21DJC Day 18 – What Matters Most To You?

This is Day 18 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge (21DJC) for Nov 2011. View list of tasks: 21DJC Overview.

Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 18 of 21DJC! :)

Closing of 21DJC and Year End Challenge for 2011

Just a quick note that we only have 3 days left till the end of our 21-Day Journaling Challenge. We started on Nov 7, and 2.5 weeks have already passed by since. I hope all of you are gaining valuable insights from the journaling, because I know I definitely am.

On Nov 27, which is this Sunday, 21DJC will come to a close. A few short days after that, we will be launching right into our highly anticipated Live a Better Life in 30 Days Challenge – the premium, 30-day life development challenge there is at PE. Started since Sep ’10, we’ve since had 3 successful runs of 30DLBL, and Dec ’11 will be the 4th official run of the challenge. This will be *the* challenge for us to close off 2011 and start off 2012 with a big bang.

You must definitely not miss this. I’ll be opening for sign ups very soon (in a couple of days), so stay tuned. Make sure you’re on the newsletter so you’ll get the announcement directly in your inbox.

Day 17 Review

Yesterday’s question was: “If The World Came To An End Today, How Would You Feel?“. (Read the responses.)

With year 2012 coming up in less than 40 days, I thought it would be an interesting question to ponder upon. 2012 has been commonly associated with the end of the world, and while I personally do not believe the world will end in 2012, I think it’s still something worthwhile to consider.

If the world came to an end today, I would first feel sad, because the immediate thought was I would not be able to continue pursuing my purpose (in the current form). I’m experiencing so much joy doing it that I don’t want it to ever end. And certainly not via the expiration of the very civilization I’ve devoted my life to serving, too. That would be very devastating to me.

That said, I understand that whatever will be, will be. If the world was to truly end today, there must be a good reason behind it. For every ending, there is a new beginning, and I believe there will be new things in store for all of us ahead. I personally believe the human spirit lives on after death, so I’m not too hung up about issues concerning life and death.

For what it’s worth, if the world does indeed come to an end, it probably means we (as a civilization) have finished fulfilling whatever we are meant to achieve (when the world was first created) and that it’s time to move on to the next stage in our evolution. So that’s actually a very good thing, and something to look forward to.

With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!

21DJC Day 18

Today is the 4th last day of 21DJC, and the 4th last question of the challenge. Today’s question is:

What Matters Most To You?

What Matters Most To You?

Having lived X years of your life, what would you say are the things that matter most to you? Is it money? Is it material possessions? Is it spending time with your loved ones? Is it seeing the smile on their faces? Is it seeing the sun rise every day? Is it good health? Is it achieving your goals with excellence? Is it being the best person you can be? Is it to live to the fullest?

Put on your reflection cap and let your thoughts flow. Below is an empty form which you can use to write your answers to the question. Treat it as your private 21DJC journaling “room”, if you will. You will be seeing this form every day, for the 21 days of the challenge. There’s a button for you to keep track of your word count too, if you’re interested.

(Note you will not see the form below if you’re viewing this in your email client. Visit the actual post online to see the form.)

What Matters Most To You?

Your Task Today:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
  2. Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
  3. Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D

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  1. Fiat says:

    What matters most to me is to give the best performance as much as I can in any situation.

    If this question was asked several months ago, my answer will be ‘spending time with my loved one’. But things is, in this life, I have other things to do, a job, a passion, etc. So what matters most is to give the best performance, do the best that I can in spending time with my family, enjoying their happiness, their smile, enjoying and grateful for the time I can spent with them.

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  2. Netta says:

    To lay down at night and know that I have made the best out of each day.
    My children’s well being.
    Peace within myself.
    My photos because they tell a story of a special time in my life.
    My possessions that people have made for me, such as a wooden jewelry box.
    To know my family and friends are okay or maybe they are a bit happier because of me.
    Having financial security without having to have the stress of not being able to pay bills.
    Taking each day and trying to learn from any good or bad experience that occurs.
    Taking care of my home.
    Enjoying life and taking chances and being me know matter what.
    These are the things that matter most to me.

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  3. Laurel says:

    In 21 years what matters most to me:

    My family, the humans and non-humans,

    My values, honour, integrity, compassion, freedom, and more,

    My community, from local to worldwide,

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  4. Glenn says:

    What matters most to me.

    At this moment in time I can think of a number of things to list here.

    To start off with, I can’t go without saying my wife and the other people in life I care about. Those who will always show me support when I need it, and for whom I would do the same for.

    And of course being the person I need to be, or being the best person I can be also matters most to me. To me this means being a caring and respectful person, happy to share whatever I have learned with others. If I see someone struggling with something I am very familiar with myself, I will be happy to offer them advice. This also embodies being kind towards animals, birds, fish, instects and all other living creatures on this planet, doing my best to ensure no actions I take will cause any harm to them.

    Being this person also very much means being someone able to make all my own decisions based on the truth, questioning anything we’re being told by advertising, society in general, the media, the medical community, corporations or others in power. I don’t appreciate being lied to, so the truth is most important to me. Being aware of the truth enables me to make more empowered decisions.

    Continually raising my standards and conciousness level also matter most to me.

    Freedom of course matters most to me too. It’s possibly the biggest reason I could never go back to a day job working for a company or boss. Although sadly, even without a boss, with taxes still to pay and all kinds of restrictions, we can never be 100% free and still be able to enjoy all the perks of this modern day lifestyle. But just being able to live a life of considerable freedom without a boss telling me what to do, when I’m allowed to eat, or at what time I’m allowed to go home and so on, is enough for me. And also the freedom to do what I enjoy when I want. Based on my finances of course :)

    This leads onto the final thing I’ll be listing here as what matters most to me, and that’s being able to make a living doing what I love the most. Currently this would be any of the creative work I do. This may take some time to perfect, but I’m getting there.

    With all that I’ve listed here, to be honest they all matter to me the most just as much as one another. Although a couple may be perceived as being goals, to me I see them more as necessities.

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    • Raven says:


      I just wanted to say that I give you a lot of credit for attempting to be your own boss and do your own freelance or business as it sounds like you are here. It takes a lot of courage, strength, guts and just plain leap out their faith to get away from the person handing out the paycheck and make it on your own. I too have just with-in the last year begun to try to make my living from doing what I love rather than taking jobs that corrupt what I love until I don’t even love it anymore. It is both rewarding and a “business end of things hassle” to be ones own boss. The freedoms you win do come with responsibilities you never would have foreseen.lol

      But I wish you the best of luck as I too try to work out the balance of being able to fully support oneself doing what one loves and I do believe it is possible so keep up the good work!!


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  5. Charles says:

    My wife and my family.

    My home and garden – our haven and sanctuary and the place where we spend most of our leisure time. My home is where I have my piano, my music studio, library, kitchen, family areas and comfortable furniture.

    My health and fitness. An earlier question from this Journalling challenge reminded me of the importance of the senses. I wear glasses and EYESIGHT is of extreme importance to me. I value my HEARING, my ability to TASTE, SMELL and touch.

    Having an income and sufficient posessions to make the most of life. We have nearly paid off our home and I value owing real estate as it is home to my family. My daughters can be secure knowing they have a place to live and call “home”. I am not obsessed about money and being super-rich, but need a certain amount of income in order to live and support my family. I should add that my wife works as well, and my daughters have part-time jobs.

    Having sufficient leisure time to pursue my interests of music, film, and reading.

    Having access to a variety of fresh food and clean water so I can enjoy healthy meals. This relates back to the earlier “what matters” – my health and fitness.

    Having time away from work so I can enjoy holidays, short trips and chill-out time.

    Making the most of each day. Each day is a daily gift of time and not to be wasted.
    Seize the day! (Carpe diem).

    Caring and helping others. Giving back to the community, and coaching others using my skills and experience.

    Continuous improvement and growth. The Japanese have a term Kaizen which means continual improvement. I continue to seek new ways to improve and to apply to my life. I learn about “Lifehacks”, “Mindhacks” and Personal Excellence (of course!) in order to grow as well as pass on to others.

    I am sure there are many other things which matter to me but these came to mind first.


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  6. cloudio says:

    What matter the most to me is to love, being loved and keep learning.

    The daily activities I consider most important to achieve my purposes are:
    stay healthy, eat well, sleep well, live in the present moment, writing to express myself, contribute to social community and general life evolution, being good with people and all creation.

    Learn to forgive and be respectful of others point of views.

    Exercise my body, especially with yoga.
    Exercise my mind, with good readings and meditation.
    Exercise both, with good sex, travelling and having fun.

    Try to give my best effort in every situation.
    Being humble and ambitious.
    Being honest.
    Just be.

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  7. Julia Shirey says:

    Enabling those around me to feel safe, and loved, and to grow in some way is what matters the most to me. I call it my “preschool philosophy”. I attempt to have each of my interactions resemble a realy talented preschool teacher and a child. In short, I try to focus genuinely on the person/people I am with, to really hear them, to praise their strengths and help them grow in those areas where perhaps they are not so strong, but to never lose sight of the other people that are traveling in my orbit. Sometimes I succeed, sometimes not, and sometimes I fail dismally. But, I find that most people resemble those preschoolers in that they will give me another chance to redeem myself.

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  8. lotusbleu says:

    Saying what I mean & meaning what I say.

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    • Raven says:

      “I said what I meant. And I meant what I said. And elephant’s faithful 100 percent.”
      -Dr Seuss (smart guy)

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  9. Tiffany says:

    My family and friends matter most to me. But if it were to be inanimate, then my notebooks and pencils.

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  10. May says:

    Good health, love, serenity, happiness

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  11. Pat Fuller says:

    Staying healthy matters most to me. I want to do what it takes to stay as healthy as I can for as long as I can. Everything else is secondary.

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  12. Jeffrey Q says:

    Having gone through my experiences and from all the time I’ve spent thinking and meditating about life, the world, and just everything, what matters most to me is to be authentic. To be honest, to be someone who other people can believe in, to make a difference in other people’s lives.

    To paraphrase Mahatma Gandhi, I wish to be the change I wish to see in the world. I hold myself to my own standards to act better towards others as I wish others would behave towards myself. What matters is my ideals of how to treat other people and I know if I go against these ideals, I would lose respect for myself and would likely go into a downward spiral of how hypocritical I have behaved.

    By following my principles and living my life adhering to them, I give myself a clear path of how to make decisions when I am given difficult choices. By doing so, I choose to free my mind from worrying about many things. I assure my mind is free (for the most part) from guilt, regret, and indecision.

    As long as my principles are sound and true, then I will have no doubts that I have done the best I can.

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  13. The things that matter most to me are:

    My daughters. The bright spots in my life.
    Friends and family whom I love.
    Happiness and love.
    The ability to earn a living.

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  14. Prion says:

    Glorifying the Creator
    Living my life In-Spirit according to my Divine purpose
    Inspiring others
    Revolutionizing systems of thought, medicine, technology…
    Important scientific breakthroughs that bring us closer to our ultimate questions
    Living my unique identity
    Understanding the way people think
    Scientific research
    Conserving nature
    Self-mastery, self-actualization

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  15. Asni says:

    Many things matter to me, all are equally important. They are not material things and you can’t buy them with money. Possessions come and go, we never really own them. I like one of Steve Jobs’ quote “you came here with nothing and you will leave with nothing.”

    * My faith – making peace with myself and my Maker, knowing that I am not alone, that there is a higher power who loves me and teaches me to give love to all beings and things on this earth, no matter from which religion they come from.

    * Family – they are the closest to me and whatever I do in my life will affect them in some way or other. They support me and love me unconditionally and vice versa.

    * Friends – they are almost like family except that we do not have blood ties. They, too support and love me unconditionally and I, them.

    * Living my life with purpose, reaching to my higher self – I want to come to the end of my life when I breathe my last breath knowing in my heart that I have served and given of my very best, that which have been called for me to do.

    * That I will leave this world a better place – in some small ways, someone, somewhere have benefited from what I can contribute to this world. I am not Steve Jobs who has made a huge contribution to our lives and will be remembered for generations to come. There’s no need to remember me. But I know that I can make a difference. I am hopeful. I am a works-in-progress.

    Have a great day, guys, and hugs to everybody :hug:

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