21DPC Day 1 – On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?

This is Day 1 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC) for Mar 2012. View all posts made during the challenge: 21DPC Overview.

21-Day Positivity Challenge for March 2012!

Hello everyone, and welcome to Day 1 of 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC)!! :D :dance:

We have over *300* official participants with us now!! Are we in for a month of positivity or WHAT??? :D

To all of you who have duly signed up and helped spread the word to your social networks (or even via blogging about it, for those of you bloggers out there!), thank you. The challenge can only be a success through our collective efforts. The more people sign on to 21DPC, the better it will be for everyone, because hey – that means even more positive energy to go around. :D There is never a limit to how much positive energy there can be – abundance has no lmits.

For those of you whose friends / family read your message and decided to join in on 21DPC too, that’s fabulous. PE Challenges are always particularly fun when you get to do it with someone you know! You can keep each other accountable and learn more about each other in the process.

If you are doing it by yourself, not to fret. We have over 300 official participants here with us for 21DPC, and we’re definitely going to get more people joining us over the next few days before I close the sign ups. In the course of these 21 days, all of us will be doing 21DPC together as one, reflecting on the daily questions, sharing our answers in the comments section of the daily posts, and engaging each other in meaningful discussions.

This is a challenge to be done together as a community, as a group, as one Personal Excellence family, which is really the reason why PE is even here. So do not be afraid to share your answers openly and be fully honest with yourself here. There is no judgment here; anyone who tries to do that will be promptly barred from the site. The .co in the PE domain represents community, not individuality- always remember that whenever you come here to the site.

Important: Sign Up First Before Reading Any Further

If you’re new to 21-Day Positivity Challenge, or you have not signed up yet (your name should be in the official participants list), please read the announcement post and sign up first before going any further: 21-Day Positivity Challenge. All details on the challenge, what to expect, and how to sign up can be found at the post.

If you have already duly completed the 3 sign up steps, your name will be added in the next 36 hours. ♥ Thank you!

Update March 5: Sign ups are now closed now – thanks everyone for your amazing response! For those who didn’t get to sign up - you are more than welcome to participate and join us in the daily threads!

What To Expect for the Next 21 Days

1. Positivity Question

Changing Your Life, Starting From Your Thoughts

As you have read in the announcement post, I will be assigning you a positivity question every day, for the next 21 days.

The question may be simple, like asking “What is your favorite movie?” to something deeper, like “What is 1 positive thing you can share about your least favorite person?” There are days when there will be 2-3 questions combined into 1 (for example, today’s question) – you are expected to answer all the questions, and not just answer the first one and skip the rest.

The idea is to cultivate positivity in your life, via working on the root of it all – our thoughts. Asking ourselves the right questions will help us think in the right manner. And from there, the right actions, habits, and behavior will follow suit. As the saying goes:

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” – Anonymous

Your Honesty Required

My request to you is to be as completely honest with yourself in answering the questions. Because the more honest you are, the more insights you will unveil, the more you will grow. Think of it as it you’re in a dark room alone, by yourself, and there’s no one there to listen, comment, or judge. What is the first thing that comes to mind? What would be your most truthful response to the question?

This challenge is not about sugar-coated answers and creating an illusion of happiness and positivity to everyone out there. You are probably kidding yourself if you think we’ll be jumping around in these 21 days, skipping merrily, laughing like little kids and forcing ourselves to smile every day.

Don’t feel that there’s a need for you to write something positive just because this is a positivity challenge, because that’s totally untrue. As I shared in Principle #1 of How To Be Happy, part of being happy / positive includes airing out grievances, unhappiness, frustrations, anger, sadness, disappointment, etc inside of you – whatever they may be. These (negative) energies, when unaired, are merely *stuck* in your consciousness, with nowhere else to go.

In the end, they end up affecting you on a subconscious level, in more ways than you can imagine. The more (unhappiness) you release  through your answers in 21DPC (in a constructive manner, of course), the more happiness can flow your way.

2. Positivity Task

Most of the days will have a positivity task assigned. This task is linked to the day’s question, and usually comprises of a simple action that can be done on the day itself. Do complete the task as part of your 21DPC participation.

3. Positive Thing For the Day

Last but not least, you are to identify at least 1 positive thing that you got out of the day, for every day of 21DPC. If you can identify more than 1, that’s even better! The more the better! :D

Sharing To Help Yourself and Help Others

As with every challenge, I highly recommend you share your responses in the comments section of the daily posts with the other participants, to get the most out of your 21DPC experience.

If you’re not comfortable sharing your answers under your usual name/nick on PE, then create some fake, random nick (so no one will know it’s you) and post your answers under that nick (for the remainder of 21DPC, if you want). Replace others’ names (if any) in your answers with fake nicks as well. There is always something powerful about transparently writing your thoughts out there in the open, vs. keeping it to yourself in your little book.

Besides, do not underestimate the change you can make in others’ lives just by sharing your answers here. After all, have you not benefited in the past from reading honest sharings by others, be it on Personal Excellence, or on other websites? What would the world be if no one wants to share? Think about the people out there you can effect. By helping others, you are also helping yourself.

21DPC Day 1 Question

Given that this is a positivity challenge, for Day 1 today, I want you to think about how happy you are. Not just today, but as a person.

On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?

On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You?

Share as much as you want in your answers, from a few words to a few pages long. Be honest as you can. Answer both questions, and not just the first question.

And if you did not give yourself a 10/10 for your score, I have one additional question for you:

Why Did You Not Give Yourself a 10/10?

Again, be completely honest in your response. There is no judgment here at PE. Only positivity and love.

While we’re on the topic of happiness, be sure to check out the related articles on how to achieve happiness (or unhappiness, as per the second article) at PE:

  1. How To Be Happy: 10 Timeless Principles for Lasting Happiness
  2. Are You as Happy as You Can Be? 10 Surefire Ways To Be Unhappy in Life

…and the manifesto versions:

  1. [Manifesto] 10 Timeless Principles For Lasting Happiness
  2. [Manifesto] 10 Surefire Ways To Achieve Unhappiness

Your Tasks Today

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express your thoughts. There is no word limit.
  2. Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!

Share Your Answers!

After you are done, share your answers in the comments area!

If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then return at the end of the day to answer the 2nd part, on identifying at least one positive thing about your day.

Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!

Look forward to reading your responses!

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  1. Wendy says:

    Im fairly happy most days about 6 out of 10 but would like to work on getting this higher every day. I went for a great walk near the beach today which was positive and cleaned up the house and continues to sort out draws and almost finished a tapestry that i have been working on for years so that is a very big positive.cheers

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  2. Upasana Chaddha says:

    On a scale of 1 to 10 , I would give myself an 8 on 10. Though I really don’t think I have a reason to deduct those 2 points. But I am a stingy person I believe… So probably that’s in my nature!! Well an 8 on 10 cos am blessed with immensely awesome parents in the world who are there by my side and have provided me with loads of love. Have a beautiful little pet around who spreads happiness around by her cuteness and love. A good decent respectable job, though am not tooo happy with the amount of money I make , but it aint bad either. have great friends, good health and moreover have not been deprived of happiness ever. I always have reasons to be happy. So at the end of this I guess i would say a 9 on 10. why not a 10.. cause i ll work on the ‘money’ part of my job!!

    I strongly believe … Happiness is a state that you create… whether you have something with you or not.. you can always be happy irrespective of what you want from your life at any given moment! Deprivation of something necessarily doesn’t takes away our right to be happy about what we already have! :D :D

    One positive thing about the day.. I had an awesome sunday! relaxed and watched movies!

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  3. Divya says:

    (1)Well on scale of 10, I would like to rate my happiness as 8. I am going through a mixed state of feelings, which is eventually causing me lot of mood-swings but the good part is I am aware about my mental state and thought & thanks to Celes’s 7-part blogs on life-purpose, I have started pondering on everything before accepting them. This is helping me to understand a lot about myself and esp, about my likes. Prior to putting myself to this self-contemplation mode, I was always confused about myself in fact for a very longtime I did not see a break through in self-awareness journey in spite of doing meditation regularly but that simple closing sentence of Celes in the 7th part reminded me of my teacher words – ” Get your answers from within then check what the external sources have got to say! ” just changed my life :dance: . Not only this, I remember trying the Steve Pavlina exercise that was mentioned by Celes for finding out life-purpose but don’t know why I didn’t get the answer but this time the answer just came to me and yes I am definitely high on life :angel: ! And it is strange as I am coming closer towards the end my comment, I am feeling much better, infact I just changed my happiness scale to 8 from 6.5. Cool ya :clap: . (2) Well I am not 10/10 happy right now because like I expressed in the beginning of comment I am going through these mood-swings when I feel so dissatisfied with people, things & life around me. Also, there is so much of self-grooming that I have to do that it is just making me sad :( ..I guess that is why I am not happy besides the kind of negative person I am, I know I will need more grooming to learn to be happy in life.

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  4. Kirsten says:

    I would rate myself 7/10 at this moment in my life, as I have been going through some tough times. I find that happiness in myself has been lacking. I also find that I have been rather negative and emotionally and mentally drained. I am happy in my relationships but not happy with myself. if that makes any sense. Which is the reason that I am doing this challenge as I want to change.

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  5. Pratik says:

    I would rate myself as 5 out of 10 because I am clear about my purpose, its ‘Richness in life’. Richness means to me as bringing awareness in every aspect of my life and things that are connect to me. I choose to be more and more conscious.
    But, my subconcious mind stop me by taking actions in opposite direction.
    I rated myself low because more I try to come out of problem, more deeper I get in. I read lots of positive things but implement less. Currently, I am trying to overcome my viewing porn and masturbation problem. Also, being an student my exams are in May’12 so I am simultaneously preparing for it. I having decided to excel in exams but I am lacking in continuous concentration due to above problem. I controlled them for maximum for 18 days and I thought I had good control over it and it keeps coming back.

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  6. pinkie says:

    i am happy because i have my daughter who is healthy and growing well. i have a job tha can provide for her,im just happy to have her in my life…. :hug:

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  7. Pratik says:

    I didn’t gave myself 10/10 because:
    1. I don’t have support system to guide me through my life.
    2. There is wide gap between in relationship with my parents, siblings & friends.
    3. I could not share myself.
    4. If I ask for some advice from my parents, I get it defensive advice.
    5. I put myself on defensive mode.
    6. I listen to people.
    7. I don’t take actions which I am capable of.
    8. I didn’t express my feelings to girl which I loved. I said, I like u but I don’t love you. I said to her because of fear about my past and I am no were in my career. I thought I could not handled her. I was again worried about people around me, what they say when I they abt my relationship. I was worried abt how her and mine parents will react. I was worried how she will react. I told her I would like to express my each and every feeling to anyone I meet in this world and you are the first one. She didn’t have any reply to my words and I said, its fine.
    9. I don’t take actions so I am not able to balance.
    10. When I prepare my schedule, I am not able to follow it. Real Instance: I have exams from 2nd May’12 but I am ot able to follow my schedule, so I have to leave the subject and go to the next one.
    11. The positive I have is I have never lost hope, I know I do wrong or have done wrong still I say I have to come over it, I have to change it. However, my inaction, doubts and confusing mind don’t help me to sort out my problem.
    12. Any of my friends, relatives and parents don’t I have joined such a program. I don’t what I friends and relatives think but if my parents come to know they will say to me its not the right time to do this you priority is to go for your upcoming exams or critise me.
    13. I advice people right but when it comes to follow my advice I seldom do it.
    14. I tell not to worry and I am worried always.
    15. I try to work hard on myself but still I reach nowhere.
    16. While writing this also I am worried what reader will feel ‘that he messed up his life’ but still I would like to write it down because I know that I can chane it.
    17. If some one advice me, I get irritated in my mind but I don’t express it.
    18. I don’t express my expressions and feelings I keep it in my mind and I eel frustated and angry with myself on unable to express.
    21. While doing tasks, if some calls me may be it anybody I feel disturbed.
    22. If some one asks me for help, I feel disturbed.
    23. When it comes to religion it again disturbs me because I feel I am losing myself in this fight between gods.

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  8. topazdiva says:

    On a scale of 1-10 I would say I am a 6. I do believe that happiness is a state that ebbs and flows based on events and my response to those events. I have faced and I am facing a few challenges, financially, health-wise, being overweight and single. I am trying to deal with things and trying to set some new goals in my life. But I often find myself in the dumps(especially about the financial situation). My life is not the worse by no means. I am blessed and grateful for my children, being alive to see them grow up and becoming the young ladies that they are. I want to feel better about my happiness. But I have to admit that I am struggling. Lots of worries and concerns. But I have gotten through things before and I know if I trust God I will get through this period of my life ;)

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  9. LJ says:

    My current level of happiness is 5/10. I have am going through a painful break up (5 year relationship). It’s hard letting go esp when you’ve been through a lot with your partner and you’ve tried your best to make it work. But relationships require both people to help make it work. Also, my finances are really tight and every day I work up with anxiety and heart ache. Not knowing what my future holds for me. I am in a town specifically to pursue my dreams and sometimes challenges and obstacles make u so burden you ask yourself why am I fighting so hard for this dream, but at the end of the day, my heart will never let me give up on my dream no matter what the obstacle. I wish everything didn’t seem to be going wrong at the same time for me. For example if my career was doing well, at least I would have something to look for with too…but with me feeling my career is in a rut and my relationship coming to an end, and me having financial problems, it just seems all to overwhelming. Hence my 5/10.

    Positive moment of the day: I had an interview a friend referred me to. Fingers crossed.

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    • Roses says:

      Hi LJ good luck with your interview! I am in a similar situation having finally ended my 6 year relationship for good, which was harder as we have a child. Have you considered counselling? I know your finances haven’t been good but this might be a possibility. I am attending a session later today to help me deal with the split. All the best for this challenge! :)

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  10. jT says:

    On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you? and why?
    7/10, because I have friends and my girlfriend whom I can share my hobbies, interests, and stories. I’m happy when I am around them because they are the people that I am most comfortable with. I also enjoy my bonding time with them because of the sudden cheerful atmosphere that I have when I see or hang out with them.

    Why did you not give yourself a 10/10?
    Because I’m not perfectly happy. I don’t fully tell my problems and true emotions to anyone and have the tendency to bottle them up inside me. Especially if my mother or girlfriend asks me if I have a problem, I just say that there isn’t (when there really is). I don’t state my own opinions that I really want to say or share, then I regret them later if a certain event is already finished. This is also similar if I wanted to do something. I feel depressed especially if there are things that I have done in the past that I can’t really change and go back into anymore. I am also unhappy when I compare myself to others because of the material things that they have or the achievements they have accomplished.

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    • jT says:

      Another reason why I’m happy is because of people and dogs who are in a good mood or playful, especially my niece when he is happily playing around with me.

      If I worry too much and create negative situations in my head, it makes me sad. I’m disappointed when I have huge expectations on things or a person then nothing happens.

      Positive thing for the day
      I successfully finished the 1st day of my new workout.

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  11. Theresa says:


    I am blessed to be alive, blessed to be healthy, with my right mind. I have a job, i’m able to care for myself, I love the Lord, I love myself and I have a great family who loves me also!

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  12. TSK. Raman says:

    To score an absolute 10/10 for happiness, in my opinion to be truly happy you must be a child, knows nothing yet, lives a live taken care of by someone else, or if you are an adult you must be mad (literally mentally deranged), because you may not know what’s happening around you as you would be in a world of your own. I don’t mean to hurt people who suffer from madness.

    As for me I can only thank the almighty for the happiness he has bestwoed on me. Though the term happiness is relative, on most accounts I can claim to have a 9/10. I must add that within the four walls of our home we get a 10/10, and just within me I can claim a 10/10, however the moment we step out of the house the happiness of those around us, the pains, the problems etc., of the others makes us a little unhappy. When you try brining in order outside yourself or outside your house, you need to take on others with their thoughts egos etc., which is what makes us slightly unhappy as each has their agenda and their definition of happiness, which may or may not coincide with ours. To strive will be the endeavour, else not to reduce on our happiness is the next best option.

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