21DPC Day 5 – What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad?

This is Day 5 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC) for Mar 2012. View all posts made during the challenge: 21DPC Overview.

21-Day Positivity Challenge for March 2012!

Hello everyone, and welcome to Day 5 of 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC)! :D

The sign ups are now officially closed and we have a total of 596 official participants registered for 21DPC!! :clap: Welcome to all of you who are on board – for those who are new, start off with Day 1 and catch up with us from there. For those of you who have been on the challenge since the start, read on! :D

Have You Been Doing the Positivity Tasks *and* Positive-End-of-Day-Reflections?

I noticed that a small handful of participants have only been answering the positivity questions but missing out on the positivity tasks (and some missing out on the end-of-the-day reflection as well).

Do you know that there has actually been a small positivity task assigned for each day, on top of the positivity question and end-of-day reflection?

By only doing 1/3 or 2/3s of the challenge, you’re missing out on the full challenge experience, which is a great pity because you’re denying yourself of the full benefits you can get if you were to do the challenge fully! I highly encourage all of you to strive to complete all 3 segments of each day’s tasks. After all, since you’re already here for 21DPC, why not take it all the way and complete each day’s tasks to the fullest? ;) You will be pleasantly surprised by the benefits you will get from committing yourself fully, vs. a half-hearted approach where you scrap the surface of each day’s task just in the name of participation.

For those of you who have already been completing all 3 tasks for each day to a tee (you know who you are!) – Fantastic work! I’ve been very amazed by the incredible energy of all of you. A good handful of you have even been going beyond your standard participation of the challenge – you have been venturing to other participants’ responses, reading them with great care, and engaging them in discussions. I say that is AMAZING. :D

Keep up the fantastic spirit – we are now starting on a brand new week (Day 5 = March 5 = Monday). Let’s start this new week on a roaring note! :D

21DPC Day 5 Question

Today’s positivity question is:

What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad?

Love between Mother and Daughter

Your Task:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express your thoughts. There is no word limit.
  2. Do something nice for your mom/dad today.
    • It can be anything – from cooking a meal for them, to taking them out for dinner, to talking to them, to hugging them, to saying a simple thank you, to watching TV with them, to buying them something special which they’ve been meaning to get, and so on. In your reply for today, let us know what you chose to do and share with us their response, if you wish.
    • If you have been meaning to improve your relationship with your parents, you may find this series on PE helpful: How To Improve Your Relationship With Your Parents (4-part series).
  3. Reflect on your parents’ message to you.
    • If both your parents have already passed on (my heart goes out to you), think about what is the biggest message they wanted to convey to you while they were alive. And today, embody that message in the highest possible manner through your thoughts, your actions, and your very being.
  4. Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!

Share Your Answers!

After you are done, share your answers in the comments area.

If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then return at the end of the day to answer the 2nd part, on identifying at least one positive thing about your day.

Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!

Look forward to reading your responses!

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  1. diana says:

    My father is my idol,he is my mentor..who taught me a lot and there is still so much thing I need to learn from him.The most I love about him is the unconditional love he gives to us. He never exchanges anything with us.He just wants us to be happy.He supports everything we do,though he will still says his opinions.He encourages us to strive for our dreams.He could shut me with just one sentence or one word whenever I start complaining…

    About my mum,she is gentle,considerate,lovable,capable and always improving and progressing.Despite taking good care of us,she is successful in her career.She is a health guru,she reads books related to soul,mind,body and health.She gain good knowledge in eating healthily and she never feel tired to encourage others to eat right and eat healthy.I always feel she has found her life purpose and working well on it.The most I like about her is that she gives us a right concept about eating healthily and living happily.

    Positive thing:
    1)Commit to this challenge even need to type on my BB now..
    2)Attended a good talk organised by SLA.
    3)Sent a sms to an old friend.
    4)Attended for the dance practice despite late dinner.
    5)Decided on sth.
    6)Had quality chat with parents n sis during dinner.

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  2. Miranda says:

    what do you I love about my mam:her creativity,her cleening talent,her cooking skills,her management skills.
    What about dad:his humor,intelligent,his cooking skills,his skills to make christmas a fantastic feast,his telling about the past.his passion for his hometown.

    my daily positivity:the birds,my fish,the beautiful sky full of clouds,kisses and hugs from my my.my dog,warm water.my house.

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  3. squiggle says:

    1. My parents have always encouraged me to be my own person. They told me from an early age that nothing I could do would make them love me less, or would shock them. I could do whatever I thought was right, and they would support me in my decisions. And they have. :)

    They treated me like an adult from a very early age, in terms of encouraging me to have my own opinions and respecting them, even when they were different to their own.

    They taught me some fantastic things about life – that you really can be anything you want to be. That if you don’t like the person you become, you can reinvent yourself. That your best is good enough in the long run, and there’s no sense in stressing out about anything when you’ve tried your best. They taught me the value of finding my own path through life.

    They supported me financially throughout my undergraduate degree, and taught mt how to manage my money so I wouldn’t find it difficult when I was self-sufficient.

    They cook amazing food, whenever I visit we spend evenings drinking wine and listening to music and talking, and they are actually my best friends :love:

    More specifically, my mum is just so caring, thoughtful and calm. She makes amazing cups of tea. She is really intelligent, loves reading and always has some book to recommend or talk about.

    My dad has an absolutely wicked sense of humour. He loves cycling and is full of motivation and tips when I talk about my own exercise regime. He’s a fantastic cook, has awesome taste in music, and is a really good dancer :lol:

    Sometimes I wonder how my parents ever got together, as they’re polar opposites sometimes, but they compliment each other, bring out the best in each other, and really are the blueprint for a successful relationship/marriage :love:

    2. Oh dear, I’m cheating at the challenge already :shy: I bought my parents a card to send on Day 2 of the challenge and still haven’t put it in the post yet. I will do it! I promise!

    3. A positive thing about today:

    Well, I didn’t have a very good morning. I had a horrible dream which made me all sad and shaky when I woke up, then a Facebook message from a friend with some news that I really, really didn’t want to hear. It’s quite an unpleasant situation that I don’t want to talk about online. But then I had lunch with one of my closest friends, a cup of tea later on with another, and I’ve got drinks later with another – and already I’m feeling a lot happier and almost glad it happened in a way, because it made me see how amazing my friends are at cheering me up even when I don’t ask them to :hug: Work is really not happening today, but I feel happy and balanced again, and after this evening, I’m sure I’ll be ready to get lots done for the rest of the week to make up for my ‘lazy’ day. :)

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  4. Tammy says:

    What I love about my mom the most is she is one of the most giving loving individuals i know-and is always doing the small things for so many people-especially the kids in the family. Nothing delights me more when hanging out with the kids and taking pictures and they say- lets send that to your mom. Or when I arrive at their house and they run and show me what my mom sent them. She continually shows what real love and its the day to day moments that people remember.

    Today- I will call and thank my dad again for a Chirstmas gift that I never thought I would use, but it has turned out to be one of the best things ever.

    My positive thought for day- looking forward to working out tonight with friends.

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  5. Christina says:

    The message my parents have given me overall is to enjoy life. They’ve always encouraged me to do my best, but never at the expense of not having a good time. They always wanted me to get good grades, but they never insisted they all be As (I went through phases where I imposed that on myself). They always wanted me to have a balance of work and fun. Even after completing school, they encouraged me to do what I love and have been supportive in helping me do that and maintain a work/fun balance. They’ve always encouraged me to travel and make living my best life a priority.

    One good thing that’s happened to me so far today:

    Okay there have been a few good things:

    -I made chai tea at home for the first time today and actually liked it
    -I confirmed that I will be attending the Mutter Ball later this month (Yay!)
    -I made myself an aloe drink for Day 1 of my cleanse

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  6. jola says:

    The think I most love about my dad is is sense of humor and the fact that he is an easy-going person. I love the fact that even I don’t show this abilities now I have them and sooner or later they will appear to me. :D
    The think I most love about my mother is how handy and talented she is :).

    I’ll try to make a game with my hole family tonight, lets see how that is going to turn out and let you know how dis it go.

    The positive thing about today is that I finally found a way to control mood and appreciate the breath I have in me!

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  7. Ginger says:

    One of the things I love most about my mom is the belief she instilled in me that I can do anything. I think she helped me to become the strong woman I am today.

    One of the positive things that happened on Day 5 was that I got to work with the kids at church and one of the girls that is tremendously shy came up to me and gave me a hug afterward. It was awesome seeing her come out of her shell.

    Stay tuned for feedback from mom…. :mrgreen:

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  8. Parmis says:

    I love my mum beacuse,she is always supportive and so positive. She is so caring for everyone and for her children and she always put her children first. She is so kind and honest. She has tought us how to love unconditionally and help anyone without any expectation. She is like an angel in my life.
    I love my dad,cause he is an honest,kind,hardworking man. he is a family man who loves and cares about his family a lot. He is a geniuse guy who has a lot of experience in any aspect of life. I love him cause he has always been supportive for me and my sister and brothers .He is the one that I feel I can always rely and and the one whose advices is invaluable. The one who I have 100% trust in any aspect of life. I feel so lucky and so blessed to have such a lovely parents and I always feel proud of having them in my life.
    Something nice for my parents: I am now far away from my parents and I live in another country. I wil send and e-card to them today just to say I LOVE them so much:)
    Positive thing of my day: I called my friend from highschool and gave her positivr compliments.

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  9. tdillon says:

    I can’t think of a single thing I love about my parents, I’ve moved on.

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  10. Sue says:

    I have found this challenge tough – not because I don’t love my mum (or didn’t love my dad), but I have never really thought about why I love/d them. It has shocked me into trying to think why I do/did love them…and I don’t know. I feel ashamed to say that. They are/were good people and I can think of reasons why I admire/d them, but not love them. I really have never asked myself the question and now that I do, I don’t know. It really has brought me up sharp. I considered not doing the challenge to day, but decided that was a cop out, so here I am being honest. I will continue to muse on it and come back when I can think of something.

    Positive thing? I have felt happier today and been able to interact more easily with colleagues; last week wasn’t a good week for me personally. Also a more distant colleague who has been extremely ill offered to support me with my emotional difficulties as I had been thoughtful to her over the last half of last year, which she has appreciated. I was very touched.

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    • Elezhara says:

      Love is such a hard emotion to define! You´ll see how with time you´ll find a reason why you love your parents.Sometimes it just takes us a while to get to them and to realize that they were always there in front of our noses.

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    • Jo says:

      I think it’s great that you didn’t “not write” anything because you didn’t know how to answer the question… and instead just wrote your honest thoughts. You’re not hiding from your thoughts or feelings and you are truly considering the question at hand and the way you feel about it. Well done for being honest!! i really respect you for doing so! x

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    • Sue says:

      After some consideration, I love my mum for always being there for me when I was growing up and for being a good role model as a mother. Whilst there are things that I haven’t emulated whilst being a mum myself, the basic seeds were sown. I have, however, always made sure that I told my kids, ‘I love you’.
      I loved my dad for working hard and providing us with what we needed and a good education. I’m sorry he wasn’t here to see his grandchildren grow up, as I know he would have been very proud of them and their achievements and, I think, of me as I graduated with a degree at the age of 45!

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  11. Roxi says:

    My parents have always supported me on my endeavors, whether they were trips, educational pursuits or some other kind and they have always tried their very best to help me out. For that I could never thank them enough. I have not been close to them growing up, but we made up for it after I finished my Uni and in the last years. I am grateful for having the opportunity to get to know them now, when I am a grown up myself, more mature and a bit more wise than how I used to be when I was in high school :)
    I would like to cook for them, but we have different tastes in food, and they usually to not like the flavors I use in my cooking so I think I will just take them for a walk tomorrow. Something we haven’t done together in a while…
    My positive thing for today was the sunny and beautiful day that I spent outside…

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  12. Bazik says:

    What Do I Love Most About My Mom and Dad?

    Hmm..I guess the first thing that comes to mind is that both mum and dad never seriously interferred with whatever I was up to, they respected my independence and seldom made me do things I did not want to do. I was always stubborn of course and it would be difficult for them to even try, but still, I owe them that.

    Another thing is about my mum – I love it that she is very engaged when we communicate, she pays attention to my concerns and remembers my friends, and so I like to share with her, and can pretty much talk to her about anything. I know I can always come to her, she will always acceot me and hug me.

    With my dad it is a bit difficult to communicate, he is rather reserved and doesnt share much. But Iike his general cheerfulness and sense of humour, and the fact that he is active and fit, making it possible to do physical stuff like cycling or playing tennis together. He may not talk much, and he listens to only half of everything, but he also understands that sometimes not saying is communication, he will not keep bad memories long, and let the stuff remain unspoken, pretending to forget it, when necessary.

    I have just spent a quality day with them at the country house, helping out with the snow clearing, and I will now think of a present to buy them for the upcoming holidays – most probably tickets to a concert or theatre.

    I am really grateful to my parents that they gave me the freedom to explore the world and also the curiosity to be interested in it, by showing me that there are many things in life that one can do. If there was one message my parents would be happy for me to have, I think it would be “There is always perspective”. There is always a choice, there are always different ways of leading your life, there are different sides to every story, and there are many points of view. The mixture of intellectual and emotional perceptions has helped me a lot in life. I always say that everything is going to be just fine, and this is my motto, that follows exactly from my parents message. If there is always perspective, you can find positive things in every situation!

    The positive thing today, Monday 5th of March, is that I finally caught up with the challenge questions, as I was unable to post during the weekend. It was a quiet day at work, and I could also sleep longer because my student cancelled our morning class cause she needs to prepare for exams, and I always like sleeping in the mornings, so this is positive. I also got a call from a friend saying he is going to visit me soon. :dance:

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  13. P.Callychurn says:

    I was very small when my dad passed away. In tragic circumstances, I am told later. Except for an impression there is not much to talk about. But when it comes to my mother, I may writw a book one day.Widowed at a very young age, illeterate and rustic, not familiar with the ways of the world, how was she able to bring up three children, the youngest hardly a month in a situation of utter poverty, is a miracle to say the least. I am a grand dad myself,but every time I think of my mother I am overpowered with emotion. She passed away and must be there in the kingdom of the good God.for about 20 years now. But for me I keep crying and saying to myself, if I had my life to live again with my mother what more I would have done which I failed to do. My wife has helped me to make her live again, reminding me of her anniversary, of the time /date she passed away,and incidents that have marked our lives invariably positively. When I behold the situation, I realise that had she been alive maybe there would not have been so much of concern and consideration as is the case now. And if there is one thing that I really wish the creator to do for me is to bless me that I am born to the same mother again.. She did so much for her three children, who all made it to the top in our respective field, but when the time came for her to harvest what she had sown, she had to leave us . For us she is there in the sky, as astar watching upon us as when we were kids, and when I look up in the night I get A kIND OF VIBRATION AS IF SHE TOO IS SHARING THE SAME FEELING.

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  14. Desiree Garcia says:

    This is really tough for me to answer. When I turned 13 I found out that I was the result of a one night stand. I always thought that growing up I was different and treated differently. And a family member spilling the beans is who I have to thank for the confirmation.
    I have always had a distance relationship with my mother. Until the birth of my child in 2005 my relationship or lack thereof, was nonexistent. As I learned how to become a parent to my wonderful child I am grateful that my mother stepped in as a grandparent should. She became more helpful. And would often share stories of how my grandma would do things when she was younger. Our relationship blossomed. I am glad it did. We became closer. I am not a cook, at all! Ha! But my mother has been so patient at teaching me recipes.
    I will often come and visit my mom and cook for her. Return the favor. I spent my ENTIRE Sunday with my mother cooking and eating and enjoying each other’s company.

    Today, I put my friends feelings before mine. I was unselfish to her.

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  15. suz says:

    What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad?

    My mom has been gone for many years, my dad is still here, he is getting very old, cannot hear or see so good these days. My dad was not such a great dad. I think he did the best he could as a dad, and for that I am thankful. There are some things that I have learned about him, in the past few years, that have really made me admire him. He did not have a very good childhood. But I truly believe he has done the best in life that he possibly could have done. I’ve made peace with him, and I know he loves me, I love him too.

    And, today, I am thankful that I had a dad growing up! He may not have been the best dad in the world, but he’s my dad, and he was there and provided for our family.

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