21DJC Day 8 – On a Scale of 1-10, How Much Do You Love Yourself?

This is Day 8 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge (21DJC) for Nov 2011. View list of tasks: 21DJC Overview.

Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 8 of 21DJC! :)

Yesterday’s question was: “What is the Most Important Thing You’ve Learned in Life So Far?“. (Read the responses.)

There have been so many things I’ve learned to date, and each of them has been important in its own right. From lessons like follow your heart, trust your instinct, always address the root cause of issues and not the effects, open your heart to others and others will do the same, the outer state of your life reflect your inner beliefs than anything else, when there’s a will there’s a way, nothing is impossible in this world, your inner self has all the answers, you always have a choice, the limits we face in life are to do with us than anything else, growing is the best thing one can do as a person, life is what you make it out to be, the only limits we face in life are ourselves, and many more.

Hence, if you are to ask me one thing I’ve learned in life so far, I’d say it’s that I’ve learned nothing. That there are so many new things out there, so many incredible, talented people, so many wonderful experiences that I’ve yet to experience. That the more I learn and grow, the more I realize how much I’ve to learn. I’ve found this to be especially true since I started my travels.

The implication then, is that we should always be open to new things. Don’t close yourself off from new experiences. Don’t close yourself off from people. Don’t rule out new opportunities for growth. Most importantly, don’t be closed off in your beliefs. (On Days 26-27 of Be a Better Me in 30 Days Program, you identify your limiting thoughts and replace them with empowering ones.)

With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!

21DJC Day 8

Today’s question is this:

On a Scale of 1-10, How Much Do You Love Yourself?

Reflecting on Life

Self-love is a topic that’s so important, yet rarely talked about in the realm of personal growth. Hence, today I’d like to ask you to reflect on this: How much do you love yourself on a scale of 1-10, where 1 is the lowest and 10 is the highest? And why?

Put on your reflection cap and let your thoughts flow. Below is an empty form which you can use to write your answers to the question. Treat it as your private 21DJC journaling “room”, if you will. You will be seeing this form every day, for the 21 days of the challenge. There’s a button for you to keep track of your word count too, if you’re interested.

(Note you will not see the form below if you’re viewing this in your email client. Visit the actual post online to see the form.)

On a Scale of 1-10, How Much Do You Love Yourself?

Your Task Today:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
  2. Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
  3. Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D

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  1. Toowacka says:

    This was a tough question, and can be interpreted in a number of ways. My initial response was to read the question as ‘how worthy of love am I’, with my answer being 7. I recognise that I have failings, and that I do not always live up to my standards, but I believe that I have a good heart and I try to do the right thing most of the time.

    But on reading comments, I came to see another side of the question – ‘how much do I hold myself in love’, which I would answer 5. I tend to be a harsh judge of my actions and can focus too much on who I want to be rather than loving the person who I am. I can lack appreciation for who am I and my potential.

    I believe we should love ourselves and everyone else infinitely, whether we/they deserve it or not. Love is a gift that every person deserves as a basic right of humanity, to feel happiness rather than suffering. It has amazing potential to transform lives for the better.

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  2. Tenetta says:

    As of right now, I would rate my currently level of self love at a 5 but I’d like to be at an 8.

    I’ve always struggled with self-esteem but I have grown very good at faking confidence. However in the past few years, I have made some questionable decisions that have left me reluctant to trust my own judgment and makes me wonder what it is about me that attracts toxic people into my life. I try to be a good person; kind, generous, helpful, yet more often than not my efforts are taken for granted and abused rather than appreciated. My mother is always telling me I need to toughen up and stop being so trusting. My own mother told me I need to harden my heart a little and stop trying to please others.

    I have been listening to her advice and I’m working on my self-esteem issues and making an effort to better myself physically, mentally and emotionally.

    My goal for the New Year is to become better adept at judging the character of others and do a better job of protecting my heart and avoid getting my feelings hurt.

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  3. Matt says:

    When I read a questions like this I realize that the answer is very dependent on my state at the moment. If I have just done something I am very proud of then my level of self love is very high. However if I have just made a huge mistake or offened someone accidentallhy then my self love might be very low.

    I think that I can tie my level of self love to many external things. Mostly it is tied into whether or not I have been able to get a result I want in a certain area of life. I can attach my self worth to outside forces even if they are completely beyond my control. I have been able to let go of this feeling over the past few months.

    At the moment I feel happy with myself though and give myself a 7.

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  4. Catarina says:

    I would say 7 because even thou I still think I have many flaws I think I’ve been putting a true effort in making myself a better person lately and that makes me feel proud of myself =)
    but i suppose this is a question that we should ask ourselves daily because depending on what we are feeling the answer will change (and feelings are very fickle).

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  5. Peggy says:

    9.99 I wish I weighed a little less.

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  6. aileen says:

    I thought I was a 7 but I have been realizing the ways I don’t honor my higher self lately. Downgraded to 5 but hopefully speedier growth.

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  7. Debbie says:

    Unfortunately I don’t love myself very much. I’d say maybe about a 3. It is something that I don’t like to think about much. I like to keep myself very busy so that I don’t have time to think about me and what things I can do to make my life better, I just want it to be better, for someone else to do the work. Some times are better than others, right now I am going back into a darker side of my life (I think it has to do with the changing of the seasons. I usually seem to feel a little more pessimistic around this time of the year. I know the things I don’t like about myself and I know a lot of the things that need to be done to “fix” those things, but seem to lack the self-discipline/motivation to work on them. I like to think that I am too lazy, but I think that is too easy of an answer and a cop out.

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  8. Jim says:

    An 8. I am proud of my accomplishments, the relationships that I have, my desire to continually learn, and my commitment to my personal health and fitness. I am a happy, upbeat person, and very few things get me upset. However, as mentioned in a previous post, at 54 years old I still do not feel as if I have found my passion in life, and that frustration keeps me from being fully satisfied and from giving myself a 10 on the scale of how much I love myself.

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  9. Yen says:

    The question reminds me to turn inside myself. I haven’t thought about it before, but if I have to rate myself, I would say now, it is about 8. I think it’s important to know how much we love ourselves, especially when bad things happen.

    For me, when something wrong happen to me, I need to take time to clear off problem, then give love to myself. My heart still beats when annoying things happen, meaning I don’t control myself, my heart properly. Still, I can regconize toxic feelings/emotion that can harm my body and do something about it. Therefore an 8 is appropriate.

    I am imagining in the future if I ask myself this question again, I can say without hesitation, without thinking, that I love myself all the time.

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  10. MrsSilver says:

    I love myself way less than I should. Probably 5-6 out of 10, right now. It used to be way worse though, probably 2-3, and this was just recently

    I was depressed for years and years, feeling trapped in life in so many ways. I would sleep the days away, never leave the house unless I absolutely had to and I felt ugly and gross. It wasn’t until I met my husband and fell in love with him that I realized how staying with my ex-husband as long as I did had really undermined my self-confidence and my self-love, if you will.

    After close to a year of serious difficulties because of dealing with my divorce and moving out of the apartment I used to share with my ex (other side of the country), moving back in with my parents and siblings (and having past family problems re-surface), as well as being apart from my new love (being from different continents on different sides of the world has its challenges), I now weighed more than I cared to acknowledge and felt worse about my body than ever before.

    I had never had any noticeable stretch marks on my body before, but now within less than a year there were more of them than I could begin to count and they were aggressively dark red, deep and pretty big and looked very gross in my eyes. Every time I got undressed and/or took a shower, I would look at myself (either directly or through the mirror) and I would feel so angry at myself. It was the purest self-hate I had ever experienced. So “genuine” and “true”.

    It made me even more upset when I realized that not only had I done this physical damage to myself through handling extreme stress (which made my skin more sensitive) and letting myself gain weight at the same time (mainly by not eating properly but even more so by not exercising), but I also continued to pour a very raw form of hate onto my mental wounds. I was disgusted with myself. I felt like a total failure and I was crying a lot and feeling helplessly sorry for myself, not knowing how to make things better.

    Hitting this peak of self-hate made me feel a more instant urge to find a way out than I had felt before. I’m still struggling with this, but I feel like something has changed within me lately. I’m able to be more forgiving towards myself and I believe that the shift I’m feeling is me having taken the first step away from self-hate hell and towards self-love heaven. It’s a long walk, but since I need to work out anyway, I guess that fits me pretty well…

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  11. Nour says:

    How much do you love yourself on a scale of 1-10? My answer is 6, I don’t know whether I really love myself, how it means to love myself. The scale is given for some reason that I know I’m over self-protected from the real world. I now spend more time for myself to do what I like and I’m quite lazy/ relaxed myself sometimes. I do not really love myself of my defects, but I do meditate and read books to enhance myself. I don’t take alcohol, cold drink, soft drink; I eat healthy foods and exercise.

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    • Nour says:

      How much do you love yourself on a scale of 1-10? My answer is 6, I don’t know whether I really love myself, how it means to love myself. I now spend more time for myself to do what I like and I’m quite lazy/ relaxed myself sometimes. I do not really love myself of my defects, I’m over self-protected from the real world but I do meditate and read books to enhance myself. I don’t take alcohol, cold drink, soft drink; I eat healthy foods and exercise.

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  12. Iris says:


    I feel that there are a lot more things that I don’t know about myself and life seems like a journey to create and discover things about myself, and get to love. I can’t be confident whether such idea can be really measured with number, but I think at least half of the things I do/think/feel – I can love and hence the number 5. This just means there are a lot more for me to find out! :)

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  13. Brian says:

    I’m at a 5 out of 10 when it comes to loving myself. I’m very aware that I do not love myself as much as I should and this is a source of a lot of unhappiness in my life.

    How does one learn to love themselves more? That’s something I’m still figuring out…

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  14. bimpe says:

    i would give myself 8, presently i am really working on myself to become a better person, i lack people’s skills and how to manage people and i am working on that and hoping to become a more friendly and better person before the year runs out.

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  15. Zita says:

    On a Scale of 1-10, How Much Do You Love Yourself?
    Between a 6 and a 7. Interesting that I answered the greatest lesson I learned so far is to love myself and recognize the beauty within.
    Yet…I’m still at a 6 or 7 since I find myself not addressing my body’s needs…healthwise or just taking the time to rest and relax to keep my body functioning. I truly need to work on this.

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