21DJC Day 9 – What Drives You?

This is Day 9 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge (21DJC) for Nov 2011. View list of tasks: 21DJC Overview.

Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 9 of 21DJC! :)

Yesterday’s question was: “On a Scale of 1-10, How Much Do You Love Yourself?“. (Read the responses.)

Self-love is such a tricky topic. Do you love yourself? How much do you love yourself?

The modern society has taught us to be unhappy with ourselves. That we’re not thin enough, not toned enough, not muscular enough, not attractive enough, not rich enough, not smart enough, not skilled enough, not successful enough, not accomplished enough, not well-known enough – and what have you.

Because of that, feelings of self loathe become embedded in us, subconsciously. Our journey through life then becomes a process where we reverse what we were conditioned with since young; where we discover who we are on the inside; where we evolve into our ideal selves.

I’ve come quite a long way where self-love is concerned. In the past, I really hated myself. I was emotionally stingy, I was judgmental, I was critical – I was basically difficult to be around. I didn’t even like me – there were often times when I felt that I could never stand it if I ever had to be around someone who had the exact personality as mine. I didn’t realize it then, but looking back, my self-love was probably in the negative range.

It’s been a few years, but I’ve worked on becoming a better person since then, and I’m a lot more at peace with who I am today. I think I’m still far from being my ideal self, and there’s a lot I need to work on, but I appreciate myself a lot more than I used to.

I believe being a better person is a journey and not an end point. By constantly growing, it helps me to become a better person day after day, which in turn makes me appreciate myself more. If there’s ever anything I don’t like about myself, I’ll reflect on it, develop my desired traits, and shed off the undesirable ones. I believe I’m on the right path, and in time to come I’ll achieve the same level of unconditional, self-love which my higher self has for me.

With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!

21DJC Day 9

On Day 6, you answered the question: What Frustrates You?. Today, I’d like to invite you to think about something different:

What Drives You?

What Drives You?

What drives you in life? What do you live for? What are the times when you feel charged up and ready to take on the world? And why?

(Today’s question can be found in #77 of 101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself In Life.)

Put on your reflection cap and let your thoughts flow. Below is an empty form which you can use to write your answers to the question. Treat it as your private 21DJC journaling “room”, if you will. You will be seeing this form every day, for the 21 days of the challenge. There’s a button for you to keep track of your word count too, if you’re interested.

(Note you will not see the form below if you’re viewing this in your email client. Visit the actual post online to see the form.)

What Drives You?

Your Task Today:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
  2. Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
  3. Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D

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  1. Mick says:

    I guess I am driven by the desire to do better, to improve. This probably comes from my upbringing, where my parents always encouraged me to do my best, as parents do, and they knew I was of reasonable intelligence and therefore encouraged me constantly to do my best and rewarded me whenever I did well. They still encourage me now (30 now). This has instilled a desire to constantly improve and grow. I want to bill more year on year, I want to save more and then I can get a bigger house, I want to raise more for charity than I did last year, I want to accomplish things (I love crossing things off lists – it gives me a sense of progress being achieved), I just want to progress and grow each year :-)

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  2. Kimberly says:

    I have never thought about what drives me. I suppose that, back in school, I was always driven by the desire to learn and to succeed. I thrived on approval from teachers and family.

    For me, the desire to succeed is still very strong, especially with work and my life goals. When I see or talk with other people who have accomplished something great, it inspires me to do better. When I see someone suffering, it drives me to be a better person and help them improve their lives.

    Little things, like music and support from my husband are also motivating, as well as accomplishing goals I set for myself, no matter how small. It feels great when something we have been working so hard for comes true!

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  3. Anu says:

    Goals- both small and big. Every day, when I go to bed, I should have the satisfaction of a day well spent, and a step (no matter how small) towards my goals. And of course the delight of having brought joy to at least one person. :dance:

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  4. Jim says:

    I am driven by the desire to take care of my family, to figure out what my passion in life is, and to continually learn and grow.

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  5. Rakshitha says:

    What do I live for in life?
    I never asked this question so far. Guess it says we should have a purpose to live. It could be short term and long term. I live for myself, for my loved ones and for those who need my help. How good it will be if there is a purpose to live for everyday as we wake up.
    I have to live for myself because: I see some flaws in me which I can correct only as I get to experience life moving forward , as I meet inspiring people and by gaining better awareness of myself and surroundings. In short I live to improve myself, achieve growth and then after share with others what I learnt and how I reached a level. I live also because I want to enjoy life.
    I have to live for my loved ones because: they have expectations from me, believe I am worthy of success, I want to give them back what they have given me as I share mutual relationship with my kith and kin.
    I live for those who need me: I can serve those in need in n number of ways; financially, by giving them my time etc
    All that drives me are my willingness and hopefulness, motivation given by others, others achievements and unseen positive power.
    When I have certain responsibility on my shoulder and am doing the thing I like and what I think is right then I am all charged up and ready to take on the world.

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  6. When I was five I was driven by Mickey Mouse and I wanted to join the Micky Mouse club house and make children laugh like Mickey did. Now that I am older it is still the same thing in a sense but just a little more grown up. I want to be the best artist I can be and make the world laugh and smile with my art work and my writings. I love writing and drawing my life as it happens. I have a compassion to continue to live to please others. I want to be a circus clown or something. I like to entertain people while being on center stage at the same time. I even love cooking for people who enjoy my cooking. I love the smiles and comments I get when people happily eat my food I made. I like happiness and smiles made by me it makes me feel like not only am I someone but I accomplished something as well.

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  7. Emerita says:

    What Drives You?
    1. Seeing work that has been well done drives me to accomplish something as good, if not better.
    2. Having my work appreciated and recognized drives me to do better.
    3. Competing against myself by continuously improving from a previous performance.
    4. My family and friends drives me – they inspire me.

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  8. Yen says:

    I think what drives me are support and encouragement (or I may call it love) from friends and family member. Whenever I do something (that i like) which have support, I am more confident and do it with joy. If I do it sucessfully then my energy is endless.

    The second drive for me is the love for children. I am especially moved when I see children, either they are mistreated or nice, at time time I think I can do anything, without asking for anything, sacrificing everything, to do something for them.

    I also have drive for money, when I see opportunity I would think about growing my money ;) .

    So at the moment these are what drive me most.

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  9. Jitender says:

    Rage, fear, peace and positive feedback are the factors that drives me.

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  10. Debbie says:

    I’m not sure what drives me at this point, some days I don’t feel like I am driven, I just want to lay down and give up, I’m tired and I just don’t feel like fighting anymore. And even when I write this and and I feel this way and I know I feel this way, in the end, I don’t want to be a failure… So I dig in and try it all over again. Fear of failure drives me!

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  11. Darryll says:

    I am not sure what drives me at this point in my life. Actually I have been feeling kind of lost lately. I really don’t feel very driven at all. I am actually trying to get motivated and driven to get things I want done at this point in my life. Its kind of hard to say out loud and admit right now. But admitting it may be the first step in making that change I desire. I sure hope so. Any suggestions are surely welcome.

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    • Debbie says:

      Darryll I completely understand what you are saying. I am feeling very similar right now. It is a scary feeling. I like being in control of what is happening in my life and I am not always feeling that way now. Like you I have a hard time admitting to others that I may not feel as put together on the inside as they seem to think I appear on the outside. I hope this exercise helps you find your way to making change.

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  12. nhayohmee says:

    What drives me? What drives me is my loved ones, positivity around me, inspiring people, TRAVEL and seeing what the world is like, learning about different cultures, having people experience the joy of travel, and basically seeing people happy. I would say what drives me is experiencing the best in life and being in the best shape, not just me but the people I care for as well. Aside from that what drives me is helping out even in simple ways because I know every body is capabe of helping and even if it is just a small move, it will be appreciated and helping each other makes the world a much better place.

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  13. Irvin says:

    What drives me? What charges me up?

    Engaging in my passions. Whether reading or actively doing, my passions charge me.

    They fill my being to the brim and past, causing me to ignore all but the basic needs, like sleeping and eating, in order to fulfill my purpose… to draw those lines or to learn new words, phrases, and grammatical structures.

    Also, seeing my dad helping others, or noticing poor translations (this is rare since I have yet to become so bilingual).

    I realize that… I should surround myself with this stuff, whether it be people, materials, or the general environment. I shouldn’t wait to let it come to me, but seek it out, and like synergistic beings, we will give to each other, creating something so much grander than ourselves.

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  14. Toowacka says:

    At times I can live my life passively; a form of awake sleepwalking without passion or energy.

    However more and more I actively bring passion to daily life, driven by a variety of interests and perspectives:
    - bringing love, peace and awareness to every moment
    - exploring and reflecting on the big ideas in life
    - spending quality time and connecting with family and friends
    - to be the best person I can (intellectuality, spirituality, and warm heartedness)
    - to create in a meaningful way (writing, music, art, photography)
    - contributing to other people and things in the world to increase wellbeing and happiness
    - exploring the vast diversity of the world (travel, consuming great texts, being open)

    In short I believe I am driven to make tomorrow a better day than today.

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  15. Iris says:

    Challenge, personal development, opportunity
    I realized that while I may not have enjoyed my area of study in university, I thoroughly enjoyed all the extracurricular and volunteering activities that I’ve done and it really drove me all the way throughout the university. Every time I took on a new role, it was a challenge that opened up an opportunity for personal development. It excites me to think about upcoming challenges and opportunities in life and it’s definitely one of the main drivers in my life.

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