21DJC Day 9 – What Drives You?

This is Day 9 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge (21DJC) for Nov 2011. View list of tasks: 21DJC Overview.

Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 9 of 21DJC! :)

Yesterday’s question was: “On a Scale of 1-10, How Much Do You Love Yourself?“. (Read the responses.)

Self-love is such a tricky topic. Do you love yourself? How much do you love yourself?

The modern society has taught us to be unhappy with ourselves. That we’re not thin enough, not toned enough, not muscular enough, not attractive enough, not rich enough, not smart enough, not skilled enough, not successful enough, not accomplished enough, not well-known enough – and what have you.

Because of that, feelings of self loathe become embedded in us, subconsciously. Our journey through life then becomes a process where we reverse what we were conditioned with since young; where we discover who we are on the inside; where we evolve into our ideal selves.

I’ve come quite a long way where self-love is concerned. In the past, I really hated myself. I was emotionally stingy, I was judgmental, I was critical – I was basically difficult to be around. I didn’t even like me – there were often times when I felt that I could never stand it if I ever had to be around someone who had the exact personality as mine. I didn’t realize it then, but looking back, my self-love was probably in the negative range.

It’s been a few years, but I’ve worked on becoming a better person since then, and I’m a lot more at peace with who I am today. I think I’m still far from being my ideal self, and there’s a lot I need to work on, but I appreciate myself a lot more than I used to.

I believe being a better person is a journey and not an end point. By constantly growing, it helps me to become a better person day after day, which in turn makes me appreciate myself more. If there’s ever anything I don’t like about myself, I’ll reflect on it, develop my desired traits, and shed off the undesirable ones. I believe I’m on the right path, and in time to come I’ll achieve the same level of unconditional, self-love which my higher self has for me.

With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!

21DJC Day 9

On Day 6, you answered the question: What Frustrates You?. Today, I’d like to invite you to think about something different:

What Drives You?

What Drives You?

What drives you in life? What do you live for? What are the times when you feel charged up and ready to take on the world? And why?

(Today’s question can be found in #77 of 101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself In Life.)

Put on your reflection cap and let your thoughts flow. Below is an empty form which you can use to write your answers to the question. Treat it as your private 21DJC journaling “room”, if you will. You will be seeing this form every day, for the 21 days of the challenge. There’s a button for you to keep track of your word count too, if you’re interested.

(Note you will not see the form below if you’re viewing this in your email client. Visit the actual post online to see the form.)

What Drives You?

Your Task Today:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
  2. Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
  3. Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D

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  1. Lexi says:

    Other people drive me. I don’t do a lot for myself – I do it because I want people to admire me, because I want to be recognized for my hard work.
    So, what really drives me is my ego.

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  2. Glory says:

    I am driven by LOVE.

    LOVE of God … :clap:

    LOVE of the Catholic Church … :angel:

    LOVE of myself as a blossoming woman … :dance:

    LOVE of my family and friends …. :hug:

    LOVE of my country, with all its prospects and problems … :rolleyes:

    LOVE of humanity … :)

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  3. Bazik says:

    Like many people, I’m driven when I see some positive change or impact that happened because of my involvement, even a small one. Then I feel that my existence is not in vain, and I really want to do more, to have more positive change around. I’m also immensely driven if I get approval from my peers, I need this feedback from others, and I admit there’s nothing selfless in that. But I’m also driven if I’m inspired by another person, someone who is passionate about what they do, like I’m certainly inspired by Celes doing PEB and challanges.

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  4. Netta says:

    What drives me everyday is simply life and death. I have probably mentioned losing several loved ones. I’m sure I did on the post “who is the most important person to you in the world”. Life drives me to get up everyday and work on becoming a better person and trying to intake every experience and moment that I can.
    There are so many good and bad experiences that I have encountered. I firmly believe that any experience I have changes a part of me for better or worse. I learned at the age of 16 and 17, that life on this planet is short. Throughout all the bad times I have had, I still see so much beauty in the world. If I get up everyday and do something positive, that makes me feel happiness inside. Even if it’s to get up and clean the house, I take pride in my home and it makes me feel good. I have made huge mistakes in life that I am still trying to work on. Everyday is a new day with new experiences and life really is what you make of it. I know if I wake up in a bad mood over stress or something beyond my control, I can make the choice to stay in that mood and ruin my entire day or I can accept what is happening and fix what I can and let the rest fall into place.
    I am driven by my two daughters and my life with them. I want to show them things and places that leave them with happy memories. I am driven to learn something new everyday to make inner peace within myself. I have and still am working very hard to leave the past where it belongs, left behind. I look toward the future but not so much that I waste my days planning a tomorrow that may never come. There are things I sometimes wish I could change that has happened but I try to understand that you can not go back in time to change an event, and regret only eats at a person’s soul.
    This is what drives me, to spend each and every moment on this earth doing things that I enjoy, to take the good with the bad, to realize mistakes and fix them best of my ability, to savor every experience I have whether good or bad. Simply put, I do not want to leave this earth with any regrets. I don’t want to die and leave my children with the wrong lessons in life. I don’t want to be older and wish I’d done something when I can be doing it today. I want to leave this earth knowing I lived the best life here that I could. I want my loved ones to know they are loved and that life has so much to offer if we just try to seek out the beauty in it.
    If I had passed away in my sleep last night, I fell asleep knowing I had taught my daughters to take pride in anything, even being a stay at home mom. To cherish and take care of things you have no matter how little it is. I would have died knowing that yesterday I listened to music with my daughters and we sang and played as I done dishes. I told my boyfriend I loved him. I spoke with two important people in my life and they knew how much I value them. My daughters fell asleep after we read 3 bed time stories together even though I was tired. Life and death drive me to face each day.

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  5. Terrye says:

    21DJC Day 9 – What Drives You?

    Work/ Financial Payback _ Independence _ A Life worth Living _ Sense of Self Worth _ Value : These things all drive me, knowing that working leaves me dependent on myself alone and no one else motivates me incredibly. I like the feeling that I am taking care of today and my future.

    I am a security nut, wish I were a little more, wing it, go for it, who gives a hoot personality but I am not. I am anal, I like things in order. Things that help me feel more secure motivate me.

    Confidence motivates me; find something that gives me confidence and you will have the key to motivating me in whatever direction you would like!

    Like most people I am sure, finances, flexibility, freedom, fun, family, faith motivate me. Health, happiness, hope motivate me. If it makes me feel good it motivates me!!!

    I have very few days that I don’t feel motivated. I lose very few days to feeling totally demotivated so I am thankful for the energies in my universe that keep me moving!!!

    Life is a precious gift. I once read a quote, “What you are when you are born is God’s gift to you, what you make of your own life is your gift to God”… Living a full life, a very full life from so many different angles motivates me daily!!!!

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  6. Miles says:

    What drives me seems quite a hard question but I am driven by the urge to a see a positive change in the society. I would love to see people progress, a peaceful world and everyone living their life in the best way. I would love to see the weak empowered and the vulnerable as well with good representation. My drive is the will to see a better day, in all aspects of life

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  7. sundar says:

    The things that drive me most are,

    Love, family, friends, books, music, photography and being with people rather than things..

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  8. eysqueen says:

    What drives me? There are a number of things I suppose. I can’t really put it into words, but I’ll try. I’m driven by my need to fulfill my purpose. In my eyes I haven’t reached it yet, so I’m driven everyday to get up and keep moving along my path, as slow and filled with obstacles as it can be. I guess the obstacles are what drives me even more. I cannot rest, I cannot quit, until I’ve met my purpose and am living it and walking in it. And I’m a naturally competitive person, so even when I am in the place to walk my passion, I’ll probably find something else to strive for excellence in. :)

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  9. Prathi says:

    This might sound negative, but i feel most charged up when someone tells me i cant do a certain thing and i prove them wrong

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  10. Hopes and dreams. There are things that I want to accomplish, things that I want to have. These things are what drive me to succeed. Things like wanting to travel and desiring a homestead. I will do what it takes to acquire what I want.

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  11. Stella Zorro says:

    :rolleyes: :rolleyes: Good question! And one I’ve never considered…which means it is probably going to turn out to be an important area for me :)

    Having never thought about it before, off the top of my head, I’d have to say my emotions! Which is probably not a good thing most of the time. Wow. That is probably a huge problem in my life :( While emotions are important and great fuel, they probably shouldn’t be one’s driving force in life. No wonder I don’t know what I want.

    Survival to an extent.

    Responsibility/what people will think is also on the list.

    Thanks so much for asking this question!!!!!

    (But, oh boy! I need work!)

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  12. Kimberly says:

    The quest to understand. When I tackle to solve a problem, what keeps me going is that I have to deep down understanding of what is going on. I like to “translate” the problem into Kim-Speak. I do not just easily accept what I hear, but look to corroborate it in some way. At the same, although it might not sound logical, I am a very trusting and gullible person. I really do take a lot of things at face value and what things people say I typically assume is correct. I assume positive intent. And others are often the source of new information and new angles to look at a situation. But I would not share that information outward to the larger community unless I understand it and understand its source. I am not at ease to just “repeat” what I hear without understanding. I take the time to think. Thus, I do spend a lot of my energy in the “translation” stage and I use that to get to the next step in my problem. I am constantly asking questions, being curious, and I think that innate part of me is related to my quest to understand. I do want to understand how logically things fit together and what things are needed to make things work, make things proceed, make things understandable to others, make things have value to the world around me.

    I feel at my happiest when that “proverbial light goes off in my head” and I am able to see and understand the item that I have been struggling to understand. And then I take that extra bit of information and use it to build something new.

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  13. I believe I am driven from success. I live for learning and I am always looking for inspiration in everything I do.
    What keeps me going is the hope that someday all of my dreams will become reality.

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  14. Julie says:

    At first I would say life the energy brought by the fact of living and experimenting. My daughter has revealed me that I love transmitting. I’m a trainer and a translator and for me both tasks are complementary. I’m driven by patience by the desire to make people love and understand languages. I like human beings I think that’s why I teach children, teenagers and adults alike.
    I now put no limits to my deep desire. I used to question myself to say that I should teach only to one category be it only children or only adults…but by growing and questioning myself I realized that every age has its potential, its importance and I feel up to meeting this challenge.

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  15. Toni says:

    Planning and organizing. I am always excited when I set a new goal to do something and get to plan it out. It could be anything: a career or business opportunity, a better way to organize the coat closet or garage, the best way to organize everything about an office: the layout, how processes should flow. I really love coming up with possibilities and planning the work. Doing the work is another story. If I don’t have the money to do what I want, I’d rather wait on it than to do it to a lesser quality. And when it comes to business ideas, I often let fear stop me at the planning phase. I’m smart, I pick things up easily, I have lots of different skills and tons of ideas, which actually works against me. To many interests to focus on, loads of talent, but little or no action-I’m the most talented underachiever I know! If I could get paid for making plans, I’d be rich! So I’d say that getting ready to do something new drives me.

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