for more than 50 years. I really can’t thank you enough! Something led me to the website and the challenge and I firmly believe that things happen for a reason. I KNOW that I am going to be OK; I still have some work to do, but now I know what has been causing me so many difficulties throughout my life and has recently caused me so much pain, I can deal with it, finally open my heart and be the best person I can be.
My philosophy in life is that it is always harder to do the right thing and that if something is worth having then you have to fight for it for it rather than have it handed to you on a plate. I can vouch for this firmly and truly as I know that the actions of the other person in my life that I have now come to realise have been the cause of my torment has not had the courage/strength to deal with their own issues and has lived their whole life (80+ years) without having real close and loving relationships (in my eyes, although they may have been content with what they have had). Everything that happens has good and bad and we have to look for the good in every situation, although sometimes it may be very well hidden.
I thank God that I have done that and that I can now move forward with my life and give tremendous thanks to my husband, without whom I would not know the meaning of love.
SUE you quit right madam…every thing happens for a reason…it was great blessing of GOD to be a part of this challenge…thanx CELES for including me up….for a transformation wanna continue this relationship of interaction and inspiration…. :angel: :angel: :hug: :hug:
Oh, and positives for today are: the beautiful warm sunshine, made an effort to smoothe things with a colleague and holiday booked :)
Sue,
So happy to hear of your personal discovery from one of the day’s questions! :hug: That is awesome, and I know just what you mean. :D Celes’ questions, and the questions together, really work to open me up in ways that are helpful in most revealing ways. There is a magic to it, as I see it. In the best possible sense of the word. Magic on the wings on an :ange
I too believe that everything happens for a reason that we may not fully understand, but we are guided through the thin and thick of our life experiences. :hug:
Here’s to continuing enlightening awareness, and all the best to and for you as you move forward with your open heart. :heart: :hug:
Thank you Bette for your kind words. I love your phrase ‘On the wings of an Angel’! I am pleased that the challenge has benefitted you too and I also wish you well going forward :hug:
another challenge has completed :D
i want to say a huge thanks to CELES. she is incredible. :clap:
my happiness/positivity score is same 9. because the reasons are same.my dreams are not fulfil yet i talked about in day 1st. but its not mean that i have’nt learned anything.
i learned that in hard time keep your faith in GOD. he has planned a perfect plan for us.always agree with his desire. remain positive. just like today, today is hard day for me ..my uncle passed away at 11am. my father is fighting with cancer now a days.these days are very hard for my whole family.
how can apply my positivity ?
i pray & try to remain positive when i see my father & talk to my family members. i also try to keep my family :D .
I have enjoyed all of the challenges I have participated in. I am sorry to hear about your uncle as well as your father. Prayers going up for you! I have suffered a lot of losses in my life and that has been the main negative in my life because I dealt with them in the wrong way. I can see now that though they aren’t here on earth with me, they will always be with me each day of my life. The memories, things I learned from them, the role they each played in my life are always going to be with me and I’m thankful for the time I had with them. It has taught me to cherish each day and each person in my life. I know that all my loved ones that have passed away knew how much I loved them because I showed them through my actions everyday.
Once again condolences on your loss and prayers for your father. Keep your head up and hold onto your memories of them. Best wishes for you to find happiness everyday!! :hug:
dear Netta, thanks for condolence & praying for my father, we really need it. my energy boosted up when i read your reply. you have a positive soul. thanks again
May God give you strenght in this difficult times. I feel for you and have made a special prayer for your Unce, may he rest in peace,and also for your dear Dad.
i realy feel love for you Anna, you made a special pray for my father.thanks a lot.
i really feel love for you Anna that you made special pray for my father. thanks a lot
Hello everyone, thanks for the company during this 21days.
Today I want to rate my happiness 10/10 :D
21day´s ago it was 7/10 But now I see a little bit clearar ! I need to continue to concentrate on what is important and what really makes me happy !
Im healthy I have good friends, I have a job, a roof over my head food on the table.
Anyway, all the best in life is free :-) I keep on telling myself that
So I want to continue to stay happy every day ! and thats my choise :dance: I dont want anything else !
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10/10 is perfect!! That is wonderful and I think it is very important to focus on what makes us happy. I have a lot of the same things to be happy about. Good health, beautiful children, a roof over our heads and blessed in everything we have. I do think happiness is more of a choice rather than either having it or not. Each day is what we make it and if we can find positive outcomes even at our hardest moments, it makes each day so much brighter! I hope you find happiness each and every day. :hug:
Netta, It sounds like you DO have alot to be happy about in your life, but then happiness is a choice, not just a positive outcome, right? Outcomes can be whatever, but how positive we THINK about anything can be a constant, right?, a decision. :D
I hope you continue to experience all the things you have to be happy about and your happiness keeps on expanding every moment! :D :heart: :hug:
Amazing, Sara! I’m so happy for you. :D :clap:
On a scale from 1 to 10, I am going to rate my happiness an 8.5/10. On day 1 I gave myself a 7. I honestly enjoyed this challenge and I am proud to say by just participating and thinking through each day of task, it helped me realize that I can turn my negative thoughts into positive ones.
I also enjoyed the days we posted about things that made us laugh, or smile. I especially loved the part about listing some positive quality in the negative people in my life. I have done this before the challenge began but it helped to write about it. The questions were terrific and I enjoyed seeking out at least one positive thing in each of my days.
I am going to do my very best to move forward from this challenge remembering to try and have a positive reaction to negative people. I also am working hard on paying attention to my negative thoughts and finding the positive in them.
I believe happiness isn’t something we just find. Happiness is something we should look for in every situation in our lives. Even the most horrible situations can have something positive to gain from it. Death has been the biggest issue in my life because I have lost all my immediate family except for my children. I found myself during this challenge realizing a few things positive I could apply to my losses so I can perhaps get through them. The positives I came up with are these: My loved ones aren’t suffering anymore, I know I showed them everyday how much they meant to me, and their memories and things I learned from them will be with me for as long as I live.
I just also want to say that each day could be our last. There are no promises of tomorrow. So my goal is to, of course, plan for things to come but also to take each moment of every day and cherish it. The good and the bad.
Thank you for these challenges, Celes. They have helped me so much more than I could ever express!!!! :heart:
I agree with you wholeheartedly on several points that you make, especially that each day could be your last…so live it to the full. Never let the sun go down on arguments either. Keep positive and all will be well :)
This is so touching, Netta, so real, so heart-stirring. :heart: I thank you for your sharing your heart, and for your expressing your love for your loved ones each day so they knew/know just how much they meant/mean to you. :heart: That is so beautiful, so honoring , so rich. :heart: :angel: :heart: :angel:
I am sure you know how to cherish each moment, Netta, :heart: and I will remember you as a dear person who does that consciously and lovingly. :heart: :hug: :heart: :hug: :heart: :hug: :heart:
My possitive thing today is, I will go and visit my best friend after work :-)
I remember I said 7 in the first day of the challenge.
While there haven’t occured major events in my life the past 21 days, I’d give myself an 8 now, maybe 8.5, haha, because I’ve learnt that a great deal of positivity comes from within and from the rather small things in our lives. One does not need a mammoth-reason to breed positivity and happiness, just stronger roots in the present moment to keep him anchored and aware of the positive things in his life :)
Positive thing for today: Finished reading a book in just one day :D Weather is (still) sunny and I’ve noticed a slight improvement in my French conversation skills.
“One does not need a mammoth-reason to breed positivity and happiness, just stronger roots in the present moment to keep him anchored and aware of the positive things in his life” Well said Lina! I am adding this to my list of quotes :D
Thank you, Jared! :)
On a scale of 1- 10 I am 6/10 happy. I don’t remember whr I ws on the scale of day 1. I have learnt that negativity pulls you down and further pulls down the people around you. I also learnt that to be happy you have to pursue happiness and actually work on being happy. It has been nice to read about each other’s challenges and realise that we all struggle with similar things.however we can overcome them.I am glad I was a part of this challenge. I hope to get better. One positive thing about my day is that I had a nice lunch although I didn’t have much to eat :)
I have been looking at my own happiness and reading leadership / self help and any other help book you can imagine. I am finally starting to see and understand that too often we read things and forget to apply them in our every day lives. So while I came to the challenge late, I am glad to have found a forum to help me apply what I have been reading. I am looking forward to the next challenge and participating fully:)
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