21DJC Day 6 – What Frustrates You?

This is Day 6 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge (21DJC) for Nov 2011. View list of tasks: 21DJC Overview.

Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 6 of 21DJC! :)

Yesterday’s question was: “Who Is the Most Important Person to You in the World?“.

As usual, I had a lot of joy reading your responses. Some of you stated your mom as the most important person to you. Some of you said your father. Some of you said it was yourself. Some of you said your child(ren). Some of you said your spouse. Then there were other answers, including God / a higher power / spirit, your pet, your friends, etc.

There’s no right or wrong answer, because what’s important to us is relative. The same for all other questions posed in 21DJC – there is no such answer as a one, true answer. There’s only what’s true for yourself, and the objective of 21DJC is to invite you to reflect, connect with your inner self, and growing through the self reflection.

If you haven’t not realized, the very process of answering the questions for the past 5 days have helped to clarify your thoughts. Some people may look at the questions and think “Ah, I’ll think about it later” or “This is too much for me and I can’t be bothered to think”. But for these people, they feel resistant toward the questions because they’re in a mental fog. And this fog doesn’t go anywhere until they sit down and properly think about what they are resisting.

By thinking about who is the most important person to you in the world, it has helped you to gain awareness of who matters the most to you, and hopefully, made you realize how much you should treasure him/her. You live only once, so don’t hold back on your emotions towards this individual, thinking that you have “next time”. Be true to him/her and let him/her know of your gratitude towards him/her. Be grateful to the universe for bringing him/her into your life.

Me, the most important person in my life is my higher self. My parents are among the dearest to me in this life. So are my best friends, and good friends. And the same goes for all of you out there in this world; the very people whom I’ve dedicated my life to help to grow and live your best lives. There is no dispute that all of you are infinitely important to me.

But my higher self – the person who orchestrated my birth into this world, who has been watching me silently all this while, who has been supporting me in my life, who has been with me through thick and thin, who has always given me strength to carry on – is pretty much the reason why I’m even here, in this world. There’s still so much I don’t know; so much I have not done; so much I have to do, and I know that my higher self will be with me all the way till the end, to guide me, to support me, and to carry me whenever needed.

Because of her, I’m here. Because of her, I’m now living in alignment with my highest self. I’m far from being my highest self yet, though I’m working in that direction. The day will come when I will come full circle with her, and I look forward to that happening one day, soon.

Important: Get Your Gravatar

Some of you have gotten yourself an avatar since the start of the challenge, while many of you are still appearing as Red PE Logos! (i.e., the default profile picture that appears beside each comment)

While I love the PE logo, I would love even more to see an individualized picture when I read your writings. I’m sure the other participants would love that too! It can be your real life photo, to a picture of your favorite flower, to your pet, to some scenery, to some quirky text. The point is to let your true self shine.

To set your custom profile picture, visit Gravatar, register your account (Important: Make sure it’s the same email as the one you use in your blog comments) and upload your profile picture. Your picture will automatically be reflected in all your blog comments where you had filled out the same email address as the one in your Gravatar account.

Look forward to seeing your new profile pictures! ;)

With that said, let’s now move to Day 6!

21DJC Day 6

After reflecting on the most important person in our life, today’s question brings us to a different emotion – but a very true one. Today, I’d like you to reflect on:

What Frustrates You?


Think about the times when you tend to feel frustrated. What typically happens in those times? What is it about those incidences that frustrate you? And why?

Put on your reflection cap and let your thoughts flow. Below is an empty form which you can use to write your answers to the question. Treat it as your private 21DJC journaling “room”, if you will. You will be seeing this form every day, for the 21 days of the challenge. There’s a button for you to keep track of your word count too, if you’re interested.

(Note you will not see the form below if you’re viewing this in your email client. Visit the actual post online to see the form.)

What Frustrates You?

Your Task Today:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
  2. Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
  3. Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D

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  1. Bett says:

    P.S. Con’t frustrating things..
    Also am reminded of 1000′s of emails from years and years that I have not weeded through to save and file the ones that mean alot to me. Yes, that’s 1000′s. I never get through my plan of doing a whole page of them a day. Anybody else have a ton of emails?

    P.P.S. Also frustrating is keeping up with this challenge! I always have more to say than I ever think I do when I begin to journal my comments to the question, and it takes alot of time. Also, I cannot keep up with reading all the awesome comments from others, and reply to as many as I would like to. And now Email notes from PE/21DJC are piling up waaaay high! Yikes! Anyone relate?

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  2. Aparna says:

    Some of the things that really frustrate me are:

    a. People not respecting time
    b. Lots of procrastination and “let’s do it later” attitude from myself and others.
    c. Stopping myself in face of fear
    d. When I want to sleep, and I don’t get enough sleep, becoz of kids
    e. Unorganized things

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  3. Lexi says:

    Well. I stopped there on thursday, catching up now.
    What frustrates me ? Ignorance. Whether it be me not knowing/understanding something told by someone, or the contrary, I hate the simple fact of not knowing.

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  4. Bazik says:

    Mostly I find it frustrating when I don’t understand something, or when I am misunderstood. On every possible level I am frustrated by communication breakdowns between people, lack of understanding, and sometimes even the desire to understand. If everyone tried to step in another’s shoes, world would be a much nicer place, in my opinion. I guess, I am frustrated that communication is not all-powerful. It is also disturbing that we know so little about how we ourselves work, humans, both body and soul. So it is my quest to understand more myself and to help people understand, too.

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  5. Terrye says:

    21DJC Day 6 – What Frustrates You?

    Some questions are hard, real hard to answer. Some questions were made for you!

    Arrogance frustrates me to no end. People with a “God” complex. The world could not survive without them, work should be grateful for their contribution; the family would not be together without them. The team would not win if they did not play, they know everything about anything.

    I describe people like that in a funny quote, I once read. “If I could buy them for what they are worth and sell them for what they think they are worth, I would not have to win the 1M in Question #1 of this series, I would already have lots of money!

    I think the arrogance carries with it, pompous and ignorant. They don’t know how to treat the cleaner, a waitress, and the lady at the counter. I don’t know a lot of arrogant people, perhaps because I have the good sense to drop the connection when I recognize it.

    I know I don’t them – Simple – As black and white as it gets in any equation, no gray areas – I just don’t like them…


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  6. Kimberly says:

    What frustrates me the most is lack of time.

    Lack of time with family and my husband, because our work hours tend to be opposite shifts, and I am a morning person while he loves to sleep in.

    I also try my best to always get everything done at work, but lately I find I cannot finish everything I need to.

    I work so much that there is hardly any time left at the end of the day to paint, relax or get the housework done.

    Saturday night my husband’s grandmother passed away. I wish there was more time to have said more to her. At least we got to say we love her and were able to say goodbye.

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  7. emerita says:

    What Frustrates You?
    Not being able to pursue my dreams to the fullest. Also not being able to help my children financially for them to realize their dreams – and ease their burdens. I lost my job in 1986 and remained jobless for the next 9 years. A few years after I got into teaching, I started graduate school and did it slowly as I had to work at the same time. I got more extra assignments at the workplace so I had to slow down with grad school some more. By the time, the extra load was over; my husband lost his job, so I had to stop my studies to lower expenses. Today, he is still jobless; I am no longer keen on resuming my studies as I am 7 years away from retirement. A daughter with masters’ degree wants to pursue her doctorate but just cannot as yet because she has to help out in the family’s living expenses. So many dreams ….that await fulfillment. But I do not lose hope….I will continue doing the best that I know how……

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  8. Jim says:

    My biggest frustration is trying to figure out what my true passion in life is. I am more than willing to put in the time and effort towards that passion, I just wish I knew what it was. I enjoy my current job, but I don’t love it. I work with people who truly love their jobs, which is great to see, but it is frustrating to still be seeking my passion at the age of 54.

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  9. AH888 says:

    Dear Raven,
    Thank you for your kind thoughts. They really cheered me up, and you are totally right that I can still contribute. In a way it’s forced me to be more mindful of small happy moments in time, and I’ve learned how important it is to stay positive.


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  10. bimpe says:

    i get frustrated when i am trying to get a job done and its giving me difficulties, i also get frustrated when i am been pushed around by my boss or when he does not appreciate my efforts.
    i also get frustrated when people nag around me.

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  11. eysqueen says:

    I’m frustrated with the fact that I could be doing so much more. I could be giving back and living in my purpose. But because of life situations I’m temporarily held back. I feel like I’m wasting time over here when I should be devoting all my time and energy somewhere else. I feel like I’m on the tip of being a part of something great, but I never make it over the tip. I’m just here, and have been here for awhile. I don’t want to lose my drive or passion just because my situation will not allow me to move forward yet. I’m sooooo frustrated. It’s like being stuck at an eternal red light.

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    • I understand about the feeling of being held back. I can’t seem to find the money necessary to do the things I want to do to help others. In time, I believe that we will all have our chance.

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  12. ninschubur says:

    I get very frustrated when I am getting no acceptance for what I am doing. I use to think that this is not fair and then I get annoyed. I also get frustrated when my bosfrieds beats around the bush.

    In this case, I am unhappy with my handling of these situations. I can not make the world love me 100 % of the time. After a few minutes, I am able to think these second thoughts. And this makes me frustrated even more.

    In the end, I have to admit, that this is an issue, I can´t deal with very good and that I have to work on it. I know this and I allow myself to get angry in the first place because I know, I will think it over and get calm after a few minutes.

    This is how I deal with it today. I know, nobody wants to hurt me intentional :)

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  13. I have trained myself to stay positive, and am able to accomplish this most days. I rarely let negative thoughts and situations into my life any more. Some days this is difficult, particularly when things keep going wrong. Some days/weeks seem to be full of negative things that directly influence my life. It, at times, feels as though for every good thing I do, three or four bad things happen in my life. For every mini goal accomplished, I am set back three or four steps. When this happens, I it seems that my life will never get back on track.

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  14. La la says:

    Lol. This question brings to mind a quick answer.

    Everything frustrates me…and nothing frustrates me. I guess it depends on my mood & mindset when I come across a “challenge”.

    I strive to be in the mindset that everything that comes my way is a blessing, a part of my life journey to be enjoyed. There is a mutual learning experience to be shared. This is not a level of thinking that I’ve achieved to date in my life…I keep striving to though.

    Sometimes my role is the “sinner”…sometimes my role is the “saint”.

    We all have our pet peeves. Sometimes it’s just a matter of getting over them. I try not to impose judgment on anyone. We all walk the through life together, but in the end it’s up to each one of us to take the first step.

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  15. Dinesh says:

    I feel frustrated when things don’t go as per plan or when someone does things to make me mad.
    For example, about planning my life. I usually have plans on how i want my future to be but when i can’t commit due to work at the end of that day/week, it frustrates me. I usually get moody when anyone disturbs me while i’m trying to plan if i’m really short of time.

    Next would be my social life, i think it’s really bad and it’s partly due to work. It really frustrates me when i see my friend’s awesome social life photos in facebook. I have no issues socializing with the opposite sex and in fact i go out for lunch with many females daily. However, it’s just during working hours. They usually have their own life with the bf’s/gf’s at night or on weekends. Sometimes i feel so lonely during the nights or weekends because i’m still single and i can’t seem to find a girl that i believe will suit me.

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