(11-18-2011 10:00 PM)JadePenguin Wrote: What do you people think: is it possible to recognise a potential true friend from your first meeting? Or is it more likely that someone you didn't expect will become one of your best friends?
So, how do we know who we should concentrate on?
Am I being too harsh on them or wisely saving myself from a dead end?
Should that remain my focus for now?
My best friend and I have only been together for a total of 7 weeks. She lives in Mexico and I live in Spain. And you would say, how is it possible that you´re best friends?
We met in Boston, in a summer camp. From the very first moment we connected, we had so much fun together, we felt we could tell each other everything. We spent three weeks together and when we had to say goodbye we cried our eyes out. We kept in touch by email and facebook. We wrote each other every week and after three years she decided to come to Spain and stayed at my house for a month. Next year I hope to go to Mexico to stay at her house.
She is the only person I´ve truly connected with, I know she´s always going to be there for me and I´ll always be there for her. I knew she was going to be my friend from the first talk we had. The funny thing is that we don´t have anything in common, she is studying math, I´m studying psychology, she likes comedies and I hate them, she is a very outgoing person but I´m more of an introvert, she likes modern music, I like music from the 70´s and 80´s; but somehow we just connect. And as you can see, it doesn´t matter that we live in opposite parts of the world, we both make the effort to write each othe every week or every couple of weeks because we want this friendship to last.
Other times people surprise you. I remember my first day of school when I saw this girl enter the class and my first thought was: We are never ever going to be friends. She seemed to be totally different from me. Then the teacher said we had to do a project in couples and guess what, she was my partner. I wasn´t really sure if that was going to work, but we started talking and I found that we had many things in common, and we became friends. She was funny and a really nice person to be around, she definetely surprised me. If it hadn´t been for that project we would have never been friends.
I find it hard to make friends. Like you I´m in my first year at university and I haven´t made many friends yet. But that shouldn´t worry you. Keep getting involve in activities that you like and one day you´ll find someone you really connect with, and you´ll know that friendship will last. You just know.
Friends come and go, true friends stay forever. You should spend time with those people you like to be around but don´t spend too much time building a friendship you know is not going to last once you leave university.
Some people find it easier to make friends, for others it seems to be really hard. But I guess that´s just the way it is. I try not to worry too much about that, I try to live my life as best as I can and if I find someone special along the way then that´s great. I don´t want my live to be built around my friends, I live my life and everyone that accepts that is welcome