21DFC Day 12 – Why Did You Join 21-Day Fitness Challenge?

This is Day 12 of the 21-Day Fitness Challenge (21DFC) for Feb 2012. View all posts made during the challenge: 21DFC Overview.

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Hello and welcome to Day 12 (Feb 14) of the 21-Day Fitness Challenge! :D

Day 12 - Why Did You Join 21-Day Fitness Challenge?

Today’s question is: Why did you join 21-Day Fitness Challenge?

Each of us have different reasons for joining the challenge. Some of us want to lose weight. Some of us want to be healthier. Some of us want to be stronger. Some of us want to reacquaint with our past, glorious self that represented our prime in our health and fitness.

I created and joined the 21-Day Fitness Challenge primarily because I wanted to lose the excess pounds I had put on since my fast last year. Bad eating habits, driven by my underlying emotional eating issues (which I had since addressed towards the end if last year), resulted in my gradual weight gain. I’m glad to say that they are now swiftly sliding off my body with my daily rigorous fitness sessions. (It seems like a handful of you are reporting having emotional eating issues, which are subsequently thwarting you on your fitness/weight loss goals. If so, I highly recommend you read the 6-part emotional eating series. It may well give you that added insight to overcome your eating issues.)

The reason why I’m posing this question to you today is because it’s now mid-way through the challenge. As we pass the initial euphoria of starting on a new goal, of joining a new challenge, some of us may get sidetracked by other unimportant, mundane things and forget about our fitness goals altogether. Some of us may get overwhelmed by the aches, pains and sores of our exercises, and give up on exercising as a result. Some of us may experience an unknown, growing resistance towards exercising, and abandon our fitness goals in jest.

When that happens, all it means is that we’ve lost touch with our original reasons that got us on this path to begin with. In the words of Sydney Smith, “Obstacles are the frightful things we see when we take our eyes off your goals.”. It’s then merely a matter of reconnecting with our original motivations, of refreshing them in our mind. This is the fuel that ignited our engines; this will be the fuel that will keep us going on and on with our fitness sessions even way after the challenge is over.

Why did you join 21DFC? Do you remember? How can you keep this reason close to your heart as you progress on your fitness journey?

(PS: It’s Valentine’s Day today as I’m writing this, so Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! :D Don’t forget to workout even during this special day of the year! ;) )

Share Your Plans/Progress for Today!

What is your intended fitness plan for today? What physical activities are you going to do, and how long do you want to do them for? Share with us!

Update your progress as you go along. At the end of the day, review your progress and share your learnings.

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  1. yinkadepeju says:

    To know and acquaint myself with those things that I feel I know but which I don’t kmow regarding fitness by ïnterracting witj ôthers

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  2. Celes says:

    1.5 hours at the gym today. :D 50 min on the recumbent bike, 20 min on the leg curler, 10 min on the stationary bike. Plus another 30 min walking to the gym. On the work front, wrote today’s post for 21DFC, caught up my emails/etc, connected with my friends. Off for my lunch now.

    The whole multi-tasking at the gym deal is working extremely well for me. Honestly I don’t see anything getting in the way of having daily workouts from now on (except weekends since my gym membership is only for weekdays).

    Same plans tomorrow – gym in the morning. And kickboxing in the evening. This will be my first class since I missed last week’s class.

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    • Celes says:

      By the way, I want to add that this challenge has truly been instrumental in helping me cultivate a daily habit to exercise. In the past I wouldn’t have thought it’s possible, but seeing how seamlessly my sessions have now been integrated into my life now, I’m truly ecstatic. Goes to show that when you’re committed enough to your goals, you will find a way to make them happen. Thanks everyone for being a part of 21DFC. :D

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      • Bette says:

        A BIG HIGH FIVE from this personal excellence seeker, Celes :!: :D :hug: :heart:
        Amazed, :heart: grateful, :D inspired, :angel: motivated, :clap: focused, :idea: enthusiastic, :dance: more enlivened, :dance: more energy, :dance: ……..and the list goes on and on! :D :D :D :heart: :heart: :heart:

        Like you said, Celes, what I am learning more about is commitments and about making them happen. This is a HUGE difference in my life. Compare that to listing goals and feeling overwhelmed and abandoning the goals!

        It is sooo interesting to me to hear how this process of goal setting and working toward/attaining goals is for others…what actually “clicks” into place that keeps one on the beam with the eye on the goal. I know motivation and desire and keeping on keeping on has aLOT to do with it until momentum is gathered and the goal becomes nearer until it is happily reached! Or, like in this 21DFC, the habit is in place, and it is integrated into one’s life.

        I am thrilled to have eating healthily and being physically more active and FIT, on a daily basis. :dance: :heart:
        It’s all just awesome to be a part of! :angel:

        So, you are welcome, Celes!, thank YOU SOOO MUCH for SOOO MUCH!!! :hug:
        HAPPY :heart: DAY,
        from a happy heart! :heart: body, :dance: soul :!: :angel:
        Bette

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  3. mrs says:

    Happy Valentine celes :heart: , i joined 21 DFC challenge because, i use to do exercise from last year but not regularly so i took challenge to make it a daily habit & get active & energetic.so i think i m near to my destiny. :hug:

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  4. Kirsten says:

    I joined to get that new habit but sadly this has not been happening. I decided it would be best if start from the beginning and do at my own pace, as I will be starting again I will sharing my progress in my 2012 thread in the forums.

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    • Kate Britt says:

      Kirsten, please stay with us here! It doesn’t matter if you’re not feeling success yet. We still have 2 whole weeks — that’s 2/3 of the whole challenge time. You could start with today, report back today, and take it from there. Believe me, there are lots of us here who feel what you’re feeling, that sense of discouragement some days and the feeling that this dang habit is never going to form. But hey, there’s this whole group of supporters out here for you. Please don’t leave us!

      OK, today, just go for a short walk. That’s something! Or a short swim, short run, go bowling, whatever it takes to be able to say “I did something active today, and today is the first day of forming my new activity habit.”

      FWIW, I joined for exactly the same reason, I too am not yet feeling the habit kick in. But I still have high hopes because we’re only 1/3 of the way through. They say it takes 3 weeks to form a habit, and you have 2 of those available to you right here with us. Please stay!

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    • stuart says:

      yes as Kate said dont leave! there are no judgements here. i have many times thought of stopping or not wanting to go work out . do a little something. anything. stay here with us so on day 21 you can say you completed it. remember completing does not mean you did it perfectly.or even that you exercised every day….it does mean you stay with us and hopefully log in each day and see what happens. we have 2/3 to go! dont worry if things here do not look the way you expected…

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  5. Amanda says:

    First of all, happy Valentine’s day everyone! :heart: :hug:

    I joined 21DFC because I wanted to erm…get fitter and get a gold for NAPFA. :)

    Day 12 – I had an hour of PE today. We did training for NAPFA. For me, I did an 800m run, push ups and 2 rounds of shuttle run. Yay for training for NAPFA directly. :D

    But, I managed to get a sore heel because I ran with my school shoes (the soles are really hard). I’m gonna bring my running shoes next week. :D

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    • Celes says:

      All the best for your NAPFA Amanda! :D I’m very sure you’re going to get Gold with no problem. When is the NAPFA test? How were your scores for last year?

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      • Amanda says:

        Truthfully I don’t think I can get gold because of standing broad jump. I got a D for that. If I got a C I’ll have gotten gold…but silver instead. :p

        I don’t know the exact date yet, but it’s sometime in April.

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  6. Bette says:

    :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY, EVERYONE!!!! :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:
    I just posted my Day 11, so I did my Valentine’s greetings there…oh well….so in case you do not go there….I was just saying, on Day 11, that we are certainly demonstrating loving ourselves in a great way by participating in this 21DFC, aren’t we ! ?! :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:
    :heart: Thank you, Celes, for creating this space for us to grow in our personal excellence! :angel: :hug: :heart: :angel: :hug: :heart: :hug: :angel: :hug: :angel: :heart: :hug: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :angel

    HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY!!!! :hug: :hug: :heart: :hug: :heart: :hug:

    I’ll be back later to update Day 12! :dance: : :D heart:

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    • Celes says:

      You’re so right, Bette! Participating in 21DFC is definitely a clear sign of loving ourselves. We love ourselves enough to want to be healthier, fitter, and stronger. YAY to our inner selves driving us forward! :D

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    • ASLO says:

      Find this to be such a cute post, just seeing all the hugs simultaneously move work in a synchronized manner……Happy Valentines day to you too Bette

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    • Kate Britt says:

      Good thought, Bette. Loving ourselves today! :heart: What a great Valentine’s gift-to-Selves! :love: :heart: :hug:

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  7. Lina says:

    Several reasons leaded me towards joining the 21DFC.
    I’ve wished for long to become healthier (both in physical and spiritual terms) plus my birthday was at the very beginning of February (1st of February) so I decided to begin this new year of my life with a change in better. And this is how I joined 21DFC :D

    I’ve just returned home from school, checking my e-mails now and after I’ll do my 30 minutes workout. :)

    Happy Valentine’s, everyone :angel:

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  8. Mirna says:

    Hello! Happy Valentines Day every one!!

    Wow, I love todays question, it really helps you remember how it is worth sticking to this challenge up until the last day.
    Something I do also is ask myself what would happen if I chose to give up. And usually I am not looking forward to health issues or a sedentary lifestyle so, the minimal action makes a difference.

    I joined the 21 DFC because some days prior to the announcement of the challenge, I was searching for a way to jump start me into living a more active life, also because I would love to have a toned body like the one of atletes, be very flexible and super healthy.
    That would just raise my appreciation of life(and it is raising), and make sure I’m at my best to handle other challenges life trows my way.

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  9. Tina Davis says:

    20 minutes of knee strenghtening exercises, 30 minutes stability ball workout (Firm DVD), 10 minutes of stretching and 10 minutes of meditation.

    I joined 21DFC to get stronger. I had plateaued in my workouts and I was looking to change things up by using a stability ball. Then came along 21DFC and the rest is history.

    I have found that my arms and shoulders are stronger (I have really weak shoulders). My back is hurting from all of the core work but its a good hurt. :p My arms and stomach are more defined and I’m back to losing weight again. Plus, I feel better.

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    • Susan Parker says:

      Feeling better–isn’t that a great indication of progress!

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    • Celes says:

      Hey Tina, can I say I’m very impressed by your commitment to your fitness and your consistency in your exercises? Keep up your awesome work! :D

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    • Bette says:

      Ah, Tina, how ’bout you “had” weak shoulders!!! ;) Sounds like you are really having wonderful workouts, and definitely getting stronger. :D And the stretching and meditation sound very balancing to me. Don’t know much about stability ball workouts, YET! Perhaps it is something that might work for me too…or some version of it. For now i have very little flexibility with my knees. What kind of knee-strengthening exercises do you do?
      I am glad to hear that you are reaping the rewards of working towards your goals, and feeling better too! Way to go, Tina! :clap:
      Happy :heart: Day :!:
      Bette

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  10. Monisha says:

    I joined 21DFC for the goal of achieving an attractive and slimmer body by the end of the challenge! :)

    Today’s exercises I did were- Skipping, Chair dips and the plank. Total time taken was almost 19 minutes.

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  11. Susan Parker says:

    My goals were and are to lose six pounds, to feel and be healthier and to prove to myself that I could accept a challenge and carry it through. I have not eaten any differently so losing the pounds is not going so well. But I am walking! I have been out almost every day, walking farther than I have in several years. Yay! Tomorrow I’m going to a three-day conference so exercise will be a challenge, a challenge I fully intend to meet!

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    • stuart says:

      well done Susan! i am sure there will be places you can go for a short walk indoor or out! way to go…you can have it all…work conference and the challenge

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  12. Jaleen says:

    I joined 21DFC because I wanted to increase my stamina and also to drop 3kg of weight.

    Today, my time was full, woke up at 5am, get ready with breakfast and some house chores. Left home at 7am, back home at 6.30pm then straight away headed to a functional event until 10:30pm. Just reached home, and I just can do 10 minutes of stretching, no heavy exercise for now as I need to sleep earlier for tomorrow’s early wake up again… :(

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    • Nadia says:

      It’s ok Jaleen, sometimes the wind blows in the opposite direction of our ships’ wishes…. ummm :rolleyes: hope you know what I mean! Good call on turning in early since that is the best thing to do in preparation for a better tomorrow :)

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  13. ASLO says:

    Happy Valentines to Celes and all the other 21DFC participants…. :heart: :heart: :heart:
    your presence and motivation makes you part of my loveeeeed family…….
    The reason I started this challenge was the routine, overly cliched reason….to be fitter, healthier and generally happier….because the life equation is that, right? Healthy = Happy
    But then, something else got to me too….this collective effort to take up a challenge, the forum structure, the different backgrounds, different experiences and different cultures all coming in to create this beautiful picture of Personal Excellence….its amazing and this is the only place where I’ve seen such forums being so effective for carrying out challenges and actually getting a lot from the experience…this is all thanks to the brainchild of our torch-bearer “Celes” who has gotten together personal excellence seeking birds, in this big, mean yet lovely world separately and on our own….to join and form a lovely flock who now strive to attain, whatever positive goals their mind can set for them, just because of one reason….the ability to grow together while helping out each other….that’s a lovely thing you are doing for the global society Celes and that’s what has been tugging me to this challenges and pushing me to complete them wholeheartedly in the past, currently and definitely in the future :clap:
    Awrite for today I got a 35 minute brisk walk and the routine 15 minutes of cycling….when i started this off, i simply wouldn’t have believed that by the twelfth day, if someone told me “congrats you are getting underway 35 mins of an excellent walk” i simply would have rolled my eyes and said “who me, quit mocking me”, at the time even 10 mins were like a hours long marathon, but now, 35 mins and time seems to have gotten wings and the euphoric ability to fly…..
    Hey by the way, could anyone please suggest to me how i can make cycling as enjoyable as taking the walk?
    Love, happiness and fitness to all :D :D :D

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    • Bette says:

      Not only has time gotten wings regarding your physical activity, you, ASLO, ALSO have WINGS, and the euphoric ability to FLY with your thoughts and feelings and creative writing! :angel: :heart: May I just reflect THAT back to you…?!! :D :heart: :D Love your poetic self!!! :heart:

      And I so am with you with your thoughts and feelings about our collective group effort that includes such a diversity, and its own unique focus and energy, and about our torch-bearer Celes who lights the Personal Excellence path. :angel:

      Thank you for this beautiful post, for being here, and for committed to personal excellence!
      :hug:
      Bette

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      • ASLO says:

        Thank you Bette, appreciation means a lot to the soul, you know, the food for the soul bit?
        True that, i get a tad bit poetic when writing up (typing here though :p) but i still many a times wish that i can fully express my stream of thoughts in a long bit of text (like many of yours and so many other passengers of this bus to the real life, that apparently only levies minimal charges like showing a lot of self-love and some ISP bills :p )…..you know if i could do that then so much of what i mean to say would be passed on……anyways, am sure that takes quite some bit of practice……
        :hug:

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    • Kate Britt says:

      About that cycling question, Aslo… you’ve started with podcasts for walks and it has helped. Hope you’re trying that with cycling too! Listening to something really interesting seems to make the time fly by AND add enjoyment, no?

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      • ASLO says:

        I haven’t tried that out with cycling, two reasons:
        :arrow: By cycling, I don’t mean cycling outdoors, I mean on the stationary gym cycle, and whenever i do so, i switch on the TV, heard sometimes before that that works like/better than listening to music/podcasts….but to be frank it doesn’t…..
        :arrow: and two, you know, with podcasts sometimes i fear that taking in too much of them would maybe cause all my ecstasy and euphoria for listening to them during walking/meditation, to dampen as i would think i not properly now, then later….
        but all the same, would try it out, and maybe would also consider tuning in to my fave radio station……
        thank you for getting back with your reply :hug:
        :D

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        • Celes says:

          Hey ASLO! I might be biased here, but I’m not sure if TV is all that great as a fitness driver – it feels more like a numbing / conscious lowering agent if anything. Of course that depends on what channels you’re tuning in and what programs you’re watching, but for the most part, if you’re just switching it on as a secondary companion to your fitness, the average channel and average program is hardly awareness raising. (Not sure if you’ve read my article before on 10 Reasons To Stop Watching TV?) I definitely think that some targeted activity, such as listening to podcast you want, or music that you want, is a lot more helpful than TV in this regard.

          On ‘dampening’ the ‘euphoria’ for listening to walk/meditation… I don’t think you should be worried about that? It’s a matter of constantly listening to fresh material, material that’s relevant to your life, educational, value-adding, etc. If it stops being ‘interesting’ or ‘exciting’, it merely means that this particular podcast is no longer value-adding – then you just have to look for podcasts on new topics that you’re seeking to be educated on, on topics which are relevant to you at the moment. ‘Excitement’ value of something is an effect, not a cause.

          Sorry for the sudden outburst of suggestions! At the end of the day, do whatever makes you happy. If you want to watch TV, do that! If you want to listen podcasts, do that. Don’t feel compelled to do something just because someone else suggested so. It’s about aligning with your desires.

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          • ASLO says:

            Sooo sorry for the late reply, somehow my browser wasn’t just opening this page… :(
            And Celes, you dont need to sorry me for that…..i mean thats what we are here for right? to be guided through the path by you….i’d appreciate (even want more of) such like suggestion from you not just for this challenge but any of our future endeavors….
            Yup I meant the same thing TVs definitely not it, so i shut that damned box off and plugged in my earphones, opened the podcast directory….and there is the silver lining of what i desired…..25 mins of cycling achieved….thanks to your effort to start this all up…especially for people like me…who now can achieve an hour of exercise, oiling those rusting joints, coming from an era where even ten mins seemed a chore….hoping to climb even more…..
            :hug:

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  14. Bette says:

    WHY DID I JOIN 21DFC :?: :?: :?:

    I wanted to join 21DFC to boost along what I have already worked long and hard to set into motion, that being eating healthy, which includes a healthy weight loss program that I have already been very successful with dropping over two hundred pounds (!!! :rolleyes: I know, seems like science fiction, but the disease of obesity has varying degrees of severity) over the past years (still am dropping weight till I reach a goal weight, hopefully THIS year!!! :D ). To move from the sofa and TV, eating compulsively, and living vicariously, to just MOVING, and gradually being more and more physically active and building up the momentum of disciplined, healthy eating, you can just IMAGINE how ecstatic I am to be here with you all today!!! :dance: Obesity is a disease of isolation and to be out here in the world, even if that world includes cyberspace, well… it is an AWESOME feeling :!: :heart:

    I wanted to join 21DFC to learn more about my mind-body-soul connection. I have been a student of something all my life, and I am always up for discovering more about myself and the vast potential we all have. Especially when we set our mind to something with honorable intention, and develop intuition, connecting with our Soul/ Spirit all along the way, moment by moment, day by day. :angel:

    I wanted to join 21DFC to interact with and share with others who are interested in/engaging in living a healthy lifestyle which includes healthy eating and being physically active/ fit.. I wanted to participate in the challenge to share with, learn from, connect with, each other. :heart: To be part of the group energy of this fitness mindset and encourage each other. :clap: :hug:

    And lastly, to challenge myself to stretch what before were limitations or limiting beliefs and commit myself to being accountable to myself and with others and posting daily progress and updates on how I am doing.

    It is inspiring to be here amongst you all, experiencing all of the above and more that words fail to reach :!:

    Here are some affirmations I have come up with during this 21DFC:

    I LIVE a healthy lifestyle that invigorates me and I feel happy.
    I LISTEN to my Inner Voice That Knows what to do.
    I LIVE my passion that enlivens me.
    Everything in my life is in DIVINE ORDER.

    Closing thought:
    What is the best day :?:
    TODAY

    Happy wonderful day. TODAY,
    :heart: Bette

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    • Lina says:

      Beautiful reply! Touching and very well said. I’m glad that you’re so full of energy and committed to become a better you :D And you did a great job so for, losing all that wait. Never give up on your goals of becoming healthier and feeling better as a person altogether. Good luck, Bette! :hug:

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      • Bette says:

        Thank you so much, Lina! :hug:
        Becoming healthier and feeling better are great lifetime goals, for sure!
        Let’s keep up the energy and commitment, shall we?!!!
        Good fortune for you and your goals as well!
        :heart: Bette

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    • ASLO says:

      Ever watched a good movie lately or read a book and felt like how it builds up to a point at which you think that it can’t get better and just then an even awesomer climax is followed up with?
      Though many-a-times, with a good book (especially a novel) or a movie, you often forget about it sooner or later as you get wound into other non-relevant things…..
      Well you must be wondering where I’m getting with my far fetched comparisons, i mean to say, just like a good book/movie you post grows better and better with every line and the end, my god, that’s a heck of a affirming list of affirmations……but unlike with a movie/novel, your post is definitely something not just I, but anyone else for whom fitness and self-growth are married in a life long learning process, would want to keep on coming back to in the future as it brightens up your face every time you read it, have read it and affirmed by determination for goal-seeking a couple of times already….therefore: Save to MS WORD — done
      Create shortcut on Desktop — done
      P.S Happy learning, today, you reminded the life student in me too to work harder to strive to reach to the top of my class………

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      • Bette says:

        ASLO, you brighten my face with this post, as well as how you express yourself. I am very grateful you are here TODAY, and well, that you just ARE! :angel:
        Yes, it is heartening for me to know that we are in a LIFELONG learning process together, sharing the goals of fitness and self-growth. :D
        May you always and forever be affirmed by determination and the inspiration of your soul and those kindred spirits with whom you share goals and dreams and thoughts and feelings along the way! :angel: :heart:
        Bette

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        • ASLO says:

          May you always and forever be affirmed by determination and the inspiration of your soul and those kindred spirits with whom you share goals and dreams and thoughts and feelings along the way!
          Thank you so much for those kind words Bette :hug: , wishing the same goes for you :angel:

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    • Kate Britt says:

      OMG, Bette, I’m SO impressed with your weight loss. Wowzers! :!: :!: CONGRATULATIONS :!: :!: on your accomplishment AND on the fact that you’re still going strong toward meeting your goals for weight and eating habits and lifestyle and ALL of it. You’re an example for us all, for sure!

      Excellent affirmations, too! Best of all, I like “What is the best day? TODAY!”

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      • Bette says:

        Thank you so much, Kate. It’s wonderful sharing with you and hearing your updates and insights about how your fitness goals are being realized as you continue traveling down the road of your healthy lifestyle. I really appreciate your supportive encouragement and your overall enthusiasm :angel:
        And yes, the best day IS today, isn’t it! :heart:

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    • stuart says:

      Bette

      this is so inspiring!
      i am borrowing your affirmations for myself!
      thanks for sharing.

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      • Bette says:

        Thank you, Stuart, I appreciate your comment.
        It is quite a journey, this thing called LIFE, isn’t it!
        And I’m with you…
        Affirmations are wonderful little capsules of positive energy to help us along our way.

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    • Celes says:

      WOAH, over 200 pounds??? That is AMAZING, Bette! Bette, you *must* share with us how you did that! What would you say were the biggest things that enabled you to lose the weight? (i.e. what kind of mental shifts, realizations, new habits, and so on?) I’m sure there are many readers out there who can benefit from your valuable advice, being someone who’s “been there done that / doing that”!

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      • Bette says:

        Thank you, Celes. Yes, it IS amazing to be living in a body that is no longer hundreds of pounds overweight!!! Just to say that is startling to me, but that is my history, and I am alive to tell it! It’s been a long journey, full of realizations, to get to this point of being health and fitness-minded, and committed to that kind of lifestyle on a daily basis. Without writing a book here, (perhaps this is the start of one? ;), I attempt to share the biggest things that enabled me to drop those pounds. I hope that this is not too long-winded…unraveling such a tale as this is not an easy task!… I didn’t think it would be this long! I write this in hopes that sharing such information will be useful or encouraging to someone out there.

        As a compulsive overeater/food addict, it was not just about bingeing or eating food compulsively, it was about the mental obsession and craving that accompanies the disease . That is a demon that clutches/overrules one’s choices, snuffs out one’s passions, and overtakes one’s overall life.

        How to get out of that reality/hell? Eliminate the trigger/binge foods that cause the cravings, (sugar and all its forms is the #1 offender for me) so I can come out of the fog of the addiction. Find a balanced, food plan that is the framework for healthy eating on a daily basis. The food plan is a very individual thing, based on individual needs…it’s about choosing eating a healthy food plan for life. One that works with one’s lifestyle and is something one can stick to day in and day out. Gone is the diet mentality for me. What works for me is small meals for B, L, and D, and planned snacks in between. Less is more. Quality counts.

        My attitude with food is now filled with awareness and respect, and I honor my body with my attitude of gratitude for whole, fresh, healthy foods, (especially fresh veggies) that nourish and energize my body, keeping my body balanced and on an even keel. I drink alot of good, clear water – about 3 quarts per day – that is my main beverage (occasionally herb tea, decaf coffee). I avoid caffeine, salt, flour products, sugar, processed “foods,” alcohol, drugs, prescription or otherwise, and negative thinking/negative people.

        My goal is to live in a warm climate, close enough to the ocean for frequent swims, and where the growing season is all year-round, with a sustainable garden with veggies and herbs and fruit trees, living as close to the earth as possible. Fresh air, sunshine, and rain, rich soil, fresh, whole foods, and enjoying living mostly out-of-doors, communing harmoniously with Mother Nature. That is my idea of living a quality life brimming with vitality and fitness! :D

        The greatest thing about avoiding consuming anything that triggers out-of-control cravings is that once those substances are eliminated, I am then free from the cravings AND the torturous life-sucking mental obsession! This is SO simple, and yet continually throughout my life, I fought surrendering the foods I THOUGHT I wanted to eat. What I discovered was, it was the addiction body that wanted the binge foods, the addiction body that wanted the immediate gratification, regardless of the horrendous consequences, NOT the real me who truly desires to have a sane, purposeful, happy, healthy life. My body went in an addictive mode when I consumed sugar, and trying to moderate sugar consumption was not possible.

        It was a really important day when I finally admitted to myself that the addiction owned me, and I surrendered binge foods and overeating and became open to finding what worked for me. I have sought/received all kinds of help in this lifelong physically challenged journey of mine, and that includes help from That Which is greater than my personality. Having a spiritual life, a soul connection that includes daily meditation, and listening to my Inner Knowing is key. Despite/because of a lifetime of obstacles, I have always been a seeker, looking beyond this material world to help guide my footsteps in the right direction. I believe there is a Guiding Force that instills deep within me, the right questions that contain the answers that will reveal the path leading to my highest good. I believe there is a purpose to my life and I have a Destiny to fulfill. Tuning into my Highest Self aligns me with The Divine. :angel:

        What I realized/realize that is helpful, is that it is impossible to fill the bottomless pit that characterizes addiction and cravings.. That hole only gets bigger and deeper and darker over time, so trying to satisfy a craving is sheer folly for me. There is no satisfying a craving. The craving only gets bigger. What is phenomenal is that even though I have had periods where I have been disciplined, if I picked up sugar, the addiction had grown even when I was abstaining from sugar, meaning that right after the first compulsive bite, my bingeing capacity had gotten bigger, and disciplined weight loss came back quickly and with a vengeance!! And it was hugely difficult to stop that bingeing madness and get back on the path of abstaining from the binge foods, (withdrawal was always very difficult) and start eating healthy once again. These are things I have discovered over a lifelong struggle, very terrifying to realize, but it is also terrifying NOT to realize all these facts and suffer under the oppressive heel of sugar/food addiction.

        Amazing Grace, I cannnot find a better word, lifted me from the helplessness of hopeless despair, and into the light so I might live free from self-sabotage and the repetitive destructive cycle of addiction. And so then, my weight-loss journey becomes a story that includes spiritual experience. :angel:

        It is challenging to write about all these things, attempting to get as close as I can to conveying what were the turning points of being obese with the disease of food addiction growing in my body and mind and what I have come to realize as a result of living that kind of life/death. I value keeping my memory green so I remember just what is real and what is fantasy. What I can handle, and what I can not. What is truth and what is fiction, the stories, the lies I told myself that kept the addiction alive, and to keep eating the junk that I really thought I wanted to eat!

        I have learned that there are consequences to everything, and there is no such thing as “eating the cake and having it too.” That I really rather be communicating and socializing with and helping others, and fulfilling my life purpose rather than being isolated in a destructive, bone-crushing, life-robbing cycle of being lost in a relentless disease that I didn’t know was called a disease. And when I did know, I was trying to ignore the consequences, so difficult it was to put down the sugar/binge foods. It was time to pull out the root of this monstrous weed, and address the causes for the emotional eating that led to the reckless progressive disease of food addiction.

        Living through all the above and having the awareness of what were trigger foods for me, what worked in my life and what did not, has all fortified me with the knowledge of what is the disease of food addiction and what is living a healthy life free from food obsession.
        I have learned, little by little, what it means to truly take care of myself. :heart: That opens up a whole world of experience for me, meeting new people, realizing goals, being in the process of living my passion, enjoying every moment, savoring life far more than I ever could with food I binged on that I could barely taste.

        Most recently, being a participant in the 21DFC, I have been having all kinds of epiphanies about being physically active and exercising, and what it means to be fit. I am in touch with my body, for the first time since I studied and trained to be a massage therapist and craniosacral therapist back in the ’90′s, and I am experiencing transformation on many levels. I used to think exercise was drudgery and I would avoid it, but now I enjoy and look forward to it, and I see that it is liberating me from the long-term consequences of having lived an obese, sedentary life.

        I do recall being active/athletic when I was a child and teenager, which was a long time ago. I recall and now visualize standing tall, loving to take long walks, hiking on mountain trails, riding my bike with joy unending, and dancing till I felt free as a bird. The last time I did any of those beloved activities was about 15 years ago! I have used a cane for about 7 years, and have been leaning over somewhat since I need knee replacement. Not standing tall is very uncomfortable for me….so I look forward to having that change. In the meantime, I do exercises to strengthen my leg muscles.

        I have paid a heavy price for the consequences of food addiction and being sedentary. No longer shall I miss opportunities like traveling or being with others because I am embarrassed to be seen or too exhausted or because I would rather just stay home, sit in front of the TV, and binge. So many times I have stayed behind just to have it be me and the food. I would binge in secrecy, creating a heavier body I could not hide. No longer am I shy, withdrawn, or ashamed. I tell it like it is, and share my feelings. Addiction is a progressive disease, but so too is recovery progressive!

        All things considered, I have had a life full of many wonderful things, fulfilling careers, enriching experiences…I have been extremely fortunate. I will be careful to not squander any more time though, nor will I be complacent, for there is still alot of quality living to do and much more to be accomplished!

        The good news is I have survived many situations, that I am thriving, amd have developed compassion and patience. I am being transformed into a new body. I have excellent health. I am learning to embrace being active on a daily basis. Sharing my experience, strength, and hope with others is a rich way to live. I feel connected with my true self and with my body in a way that is enlivening, and invigorating, and I feel how my being energetic increases my energy. :dance:

        Nothing is lost except more pounds that continue to drop away from my body. As I continue my fitness program, I feel stronger, have more endurance, feel clearer, and have more focus. I feel less overwhelmed, and more ready to take charge and get things done. I feel more confident and at peace. I am less serious, and more ready to have fun and laughter. I’m passionate about health and fitness, although I recognize the wisdom in the motto: ” Moderation in all things.” I’m in this program of health and fitness for the long haul, all the rest of my days…so I am interested in a sustaining energy, a calm that rides the big waves, an energetic Bette that is in it to win it! I live more and more in the NOW and have a heart full of gratitude for my newly emerging self.
        :heart:

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        • ASLO says:

          Ohhhhhh!!!! I feel like killing myself for skipping this piece before for reading later as i didn’t have much time…..maaannnn!!!!!this as so much to learn from….thank you for letting me know from the Day 13 post that i’m missing on replying on something….btw sorry for that as i don’t have the habit of bookmarking pages i’ve posted/replied on, my bad! i’d take care of that as of now on…..
          so i now have quite a number of pages under the word doc. ‘Bette’s replies/posts’…..great learning experience…keep up the good job Bette
          :heart: :hug: :heart:

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          • Bette says:

            Thank you, ASLO, I appreciate that! :hug: As it turns out, I stayed up all thru the night to write that story…it may just get overlooked unless I tell someone to look here to see it (if there is the interest to do so…?)

            So you found it interesting? Wonder why? Because it was a learning experience? I love feedback, actually. I find it verrry interesting to hear how others respond to such a story/information.
            Any other comments you may have of your perspective of what I wrote would be greatly appreciated. If not, not to worry…it’s all good!

            It is long…I never thot it would go on like that, but that is what it took to convey the story.

            Muchas gracias :heart:

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            • ASLO says:

              Ask a friend to read it……you know for those really interested in seeking growth or freeing themselves off any traits/habits they dislike, a real source of inspiration is someone else’s story/experience….you learn from their mistakes and they teach you how to turn away before you make your own….from quite some time, i’ve been googling inspirational stories (esp about women) on different fronts of life (self-growth, business, music……) found not much material but more importantly i couldn’t find much on fitness {diet} fronts….when you desire something so bad, the universe mends its ways to get you what you want (the power of attraction)…and lo behold, here stands a life changing story in front of me….what i’d want to use it for is to read through it and take info/note/advice/inspiration when i’m feeling a lil’ creaky as the cogs of life turn around esp when it’d come to my fitness…….
              btw, i’ve mentioned this before but i love how you connect life events and spirituality…..
              :heart:

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              • Bette says:

                ASLO, I find your comments are very uplifting and stimulate further thinking on many topics that we all deal with as an individual, and as a society. Actually, society IS an addict, the way it advertises and promotes things to consume that puff up bodies like blow-fish! Here in Puerto Rico, it’s all about the sugar and flour and fat, and lots of it! All too familiar fast food chains pepper the cities, and diabetes, high cholesterol, and high blood pressure all accompany the obesity. Food here, as in cultures all over the globe, have their traditional meals, and those foods, prepared in the traditional way are lodged in their brains, and many just are not interested in considering making the necessary dietary changes that would dramatically change their health/life! Unless, that is, they or someone close is facing life-threatening numbers with their Dr’s report, or they just feel lousy and feeling “icky” is adversely affecting their life.

                about “..those really interested in freeing themselves of any habits they
                dislike”….I find that people, in general, are verry interested in freeing themselves of a detrimental habit, like eating sweets, and yet they are tempted by the sensation of the taste, the perk, and whatever the emotional aspect of it is as well (i.e. “comfort food”..when really it is the FEELING someone is trying to experience, not so much about the food as one might think.) It is about the consequences too…if someone is willing to pay the price of indulgence, then it might have to take more serious effects in order for someone to actually DO something differently.

                ASLO, I love the way that helpful things that you are truly desiring to come into your life ARE making their way to your eager and willing self! :heart: :angel:

                And as for my connecting life events and spirituality….I do believe that we are spiritual beings having a human experience instead of human beings having a spiritual experience. Maybe Kate knows where that saying came from, but it hits the nail on the head for me.

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              • ASLO says:

                Comfort Food, that’s the word i was looking for, bulls eye Bette….
                Thank you for continuing to share these bits and pieces with us… :hug:

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        • Kate Britt says:

          Wonderful, amazing, inspiring story, Bette! Thanks for taking the night to write it and then post it here. A fantastic sharing you’ve done! It’s too bad it really is “buried” here in the PE forums. If you don’t have a blog, p l e a s e consider starting one with this post so the rest of the world has access to it!

          You have managed to incorporate almost every imaginable healthful way to live into your life. I’m so glad for you that with 21DFC you’re finding ways to embrace daily activity to add into the already-incredible mix. And to mix it all up into a great life-enhancing ‘brew’ that combines the mental, spiritual, and physical…. well there will be NO stopping you now, girl! :dance:

          Call me impressed!!! :!: :!: :clap:

          P.S. I just want to add that I, too, have eliminated my battles with diet after diet by eliminating from my life the sugars and other white stuff, like white flour, etc. I can bear witness to what Bette says, here, folks — eliminate sugar and food cravings stop. They entirely, completely stop. It makes food a friend in one’s life once again, something that gives us nutrition and excellent health and lots of yummy joyful eating rather than something we have to constantly work to control.

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          • Bette says:

            Oh my gosh, Kate, SO glad to hear your feedback about that story, and your P.S. comments as well. I was just about to ask if you would come here and have a read and hear what you have to say, and you’re here! :D Just when I needed you! It’s like you heard me calling! :D Thank you SO much for your input! I do appreciate it. :heart:

            Maybe Celes will have a suggestion about how I might better share this story here on PE. It does seem “buried” here to me too. I tried to get a comment to her soon after Day 15 was posted, but I wasn’t quick enough maybe …Perhaps I’ll be quicker with Day 16 to give a heads up about the note I sent today. We shall see.

            In the meantime, or sooner than later, share with me some ways I might go about starting a blog, and how I find out how to set it up and put it out there, so I know how to go about it. How would the world find me (my blog)? I have pretty much zero computer skills, I am techno-challenged, etc., so I am pretty much amazed that I am even here navigating on PE doing this. But when I feel a sense of purpose about something, I AM motivated and willing to learn new things.

            I do love interaction, though, and I am motivated to share and help however I can “out there” in the world! There seem to be fairly healthy, not so overweight people here on 21DFC, but having food issues can compromise most ANYone’s health, weight , mood, habits, etc. And as you know, there are TONS (pardon the pun) of people out there who are tremendously challenged with food/weight/life issues, or know someone who is, and I have had a whole lot of experience and exposure to countless others’ stories/dilemmas. So I may be of some real help, especially to those who feel so hopeless with their extremely high body weight.

            And yes, Kate, as you know, not having sugar and flour in one’s system makes for all the difference in the world. Night and Day!! HOW can something so tasty/sweet be so horribly wrong for the body? That is a see/feel for yourself difference that anyone can experience, if they are willing/want to eliminate the substances that create the phenomenon of craving. My consequences grew so wildly out of control, that it was no longer worth it to flirt with disaster.

            Here’s to yummy, joyful, nutritious eating, and glowing, vibrant fitness! :D :heart:

            :hug:

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            • ASLO says:

              How can something so tasty and sweet be so wrong for the body????
              For me its been an year plus, since i stopped taking sugar in the form of chocolates, sweets, cakes….(so goes on an endless list sans tea/coffee/juice and the normal sweetening in daily food)…and i know how the battle is….its agony when you see your kids & husband enjoying, no literally hogging, down those delicacies….why does wanting to be different feel like being in a battlefield? oh……

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              • Bette says:

                ASLO, you’re thoughts and feelings emerge from your writings to me and really get me thinking!… :idea:

                Just would like to say here that there is so much written about the pitfalls of eating sugar/sugar products, but one that opened up much very useful information about sugar is William Dufty’s “Sugar Blues.” Really tells the facts. Also, “Sweet and Dangerous” is another good one.

                ASLO, what differences in the way you feel, etc., have happened since you put down sugar a year plus ago? I am interested to know how that has been for you, the process, the evolution of it alll…and how did you come to that decision to let that sugar,etc. GO…in the midst of a family who indulges…???

                About wanting to be different. Alot of my life, in the early years, I wanted to be the same, not “stick out” which had alot to do with not wanting to have attention called to me (since I was embarrassed to be a bigger size than others). It took a long process and many years before I was ok to be noticed and acknowledged and wanting to be included, instead of trying to convince myself and others that it was okay that I was on the sidelines of life.

                Now I am at peace about who I am, history and all, that to be “different” whatever that means, is all good. I did not always “want” to be different. Now I just see it as we all are individual and unique beings. So it isn’t about wanting to be different for me,….it’s about the recognition that I AM different, and I have come to honor that difference. It comes down to how I am FEELING about myself, and the details of how I am living my life.

                As for hogging down sweets, I always did that privately, couldn’t enjoy the indulgence with eyes upon me judging, so I learned to eat those things alone.

                But as to my feeling like I am being in a battlefield, I, as a spiritual warrior, AM in a battlefield. There are all kinds of obstacles and twists and turns and things and people who try to derail me, sabotage me, drain energy from me….I need to be alert to what I am exposed to, make intelligent choices how I spend my time, and who with, and take good care to not get myself in a situation where I am overcome by negative force.

                That is the good thing about conscious eating, mindful living in the present moment, and living with a conscious connection to Spirit. Since negative energy just loves an argument, and feeds on energy that resists it, when I “resist ye not” with the negative, it gets bored and goes away. Or at least, it doesn’t take root in my happy soul! I have learned to not take on other people’s “stuff” ! ! ! And not to fall in to the drainholes!

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              • ASLO says:

                Thank you for that Bette…well what I feel after leaving behind all that I’ve left is a mix-bag, though i may at times feel like hell i regret my choice, but this is relatively rare, maybe once a month or in two months….more-so-ever though i feel prouda of my self….i left behind my greatest weak point and if i could get rid of that, sure as hell, i can go buy the world……it gives me a non-conceited sense of confidence…..
                Taking the Battlefield as positive, uh, thats a new one, but definitely something better than taking it as attack against oneself…gud un Bette

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            • Celes says:

              Hey Bette! You can use the shoutbox on the right as a quick way to get alert (if you want to).

              I do make it a point to check back comments of the past days every once in a while – also the thing is there was the computer breakdown issue (which I told you in Day 15′s comment) that led me to prioritize other tasks first. Sorry if you thought I had forgotten about our discussion here!

              I understand the frustration of writing comments and not sure if others are checking back. I’ve been calling out the participants to check back their comments for past posts because some have posed questions to them, but I don’t think everyone is doing that. For the most part, I think those who do want to check back will do so (they can also check the ‘notify me for replies’ checkbox at the bottom), and for the others who don’t – well, it’s their loss !?

              By now, the regulars should know to check back I think. The shoutbox is definitely the way to go if you want to get quick alerts. Of course, replying to the latest comments with your message (what you’ve been doing) is another way to go.

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            • Kate Britt says:

              Bette, about blogging. First, I doubt you have zero computer skills because here you are, participating in forum discussions, using an online group to help you meet your fitness goals, etc. Techno-challenged? Well you’re one smart cookie, and I believe you can do anything you want because you say, “…when I feel a sense of purpose about something, I AM motivated and willing to learn new things.”

              You could be blogging in about 5 minutes. Check out “Posterous Spaces” — https://posterous.com/faq. Posterous is the easiest-ever blogging platform I’ve found after trying several others. I settled on Posterous for my 2 main blogs and have let my other ones go inactive. With Posterous, you could post your weight-loss story right away by copying it, pasting into an email, and sending it to the address posterous gives you. Read up about it at that link.

              After that, of course, it’s a matter of getting people reading your blog. That’s another whole ball of wax. You can just gradually build up readership by sending the link to your site to people, posting it on your FB page and twitter feed (if you have those), and so on. Doesn’t matter if even only a few people read, at first, because it WILL gradually build. One tip I’ve learned? The TITLE of a blog post makes a huge difference in drawing readers. Think of a phrase that would make people curious to click over and read it.

              Good luck! When you get your blog address, post it for us all here, ok?

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              • Bette says:

                :heart: Thank you, Kate, for all the supportive energy/comments/ info/suggestions, etc., :angel:
                I am listening carefully, and I continue to be “all ears” when it comes to what you say.

                I’ll check out that site. sounds good….stay tuned! :D

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        • Celes says:

          (Drats, I wrote a reply halfway and it got lost because I rebooted my computer and forgot about my half-typed comment here. It’s okay, here goes again! :twisted: )

          What I realized/realize that is helpful, is that it is impossible to fill the bottomless pit that characterizes addiction and cravings.

          Word, Bette. This is exactly the point I tried to drive home with the emotional eating series, specifically part-4.The void an emotional eater tries to fill with food is a void that has already been there since before eating/food ever became an issue. Food only came in to fill the void, due to some erroneous belief made at some point (for example, when someone tried to use food as a gesture of love/appreciation, hence creating the belief that food = love). The emotional eater then eats, as a way of feeling happier, but that void/trigger/feeling of emptiness always resurges – which then leads to eating, all over again. The result is a void that never gets filled at all, but an increasing body mass due to the trucks of food the individual keeps downing, in the (desperate) attempt to address the void.

          I’m so proud of you that you came to all those realizations yourself, and how you have turned everything around based on your own strength and consciousness. You’re a living inspiration for others (including me) on the journey of healthy eating, losing weight, and fitness. I think your story also shows strongly that losing weight is an effect of addressing inner issues/demons, and that if we focus on the internal issues, and address them, the weight loss will happen by itself (vs. working towards it as an end).

          Bette, out of curiosity (you don’t need to share if you don’t want to!), what was your heaviest weight back in the past? How much did you lose after that, and how long did it take you to lose that? I thought the information will be useful for those who are in similar predicaments, and provide a source of light/hope that the excess weight they are holding now can be shed off if they want to.

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          • Bette says:

            Thanks Celes for your kind words. I always feel your presence here amongst us as we all check in and continue our individual challenges. Congrats on all the positive changes in your whole being as you have made the most out of every day of this challenge with your all!

            Yes, it’s true some participants do not check back for comments or questions..I am going to try different ways to get their attention…or like you say…have to let it go.
            And I continue to learn that people are different, and just because I am so zoned into what others have to say, and so interested in what they are so motivated to write about, it doesn’t mean that others are! Although it is a bit of a puzzle that there would not be interest about a subject that we are all here for (fitness).

            Which leads me to believe that others just aren’t seeing the post or have no comments to post after reading it. It’s all good, right?

            What follows is not just an answer to the questions about weight you have suggested might be helpful to others out there, but a story relating to those questions goes along with it. Leave it to me to always have a story…. :rolleyes:

            ********

            THE STORY OF THE NUMBER ON THE SCALE

            In early January of 2009, I FINALLY bought a scale after avoiding owning one (or it owning me), and not weighing myself for about 15 years. I knew my weight was off the charts and beyond any previous weight, because I could BARELY fit under the steering wheel and into my Jeep Cherokee. And that’s if I could stand the grueling pressure on my feet when I walked a short distance to the car. It was rare I left the apartment (where I was staying temporarily after my move from my house of 23 years), where I sat all day long, doing creative writing, reading, with the television on in the background. I avoided scales and numbers, (and people) as part of the denial of my weight gain, and also because when I was a teenager, my father had weighed me every morning to monitor what I weighed as I was dieting. (!!! it was AWFUL!!!)

            I am saying these things, because they factor in to why I have been so super-sensitive/shaken/judgmental of the number of my weight. Alot of my life, especially in the childhood and teenage years, I felt like a NUMBER, a SIZE, first, THEN I was a person second. I was “me”, second to that number on the scale. Does that make any sense? It was like, if people would know the NUMBER of my weight, then I was doomed, because I would be judged on the basis of THE NUMBER, and who I really was would never get a chance! So I came to judge and be harsh with myself, avoiding and denying. I took on all the negative, and lost myself in the bags and boxes of sweets and other carbs, numbing and losing myself to the oblivion caused by the sugar fog I was in.

            So when it came to ordering a scale, I had to decide how many pounds capacity it would have. I struggled with that, KNOWING that I was well over 300 pounds and probably over 350. So, no need to get a scale over 400 pound capacity, but better get one that went up to 400 pounds. 400 pounds. That was hard for me to
            admit. So I ordered and anxiously awaited its arrival, getting myself ready to get on the scale once it arrived. I was willing to face the music and use the scale as a tool.

            Not to sound overdramatic, but it was really difficult (soo disappointing, sobering, and shocking to stand on a scale with a 400 lb capacity and still not be able to weigh in. No, there must be something wrong with this scale! ( I kept staring at it saying, “I do NOT weigh more than 400 lbs!!!”) My friend checked his weight. The scale worked. I was over 400 lbs. But just how much over?

            I had been on a food plan for a couple weeks, initial weight loss is the most dramatic during those first weeks, surely my weight would register on this scale any day now…I weighed every few days for three MONTHS on that scale before I ever saw my weight register. Estimated highest weight, 465. Could have been higher, could have been lower. My weight was about 400 lbs by April 2009, and by April 2010, I was in the 280′s. I recall my weight being in low 270′s in August of 2010. It was in the upper 280′s in 2011, and actually gained up into the 330′s (by late July, 2011) until I was willing to put down some extras, like nuts, and chips that I had been allowing to seep into my food plan, and look at and walk through some more tough times/feelings. My latest weight was 266. Last time I was this low a weight was in early 1990′s. In August of 1993, the number was 220. In February of 1991, my weight was just under 200 lbs for just a very brief time, but I do remember the number on the scale going under 200 for the first time since 1963. I fight for every pound I drop, and hope to reach my goal weight (whatever that number is), or very close to it, THIS YEAR. My pattern has been to stick to a food plan for 9 months – 1 1/2 – 2 1/2 years, at which time I have slacked off the discipline.

            I am aware of the pattern of never having reached my goal weight, and I am determined and so focused to keep going until I DO reach my goal weight, and then maintain my goal weight! Being here, participating in this 21DFC, and building new habits and being willing to openly share, and listen to feedback and responses and comments is all part of my reaching out and being open to support. :heart: :hug: I take responsibility for doing what I must to reach my goals, AND I welcome the insight and encouragement I receive from others. :D

            Many people say that it is more difficult to maintain one’s weight than it is to reduce one’s weight. Certainly, obesity, reducing body weight, and maintaining body weight are all complex issues that take time and energy to sort out/master. Many wonder WHY can’t someone just be disciplined and stick with it, and take off the weight and keep it off!!!

            There is no single answer for this excepting that each person’s weight-loss journey has is its own story, because everybody is so different. And all the underlying reasons for the food issues must be individually addressed, for if the root of the problem is not pulled out, the issues will continue to surface.

            Note: Each of the countless time I embarked upon a program, diet, plan, whatever, I always had the mindset that I would reach my goal. It has taken a lonnng time to get to the bottom, had to do alot of digging! Hopefully others can come to terms with what is needed, and go forward in a steady line, instead of back and forth over a lifetime as I have.

            One thing for sure however long it takes: I learned that life and living is NOW, not “When I get to my goal weight”!! A person is complete and whole, NOW, regardless of the NUMBER on the scale.

            Today, the best day, I realize that I am a human being, NOT an object, or a NUMBER on the scale. It has been a lonnng journey, and it has taken me a lonnng time to get here. I use the scale as a tool, as a motivation, but staying on my food plan is what determines what the scale will say, that and the amount of physical activity/fitness I have.

            Why is the NUMBER on the scale such a sensitive topic for many people :?: I often wonder about people’s stories with weight and food and fitness, and how they got there to that attitude about their relationship with food and weight.

            Anyone :?:

            Saying a NUMBER that I weigh always made me feel like a freak or something after all the shrieks and harsh comments I would receive in school when our weight was somehow revealed. I felt different from, way different, and ashamed. That left an impression that fades, but it is difficult to completely forget the feeling of hopelessness when set so apart from everyone else.

            I disclose this info about my story of “Dropping the Weights” and what it has been like to have food/weight issues, and what I have been doing to reduce body weight in hopes that it is somehow helpful to others out there. Over my lifetime, I have learned sooo much about this and many other subjects, and I continue to be eager to learn and experience many more things!

            I have come a very lonnng way from staying at home and isolating from the world. I stay awake in this moment, remembering where I came from, grateful to be fully aware and making conscious decisions, moment to moment, and looking forward to great things to come! :heart:

            All the best….cause the best is NOW, TODAY, and THIS MOMENT, and the best is yet to come!
            Peace
            :angel:

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            • Kate Britt says:

              Thanks again for sharing your journey back to health, and your battles with the scale, the numbers. People can be so cruel, and especially in high school, so carrying a lot of weight in school must have been very difficult. I’m sure you’re only scratching the surface of that emotional story here.

              Anyway, I truly admire that you’re so able to focus on the positive, on your success, on what you’ve accomplished so far and are still accomlishing daily.

              I can tell in everything you’ve written here in the forums that everything you’re doing for yourself is giving you a sense of pride and self-worth and, maybe most importantly, an inspirational attitude that will certainly help others if/when they get to read your story.

              Keep walking on the amazing path you’re on today, Bette. :clap:

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              • Bette says:

                Yes, there are many stories within the story, Kate, that’s for sure! Thank you so much for your support and encouragement. It means so much to me. :hug:
                And about positives…as you know, “What you think on expands,” so positives and affirmations here I come! They have always been a big part of my life, and now they have become an even greater, even MORE important part of my life!!! :heart: :D

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            • Celes says:

              Hi Bette,

              I think some participants don’t check back because they’re using the comments section with a different purpose – to report their daily progress vs. engage/interact with the other participants. Which is perfectly fine, really. I think whatever rocks one’s boat. ;) It is a little annoying though when you post a reply, with a question, and you don’t get a response – so I know how you feel.

              On your story – I can’t believe your father weighed you every morning while you were young – it probably created a whole slew of frightful beliefs surrounding weight and scales, so I can totally understand how you came to resist them later on!

              What you went through (and are still going through today) is amazing. Your story is incredible, Bette. And you should be very proud of yourself. In particular, the courage to order a scale when you could have continued to run away from the problem. And the decision to improve your diet/health/weight thereafter. Both are very brave moves that take someone of great strength and tenacity to make. And that’s you, Bette.

              I’m very honored to be able to know you through 21DFC. Have I already expressed gratitude for being able to connect with you guys (you, Kate, ASLO, etc etc – all the other 21DFCers) through this challenge? I think I have, but I can’t say it enough. This challenge truly has a special place in my heart.

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              • Bette says:

                Much gratitude is flowing through my veins, Celes, much much gratitude… :heart: Yes, my story is quite something, and its being in process right now ( that is, where I am right now) is a reason in and of itself, to celebrate. I celebrate the transformation that is growing within me and I am glad that you and others here are in my life to celebrate it with me! :dance: :heart: :hug:

                Putting the numbers (weights) in the story did bring up alot for me, Celes, but I think you are right, saying “before and after” weights, and time frames is very interesting and can be helpful when others are seeking inspiration, information, etc. Of course, it is a very tender, sensitive spot for me (I’ve been quite secluded and private)…..but it’s important to let go of the reckless behavior that got me there, the shame connected with that behavior and situation, and letting go of judging the # (and myself!) or projecting that others will judge me…

                This 21DFC IS just an awesome challenge…one that will continue on for many of us, I am sure. It’s a beautiful thing, thank you….. :heart: :D :angel:

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        • Lina says:

          This is touching. I can’t find a better word for the sensation it left me. I feel like you’re someone close who has achieved so much, I’m proud! :D Because each person I get in contact to, it’s great to know they’re seeking to flourish and become better. It’s amazing how positive you are and how much ambition you’ve had to overcome the hardships you have encountered. Never give up! You were born a fighter as it seems ;) I am fighting against my emotional eating behavior, too, and I know how difficult it can be when you’ve been eating lots just for the sake of doing it*finding comfort over an extended period of time. You have my respect for what you have achieved :)

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          • Bette says:

            I hear you loud and clear, Lina! And glad you are here on this challenge. I hope we all continue to keep in touch! :heart:

            Thank you for your kind words and your encouragement. :hug: Very heartwarming for me.

            Yes, emotional eating can and often does carve a deep groove, and learning new ways of finding comfort is key. Food is for our bodies’ benefit, not its detriment! Food is my medicine now…I can choose healing foods that build my body with strength and stamina and also choose to be physically active….a winning combination! :clap: :D

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  15. Christine Aicken says:

    Well I’ve been off line as I have been traveling, but have walked Sunday, Monday & Tuesday ranging between 2 to 4 hours of walking which was done today, then followed up by the gym found in the hotel for 45 minutes topped off with walking up the 9 flights of stairs to my room, boy am I feeling it now, exhausted but feeling energized from the inside, this will be easy now as I will walk every day going to all the places I want to see & with the gym in the hotel all there at my fingertips, & n work to get in the way, yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    • Christine Aicken says:

      When you mix with like minded ppl U tend to get a lot more involved & do a lot more than by yourself!!!!!!

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