Great Minds Discuss Ideas; Average Minds Discuss Events; Small Minds Discuss People

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Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. This is a quote commonly attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt. What does it mean though? Let’s start by defining “ideas,” “events,” and “people.” Discussing people here means to talk about a person, typically in a negative, gossipy way. Discussing events means to talk about the events...

Are You Emotionally Generous?

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“There is a wonderful mythical law of nature that the three things we crave most in life – happiness, freedom, and peace of mind — are always attained by giving them to someone else.” – Peyton Conway March How generous are you with your emotions? Do you praise people often? Do you praise others at all? Do...

How to Choose Your Battles and Win the Big War

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A while back, I met this guy who was weirdly negative and filled with contempt for others. Even though he is highly successful by conventional terms — he has built successful businesses and is a multi-millionaire — he kept putting people down with every other statement made. For example, after knowing that I coach and blog, he began to put down...

The Toddler Strategy

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A while back I read this interesting piece on Seth Godin’s blog about the toddler strategy. He says most people don’t get too upset with what a 2-year-old says to them. That’s because a 2-year-old is just a toddler, with little understanding of the world, just forming his/her first experiences of life. A 2-year-old may say something ridiculous, like remarking on someone’s shortcomings...