21DPC Day 1 – On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?

This is Day 1 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC) for Mar 2012. View all posts made during the challenge: 21DPC Overview.

21-Day Positivity Challenge for March 2012!

Hello everyone, and welcome to Day 1 of 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC)!! :D :dance:

We have over *300* official participants with us now!! Are we in for a month of positivity or WHAT??? :D

To all of you who have duly signed up and helped spread the word to your social networks (or even via blogging about it, for those of you bloggers out there!), thank you. The challenge can only be a success through our collective efforts. The more people sign on to 21DPC, the better it will be for everyone, because hey – that means even more positive energy to go around. :D There is never a limit to how much positive energy there can be – abundance has no lmits.

For those of you whose friends / family read your message and decided to join in on 21DPC too, that’s fabulous. PE Challenges are always particularly fun when you get to do it with someone you know! You can keep each other accountable and learn more about each other in the process.

If you are doing it by yourself, not to fret. We have over 300 official participants here with us for 21DPC, and we’re definitely going to get more people joining us over the next few days before I close the sign ups. In the course of these 21 days, all of us will be doing 21DPC together as one, reflecting on the daily questions, sharing our answers in the comments section of the daily posts, and engaging each other in meaningful discussions.

This is a challenge to be done together as a community, as a group, as one Personal Excellence family, which is really the reason why PE is even here. So do not be afraid to share your answers openly and be fully honest with yourself here. There is no judgment here; anyone who tries to do that will be promptly barred from the site. The .co in the PE domain represents community, not individuality- always remember that whenever you come here to the site.

Important: Sign Up First Before Reading Any Further

If you’re new to 21-Day Positivity Challenge, or you have not signed up yet (your name should be in the official participants list), please read the announcement post and sign up first before going any further: 21-Day Positivity Challenge. All details on the challenge, what to expect, and how to sign up can be found at the post.

If you have already duly completed the 3 sign up steps, your name will be added in the next 36 hours. ♥ Thank you!

Update March 5: Sign ups are now closed now – thanks everyone for your amazing response! For those who didn’t get to sign up - you are more than welcome to participate and join us in the daily threads!

What To Expect for the Next 21 Days

1. Positivity Question

Changing Your Life, Starting From Your Thoughts

As you have read in the announcement post, I will be assigning you a positivity question every day, for the next 21 days.

The question may be simple, like asking “What is your favorite movie?” to something deeper, like “What is 1 positive thing you can share about your least favorite person?” There are days when there will be 2-3 questions combined into 1 (for example, today’s question) – you are expected to answer all the questions, and not just answer the first one and skip the rest.

The idea is to cultivate positivity in your life, via working on the root of it all – our thoughts. Asking ourselves the right questions will help us think in the right manner. And from there, the right actions, habits, and behavior will follow suit. As the saying goes:

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” – Anonymous

Your Honesty Required

My request to you is to be as completely honest with yourself in answering the questions. Because the more honest you are, the more insights you will unveil, the more you will grow. Think of it as it you’re in a dark room alone, by yourself, and there’s no one there to listen, comment, or judge. What is the first thing that comes to mind? What would be your most truthful response to the question?

This challenge is not about sugar-coated answers and creating an illusion of happiness and positivity to everyone out there. You are probably kidding yourself if you think we’ll be jumping around in these 21 days, skipping merrily, laughing like little kids and forcing ourselves to smile every day.

Don’t feel that there’s a need for you to write something positive just because this is a positivity challenge, because that’s totally untrue. As I shared in Principle #1 of How To Be Happy, part of being happy / positive includes airing out grievances, unhappiness, frustrations, anger, sadness, disappointment, etc inside of you – whatever they may be. These (negative) energies, when unaired, are merely *stuck* in your consciousness, with nowhere else to go.

In the end, they end up affecting you on a subconscious level, in more ways than you can imagine. The more (unhappiness) you release  through your answers in 21DPC (in a constructive manner, of course), the more happiness can flow your way.

2. Positivity Task

Most of the days will have a positivity task assigned. This task is linked to the day’s question, and usually comprises of a simple action that can be done on the day itself. Do complete the task as part of your 21DPC participation.

3. Positive Thing For the Day

Last but not least, you are to identify at least 1 positive thing that you got out of the day, for every day of 21DPC. If you can identify more than 1, that’s even better! The more the better! :D

Sharing To Help Yourself and Help Others

As with every challenge, I highly recommend you share your responses in the comments section of the daily posts with the other participants, to get the most out of your 21DPC experience.

If you’re not comfortable sharing your answers under your usual name/nick on PE, then create some fake, random nick (so no one will know it’s you) and post your answers under that nick (for the remainder of 21DPC, if you want). Replace others’ names (if any) in your answers with fake nicks as well. There is always something powerful about transparently writing your thoughts out there in the open, vs. keeping it to yourself in your little book.

Besides, do not underestimate the change you can make in others’ lives just by sharing your answers here. After all, have you not benefited in the past from reading honest sharings by others, be it on Personal Excellence, or on other websites? What would the world be if no one wants to share? Think about the people out there you can effect. By helping others, you are also helping yourself.

21DPC Day 1 Question

Given that this is a positivity challenge, for Day 1 today, I want you to think about how happy you are. Not just today, but as a person.

On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?

On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You?

Share as much as you want in your answers, from a few words to a few pages long. Be honest as you can. Answer both questions, and not just the first question.

And if you did not give yourself a 10/10 for your score, I have one additional question for you:

Why Did You Not Give Yourself a 10/10?

Again, be completely honest in your response. There is no judgment here at PE. Only positivity and love.

While we’re on the topic of happiness, be sure to check out the related articles on how to achieve happiness (or unhappiness, as per the second article) at PE:

  1. How To Be Happy: 10 Timeless Principles for Lasting Happiness
  2. Are You as Happy as You Can Be? 10 Surefire Ways To Be Unhappy in Life

…and the manifesto versions:

  1. [Manifesto] 10 Timeless Principles For Lasting Happiness
  2. [Manifesto] 10 Surefire Ways To Achieve Unhappiness

Your Tasks Today

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express your thoughts. There is no word limit.
  2. Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!

Share Your Answers!

After you are done, share your answers in the comments area!

If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then return at the end of the day to answer the 2nd part, on identifying at least one positive thing about your day.

Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!

Look forward to reading your responses!

Image: Grass

Email This Post Email This Post

« [Sign Ups Closed] All-New 21-Day Positivity Challenge for March!! Sign Up Here!!

21DPC Day 2 – Who is One Friend You Appreciate Having? And Why? »

456 Responses | Share Your Results!

  1. Sam says:

    I would rate my overall happiness at around a 6 or 7. I do have a lot to be thankful for including a family, amazing best friend (s), a wonderful boyfriend, a great education (I am in college), and so much more. However, there are many things that I still need to work on personally. I need to take the time to focus on my growth as a person and make sure I am on the right track to reaching my goals for the future.

    As for a good thing that has happened to me today, I got to spend time with my wonderful boyfriend this morning ( I know it might sound corny but he makes me happy!)

    Like: Thumb up +1

  2. Nimi says:

    Why? Because thats the first number that came into my head and i think that means something!
    I think its a fair number! The list of things that i’m happy for keeps growing everyday!! :)
    The top things on the list would be –
    A loving and caring family
    Loving friends
    Dream Job
    Good and healthy body!


    Like: Thumb up +1

    • Nimi says:

      Oops! Forgot about the good thing today!
      There are 3 major things :D
      - I got a lot of good comments from my lead at work, saying i was doing a better job than expected and he’s very happy for training me!
      - My friend thanked me for helping her to stay motivated and inspired!
      - My boyfriend told me he was glad to have me :D

      Like: Thumb up +1

    • joyce r says:

      you have a great attitude! those are all excellent reasons to be happy and feel blessed and i like that you are thinking realistically and positively about growing your list of reasons to be happy. :clap:

      the three good things that happened are proof that you are doing the right thing in helping others to be happy. i read on the happiness project blog that one of the ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy! awesome job nimi! :angel:

      Like: Thumb up +1

  3. Francine says:

    8.5/10 – learning to have a stronger more rewarding experience wth myself and express gratitude daily in a journal

    Like: Thumb up +1

  4. suz says:

    Wow, just reading thru some of the other responses! This is so exciting : )

    So, I have to rate my happiness at a 9.5/10 today! I have so many positive things in my life and to be happy and thankful about!

    On my list:

    1. I don’t really have to worry about money. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t make or have a lot of money, but I live a very simple life that doesn’t require a lot!

    2. I love love love everything about nature and being outside! Almost everything I do for fun involves being outside, it is my passion. What do I do outside? Bike ride, kayak, walk, snowshoe, cross country ski, birding, daydreaming, etc etc etc : )

    3. I share my life with a wonderful man who also has the same passions.

    So why am I not a perfect 10? I am being impatient today about a job situation! I used to constantly be looking forward to the next thing, instead of enjoying where I was at. Sometimes I slip back into this mode…but just thinking about it and writing about it has already made me realize “stop stressing and live in the moment”!!!

    Hope you all have a wonderful day, and I look forward to reading your posts : )

    Like: Thumb up +1

    • joyce r says:

      :hug: hi suz! i am inspired by your happiness! i loved reading your reasons to be happy and thankful for. being outside does do wonders for your emotional state of mind, i agree! and of course, sharing your life with a wonderful man is awesome! good luck on your job situation and i’m sure you will do great! have an awesome day! :hug:

      Like: Thumb up +1

  5. Joan M. says:

    For me it’d be a 7.5 out of 10, I think. Sometimes I act selfishly, and most of the times I wish that every relationship of mine – be it a friendly, family or romantic one – has a special something that nobody else has; I am kind of insecure because of how I look, and I think that definitely translates into how I act and what I want.

    But I’m also very optimistic and I try not to let things get me down :D

    Good thing about today? Where I live March 1st is the start of Spring, and we celebrate it by giving each other little pendants/gifts adorned with red and white string. It is a very subtle thing, but everybody is just that bit happier. I received a lot of gifts, chocolates and flowers, but more importantly, I offered cake & cookies to everyone I saw today – and the happy look on their faces was well worth it.

    Hope everybody is doing fine!

    Like: Thumb up +2

    • Bette says:

      Hey Joan, I like the way you celebrate Spring! Sounds very festive, the red and white string, etc., and the happy gifts…hmmm, perhaps I could start up little, meaningful celebrations like that! Where does this celebration take place?…a certain community or city or is it a family tradition?
      I like celebrating! :dance: And anyway, I can create my own little celebrations and festivities, right? :D
      You got me to thinkin’, Joan…I feel happy imagining what could be, and then bringing it about!
      Thanks for mentioning the March 1st…
      And continue enjoying your optimism and b happy! :D

      Like: Thumb up +1

  6. Bette says:


    Hi All, “out there in the wild blue of cyberspace!”
    Already I feel challenged! Celes’ questions always make me think!

    Abraham Lincoln said, “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

    That quote speaks volumes to me. As a state of mind, I am happy. That happiness is an inside job. It is a PROFOUND REMEMBERING of who, really, I AM. Happy on that level of being, a state of mind, my INNER world, is a perfect 10. Well, actually it would be off the charts really, wouldn’t it, since Higher Mind, One’s Highest Self, Spirit is perfect and just “IS.” In my INNER world, I am complete and whole in the awareness of being part of “Something Greater.” That is my Divine birthright, wherein I already have all the treasures, all the happiness within me. My Deepest and Greater Mind, my Highest Self is the foundation under my feet, it is in the air around me, it is the spirit of generosity that enfolds me. It is my very breath that animates my body. It is in my heart and soul, my spirit, my blood, my bones.
    It is There where being essentially happy, deeply happy, (JOYOUS) is a given. :heart:

    How well do I remember, access, and manifest that natural state of happiness on a daily basis can be another matter. Landing what I THINK into my ACTIONS.

    Do I have goals to realize and things to accomplish that would increase the quality of my life and how I feel about my body and how fulfilled I am feeling with accomplishing my goals, living my best life with passion, and making my dreams come true, on all levels of my being?
    YES,YES, and YES!, I surely do!

    Here and now, if I were to measure happiness BASED ON my having reached certain goals, ( re health/fitness, writing/publishing book(s), travel, relationships, fully downsizing and relocating to/having a home in one place/ finances), I would rate being happy at about a 5, since I am in a process of realizing my goals and dreams, on many levels of my being and in my life. BUT SINCE I HAVE MADE A DECISION TO BE HAPPY, and am ALREADY happy, I don’t need to reach the finish line to be happy! To know and access that happy state of Mind, regardless of circumstance, I have come to realize that HAPPY is just an “IS,”! So the 5 is really about if my goals that I have set and am aiming for have been met, reaching the goal line (the “finish”/”beginning”line), and it is not about measuring how happy I am at all!

    I accept I am where I am, and yet, I am focused on, and in the process of improving various areas of my life. I am SOO happy about that! :dance: And I feel whole and complete and perfectly happy right now in my Mind. :D I MUST NOT WAIT TO BE HAPPY! While I am in process of achieving goals that will improve the quality of my life, I am happy. :D My being happy does not depend on my reaching goals and dreams. As I reach those goals and dreams, I see life as sweeter for me, enjoying myself more fully as a human with a body here to fulfill a destiny, but nothing guarantees that reaching my goals and dreams will bring happiness with those achievements!

    When I tap into the indwelling treasures, when I realize and when I focus on and manifest from That Place Within, that is the most important thing to remember. To realize, that it is all there, just waiting for me to call upon my Inner Wisdom. It is up to me to draw upon my treasure trove within and manifest my goals and dreams come true. Choosing to be happy taps me into even more happiness, which energizes me, and gives a good energy to anything I think or do! :dance: What I think about expands!

    I am pursuing my goals and dreams, but I am not “pursuing” happiness. Happiness is not out “there” in the world. Happiness is the butterfly that has formed from the cocoon stage that I find myself being in, throughout many different stages of my life. Happiness is an inner awareness of the treasure trove within. The cocoon stage and the butterfly potential are both there, within. I am happy HERE and NOW in the eternal moment of the present moment, but in the meantime… I, in my acceptance of who, really, I am and what is true Reality, am truly happy, peaceful, content RIGHT NOW. :D In the meantime, I set goals, take action, visualize, and go within to realize those goals that I see as making my life sweeter, as well as those I am close with and with those I meet along life’s journey. :heart:

    P.S. Overheard:
    Why do they call “right now” “The Present”?
    Because it is a gift.

    P.P.S. “Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.”
    (Albert Schweitzer cracks me up!!!)

    When I went for my swim, the ocean was a bit chilly, and rough, and I was feeling low energy. I told myself:


    I was able to pick up speed, swim stronger, and felt more energy, and swam strong for one hour!!! YAY!
    :dance: :D :heart: I felt SOOO good after my swim, and even DURING my swim (even though I had had my doubts about how long I could stay in the ocean and do my workout!)

    Like: Thumb up +1

  7. Matt says:

    How happy am.I on a 1-10 scale?,/b>


    I think I could easily let myself be more happy. More joyful and grateful. I could have more fun and experience more life than I have in the past.

    Why did I not give myself a 10/10

    I think I haven’t allowed myself to feel happy. I have looked to the future and thought I need to accomplish more and be more before I can let myself smile and enjoy life. I have been getting over that feeling a lot lately.

    I think I have handled my emotions really well so far this year. I have been actively taking time to feel grateful and getting myself out of negative states when I feel down. It’s not that I never feel bummed out now but the time I spend feeling bummed out is significantly less than was only 6 months ago.

    What is 1 positive thing that happened to me today?

    I didn’t need a heavy jacket when I went for a walk this morning. I’m glad the weather is warming up. Spring is coming!

    Like: Thumb up +1

    • Amber says:

      It’s good to see that you are actively trying to see the good in life. I feel like I could take a cue from you and it would help boost me as well. It just has gotten to feel so natural to either feel negative or have no emotional response to the things that are going on around me. It gives me hope to see that changing your mindset to allow you to be happy has helped improve your life.

      Like: Thumb up +1

  8. actually – for me – the best way to be happy , is to make someone happy , to draw a nice smile on people’s face . when i do so , i feel that i’ve a great joy specially if i do this with someone i love .

    -Day 1 Question

    in life i’m trying to get the best degree of happiness , it’s not easy but as i said i’m still trying .

    no pain no gain , that’s a truth we all should know beside this truth there’s another good one , “everything is gone ” so how hard was it . the whole thing depends on how we deal with the pain itself & it’s reasons .

    happiness comes from inside , if the one have his own happiness from inside he could spread it in his family , friends , etc , but we are sad from inside , nothing could make us happy , we can be happy only if we have this feeling from inside .

    - the positivity thing of the day :
    me with my friends did a surprise party for our best friends and it was a great day full of joy & fun :)

    Like: Thumb up +1

  9. SusyQ says:

    If I rate myself I would say 7/ 10
    I’m a positive person & I love helping people around me I’m open to changes & I have a lovely home loads of wonderful pets, my family lives far away coz I choose to live in another Country. I love it here & my life.
    I have a hand full of close friends & that’s all I need. I love my work I have a cleaning service, I do carpentry, Art, decorations, building, all in all I’m a very handy Woman.
    So why do I rate it 7/ 10 ?
    well I want to make some sort of ground to rest on when I’m getting older, as it is right now I have nothing to support my old age. I need to value myself more & earn more to invest in myself.
    I always lived like a butterfly no care for tomorrow. It worked for me until I realized I would most probably get old and need to do something for myself =)
    I still have dreams I want to fulfill , my own house and garden, start traveling again see more of the wonders out there. Even though I have seen a lot there are so much more to discover.
    I have been living solo for the last 13 years and I might just want to have a special one to share life with again =)
    So I’m here to start working with myself , time to start growing again =)
    Left it for too long , blaming time & work as one do hahahahahahhaha….

    Like: Thumb up +1

  10. Amber says:

    I would put myself at around a 6 out of 10 overall. During the summer I’m doing a job I love with people who are amazing in their support and friendship, and I am definitely at a 10 when I am there. During the rest of the year I am at college, and while I do appreciate the opportunity I am given by receiving a higher education, between the coursework and my job I find my self going through the motions everyday. I don’t feel like I am getting very much out of where I am in life right now.

    A positive thing that will be occurring today – to celebrate the end of the week me and my roommate are watching a couple episodes of Doctor Who :)

    Like: Thumb up +1

  11. Charlene says:

    Happiness would be 5/10..

    Over the years i’ve lost that spark within myself that I thrived on! I’ve forgotten about myself in the midst of being mommy and wife. I recently made a promise to myself (30th! birthday) I would start tending to myself at least a portion of what I do for my family as they are my number 1 priority. I’ve got a great husband and 4 great kids that I adore. Yet for the past 6 months or so I feel as tho my past is seeping into my present days and the feeling of low is becoming to often It’s to the point i’m jealous of my husbands carefree and optimistic outlook on life… I use to have it and aim to find it!! I believe we in charge of our own happiness and if we do what we’ve always done were surly to get what we’ve always got. I’m looking forward to a change within, and setting aside time for myself to complete this challenge is something i am looking forward to that as well. :D

    BTW.. It’s still March 1st here..

    Like: Thumb up +1

  12. Jessica says:

    My current happiness level is probably a 7-8/10. This past year I’ve had to deal with a few stressful issues(death of a friend, health problems and starting my own business) that keep me from feeling as happy as I know I should be. I have a lot to be happy about so I’m hoping that I can learn to cope better with some of the recent curve balls life has thrown my way.

    One positive thing for the day would be that I found several items at the store that I’ve been needing to buy for my office at prices that were much lower than anticipated! Not only was I happy to save money, but it felt great to cross those items off my list :dance:

    Like: Thumb up +1

  13. Habib says:

    I have food, I have a home and I have a loving Family. and I have the opportunities to follow education..10/10 what is there not to be happy about?

    There are people in this world who do not even have 0.001 precent of what I have and I strongly believe some of those people are happy despite being in a much terrible condtion than me .

    Like: Thumb up +1

    • Sara says:

      I like your perspective, all we need in life are the real necessities like food, companionship, shelter. Why is it that our society teaches us that more is better and more will fulfill us while internally we are not truly content. To also consider that the economy thrives on the public acquiring more of EVERYTHING that is ultimately unnecessary to our livelihood is quite annoying. Of course there are certain things that makes us truly happy but it’s generally non-material things that truly matter.

      On the other hand, if you are doing this Positivity Challenge, there must be something that you are not happy about? Just playing devil’s advocate ;) Good luck with the remaining of the 20 days!

      Like: Thumb up +1

  14. joyce r says:

    on a scale of 1-10 i am probably a 9/10 in happiness because i’m very blessed. i consider myself very lucky to have a good job, good health, good friends and family. i attend daily mass and bible study once a week and have a very healthy spiritual life. i try to give back by tutoring two women in english, helping with the lifeteen group at my parish and contributing to needy causes throughout the year. the first thing i do when i wake up in the morning is to thank God for another beautiful day. He provides me with whatever i need! God is the love of my life!! :heart:

    i did not give myself a 10/10 because i really want to be in a relationship with the man of my dreams. i’ve been divorced for 11 years and have not met anyone worthy of my love. i know that God has a plan for me and has wonderful things in store for me but there are times when i’m lonely and don’t feel like i have anyone i can share that with. i know how difficult it is to be in a relationship and i do love my singlehood most of the time but i guess the devil is able to poke me every once in awhile…usually when i’m feeling down something happens to shake me out of it so it doesn’t last long but still it happens sometimes.

    today is 3/1 in santa fe, nm so i’m just writing this even though you posted it yesterday. one positive thing that happened yesterday was meeting my students for our tutoring session. i tutor two women from mexico in english twice a week and it brings me such joy when they say i taught them something they didn’t know. i had them create a bucket list from one of your other posts and it was a lot of fun to hear what they aspire to. thank you celes for your inspiration! you are truly a gift to the world! :hug:

    Like: Thumb up +1

  15. Ivona says:

    I have just signed up :)

    I would say I am quite happy. Much, much happier than I was a few years ago. Let’s say 7/10. The biggest thing I learned in the past few years is that happiness is internal, not external. However, I still have some big goals I am yet to accomplish that I think will make me happier – I am on a weight loss/health improvement/ getting fit / overcoming emotional overeating journey. And I need to learn to accept myself and love myself even more – that’s another goal.

    Positive thing that happened today: I had an awesome first day of March – it was first sunny day of the year; I got up at 5:30, been energetic whole day, spent 12hours at the Uni/in the commute, yet still managed to eat quite healthy and exercised for 30min in the evening :dance:

    Btw, I am currently reading a book called ”Project: Happiness” , and I have been thinking about what simple tasks I can implement in my life to make myself happier – it’s really a wonder that this challenge started now :) Strange thing how when you start working on something, more and more tools and chances appear :mrgreen:

    If someone wants to check Project: Happiness out, there is also a blog by the writer

    (hope it’s allowed to leave external links)

    Like: Thumb up +1

    • Cheryl says:

      I clicked the path that you included to the Happiness Project – sounds like a great book so I ordered it along with another one of her books titled Five Year Journal-One sentence entries. Thanks for sharing! :)

      Like: Thumb up +1


The comments section for this article is now closed.
Check out the latest posts and join in the discussions there.