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“Hi Celes! I enjoy reading your blog! Considering you are so successful in your career, are you seeing anyone romantic?” — Jennifer
Hi guys, just an update to my response to the very same question that I answered last year (which I’ve also requested you guys to stop asking in my 2012 year-end review ^_^*).
Yes, I’m attached now. :) I’ve been officially seeing someone as of May 5, 2013.
Since I’ve never been in a long-term romantic relationship (largely by choice) and knowing what I’m like through my blog writings, you probably have an idea of how thorough I was before proceeding with this one. My boyfriend joked about how he had to go through rounds of interrogation by me before we got together. We are both very serious about each other and it’s growing into a very serious relationship. This is the most intense connection I’ve ever had with anyone.
I just wanted to share this news here on PE as all of you are an important part of my life and I want to let you in on this important part of my life. I’ve already shared the news on my Facebook Page and many of you have been showering me with well-wishes (funnily coming across as congratulatory wedding wishes, haha!).
I don’t know what else to say, so I’ll just leave the post as it is since it’s just meant to be an update. If you guys want to ask me any questions (including about the guy I’m with, though I’ll be protecting his privacy of course), let me know. I’ll be happy to address them. :)
Update 2014: We subsequently got married in May 2014! Please find my posts documenting our love journey below, from dating to proposal to our wedding day. Enjoy! :)
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Yay! I am so happy for you! You are such a wonderful person and a beautiful inspiring caring women like you deserve to be loved by someone. I cannot stop smiling!!!
Aw thank you Sayaka. I appreciate your kind comment! :) *hug*
Awwww congratulations! I hope you’re always in a healthy, happy and loving relationship. I also hope that it lasts however long forever is! *hugs* :)
So.. here’s a question! How similar are your boyfriend and you? :))
Thank you Abinaya! :) We are pretty similar yet dissimilar in some ways. It’s the right mix to the point where (I feel) we are reaching a yin-yang equilibrium… fusion of the male and female energy to create a harmonious, synergistic relationship. We are whole by ourselves yet at the same time, complement each other so well that we are able to bring the best out of the other. (I use continuous tense “reaching” because we have only been together a few days so things are still up in the air and open for interpretation, but we are definitely growing very quickly in terms of our connection with each other.)
We were just discussing about each other’s Myer Briggs’ profiles yesterday; his is ISFP while mine is INFP, so this gives you a small indication on how we can be quite similar in our personas. At the same time he is in a totally different profession than mine and he has interests that are very diverse from mine, so this tells you that we can be quite dissimilar too.
That’s an interesting question you posed by the way. It’s going to keep me thinking for a while! :)
Both of you are FP’s. That’s a great thing to be similar in.
You rightly said it! The best relationships are those in which one feels complete by themselves, but yet complement each other. It’s like striking the perfect balance.
I hope you don’t mind me sharing about my relationship – My bf and I are similar in our ideal, principles and values. But come interests and we’re very dissimilar. I think keeping an open mind has helped me in this, I enjoy his interests and he enjoys mine. It’s like I’ve been exposed to new things, like water sports and dancing. He’s been exposed to the world of books and travelling. It’s wonderful how a whole new wide world opens up for us, just being in close contact with another person!
I wish you the very best.
Hugs!
I hear you Abinaya! :) With someone else in your life (who is a compatible partner), it’s like you suddenly have two pairs of hands — no, three, four, five, six, ten, or even twenty pairs of hands — and you can do so much more than just you yourself alone. Suddenly I feel like I’m now learning double the stuff I would about the world (and simultaneously accomplishing more) compared to if I’m just by myself, because I’m also learning by proxy through him as well.
Hugs to you too!! :)
i am so so happy for you;this reminds me that everythings happens for a reason..i wish you and him good luck..yay!
Thank you riya!! :) *hugs*
Dear Celes,
Sooooo happy for you!! I wish you all the luck in the world! The date 5/5/2013 however struck my attention since it was my wedding date!!! Xmmmm….
For those of us who have been following developments in your life and blog, it is obvious that you are a wonderful person and most deserving of happiness, so it is true what they say “roses come to those who wait”…..!
Aw thank you so much! :) We thought it was immaculate how we ended up together (in a somewhat spontaneous fashion) on 5/5…. and while we were not looking at the clock when it happened, we believe that we actually got together at 5:55am as we checked the clock shortly after we became a couple and it read 6:05am. That is five “5”s and we believe that there may be some deeper symbolism behind that… who knows? ;)
Congratulations on your wedding by the way!! I hope you had a marvelous wedding and you are now living your best life with your beloved partner! :)
Dear Celes,
Thank you very much! I do hope the 5’s will work for both of us!
I definitely do think so! ;)
Congratulations :) Welcome to a new adventure. Wishing you all the best <3
Thanks Ffion! :)
Yay! You have given us so much. I hope you find happiness in each other.
Thank you Lolita! I hope so too! :)
Hi Celes,
Hearty Congrats.
Arun.
Thank you Arun! :)
Ha! That’s so adorable that you’re sharing it with us. Thanks for keeping us in the loop, Celes and I hope you are very very happy for a long time!
So uh… Do we get to see a picture of you two together or what? :D
Haha Vincent, in time, in time!!! :) (We just got together a few days ago after all!)
Thanks for your well wishes Vincent! :)
I’m pleased for you! :) Where did you meet? Is he somebody you were already friends with or did you meet him recently? Hope those questions aren’t too prying! lol.
Hey Moonsparkle! :) We already knew each other from a longggggggg time back but we were only acquaintances. We recently got back in touch in a very serendipitous way and things just flowed from there. :) Shows that you never know when things can happen to you!
(And no, the questions weren’t prying at all! Thanks for your interest! :) )
Hi Celes, thanks for your reply. :) That’s great that things just flowed naturally. Good luck with your new relationship! :)
hi Celes,
m really happy for you…. congrats!!!!
how did u know dat u were in love? wat is it like to be in a relationship? my room-mate likes this senior guy and i dunno how to help her. suggestion? how do u know that this is the guy? the one for u? heheheheh…. sorry i asked too many questions….. i wish u 2, romantic days… ahead. :):)
Hey dew, thank you! :) I recommend to go with your feeling (with regards to people who are wondering whether to proceed with a relationship or whether someone is for you or not). Allow logic to guide you in your decision-making process, but ultimately let your heart pave the way. :)
Being in a relationship is quite an interesting experience. :) For the first time I’m sharing the second-by-second granularity of my life openly and sincerely with one very specific individual (I share myself openly at PE too, but it’s a little different since here I’m sharing to a mass audience and it’s on a very topical, selective basis), which points back to the importance of being with someone who is truly compatible for you.
Another thing about being in a relationship is that now I feel there’s two of me, where the other “me” is actually a male counterpart of my soul. He seems like he’s me but he isn’t at the same time, which makes it so much more powerful than opposed to if it’s just two “me”s. There are two brains, two pairs of hands, two pairs of legs, two bodies… two entities who are standing side by side to create waves in the world bigger than if they were to operate individually. I think this is the mark of any truly conscious, compatible relationship, and this is the kind of relationship that everyone should aspire to have. I feel like my sensorial experience of the world has more than doubled because I’m now with someone else.
It tingles. :)
I’m not sure about your roommate’s situation so I can’t advise on that; would recommend you to ask her to try the Ask Celes section if she’s interested in getting some perspective. All the best to her in her situation by the way! :)
Hi Celes, I’m curious what you mean by “two entities who are standing side by side to create waves in the world bigger than if they were to operate individually.” How are the waves you are now creating “bigger” than if you were to operate individually? or do you just mean that in a non-specific literal way – like two bodies in a pool genuinely make more waves than one person? (although in the literal example, making more waves isn’t better or worse than fewer waves – just different).
Hey Lena! When you have two entities working together, you are always going to create a bigger impact than just one entity alone (assuming all things constant, like ability, tact, etc.). For example, I can definitely achieve more with someone else working with me on my business (I’m not saying this is what is happening here in my relationship — just giving a random example), assuming that partner in my business has compatible values and builds on what I have vs. being incompatible and resulting in an energy suck (to begin with, there shouldn’t even be a partnership if there are no areas of compatibility to build on or complementary areas with each other).
If I have someone supporting me in life, complementing me in areas where I’m not as developed in, and/or pushing me further in my growth, I’m definitely going to jump higher than if I was to be by myself (and the reverse is true as well). This is just the individual positive effect… I’ve not even factored in the synergy from both parties working together as partners, such as in work, in life, and so on.
Let me know if you are not clear on what I mean and/or would like me to clarify further!
ah I get it :) Thanks for explaining! <3
No problem Lena!! :D ♥
hey celes,
thanks for unveiling such depths of ur emotions and feeling…… ;)
i appreciated it.
You’re very welcome dew! ;)
“Incredibly Happy” is a perfect description for the feelings and emotions that flow from a new love. It is unquestionably the most uplifting experience in life and the greatest contributor to personal growth. May your heart always be filled with this feeling called love.
Am totally happy for you.
Aw, thank you so much John! :) Both Ken and I are very grateful for your well wishes. :)
Wow Celes, this is an awesome news! I just discovered your blog a few days ago and it has been tremendously helpful. From the little of your writing that I’ve read till now, you’ve come across as a loving and caring person, who is in touch with her inner self. He’s a lucky chap! All the best with your relationship, and may you two grow together and may love only grow in you.
I’m just wondering, did he share his feelings first or did you? If it was him, and in case he wouldn’t have, would you have taken the first step, or would you have waited? Just curious :)
And thank you for sharing the news with us readers :).
Aw, thank you so much Vinay. :) That means a lot to me that you think that way.
What an interesting question you posed! ;) I guess both of us are hesitant creatures who are shy about revealing their emotions, so we kind of took nudges forward when it came to revealing our stance. On the day we got together (after a series of events no less), he was the one who took the leap of faith and put himself forward, and that created the opening for me to be earnest about where I stand as well. :)
If he didn’t, I would probably have continued to care for him in the way someone who cares for another person would, and see where things lead. This was what I was already doing before we got together — I was simply openly showing my care for him and expressing my thoughts/feelings as a person/friend who truly cares.
I think this–being open and true to yourself–is most important in developing any relationship/connection, and something I covered in Are You Treating Dating as a “Game”?. Don’t curb your natural behavior and don’t try to behave in a way you “think” is right; simply be yourself and let your heart lead the way. Everything should follow from there. :)
I completely agree with you Celes. That’s how one should approach a new relationship, and in fact anything else for that matter: being yourself, and trying to be your best self. I’ve bookmarked your dating-game link. Will be reading it soon at leisure.
Thanks for the wonderful blogs. And best wishes for this new journey of your life :)
Congratulations, Celes! The “interrogation” part sounds very funny. I hope you share it with us sometime.
Hey Matt, it was indeed hilarious. :) I’d love to share it in more detail in the future, when we have been together long enough for me to pen a post about it. Hope all’s going well in your camp! :)
Hi Celes, Missed you when you were in town. All the very best and it seems that South Africa was maybe the magic that did it for you as you were here soon before the wonderful moment. Glad to hear the Emo’s is running wild and your heart is going KA DOEF KA DOEF!!
LOL thank you Hein!! :) Sorry to have missed you when I was in S.Africa — perhaps a next time then! :)
Celes, I am happy to hear this. You are such a kind and sweet-hearted person that I knew you would find something like this one day. I am glad it is now.
Thank you so much Moira! :) It’s been a while since we last saw your message, so I’m glad you’re still with us in the community! :) *hugs* I hope you are doing well by the way!
good to hear this good news, wish you have blessed relationship with your special guy.
Thank you Elton! :) (Ahha many of the messages from all of you here are reading like congratulatory wedding messages as well, LOL!)
Congratulations Celes,
May your hearts soar together in love and join to make something magical and beautiful.
Thank you very much Bob! :)
Gosh, that’s great news :D Very exciting and like everyone else, I’m very happy for you :) He must be an amazing person cuz I know you wouldn’t settle for anything less ;)
Aw thank you Jade! :) You are such a sweetie pie. Thanks for all your constant support of PE and I appreciate your kind words. :) And yes, he is indeed an amazing guy. :) I feel like I uncovered a diamond in the rough; and the funny thing here is that I didn’t even go digging this round–the diamond sort of just found its way to me. :)
I read the blog this morning and was very happy about the news. Congratulations, Celestine! My Best wishes for you both!
Thank you Marina!!! :) I/We really appreciate it!
Happy for you. :) Finally you’ve settled. :D
Thanks Michael! *sweat* ^^; Not sure if I would use the word “settled” since it implies stagnancy and culmination into an end point, whereas I see this connection as a new branching point; the start to many great things ahead. But really, just commenting on nuances in wording here than anything. Hope you are having a wonderful day! :)
Nono, it just means that you’ve eventually committed to a long-term healthy relationship. Great to see it. Sorry for the confusion. LOL Wish to know more details about how this relationship build-up in the near future. We’ll stay tune. :p
Congratulations, Celes! So happy for you. :)
Congratulations and best wishes for your new dating relationship! So happy for you!
Thank you Andrew! :)
Good for you! Wish you all the best!
Thank you! :)
It was great meeting you! Even greater reading your grreat news! Congratulations!!!!!!
So HAPPY for you Celes…My Best of my Best wishes.
Thanks a lot Alban! :)
Congratulation you gorgeous person! I am so so happy for you!!! :)
He must be someone really special if he is good enough for our lovely Celes :)- xxx
Aw thank you! :) He is indeed someone extremely special. :) I hope to slowly “introduce” him to all of you through my articles!
I can’t wait! :) xxx
May you two be the two perfect pearls in this ocean of life and you may walk the path of life hand in hand and head held high!
I cannot feel so grateful that you are where/what you are and your posts helped me so in my down time. Of course downs and ups are all part and parcel of life but you are incredibly lucky if at that moment you find a beacon as I found your site. Thanks :)
Hey Celes, many many congratulations. Wishing you and Ken a wonderful and blessed life together. I have been following your blog from quite a long time and its been immensely helpful. I am also in a relationship from this May only :-)
Hugs :-)
He’s really lucky btw.
Thank you chen fei! :) Well I think I’m the lucky one. ;)
Hi Celes.
This is a good thing. There are certain things that should be in place and this is one of them. This is sort of like how one of my friends, who is a big car guy, and who knows more about flashy cars than even the people who own them, recently got a certain BMW for racing with that suits him. Once I saw his post about it, I felt like he was now in a good place. I got the same feeling from this post of yours.
It is nice to see something that makes sense take place. Shout outs to you and Ken and the time you share.
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