(05-04-2012 06:24 AM)luvmigeek Wrote: For most of the relationship he was emotionally abusive. Then it got physical. I threatened (ugh, I know) to leave and he PROMISED that he would change. Things have been getting somewhat better and he has changed from what he used to be. Now with that being said I am feeling like maybe I do not want to be in this.
I'm so sorry you are going through this, but any relationship that is emotionally abusive, and certainly physically abusive, is not something you should put up with.
My mother's first marriage was very much like the one you are describing. Full of anger, jealousy and emotional abuse. When he started beating her, she was too afraid to leave. He also made all sorts of promises to her that he would change. But always, he went back to his old self. It was made more difficult as they had two children of their own, which he also physically abused (punching them, holding them under water in the tub when they cried, etc).
The night before my mother left, he set her on fire in her pajamas out of jealousy, and tried to kill her.
I personally do not feel that any person has the right to ever abuse another in any way. I also hold little faith that they have the ability to change their behaviour. As long as you allow them to have that control over you, the possibility to be abusive is always there.
Of course you have to make your own decisions, but if it were me, I would not stay a minute longer if someone were treating me like that. You can tell yourself right now its not that bad, but one day, it just might be.