21DPC Day 1 – On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?

This is Day 1 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC) for Mar 2012. View all posts made during the challenge: 21DPC Overview.

21-Day Positivity Challenge for March 2012!

Hello everyone, and welcome to Day 1 of 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC)!! :D :dance:

We have over *300* official participants with us now!! Are we in for a month of positivity or WHAT??? :D

To all of you who have duly signed up and helped spread the word to your social networks (or even via blogging about it, for those of you bloggers out there!), thank you. The challenge can only be a success through our collective efforts. The more people sign on to 21DPC, the better it will be for everyone, because hey – that means even more positive energy to go around. :D There is never a limit to how much positive energy there can be – abundance has no lmits.

For those of you whose friends / family read your message and decided to join in on 21DPC too, that’s fabulous. PE Challenges are always particularly fun when you get to do it with someone you know! You can keep each other accountable and learn more about each other in the process.

If you are doing it by yourself, not to fret. We have over 300 official participants here with us for 21DPC, and we’re definitely going to get more people joining us over the next few days before I close the sign ups. In the course of these 21 days, all of us will be doing 21DPC together as one, reflecting on the daily questions, sharing our answers in the comments section of the daily posts, and engaging each other in meaningful discussions.

This is a challenge to be done together as a community, as a group, as one Personal Excellence family, which is really the reason why PE is even here. So do not be afraid to share your answers openly and be fully honest with yourself here. There is no judgment here; anyone who tries to do that will be promptly barred from the site. The .co in the PE domain represents community, not individuality- always remember that whenever you come here to the site.

Important: Sign Up First Before Reading Any Further

If you’re new to 21-Day Positivity Challenge, or you have not signed up yet (your name should be in the official participants list), please read the announcement post and sign up first before going any further: 21-Day Positivity Challenge. All details on the challenge, what to expect, and how to sign up can be found at the post.

If you have already duly completed the 3 sign up steps, your name will be added in the next 36 hours. ♥ Thank you!

Update March 5: Sign ups are now closed now – thanks everyone for your amazing response! For those who didn’t get to sign up - you are more than welcome to participate and join us in the daily threads!

What To Expect for the Next 21 Days

1. Positivity Question

Changing Your Life, Starting From Your Thoughts

As you have read in the announcement post, I will be assigning you a positivity question every day, for the next 21 days.

The question may be simple, like asking “What is your favorite movie?” to something deeper, like “What is 1 positive thing you can share about your least favorite person?” There are days when there will be 2-3 questions combined into 1 (for example, today’s question) – you are expected to answer all the questions, and not just answer the first one and skip the rest.

The idea is to cultivate positivity in your life, via working on the root of it all – our thoughts. Asking ourselves the right questions will help us think in the right manner. And from there, the right actions, habits, and behavior will follow suit. As the saying goes:

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” – Anonymous

Your Honesty Required

My request to you is to be as completely honest with yourself in answering the questions. Because the more honest you are, the more insights you will unveil, the more you will grow. Think of it as it you’re in a dark room alone, by yourself, and there’s no one there to listen, comment, or judge. What is the first thing that comes to mind? What would be your most truthful response to the question?

This challenge is not about sugar-coated answers and creating an illusion of happiness and positivity to everyone out there. You are probably kidding yourself if you think we’ll be jumping around in these 21 days, skipping merrily, laughing like little kids and forcing ourselves to smile every day.

Don’t feel that there’s a need for you to write something positive just because this is a positivity challenge, because that’s totally untrue. As I shared in Principle #1 of How To Be Happy, part of being happy / positive includes airing out grievances, unhappiness, frustrations, anger, sadness, disappointment, etc inside of you – whatever they may be. These (negative) energies, when unaired, are merely *stuck* in your consciousness, with nowhere else to go.

In the end, they end up affecting you on a subconscious level, in more ways than you can imagine. The more (unhappiness) you release  through your answers in 21DPC (in a constructive manner, of course), the more happiness can flow your way.

2. Positivity Task

Most of the days will have a positivity task assigned. This task is linked to the day’s question, and usually comprises of a simple action that can be done on the day itself. Do complete the task as part of your 21DPC participation.

3. Positive Thing For the Day

Last but not least, you are to identify at least 1 positive thing that you got out of the day, for every day of 21DPC. If you can identify more than 1, that’s even better! The more the better! :D

Sharing To Help Yourself and Help Others

As with every challenge, I highly recommend you share your responses in the comments section of the daily posts with the other participants, to get the most out of your 21DPC experience.

If you’re not comfortable sharing your answers under your usual name/nick on PE, then create some fake, random nick (so no one will know it’s you) and post your answers under that nick (for the remainder of 21DPC, if you want). Replace others’ names (if any) in your answers with fake nicks as well. There is always something powerful about transparently writing your thoughts out there in the open, vs. keeping it to yourself in your little book.

Besides, do not underestimate the change you can make in others’ lives just by sharing your answers here. After all, have you not benefited in the past from reading honest sharings by others, be it on Personal Excellence, or on other websites? What would the world be if no one wants to share? Think about the people out there you can effect. By helping others, you are also helping yourself.

21DPC Day 1 Question

Given that this is a positivity challenge, for Day 1 today, I want you to think about how happy you are. Not just today, but as a person.

On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?

On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You?

Share as much as you want in your answers, from a few words to a few pages long. Be honest as you can. Answer both questions, and not just the first question.

And if you did not give yourself a 10/10 for your score, I have one additional question for you:

Why Did You Not Give Yourself a 10/10?

Again, be completely honest in your response. There is no judgment here at PE. Only positivity and love.

While we’re on the topic of happiness, be sure to check out the related articles on how to achieve happiness (or unhappiness, as per the second article) at PE:

  1. How To Be Happy: 10 Timeless Principles for Lasting Happiness
  2. Are You as Happy as You Can Be? 10 Surefire Ways To Be Unhappy in Life

…and the manifesto versions:

  1. [Manifesto] 10 Timeless Principles For Lasting Happiness
  2. [Manifesto] 10 Surefire Ways To Achieve Unhappiness

Your Tasks Today

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express your thoughts. There is no word limit.
  2. Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!

Share Your Answers!

After you are done, share your answers in the comments area!

If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then return at the end of the day to answer the 2nd part, on identifying at least one positive thing about your day.

Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!

Look forward to reading your responses!

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  1. Arnold Tse says:

    It really depends on my mood. There are times when I feel absolutely euphoric and would give myself 11 out of 10 (why not?), like when I’ve just completed a good workout. I don’t know why, but sometimes I can be really negative and even become cynical. Then, I’d give myself a 5 out of 10. Overall, I’d say 8 out of 10.

    After completing this challenge, I hope to achieve a 10 out of 10. I will learn to cope with negative thoughts (instead of trying to hide or suppress them), and learn to be more empathetic. One of the reasons why I can be negative is that in some social situations, I am afraid that other people will hurt me (which is a totally unjustified feeling, I know), so I try to avoid any contact and shut myself away from other people. I have become more confident over the past few years, and will continue to improve through doing this challenge =)

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    • Roses says:

      Hi Arnold I relate to the ups and downs, I’m the same after going running or completing a task I had thought would be impossible. Let’s all aim for 10/10 and keep the habit!

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  2. Melanie says:

    I would say that I am an 8/10. I find myself happy most of the time. I think to myself a lot inside of my head and that helps me stay positive. I live in Michigan so it is very easy to let the weather affect me, whether its rain or snow. Some of my outward happiness however, happens because I am trying to please others and I don’t want anyone to ask me what is wrong. When this is the case, I build up either stress or anger inside myself. This ends up causing a downward spiral and my mood can last for a couple days. I find that I do have wonderful people in my everyday life. I need to utilize them more and trust them with my feelings. Opening up and letting others in is my downfall and puts more pressure on myself to deal with everything that I am feeling. Starting this 21 day challenge will be a decision that I am making for myself, to create an outlet for all the feelings I keep inside, whether they are good or bad. Those of you reading this will, just like the people in my life, listen and give advice because you as well are going through the same things as me.
    GOOD THING: Today I was able to sit down and spend the morning with myself, drinking my favorite cup of coffee and protein shake. Taking this time helps me refocus and make positive energy for myself to continue on throughout my day! I hope that everyone can take a moment each day to do the same for yourself. Knowing that you are worth this time is the first step  YOU ARE!

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  3. Joined the group…

    I’d give it a 7 rating. Quite low, you say? That would be an honest reply. This is a rate I’d give in general. If given the chance to break it down into different aspects then I would give a lot of numbers then.

    to be continued here: http://thewifeyjournals.com :heart:

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  4. Ewa says:

    6/10. I have a severe social phobia, OCD and GAD, which decreases my level of happiness. I also had to go through a loss of certain important people, such as my two friends (one died, the other came to a conclusion that since she’s a boyfriend she no longer needs her best friend), my grandpa and granny. But now, that I’m in college and had met someone who seems to understand me and with whom I can be totally honest, I believe that I will slowly improve and raise my sense of happiness one step at a time. And the objective is to complete an emotional marathon :D

    Something positive about my day is that it’s a lovely and warm day, everything seems to be so lively that it puts me into a really positive mood :) And I didn’t have a panic attack yet! :dance:

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  5. Oscar says:

    I give myself a 1/10 rating for my current happiness; I am just feeling at this point that there is not much left at all to be happy about for me in my life.

    I didn’t give myself a 10/10 because I am just at rock bottom in most of the areas of my life and I feel like I don’t have a lot and I will never catch up. I am also feeling like I can’t change it, because I have lived this way for so long and I just can’t seem to flick the switch because I’m just not strong enough to.

    My positive/happy moment for today has been that I am sitting here typing and my cat Lucky has crawled onto my legs to go to sleep. She was dumped by my cousin’s unit and was so tiny at first that the rangers were going to put her to sleep straight away. I took her in and now we are best buds.


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    • Ella says:

      Oscar, i can assure you that you are not alone in this feeling, though you are definitely stronger than you believe yourself to be. As evidenced by you joining this challenge and being honest with how you are really feeling (it is scary to really look within and then put it out there).

      Posting here was your first step in creating happiness and positive change, Congratulations!

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      • Oscar says:

        Ella, thanks so much for your kind words and encouragement. People in my life are always telling me that I am much stronger than I think I am, I just have to learn to believe them.

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    • Sue says:

      Start small…every journey starts with one step. Look at the language you have used in your post there are lots of negative words: didn’t, don’t, not, can’t. Why not try and see if you can re-phrase what you have written in a more positive way. Instead of thinking you can’t change it, think about what you could change (even the smallest thing) and when you make that change, you will feel better and that will encourage you to try and change something else. Nothing that is worth doing is ever easy…slow and steady is the answer! Good luck.

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  6. Nhi says:

    That friend took care for me when I was ill. that time I met a lot of bad luck things and I’m not with my family. I am always grateful to you :heart:

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  7. Clare says:

    At the moment I would say a 4/10 but this can dip to a 2 at times! I’ve managed to get caught in this cycle of negativity, cynicism and anger which until now i have blamed others for, but have hopefully now realised that it is only I who can break this cycle. I’m starting with this challenge and at the same time creating my own ‘bucket list’ to use as a focus, figure that diverting my attention in this way will be the start of finding a good place to be. Good luck everyone.

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  8. Oleva says:

    I would rate myself about 5/10.
    The reason for this would be that I have not yet been able to reach my goals. I start so many things well but have not been able to follow them through and finish them up.

    About three weeks ago I have been reading a lot on developing a personal growth plan. with that kind of a plan I go into a day knowing exactly what to do. So I am improving a lot due to that and today is one of those days where I feel so fulfilled because I did every single thing that I set out to do.

    it is a great day indeed.

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  9. ninschubur says:

    give myself an 8 out of 10 in happiness.

    I am living the life I want and I can have at this right moment. There are some things lacking, but I am on my way to make them better. Over all, I am a very happy person. I am healthy, sporty, beautiful, wealthy and I am free to do things I like, for example going to vitis iceland tomorrow or riding my motorbike in summer. I have a loving family, a caring boyfriend and wonderful friends.

    Although I life a wonderful life, there is one goal, I did not reach until now. I want to start my own family. It didn´t work for the last 10 years and I am 38 years old now. This is my big wish for the future, the lack in my life.

    Today I celebrate my 10th year at my current employer. There have been times I found my job horrible, but right now I am very proud of still having it. It is a wonderful job with wonderful colleagues and much freedom. Today, we had alcohol free sparkling wine, strawberries and chocolate :)

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  10. Katarina says:

    I’m not sure where my happines is on the scale. But I could say 5 out of 10.
    I couldn’t give 10/10 because I know my life is lacking things that make me happy.
    I’m happy that I have life, health, family, boyfriend, some good abilities.
    But the way I live with all I have, doesn’t make me happy.

    I feel like it is not good to bother people with my life story, because I know my life isn’t all that bad . So I can only state why I’m not happy: my lack of persistance, patience, concentration, self-awareness, discipline…for being under pressure and stressed out for nothing, caring for opinions of others. I probably forgot something ;)

    I want to change the way I live, for now I’m doing it in baby steps (tho I would rather take a few giant steps) :) . I feel really happy when I do something good for myself at these times when I don’t feel like myself anymore. :) I’m really glad I’ve taken this step to become more positive. Without positivity , it is hard to do anything in life. I want to find what are the breaks in my life, stopping me from being happy.

    Celes, thank you for making this kind of challenge. :hug:

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  11. Mo Nathan says:

    On a scale from 1 to 10, I am a 10. Happy about life and living in happy staying present in the moment!

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  12. Wendy Lou says:

    Sorry, I missed the question yesterday because I thought the chellenge started today.
    My happiness yesterday was about a 4 out of 10. This is not normal for me but I had some Reiki healing work done and as I’m flushing out the old stuff my moods/feelings have been out of sorts.
    I belong to a womens motorcycle riding group, and although I didn’t ride yesterday, I did meet them for lunch which was a wonderful escape from my job search and got me out of the house.
    I am grateful for all the abundance I have in my life! I am truly blessed!

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  13. Ioa says:

    i would rate my curent happiness at 7 out of 10 … because i know i can count on some real friends to help me however they can if i have problems, because my sister has almost finished with the medical analysis that i have asked her to do because she has some medical problems …but i can’t find my concentration to work on a project and my apartement mate is kicking me out!

    and it’s 1st of mars! so that means spring is here …. i’m waiting the green now :dance:

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  14. VS says:

    I would say that on a scale of 10, I would rate my happiness at 7. I am lucky to have a very loving and caring lifepartner, parents, and soon expecting a baby. Have reassociated back with my parents after a long time due to my career goals abroad.

    What will take me to 10/10 :

    I need to engage myself in acquiring a masters’ and getting to a counrty of my choice and find a job, which is worthwhile….get more healthier…

    Today’s positive thing :

    Registered a weight loss of 1.2 kg (after a workout in my gym for last 4 days)

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  15. Sejal says:

    Today I’ve give myself a 6/10.
    Why? Because what I feel today is somewhere between “meh” and “sober optimism” :P does that make sense?
    I was just a little tired today… I had to do a lot of work around the house. Plus, my Mom’s in a bad mood today. So, its kinda affecting me as well. Every time I focus on something uplifting and build up my mood, she says or does something that just shoots it down!! Then I shake it off and start all over again :P
    Usually, I’m pretty optimistic. Really! But its been a week now and I somehow just slipped into ‘blah-ness’ ever since I stopped sticking to my goals.
    On a lighter note, I did wake up today promising myself that I would begin afresh. Today moved on very slow but there has been quite a lot of progress and I know for sure things can only get better… :D

    Right now, I wouldn’t really call me happy but yea, I think ‘determined’ and ‘optimistic’ best describes what I feel right now. It isn’t much but I think its a good place to start from. :angel:

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