21DJC Day 5 – Who Is the Most Important Person to You in the World?

This is Day 5 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge (21DJC) for Nov 2011. Make sure you have read the announcement and are officially signed up as a participant before you proceed: 21-Day Journaling Challenge.

Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 5 of 21DJC! :)

Yesterday’s question was this: “If You Are To Travel Back in Time to 3 Years Ago, What Advice Would You Give Yourself?“.

All your responses were AMAZING. It certainly feels like many of you have grown and evolved immensely in just the past 3 years, hasn’t it? That while others may be sleepwalking their life away during that time, you have been making your life count. For that, I’m so happy for all of you. I’m so proud that all of you are here, at Personal Excellence, united as one community, one family. This feeling is indescribable. It’s sort of like I feel like I’m a big momma that feels protective of all of you, and there’s this surging sense of pride from seeing how far you’ve come these past few years.

So where was I 3 years ago? 3 years ago was November 2008. I had just quit my brand management job at Procter & Gamble, and was just starting my personal development business. I was full of fire and enthusiasm about my cause; I still am today and will forever be that way. It’s been 3 years running the business, and yet it feels like I just started it yesterday. Time certainly loses its significance when you are doing what you really love. :)

If I were to travel back in time 3 years ago, I would tell my younger self:

  1. Do what you’re doing now. You’re absolutely on the right track.
  2. Follow your heart and trust your gut instincts as you always have. It has never steered you wrong, and it will continue to bring you to the right place.
  3. Nothing has ever happened for you to lose faith, so there’s no reason to have doubts in anything.
  4. If there’s ever any one who is a cancerous agent to your path, let him/her go. There are 7 billion people in this world – For anyone who doesn’t resonate with your current consciousness, there will be ten thousands of people out there who do.
  5. Live. Love. Breathe.
With that said, let’s now move on to today’s question! ;)

21DJC Day 5

For today’s question, I decided to go with something close to our heart. This question can be found in #91 of 101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself In Life. Today, I’d like you to reflect on the following:

Who Is the Most Important Person to You in the World?

Important People

Is it your partner? Your spouse? Your mom? Your dad? Your brother? Your sister? Your child? Your grandmother? Your grandfather? A best friend of yours? A good friend? A work colleague? Your pet, perhaps? Someone you have never met? Or maybe yourself?

Who is the most important person to you in the world? And why?

(You may have a few people who are most important to you, but I’d like to challenge you to pick just 1 person, if possible, whom you feel is the most important to you in your life.)

Put on your reflection cap and let your thoughts flow. Below is an empty form which you can use to write your answers to the question. Treat it as your private 21DJC journaling “room”, if you will. You will be seeing this form every day, for the 21 days of the challenge. There’s a button for you to keep track of your word count too, if you’re interested.

(Note you will not see the form below if you’re viewing this in your email client. Visit the actual post online to see the form.)

Who Is the Most Important Person to You in the World?

Your Task Today:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
  2. Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
  3. Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D

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  1. Fiat says:

    The most important person to me in the world is my wife. I’ve learned and still do A LOT of things from her. How to be patient without the needs of any reason. How to let go and be grateful, how to enjoy the process in this life. And, she always have this attitude of, “there’s always a way” towards challenges in life.

    Me as a melancholy, cannot feel content if I don’t have a set or two or three, better to have a dozen of plan towards things in life. But my wife choose one and be flexible on it. In the past I cannot understand this kind of simple-minded approach (okay I know I’m wrong now, give the guy a break :D ), and seldom have a light quarrel with her.

    In the past 4years, I’ve read a lot of books, contemplating, reflecting, correcting my mind-set, fast forward to today, hey, my mind set become much similar to my wife’s. Well, I’m grateful for my wife, a good wife, a good mother, a good friend, a good partner, a good teacher.

    be happy and feel good.

    Like: Thumb up +6

    • Pradz says:

      Thats very very nice, Fiat . I often think on being a loving wife when I get married. Happy for both of you :)

      Like: Thumb up +1

      • Terrye says:

        I like the way you speak of your wife – My husband treats me like a Queen – I would hope he would write this way of me as well –

        She is a lucky lady – I love that you would write so openly about it!

        Smiles
        T

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  2. Amy Jane says:

    There is many important people in my life, that inspire and support me everyday. But if I had to choose just one it would have to be my mother. She has been there from the beginning, always making me see the best in myself and supporting me in everything I did. Every significant moment in my life she has been there right by my side, always with love and guidance. Her strength as a women is unbelievable, despite anything she always puts her family first and will always find the bright side of any situation. ( myself and my brothers sure did test her strength growing up ). As a role model mum has always been a hard worker and never backed down from a challenge, and made sure us kids did the same. She said that someone’s approach towards work shows there approach towards life. But also believes in making sure you make time to enjoy yourself, to unwind and laugh whenever you can! As nearly every child would think of their own mother, I believe I have the very best mum in the world!! And would not be who I am or where I am without her being such a huge part of my life. I am so very grateful to have her as my mum.

    Like: Thumb up +7

  3. cloudio says:

    It may sound selfish, but the most important person to me is ME.

    I am actually a very caring and generous person (at least that’s what people me tell me), so this is not a choice of egotism, more the realization that to really love others, you first must learn to love yourself.

    Mom, sister, friends, even that person who doesn’t want to hear anymore about me: I love you all.

    But as someone once told me: stop looking for external love, just open your heart, open it so wide, and then synchronicities will happen, and everything will fall magically in his place.

    Like: Thumb up +9

  4. Kamal says:

    All my near and dear ones are very important to me. But as the challange is to pick only 1 person, so here I go….
    The most important person to me in this world is MYSELF !

    Many people spend their lives putting other people first. Sometime back I too was in the same boat. But now I learned to love myself….because I think without loving ourselves we can’t offer it to anybody else. To love onself is not to be selfish. To love oneself is to give others the gift of our best state. Through a voyage of self discovery I found that there could not be anyone else most important to me rather then myself.

    Like: Thumb up +5

  5. Arabella says:

    mama :heart:

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  6. Laurel says:

    The most important “person” in the world to me is my horse Belle. I rescued her from an abusive situation, started her for riding, and helped her through her pregnancy and nursing. After our years together she has basically come to be like a child to me. The close runner ups would be Belle’s foal Iris, and my mother, but Belle is the most special because of the connection we had when I first met her.

    Like: Thumb up +4

  7. Glenn says:

    Who the most important person to me in my world is.

    The most important person to me in the world would have to be myself. And for a number of reasons too.

    Firstly, I’m the only person I know that I will be with for my entire life from start to finish. This time is important, and I know that if I’m unable to treat myself properly and respectfully during this time, there is no way I will be able to do the same for others. My wife, friends, family and acquaintances will not benefit from my friendship if I am unable to take care of myself properly.

    Another reason is that I myself am the only person who can shape my own future and everything I will become. Being the most important person in my own life is how I’ve reached the point of my life I am at now. Happy, positive, loving and with a great sense of freedom. And acknowledging this has been very important too. If anything in my life makes me sad or depressed, I know that essentially I myself am the only one responsible for that. Even during times of a loved one passing, although it’s fine to mourn, I believe it’s still important to stay strong, be positive and not let that event affect me in any negative way. Show gratitude for those who have passed and for their achievements, but never letting that get in the way of living my own life.

    I also believe that being the most important person in my life is essential in times of being rejected by others for whatever reason. No matter how important others who reject me may be, I will know that their opinions of me don’t really matter. I’m in control of my own destiny. But at the same time, if I’m offered constructive criticism on how I can do anything better in my life, of course I will accept that advice the best I can. If it helps me become a better person and make me aware any flaws I may have but may not be aware of myself, such advice can be a great help.

    Being the most important person in my own life and doing whatever I can to take good care of myself I believe also places me in a better position to help others improve their own lives. If someone I know is facing a problem I have already overcome myself, I am then able to help them do the same from my own experiences.

    There are probably many more reasons I can list, but these to me are the most important. There’s nothing wrong with loving yourself, and this has nothing to do with vanity. Sadly though, many people confuse the two and accuse those who they see as vain as ‘loving themselves’. Vanity is not a trait I possess. Of course if I were not the number one person in my own life, and instead chose to live my life to please others, I know I would not be happy.

    Like: Thumb up +19

    • Bett says:

      Glenn,
      May I just say that I relate to everything you have said in your writing, and appreciate how clearly you have written about your ideas. It has taken a lifetime for me to be able to see the importance, for me, to acknowledge and appreciate myself as #1, and take responsibility for my life.
      Bett

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    • Pradz says:

      Hi Glenn Im coming straight to the point. Its a very wise thing that you hav put up here. I must thank you for making it so beautiful and clear. Used to be a very confused girl in asigning priorities. I have also mentioned you in my reply to the question. :)

      cheers !!

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  8. rakesh says:

    The pertinent question and very rightly picked up shall definitely bring out the hidden ego’s or cravings about persons or things.
    We modern people are over-obsessed with ourselves and worst part is we have all the intellectualism to justify it.
    So no wonder people will come out with myriad idiosyncrasies around the vital questions put up
    May truth prevail.
    May we learn to be humble.

    Like: Thumb up +4

    • Celes says:

      Hi rakesh, this is not the place to criticize or critique others’ answers – it’s a journaling challenge where everyone is invited to reflect on the questions and share their answers. No answer is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’; everything is subjective and the most important thing is that it’s true for the individual him/herself. It takes openness and authenticity to journal on these questions and share one’s answers openly in a public platform like this, where others may place their judgments. Instead of analyzing and critiquing others’ answers, I’ll like to invite you to instead join in the challenge, reflect on the question and share your answers together with everyone. That’s the essence of what this challenge is about – reflecting, connecting with our inner selves, and growing through the self reflection.

      Like: Thumb up +23

  9. Mary Jane Hoover says:

    The most important person in the world to me is myself. For without me I would not have my kids. I want and need to love me now since I haven;t loved me in a long time. If I don’t make myself important than I am no use to anyone else. After all were all in this together. Lets help each other out.

    I have lost myself to so many people over the years, I make it a priority to make myself important.

    You should too.

    Like: Thumb up +3

  10. nhayohmee says:

    I can personally not pick only one person who is most important to me in the world but two– and it would be my parents. They are two of the most admirable inspiring and nicest people that I know which makes me super lucky to grow up in such a loving family that I would want to have in the future as well. I have to be honest, sometimes it can hold me back to what I really want todo and where I really want to go because I have a fear of leaving them because they are oldr, but lately I am starting to accept that I have to grow up and mature on my own.

    Like: Thumb up +2

  11. Nadia says:

    The most important person to me is my dear dear Mother <3

    A very close second is my Father. They are the only ones who will love me unconditionally, the only ones who do what’s best for me before what’s best for them – actually they consider what’s best for me is best for them.

    How can I ever thank them? Is it even possible?

    Like: Thumb up +3

  12. lotusbleu says:

    I pick me as the most important person to myself; just in case no one else will.

    Like: Thumb up +10

  13. roand says:

    As a single working parent – the most important person in my life is my son. He is my world and I love him to bits. I couldn’t imagine what life would be like without him in it.

    Like: Thumb up +5

    • Ellen says:

      I hope I can formulate it right…there’s something in what you write that…concerns me… touches me..

      As I read it, there is a hidden danger in what you write/feel…
      Yes, (ofcourse!!) you love your son to bits, but at the same time you can’t build your entire world around him!
      You NEED to have your own life and interests in order to be a good rolmodel to him, to teach him and to help him develop and grow!

      Like: Thumb up +1

      • Nadia says:

        Ellen, we can’t be judgmental in this website,and as Celes said, there’s no right or wrong answer. But what you see as alarming, I see as natural.
        A mother is always attached to her children very strongly until they grow up. There are varieties in how mothers express their love.
        Especially when you have a baby or a child, you must put their needs first because they are completely dependent on you, but if we can’t guarantee a child his right to be cared for, then no need to bring him to this world.
        Please consider this: If you felt so much worried for a stranger online ( just because they wrote something that could be not 100% accurate), then how can we blame a mother for worrying about someone who lived with her heart for months before her eyes saw him.

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  14. Christine says:

    The most important person to me in the world is my Dad! Come rain or shine, he’s always there for me. His unconditional love, tireless and endless supports have made me of who I am today. He’s the one who never fails to immediately call me back whenever I ring (but unanswered) or leave him a message. Even when I am thousand miles away from him, when I’m sick he always makes that expensive international calls every single day just to check if I already feel better than the day before. He is the one who always makes sure that I have reached my destination all right when I travel. I’m already married and 27 years old this year, but I’m always Daddy’s little girl.

    Like: Thumb up +9

    • Toni says:

      That is beautiful! Hats off to your Dad!

      Like: Thumb up +2

      • Christine says:

        Thanks, Toni! Writing this post made me miss my Dad so much! In fact, my eyes were tearing as I composed the answer of today’s challenge.

        Like: Thumb up +2

    • lotusbleu says:

      Not just your Daddy’s little girl. I bet if your Daddy participates in this discussion on Journalling, he would have named you as the most important person in his life!

      Like: Thumb up +2

  15. Prion says:

    My mother has taught me what it means to love. She has been absolutely committed, she is intelligent, hard-working and very humble.

    My father has taught me what it means to love wisdom, to have a strong character, and to be a compassionate person.

    My brothers have been there for me. I love them.

    I love my friends: Ellen who is amazing. Santosh who is a brilliant, humble, supportive, sweet, caring and handsome and amazing man. My ex-boyfriend Christopher is a romantic, deeply caring person, he has been someone I can share my thoughts with. Lauren is a sweet, beautiful, special girl. Melody has been a friend going out of her way for me. Sean is caring and supportive also, and he has been someone I can share my ideas with. Claire is a radiant woman with a beautiful spirit, she is wise and sweet. There have been others and I love them all.

    There are the random strangers who have given me a word of advice or encouragement when I needed it. Thank you.

    I hope that I have and will make an impact in the lives of others.

    Like: Thumb up +4

    • We all make an impact upon our world. I truly believe this statement:
      “Everything we do, Everything we don’t do
      Everything we say, Everything we don’t say
      Affects someone somewhere.”

      Our affects upon the world also affect our self.
      Thank Being said I would definitely say that you have made an impact upon the lives of others.

      Like: Thumb up +3

 


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