21DPC Day 1 – On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?

This is Day 1 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC) for Mar 2012. View all posts made during the challenge: 21DPC Overview.

21-Day Positivity Challenge for March 2012!

Hello everyone, and welcome to Day 1 of 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC)!! :D :dance:

We have over *300* official participants with us now!! Are we in for a month of positivity or WHAT??? :D

To all of you who have duly signed up and helped spread the word to your social networks (or even via blogging about it, for those of you bloggers out there!), thank you. The challenge can only be a success through our collective efforts. The more people sign on to 21DPC, the better it will be for everyone, because hey – that means even more positive energy to go around. :D There is never a limit to how much positive energy there can be – abundance has no lmits.

For those of you whose friends / family read your message and decided to join in on 21DPC too, that’s fabulous. PE Challenges are always particularly fun when you get to do it with someone you know! You can keep each other accountable and learn more about each other in the process.

If you are doing it by yourself, not to fret. We have over 300 official participants here with us for 21DPC, and we’re definitely going to get more people joining us over the next few days before I close the sign ups. In the course of these 21 days, all of us will be doing 21DPC together as one, reflecting on the daily questions, sharing our answers in the comments section of the daily posts, and engaging each other in meaningful discussions.

This is a challenge to be done together as a community, as a group, as one Personal Excellence family, which is really the reason why PE is even here. So do not be afraid to share your answers openly and be fully honest with yourself here. There is no judgment here; anyone who tries to do that will be promptly barred from the site. The .co in the PE domain represents community, not individuality- always remember that whenever you come here to the site.

Important: Sign Up First Before Reading Any Further

If you’re new to 21-Day Positivity Challenge, or you have not signed up yet (your name should be in the official participants list), please read the announcement post and sign up first before going any further: 21-Day Positivity Challenge. All details on the challenge, what to expect, and how to sign up can be found at the post.

If you have already duly completed the 3 sign up steps, your name will be added in the next 36 hours. ♥ Thank you!

Update March 5: Sign ups are now closed now – thanks everyone for your amazing response! For those who didn’t get to sign up - you are more than welcome to participate and join us in the daily threads!

What To Expect for the Next 21 Days

1. Positivity Question

Changing Your Life, Starting From Your Thoughts

As you have read in the announcement post, I will be assigning you a positivity question every day, for the next 21 days.

The question may be simple, like asking “What is your favorite movie?” to something deeper, like “What is 1 positive thing you can share about your least favorite person?” There are days when there will be 2-3 questions combined into 1 (for example, today’s question) – you are expected to answer all the questions, and not just answer the first one and skip the rest.

The idea is to cultivate positivity in your life, via working on the root of it all – our thoughts. Asking ourselves the right questions will help us think in the right manner. And from there, the right actions, habits, and behavior will follow suit. As the saying goes:

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” – Anonymous

Your Honesty Required

My request to you is to be as completely honest with yourself in answering the questions. Because the more honest you are, the more insights you will unveil, the more you will grow. Think of it as it you’re in a dark room alone, by yourself, and there’s no one there to listen, comment, or judge. What is the first thing that comes to mind? What would be your most truthful response to the question?

This challenge is not about sugar-coated answers and creating an illusion of happiness and positivity to everyone out there. You are probably kidding yourself if you think we’ll be jumping around in these 21 days, skipping merrily, laughing like little kids and forcing ourselves to smile every day.

Don’t feel that there’s a need for you to write something positive just because this is a positivity challenge, because that’s totally untrue. As I shared in Principle #1 of How To Be Happy, part of being happy / positive includes airing out grievances, unhappiness, frustrations, anger, sadness, disappointment, etc inside of you – whatever they may be. These (negative) energies, when unaired, are merely *stuck* in your consciousness, with nowhere else to go.

In the end, they end up affecting you on a subconscious level, in more ways than you can imagine. The more (unhappiness) you release  through your answers in 21DPC (in a constructive manner, of course), the more happiness can flow your way.

2. Positivity Task

Most of the days will have a positivity task assigned. This task is linked to the day’s question, and usually comprises of a simple action that can be done on the day itself. Do complete the task as part of your 21DPC participation.

3. Positive Thing For the Day

Last but not least, you are to identify at least 1 positive thing that you got out of the day, for every day of 21DPC. If you can identify more than 1, that’s even better! The more the better! :D

Sharing To Help Yourself and Help Others

As with every challenge, I highly recommend you share your responses in the comments section of the daily posts with the other participants, to get the most out of your 21DPC experience.

If you’re not comfortable sharing your answers under your usual name/nick on PE, then create some fake, random nick (so no one will know it’s you) and post your answers under that nick (for the remainder of 21DPC, if you want). Replace others’ names (if any) in your answers with fake nicks as well. There is always something powerful about transparently writing your thoughts out there in the open, vs. keeping it to yourself in your little book.

Besides, do not underestimate the change you can make in others’ lives just by sharing your answers here. After all, have you not benefited in the past from reading honest sharings by others, be it on Personal Excellence, or on other websites? What would the world be if no one wants to share? Think about the people out there you can effect. By helping others, you are also helping yourself.

21DPC Day 1 Question

Given that this is a positivity challenge, for Day 1 today, I want you to think about how happy you are. Not just today, but as a person.

On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?

On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You?

Share as much as you want in your answers, from a few words to a few pages long. Be honest as you can. Answer both questions, and not just the first question.

And if you did not give yourself a 10/10 for your score, I have one additional question for you:

Why Did You Not Give Yourself a 10/10?

Again, be completely honest in your response. There is no judgment here at PE. Only positivity and love.

While we’re on the topic of happiness, be sure to check out the related articles on how to achieve happiness (or unhappiness, as per the second article) at PE:

  1. How To Be Happy: 10 Timeless Principles for Lasting Happiness
  2. Are You as Happy as You Can Be? 10 Surefire Ways To Be Unhappy in Life

…and the manifesto versions:

  1. [Manifesto] 10 Timeless Principles For Lasting Happiness
  2. [Manifesto] 10 Surefire Ways To Achieve Unhappiness

Your Tasks Today

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express your thoughts. There is no word limit.
  2. Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!

Share Your Answers!

After you are done, share your answers in the comments area!

If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then return at the end of the day to answer the 2nd part, on identifying at least one positive thing about your day.

Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!

Look forward to reading your responses!

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  1. Brett says:

    I give a 7. love my personal life and what i have become! finally in my love the skin that i am in!!! love my personal life is the bomb! however my work life needs work! i need to find what it is that i shoudl be doing… maybe not on a full time basis even working on somthing in my home time that could generate extra income from doing somthing i love!

    Today i appreciate that i woke up to the birds and rain! gorgeous!!!

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  2. Asni says:

    I cannot think of any reason to be unhappy about. I would say the scale is quite high (a 9) but it may fluctuate one or two points on some days. On some days, it may even be a 10! :mrgreen: Happiness is not about laughing and rolling on your stomach, laughing out loud the whole day and grinning from ear to ear, etc.

    For me, it’s more of a feeling of being sufficient and being enough. Not only materially or physically, but also emotionally and spiritually. Whenever I feel my confidence slipping, I let my heart whisper to my brain, ” I am good enough. There’s nothing lacking. I can do it.”

    On some days when things don’t go according to plan, I may feel sad. But just for a short while. I have adopted the attitude of not to worry, of letting it flow. Even if I worry, it will happen or has happened so, worrying does not make any difference and will not help. Of course, I will try to find ways to overcome the challenge, to change it if I can or to accept it as it is. In circumstances where I cannot change it, this is when my faith plays a big part. I know this is His bigger and better plan for me and I humbly accept His decision. Of course, this has not always been so in my younger days. But time and experience has taught me some of these valuable life lessons and I am guided by them.

    Something positive about today: :dance:
    * The sun is shining bright today.
    * Arrived work on time even though I was running late.
    * The students are polite and greeted me with smiles and “good mornings.”

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    • Viraj says:

      Loads of positives!!!
      Impressed!!! ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) :)

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      • Asni says:

        Thanks! But I did go through a lot of dark period before this.

        Reading books/blogs or articles by Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Byron Katie, Celes – all help to give us ideas on happiness. As they all say, it’s inside us all the time – but you have to figure it out what that means!

        I want to share a great quote here by Esther Abraham-Hicks

        “Your life is right now.
        It’s not later.
        It’s not in that time of retirement.
        It’s not when the lover gets here.
        It’s not when you’ve moved into the new house.
        It’s not when you get the better job.
        Your life is right now.
        It will always be right now.
        You might as well decide to start enjoying your life right now,
        because it’s not ever going to get better than right now,
        until it gets better right now.”


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        • Viraj says:

          I will surely go through these blogs and understand them ( hopefully).
          :) :) :) :) :)

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        • Bette says:

          Thank you for all your words of sharing, Asni, enjoyed your posts. I LOVE the heart whispers to the brain, “I am good enough. There is nothing lacking. I can do it.” It is helpful for me to remind myself that I have everything I need, Within. And if there is an outer need, I can find a way to meet that need, or there is help available to meet that need. :angel: :D

          Yes, I recall thinking that when I lost weight, or when I graduated, or when I it was vacation time, or when someone ELSE would change (oooh, learned about that one! :rolleyes: ), when “whatever” I would THEN be happy! :rolleyes:

          It all was grist for the mill, and I am the sum total of all that experience and it has all brought me to realizing the wisdom of “Know Thyself” and “To thine own self be true”! :D

          What a beautiful thing to live fully right here, right now!
          Dorothy got it right when she discoverd that her heart’s desire was in her own backyard. :D :heart:
          Seems to me that what I often seek is the obvious thing that is right there in front of me! :rolleyes:

          Where will they never find it, someone said?….
          Right in their own heart!
          :D :heart: :heart: :heart: :D

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    • jazzbcn says:

      I like the way you think and your positivity. If you can help other people to be happy you’ll have a 10.

      All the best!

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    • Butterfly says:

      You are a great and positive being Asni! I feel lifted by your words already! Thank you!! :D

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  3. dr Anusuya says:

    I give myself 7/10.remaining 3 pending because,there
    is much to improve on my career side.I know that should not be a hinderance to
    my happiness.but till i feel,i will be much more happier if i work in a place of my choice.

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    • jazzbcn says:

      Maybe you just need to focus on the best parts of your job and enjoy, working can’t be a punishment. Don’t you think? :p

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  4. melissa says:

    I would have to say a 7 out of 10. Reason is because on most days I wake up knowing it will be a great day.

    Why I didn’t give myself a 10 is because of how I handle some sucky situations. Today for example. I was having a great day with my kids. The house was clean and we were going through toys deciding what we wanted to keep and donate. These are toys that have actually been stowed away in an extra closet. Turns out some of the wooden toys had mold on them. I wasn’t sure what all had mold. I started moving things around in the closet and got the familiar headache you can get from mold.

    That great mood quickly turned into super annoyed. What I am hoping to get from this is not only a more positive out look then I already have but to handle bad situations in a positive way. Positive in this particular situatuion is we have an ozone generator so mold is something we can easily handle since it can kill off the mold. Including mold we can’t see. I would rather focus my energy on finding a positive solution rather then immediately focusing on the negative.

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  5. iqbal shah says:


    IT IS TONIC ..

    I am glad to have my family supportive as usual,,

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  6. Ezza says:

    Firstly, I wish to congratulate everyone on stepping up, being honest and wanting to apart of this wonderful Positivity challenge. Thank you, Celes!

    Q: On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?
    I believe I am 5/10 happy or satisfied with life. I am only saying this because I am having an OK day. I am pacing myself and looking after my own interests. You can say I am having an OFF DAY. We all have them and today so happens to be mine. However, I am about an 7-8 on the scale and content with life but there is alot I am also unhappy about.

    Today, with the passive income I earnt today, I decided to take on my responsibility and replace my car tyres which needed to be replaced – $1150 for three new tyres and my Z4 is cheering and so is my stereo lol. :dance:

    And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin

    All the Best,
    Ezza :hug:

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  7. jadore says:

    I give myself a 6/10. I didn’t give myself a 10 because I’m going through some changes and some resistant to changes that I need to make that have made me question who I am and what my purpose is in life. I’m on the road towards personal development and fullfillment and that is why I have chosen to do this challenge. One thing that is positive about today is that I’m really starting to believe in the law of attraction. I went to bed last night thinking about something that would be helpful in my life and today it appeared in my life. Crazy but so positive. :))

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    • Asni says:

      Law of Attraction helped me a lot in how I view things and how to handle them. Very good for you! :clap:

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  8. Shing Huei says:

    On a scale of 1 – 10, I will give myself an 8 as to how happy I currently am.
    I am happy because I have too many things to be grateful for, my health, my supportive family and friends, my ability and freedom to do anything I like at any time I wish. I am blessed and no doubt loved. I am still breathing, still seeing, still exploring, what is there to not be content about?

    I do not give myself a 10 because I feel there are still uncertainties in life that sometimes when I think about I feel scared and worried. There are things and mistakes that I am still in the progress to amend. Other than that, I am pretty contented with my present life.

    As for one positive thing for the day, I am glad that I got to take a short nap in between classes and felt invigorated throughout the day, I made myself chicken rice with cheese and allowed myself to have some time to read and think. Simple stuffs, but I guess I am easily contented like that.

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  9. VickiB says:

    On a scale of 1 – 10, I am about a 7 or 8 in happiness.

    There are many positive things in my life — loving husband, work I enjoy, friends and family. There are also negatives, such as health problems.

    When I focus on the negatives, it is easy to become unhappy. Instead I usually choose to be proactive about them, to do what I can to live a good life in spite of them.

    What brings me down is not the big stuff that represents hardship, it’s the small things, like someone being rude. I’d like to be less sensitive to things like that!

    Today had a lot of positives in it: good food, time with people I enjoy being with, a massage, sunshine and mild temperatures, the beginning of a project, time at the bookstore…

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  10. Dilip Kumar says:

    Would rate the day 4/10. :(

    The life isn’t happening the way I dreamed about it. But then hey! that’s what they say about life. You come across many challenges… many obstacles. This is what which makes you feel more lively…. more adventurous. Isn’t it?

    -Trying to become Non-Veg ( which I guess is not going to happen)
    -Not doing well in Examz. ( I am not even trying hard, don’t know why :rolleyes: )
    -Trying to move on from my one sided love. (I have waited enough, now that’s enuf :angry: )

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  11. Scott1960 says:

    I’d say a 2 out of 10. Work sucks, I feel like I suck sometimes, I have clinical depression and suicidal thoughts. I hope this helps because I know I’m just trapped in my past.

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    • Celes says:

      Hi Scott, there is a second part to the daily tasks.

      “Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!”

      What is at least one positive thing about your day today?

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    • Bette says:

      But Scott, this is THE PRESENT…the.”NOW,” which is where we are RIGHT NOW. You have that “right now,” right here, right now, in the present moment.

      I heard, “Why do you think NOW is called “The Present.”?..
      .Because it’s a GIFT
      I am finding more and more that being in the present, staying in the moment, helps me get into action and solution for whatever is going on in my world, and dealing with just that.

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    • Asni says:

      When I was much younger, I almost wanted to do something drastic to myself. I felt unloved.

      Please reach out. You are not alone.


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  12. Jan says:

    On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you? And why?

    This is my first time participating in this so we’ll see how it goes. On the happiness scale, I am probably a 7/10. Why?? I am healthy. My family is healthy. I have great friends. I am in medical school, which is what I have always wanted to do. I am able to do the things that I love to do, go to the gym, play tennis, go diving etc and I am blessed with people to do them with.

    Why did you not give yourself a 10?

    Why not give myself a 10? Well, in order to proceed into my clinical rotations, I must pass a comprehensive examination. I have already taken it 2x and missed passing by 1 point both times. I try to stay positive. I try to think that being so close each time means that I should definitely pass the third time. We are only given 3 chances to pass the exam so the exam in May will be my last opportunity. Hopefully, all will go well. I just take comfort in that I know many people who also needed to take the exam and pass it on their 3rd attempt as well. Most of them passed on their 3rd attempt. Also, currently single, it’ll be nice to have someone in my life. But, I know that I have to pass my exam first.

    Identify at least one positive thing about your day.

    People keep on hitting my car while its parked so it is currently in the shop for a few days for repairs. A friend of mine texted me today to see if I needed to go anywhere and that she can take me. It made me smile. It felt nice to know someone’s thinking of you. Also, I’ve been spending about 10-12 hours studying per day. I therefore give myself a 1 1/2-hour break in the afternoon in which I play tennis. My backhand is definitely getting better.

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  13. Viraj says:

    It takes two to tango!
    Same is the case with happiness and positivism.
    If our inner soul is happy we are positive.
    To rate myself on a scale of ten I would give myself 8!
    I am a big optimist.
    Rather say I live a life that is positive and happy.
    Being happy for me is not about being with happy people or in happy surroundings…
    Happiness is the state of PERSONAL mental happiness.
    I have shouted out the word “PERSONAL” because according to my observation I believe that when a person is happy in himself, the sadness and negativity around doesn’t matter…
    When a person is in a state of Personal mental happiness he rejoices and lives each and every second of his life.
    That’s the case with my life…
    I a never care what are the people around me like. I cannot change them or their thoughts and the same is with them, ie: They cannot change my thoughts or me….
    The simple way to a happy life is to be Happy now…

    Now let me answer the question you are asking me ” Why then I didn’t give myself a perfect ten.”

    The reason is that I have purposely left some place for the sadness that comes hand in hand with experiences that try to ruin your life. Sadness is something that earns me an experience, a message, a profit that edifies my soul to get in the right direction.
    The sadness that dwells into me is the a positive sign for me because it helps me to be open to other positives.

    I keep an area where I am sad so that I can learn from it.

    “The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.”
    - W.M LEWIS

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    • Viraj says:

      The positives of today:
      I am happy that in through this task set up by Celes.
      I am happy that enjoying this second.
      I am happy that you’re noticing my reply.
      I am happy that you are laughing right now.
      I am happy that you are happy.
      I am happy that you want to gain positivism.
      I am happy that you follow this website.
      I am happy because I am happy.
      I am happy that I am alive today.
      I am happy that I am alright now.
      I am happy that I am on the computer.
      I am happy as I am in love.
      I am happy I have many friends.
      I am happy because it is this happiness that is bringing the positivism in me.
      I am happy as I am an optimist !!!!!!!!!!!! :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: ;)

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    • Bette says:

      Glad to come across your post as I am gearing up to post my Day One comment. (Different time zones..but I think I am going to jump ahead at some point (like today is my Day One, March 1st, yet I feel so behind with posting on page 12! and there are already a bunch of comments for Day Two.) What an excellent, popular challenge this is already! :D

      I love your post…it sounds like we are on the same page, Viraj, when you speak about everyone having their own thoughts, and only the person who has the thoughts can alter those thoughts…and especially when I read:

      “The simple way to a happy life is to be Happy now…”!

      I truly resonate with that. What good is WAITING to be happy?! The p-u-r-s-u-i-t of happiness? What about being happy now, right? I would have been better off had I truly realized that a long time ago…but it took what it took to get to where I am today, which I have come to realize is the best day… today, TODAY, this moment is the best moment on the best day! It’s always about the best moment, the best day, NOW, TODAY!
      (I’ve had some great, fond moments in my life, but it’ll stop there-unless i just live in the past :(, if I am not in THIS moment, fully alive, ready to create anew!)

      Which lead ]s me to your very interesting statement/insight:

      “Sadness is something that earns me an experience, a message, a profit that edifies my soul to get in the right direction.”

      Wow, Viraj, that is a wow moment for me! That is really transforming. Take sadness and listen to the message that the feeling of sadness has brought. It could be new and important information to consider. Not bad, just sad. Not bad, just frustration, etc. Everything just is what it is, isn’t it? Then what/how we think about it, what we do about “whatever” is what makes us “us.”

      Thank you for being hre and for sharing your wise and insightful thoughts! :D

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      • Viraj Patel says:

        Hey I wouldn’t say thanks but my little way of appreciating is by making friends…
        If you are so much attracted to my thoughts we can be good friends would you mind dropping a mail at selfrealization95@yahoo.com :dance: so that I can communicate with you further…
        And hey have more to talk with you just drop in a mail :dance: !!!

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  14. Peggy says:

    I would have to give myself a happiness score of 8/10. I have a loving family,enough food, and a warm home. One of the things I struggle with is an adult child that has returned home bringing an addiction problem with him. We will overcome this together! One positve thing today was an unexpected visit from my 5 yr old granddaughter, she is very cool!

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  15. Vasundhara says:

    How happy I am and why?
    I am happy because my parents have given me good health, education and taught me values of life. Secondly I have been gifted with such a good husband who is fully emerged with positivity which helps me to guide through my tough times and he is also a humorous guy which comforts me to get rid of stress time :D :)
    Reason for not giving 10/10
    I can give a rating of 6.5 to 7 out of 10 to myself as I need to still work on few characters like Accepting the person as they are, Not complaining, Not blaming others.
    Last but least I am currently looking for a job change which suits to my profession. Right now only this thing is bothering. Looking forward for worthy change in my career :)
    One Positive thing about the day
    Because of celes question I had an opportunity to think about the positive aspects in my life, because there is lot of people out there in the world without having even the basic amenities. This in turn motivated me stay positive thorough out the day and also made me to visualize how will I look if I consciously put more efforts to work on the positivity and the other characters which I have stated above which might in turn will help me to achieve the IDEAL VASUNDHARA !!! ;) :D :)

    Thank you So much Celes for the beautiful and thought provoking question on the first day of DPC itself. Looking forward for the coming POSITIVE days….. :) :)

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