21DJC Day 7 – What is the Most Important Thing You’ve Learned in Life So Far?

This is Day 7 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge (21DJC) for Nov 2011. View list of tasks: 21DJC Overview.

Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 7 of 21DJC! :)

Yesterday’s question was: “What Frustrates You?“.

Thank *you* for your earnest responses. While it’s good to be positive, and to focus on the positive stuff, the thing is frustration is one in the spectrum of emotions we experience as humans. Everyone feels frustrated in some way or another – it’s just a matter of (a) whether you’re aware of it (b) whether you want to admit it or not.

Some people may think: “Oh well, I’m never frustrated”, or “I’ve overcome frustration because I choose not to focus on negative things, only positive stuff”. Fair enough, but my question, and my challenge to you would be: Is it true that you’re never frustrated, or are you just not conscious of it? And for those people who still insist you’re never frustrated, are you perhaps denying your emotions, and deluding yourself?

While the *feeling* of frustration is not a positive experience, it’s not a negative phenomenon per se. All emotions, as with all situations in life, are neutral occurrences. To give it any meaning beyond what it is, would be to turn it into something that it’s not.

Like all of you, I have my fair share of times when I feel frustrated. Just yesterday, I was quite frustrated with the moderator of a conference I was speaking at, because for some reason, the outline that was agreed upon before the panel was not adhered to. I was frustrated because I had prepared a fair bit for the conference, and I felt half of the work had gone to waste, never to be absorbed by others. I was frustrated because it didn’t allow me to showcase my best value to the audience, who were there to learn about the topic.

I would also be frustrated whenever people got in my way of growing, or helping others to grow. Because this is my life purpose, it felt like everything was at stake when I wasn’t allowed to pursue it. I would feel scrunched up on the inside, like my existence has been compromised.

Other things that would frustrate me include people who impose their values on others, people who give their opinions and advice when not asked for, irresponsible people, people who make empty promises, when I sabotage my own weight loss efforts, naysayers, people who try to attack my beliefs, among others.

I don’t think we should concern ourselves with eliminating frustration as an emotion. Neither should we let the feeling of frustration perpetuate too. Frustration happens as a result of things not going our way, so it’s a useful tool in self-discovery and growth.

I think whenever we feel frustrated, we should strive to understand the source of our frustrations, learn from the situation, and apply what we learned, so the same situation will not recur in the future. This is what it means to learn and grow.

With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!

21DJC Day 7

Today is Day 7, which marks the end of the 1st week out of the 3 weeks of our 21-Day Journaling Challenge. Having shared the things that frustrate us yesterday, today, I’d like you to reflect on:

What is the Most Important Thing You’ve Learned in Life So Far?

Reflecting on Life

If you are to pinpoint just 1 thing you’ve learned, the 1 most important thing you’ve learned in your life so far, what would it be?

Put on your reflection cap and let your thoughts flow. Below is an empty form which you can use to write your answers to the question. Treat it as your private 21DJC journaling “room”, if you will. You will be seeing this form every day, for the 21 days of the challenge. There’s a button for you to keep track of your word count too, if you’re interested.

(Note you will not see the form below if you’re viewing this in your email client. Visit the actual post online to see the form.)

What is the Most Important Thing You’ve Learned in Life So Far?

Your Task Today:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
  2. Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
  3. Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D

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  1. Emma says:

    the most important thing i’ve learned in life is from


    It gives it the idea of


    and also the idea of

    “if u never go too far, you will never know how far you can go!”

    they make me feel motivated :)

    And i need to apply it in real-life and wash away my old attitude

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  2. The habit you choose today shape your future, Yet i’ve not fully transform by life based on this lesson learn.

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  3. Yinka says:

    Where i am today is as a result of where i was yesterday and that i am what i think about most of times

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  4. Yinka says:

    To live my days as if its going to be my last

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  5. Megan says:

    The most important thing I have learned in life so far is to analyze and reason out more than twice before I execute/express/decision on things such as speaking and doing on things. What you have said or have done is becomes a history and you cannot change or reversed it back. Saying and doing things impulsively oftentimes, gets me into a dilemma or face a tough challenge to deal with. The hardest part is when you make mistakes and ends up having guilt or a bad reputation. Since we cannot easily change or convince others, the best is to change ourselves for the best and to be a better person. Nevertheless. if ever we make mistakes, never give up hope because our weaknesses makes us feel more human and become aware of ourselves. Above all, our wisdom is one of the greatest gifts of God, Our Creator

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  6. Lorraine Simmons says:

    Only one? I believe the most important thing I’ve learned in my life so far is to be true to yourself. Others may not agree, they may judge you for it, they may dislike you for it, and they may even turn their back on you for it. But you have to know what is true for you. What feels right to you. It’s one of the most important yet hardest things I’ve ever done – is to know my own truth and act on it. If it doesn’t speak to my spirit – if it doesn’t feel right in my gut – I try to listen to it. I believe that there is an instinctive ‘thing’ in each of us, and it guides us. Sometimes it’s not what I want to do. And I find when I go against it, it never feels right to me. I think this will probably be my greatest battle in my life because your truth changes with your different lessons and stages in your life and when all that outside noise starts to get in your head – you still have to be quiet and feel what is right for you. I’m learning it’s gets easier as life goes on and I know myself better

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  7. Carly says:

    The most important thing I’ve learned to far in my twenty years of life would have to be narrowed down to 2 things.
    First off, I learned this saying in grade 1 and I’ll never forget it! “Do on to others as you would like them to do on to you.” I believe that everyone should think this way and in turn act this way! Our world would be a much greater place to live in if this was the case.
    Secondly, I’ve recently been told, “don’t sweat the things that you can’t control.” My boyfriend recently told me that and I really want to try incorporating this life lesson into my every day life. I take things to heart and let them bother me, and I really wish I didn’t let them get to me like I do. So I really want to start following this and let it change my life for the better so I don’t stress these things I can’t control.

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  8. Ton Cabiao says:


    There are many important things i have learned in life but asking could not have been more important than anything else. Life does not give you everything you want. We have to speak up and ask so people can give what we want. I am saying this because i used to be a shy and silent person. I was so shy that I don’t normally tell people what I want but I wait instead. Unfortunately, when I just wait for things to happen or to be given to me, most of the time, the things that I receive are not those that I want.

    If I don’t tell people what I really want, I don’t get the exact thing that I want. It eliminates the guessing by telling them what I really want. And that’s the difficult part.

    It is not easy to know want we really want in life and that is something i am constantly working on. Sure, it is easier to look at our friends and neighbors and say we want the exact thing. It is easy to compare and tell that we want the exact thing but that is copying and on the verge of being envious. Well, it is not exactly black and white but for me and I admit knowing what I want is difficult. And that’s why i am appreciative of the posts here in Personal Excellence blog. I joined during the September 2010 DLBL run and since then I have become a more productive and goal oriented person. The challenge helped me by providing a structured process of thinking and setting up plans.

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  9. Sunny says:

    Trust my instincts and keep believing in myself.

    I have avoided a lot of harmful situations just because something didn’t feel right. Paying attention to that little voice has kept me safe.

    I have made great strides in life because that little voice said “This is a good idea.”

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  10. Laura says:

    The most important thing I have learned in life is that anything is possible and only YOU can set the limits for yourself.

    I also really love the saying “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” True on so many levels. I belive each person is the master of their own destiny. As we grow older, our life is really just a culimination of milions of decision and choices we make along the way. With out a plan, you are like a ship in the water with no rudder, no direction, just floating and bobbing along letting the waves take you where they will. The same is true with your life.

    So I try to have a plan and have a direction. I try to follow my intuition and trust my own voice. The sky is the limit!

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  11. heather says:

    I think that I have learned that if you have a dream to do something you better go for it. Do anything that you can to make it happen. If you don’t do it when you can, you never know what life will throw at you later to deter it, or make it harder for you. I will never regret how my life has turned out or anything that I have right now but I wish I would have had the courage to make more of my visions come to light in my life.

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  12. Tenetta says:

    What is the Most Important Thing You’ve Learned in Life So Far?

    I’ve learned that none of us are promised tomorrow and that you should never hesitate in telling the people you care about that they important to you. The opportunity may not present itself again.

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  13. alix says:

    The most important thing I’ve learned in life is to follow my passions and choose the life I really want to live.

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  14. aj says:

    patience-all things are mutable and often return to where they started-consider the winds, they move around this good earth shifting in intensity from cyclones to zephys-wait have patience and a fair wind will find you

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  15. Toowacka says:

    This was a really tough question, and there were so many fantastic responses that I agree with:
    - we are in control of our life, if nothing else
    - true happiness comes from within
    - to always live in the moment
    - everyone and everything must die sooner or later

    But I believe that the most important thing that I’ve learned in life so far is:
    - love and peace is all that really matters

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