21DPC Day 2 – Who is One Friend You Appreciate Having? And Why?

This is Day 2 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC) for Mar 2012. View all posts made during the challenge: 21DPC Overview.

21-Day Positivity Challenge for March 2012!

Hello everyone, and welcome to Day 2 of 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC)!! :D

We now have over *450* official participants registered for the challenge!! :dance:

Important: Sign Up First Before Reading Any Further

If you’re new to 21-Day Positivity Challenge, or you have not signed up yet (your name should be in the official participants list), please read the announcement post and sign up first before going any further: 21-Day Positivity Challenge. All details on the challenge, what to expect, and how to sign up can be found at the post.

If you have already duly completed the 3 sign up steps, your name will be added in the next 24 hours. ♥ Thank you!

I’ll be closing the sign ups in a couple of days’ time, so hurry and join us if you haven’t.

Update March 21: The challenge is now officially over, but you are more than welcome to do it in your personal space. Check out all posts made during the challenge: 21DPC Overview.

Participants: Complete the Daily Tasks, Not Just the Question(s)

Reading yesterday’s responses, I noticed many of you only read the title of the post (i.e. the questions), then jumped straight to the comments section to post your response. In doing so, you have missed the other half of the task for Day 1, and shortchanged yourself of the 21DPC experience!

For example, Day 1′s task wasn’t just to answer the questions of whether you’re happy and why. Those who read the full Day 1 post would have seen a third part to the question, which was: “Why did you not give yourself a 10/10 score?“. This was intended for you to dig deep and understand the missing “gaps” to helping you achieve your full 10/10 happiness.

Have you ever seen a surgery whereby the doctor just cuts open the patient and stops operating on him/her? No? It’s the same here. Doing only part of the task for 21DPC is akin to doing a mental operation on yourself and stopping halfway, while all the pus and blood are gushing into the air (gross image!). To get the most out of your participation here, it’s essential that you (a) (deeply) reflect on and answer all the questions (b) complete the full task for the day.

Please read the full post before posting your responses. As of today, expect 3 segments for each 21DPC daily task:

  1. One positivity question, or a series of positivity questions (related to each other). Please address all of them in your response, and not just the first question!
  2. One positivity task. Starting from today, there will be a small positivity task for each day – which is linked to the positivity question. It will be a very simple task which can be completed within the day itself.
  3. One positive thing you got out of the day. To identify at least 1 positive thing that you got out of the day, for every day of 21DPC. If you can identify more than 1, that’s even better!

Please share your results for all 3 segments in your daily response. As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, feel free to post your comments in parts you get to the task in different times of the day. You can answer the positivity questions in the beginning of the day, then return later in the day to post your results for the positivity task, then return at the end of the day to share the one positive thing you got out of the day.

Just be sure to click “reply” to your comment, not via posting a new reply, so others can follow your progress easily.

21DPC Day 2 Question

Today’s positivity question is:

Who is One Friend You Appreciate Having? And Why?

Best Friends

Share as much as you want in your answers, from a few words to a few pages long. Be honest as you can. Answer both questions, and not just the first question.

Your Task for Today:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express your thoughts. There is no word limit.
  2. Let that friend in on your appreciation for him/her.
    • The stuff you just wrote about your friend – Does he/she even know that? No, really. Have YOU ever directly TOLD him/her that you appreciate him/her, and why?
    • Your 2nd task is to let him/her know that – be it in person, via email, text message, Facebook, phone, or whatever medium you prefer – today. Even if you’ve mentioned this to him/her before, do it again today (there’s no limit to how many times you can share appreciation). Share the full thing, not just: “Hey, I appreciate you ’cause you’re cool”. Dude, that’s weak. Go deep in expressing your appreciation. Sure it may be mushy, but whatever. You’ll be surprised at how much it may mean to him/her.
    • After you are done, let us in on your friend’s response, if you wish.
    • While we’re on the topic of having friends we appreciate, you may want to check out this related article on how to be a better friend to others: How To Have More Best Friends in Life: The Heartfelt Guide
  3. Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!

Share Your Answers!

After you are done, share your answers in the comments area!

If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then work on your positivity task throughout the day, then return at the end of the day to share your results for your positivity task and your end-of-day positive reflection.

Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!

Look forward to reading your responses!

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268 Responses | Share Your Results!

  1. CWI says:

    Day 2: Who is one friend I appreciate having, and why?

    Lexie. If I ask Lexie a question she always comes up with an answer I can trust and I know comes from the heart. Although she is very beautiful to look at on the outside she is also a very kind and caring person and has a lot of love to give. I always look forward to seeing her and she sets high standards for herself (in a good way) that make me aspire to do the same after seeing her (although I do long for her legs!) She is also very clever and a fighter. She is someone who I can always have interesting conversations with and I think we will always be able to discover interesting new things to see and places to visit when we meet up for a tea and a chat. I always feel like I am off to pamper myself when I meet Lexie!

    A positive thing that happened today: I had a meeting with Zohal in my form about her problem with being late. In the past I have got angry at her, set her detentions, been disappointed and shouted at her in front of the form. After 2 dreadful classes I reminded myself to be compassionate. I also have a problem with being late and forced myself to remember the effect it had on me at school. I shared this with Zohal and spoke to her from the heart, whilst laughing and smiling. I explained how being late isn’t always her fault and that what I want to make sure is that she doesn’t get a reputation as she is a nice, clever girl. For the first time she smiled and laughed when I spoke to her and I felt better after doing that. When I am tired and grouchy I often forget to be compassionate all the time, as you have to really dig inside yourself, but I’m glad I did so on this occasion. It may make all the difference.

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  2. My friend I appreciate having is my friend Alex.. He was my ex’s friend and now, a year and something later we still talk through Facebook and we catch up. There was never anything sexual and we only talk about things that interest us both..:)

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  3. CWI says:

    Day 2: Who is one friend I appreciate having, and why?

    Lexie. If I ask Lexie a question she always comes up with an answer I can trust and I know comes from the heart. Although she is very beautiful to look at on the outside she is also a very kind and caring person and has a lot of love to give. I always look forward to seeing her and she sets high standards for herself (in a good way) that make me aspire to do the same after seeing her (although I do long for her legs!) She is also very clever and a fighter. She is someone who I can always have interesting conversations with and I think we will always be able to discover interesting new things to see and places to visit when we meet up for a tea and a chat. I always feel like I am off to pamper myself when I meet Lexie!

    (Lexie responded with: “Ahhh that is so lovely of you! Thanks so much for writing that…it means so much :) I’m needing a bit of a boost at the moment and that has made me feel much better already! Aren’t you just a sweetheart :D” yey!)

    A positive thing that happened today:
    I had a meeting with Zohal in my form about her problem with being late. In the past I have got angry at her, set her detentions, been disappointed and shouted at her in front of the form. After 2 dreadful classes I reminded myself to be compassionate. I also have a problem with being late and forced myself to remember the effect it had on me at school. I shared this with Zohal and spoke to her from the heart, whilst laughing and smiling. I explained how being late isn’t always her fault and that what I want to make sure is that she doesn’t get a reputation as she is a nice, clever girl. For the first time she smiled and laughed when I spoke to her and I felt better after doing that. When I am tired and grouchy I often forget to be compassionate all the time, as you have to really dig inside yourself, but I’m glad I did so on this occasion. It may make all the difference.

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  4. Diana says:

    One of my best friends is Jo. She is always listening to my problems, she always has a good thing to say, she is very supportive. We have lived so many things together. Her friendship started around 15 years ago, she is like the sister I never had. She is a very honest and trustworthy, I know I can always rely on her and that’s really important to me. We have so many things in common. Unfortunately, now we live in different countries, but our friendship remains as it was before and we keep in contact on regular basis, I really miss her.

    I’ll let her know, although all the time I tell her how much I love her ;)

    A positive thing: I gathered with some friends, we laughed and enjoy a lovely dinner together.

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    • Pavel says:

      Hi Diana,

      I find really awesome that you both share such a wonderful and long friendship, that not even distance can diminish. That kind of relationships are the ones I value the most and have a great impact in one’s happiness. I hope you get too see her again really soon!

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      • Diana says:

        Hi Pavel

        Thanks for the comment.

        Yes we are blessed to have that strong and honest friendship. I guess distance has kept us even closer, because we try to communicate all the time to fill the gap….although I really really miss her.

        In the country where I am living now, I don’t have any family and all my friends are new… I would love to have a friendship so sincere and strong as the one with Jo. But I suppose as everything It will require time.

        Thanks for your kind words Pavel.

        Have a lovely day.
        Diana ; )

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  5. Renee Sime says:

    Who is one friend you appreciate having, and why?

    This is an easy and hard question for me to answer. I have a handful of friends whom I love and appreciate, all on many levels and for different reasons. I am extremely close with a cousin of mine, she is one of my best friends. But since she is also family, I’m answering this question with someone who isn’t family. That would be my best friend Rindy.

    I am so blessed with Rindy’s friendship. She is the ultimate “best friend”; she loves unconditionally, is supportive when you need, is silent when you need it, and is just all around a fun, amazing and genuine person. My favorite memories include her. She recently got engaged, and just being by her side (even though we are 800 miles apart) during this journey just makes me love her even more. I love seeing her experience such a genuine happiness.

    I try my best to tell her how much I appreciate her and her friendship, and how much I love her. I know I don’t always say it enough, so I’m going to make sure I go the extra mile to constantly remind her.

    I will be sending her a card in the mail today to let her know about this task and why I chose her. (I feel like a written letter/card would be much more personal then facebook or texting).  I will be sure to follow up with her response in a few days.

    As for a positive thing from my day? My aunt sent me an email (Shout out to my Aunt Melanie, who I believe is also participating in this challenge!) today that was full of love, support and encouragement. She made my day, and I am thankful for her and the rest of my wonderful family.

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    • Jessica says:

      Wow, what a considerate way to show Rindy how you feel by sending her a card! Think about how good that would make you feel to get such a meaningful surprise…. I’m sure that kind gesture will make her day!

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  6. Dora says:

    T is my best friend who I really appreciate..
    I can tell her everything, doesn’t matter what, she is the one I trust.

    I thank her to be always there for me & for all her support. I call her or text her to tell her how lucky I am to have her as a great friend.

    I texted her to tell her I appreciate her friendship and she replied back saying how grateful she is too.

    Positive thing today is I am glad to have siblings who look after each other. I thank them and my parents who brought us of who we are today.

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  7. Jessica says:

    The one friend that I appreciate having is my husband. He is the one person in this world that I truly feel I can be 100% myself with. I feel like I can tell him anything and he’s great about offering his honest opinion, or if I just need someone to listen, he’s good for that, too. He’s also my number one fan, and never misses a moment to ‘promote’ his wife to others whenever he can. I feel incredibly lucky to have married such a terrific friend.

    I often tell him how much he’s appreciated and why. I made sure to tell him again today though, and it put a big ol’ smile on his face. ;)

    One positive thing for the day is related to today’s question. My husband thought he had to work tonight, but instead had the night off so we can spend it together.

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  8. amelinda says:

    I appreciate my sister. She is there for me when ever I call her. She never judges me, unless it’s out of love and respect of wanting what is best. I really look up to her and can’t believe how close we are now, and couldn’t stand each other in high school. I hope I show her the same love and respect that I see she puts into our friendship. I love her, and I am very thankful for her.

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  9. amelinda says:

    Oh, and my positive thought for the day… I am glad that my new husband trust me so much, that I can help him get dressed in the morning when he can’t move because of muscle spasms. I can see he’s in pain, and know that he trust that I wouldn’t hurt him.

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  10. amelinda says:

    Oh, and my positive thought for the day… I am glad that my new husband trust me so much, that I can help him get dressed in the morning when he can’t move because of muscle spasms. I can see he’s in pain, and know that he trust that I wouldn’t hurt him.
    :)

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  11. Pavel says:

    Who is One Friend You Appreciate Having? And Why?
    Melissa. She’s such a smart, fun and hardworking girl. I admire her passion. We often talk about everything and share many points of view, as well complementing each other’s gaps. We have some secrets that no one else knows about us. It’s kind of weird that even when we do share some traits, we have very different personalities; yet we are great friends.

    Daily Positive Thing
    I had a difficult exam today, but I feel that I did pretty well and I’m expecting a good result. Also, my parents are visiting me for the weekend; it’s nice to see family once in a while.

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  12. Claire R says:

    This a hard one….

    A friend, which one?
    Not that I have that many but each is super special in her own way. And some men too. But do I know how to show my appreciation?
    So I am now thinking of Emily.Perhaps I’ve been taking her a bit for granted because I feel a little upset over something silly. But she has been my sounding board, my confident and the person I have spent Thanks Giving with for over 30 years. Her son is my godson, her dog was my buddy too.
    I am thinking really hard now about SHOWING my great love for this person. My goodness,she has been through so much with me and been at my side.So, if she hasn’t come around much I better get moving and go see her!
    A plan is forming of little steps to let her know that I think she has my heart. I love Jessica Mullen’s
    little coins and tags to hand out or leave behind A token of my appreciation”.
    Something great happened today. A friend told me about a job. Oh Lord more work! Well, I said OK.
    Early I sent in an email that I was interested and why. I gave my phone and said that I’d be out but would call after one. And I followed through; and I think I got it !

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  13. Rakshitha says:

    It is difficult to choose one friend whom I appreciate having… still if I have to pick one, then it would be Niki… I have told her that she is a friend hard to lose she is also a friend hard to find :D and a kind of friend every one must have. The words which describe her best are inspiring, hopeful, positive, determined, hard working and stand by. She has inspired me to read ‘big books’ :) and in my writings and in many other ways, always optimistic of future, strong minded about the task she takes up and supportive (she had once said, friends once friends for ever) and she is there whenever I need her..
    Thank u Niki for being such a wonderful person :dance: and thank you god for letting me know and sending so many :angel: to my life
    Am thinking of messaging via FB even to other friends appreciating them for what they are :)
    Made time to answer the questions promptly here at PE was best thing that happened today..

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  14. Ami Kismet says:

    When I read the question, three people actually came to mind: Angela, Rifah, and Sarah.

    In each of her own ways, these people have brought me through the worst of myself and have taught me patience, trust, and class . They have taught me non-judgment and understanding and acceptance. Each of these woman are beautiful and I would not be the person I am without them. They teach me so much every day that I could never thank them enough,

    positive thing for today: I got to relax!! :mrgreen:

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  15. Bette says:

    I really appreciate my friend Susan. We have known each other for over 40 years. Her Mom taught at the same school I taught at, and she wanted Susan and I to meet. Little did we know that all these years later, our friendship would still be going strong! :D We have kept in touch through the thin and the thick. :heart: Sometimes, we would drift into our own worlds, and not be in touch, but not for long. :hug:

    We have the same hometown, Baltimore, and we know each other’s life story, our families, and all those stories. One summer, when I went down to FT. Lauderdale, Susan decided to come with me.. Only she never left!!! She’s STILL there!!! Funny how we influence each other in life’s twists and turns.

    Susan has been writing me the most colorful, loving letters for weeks now, while I am in Puerto Rico. :heart: Just when I need a pick-me-up, there is a thick, newsy letter from Susan! The letter comes in a beautiful envelope, and inside, there are always little surprises that tumble out of the multi-colored pages. :D I really appreciate all the time and care she puts into including all kinds of meaningful quotes. She writes in both English and Spanish in her letters, and they are soo long, that I read them in installments.

    Susan has recently (last June) lost her beloved companion, after his long illness. :angel: I am sure that he would not have lived as long or as happy had Susan not been there by his side. :angel: I appreciate that Susan is a loyal friend, and has a loving heart. :heart: She also loves animals (adores her llhasa apso, Chico, and treats him like a prince), and has done countless pen and ink drawings of them. I’ve always appreciated her sense of respect and love for animals :heart:.

    I appreciate Susan’s sense of humor. I appreciate that she values life, and does the little things that add up to big things. (“Little things mean a lot!”) :hug: Susan is faithful and believes/accepts that there is a reason for everything, regardless of our not understanding why. She is a real trouper, a survivor, and meets daily challenges head-on with renewed positivity , showing how tenaciously she holds on to life. :heart:

    I write letters to her also…It is a contemplative time for me…each of us chats away when we write each other, chasing our cares away, as we share our thoughts and feelings. I think we inspire each other as well as uplift ourselves as we unravel the stories we are sharing. :angel:

    I am grateful for our long and ongoing friendship, Susan! :heart: :hug: :D ..a friendship to cherish for life! :heart:
    Wish you could visit here in Ponce, we could make new memories!
    All good things, Susan… now, and always!

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