21DJC Day 19 – What Words Best Describe You?

This is Day 19 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge (21DJC) for Nov 2011. View list of tasks: 21DJC Overview.

Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 19 of 21DJC! :) We now have 2 days left till the end of the challenge!

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Day 18 Review

Yesterday’s question was: “What Matters Most To You?“. (Read the responses.)

What matters most to me? For sure, growing and helping others to grow is the most important thing to me. It’s after all my life purpose. :)

My parents matter a lot to me too. They are the ones who brought me to this world and cared for me, even till this day. There wouldn’t be a me today if it wasn’t for them. And even though we don’t communicate much, that doesn’t mean we aren’t important to each other. We express our love to each other differently than most do.

My goals and dreams matter a lot to me. Pursuing them is part of living my life to the fullest. I defend them fiercely from anyone or anything that gets in the way. To hold me back from pursuing my goals is akin to locking me in a cafe and taking my life away from me.

People matter a lot to me. While this is probably obvious given my life purpose, it became apparent during my travels. I found that no matter what country I was in, it wasn’t the sites or sights that excited me. It was meeting new people, getting to know them, and making meaningful connections. To me, knowing someone new is an adventure. I would much rather do that than check out some building or rock which plays no role in my life and which I will probably never see again.

When I’m hanging out with someone, I like to know about their background, understand their motivations in life, and absorb everything they have to share. I feel there’s always something to learn from everybody – it’s like we’re each a walking encyclopedia, except that we’re more powerful than an encyclopedia because we have the ability to think and synthesize thoughts.

Love matters to me. I think to live a life with no love is akin to not having lived at all. Love is what sets apart living beings from non-living things. Love is the most powerful force in all of universe. History has shown, time and again, of how people are able to accomplish things greater than themselves, driven by love – be it love for a certain cause, love for other beings, love for the world, love for anything. (By love, I mean all kinds of love, and not just romantic love.)

With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!

21DJC Day 19

Today is the 3rd last day of 21DJC, and the 3rd last question of the challenge. Today’s question is:

What Words Best Describe You?

What Words Best Describe You?

If you are to describe yourself, what words would you use? And why? (Feel free to cover anything from physical appearance, to your character traits, to your values and life beliefs.)

(Today’s question can be found in #6 of 101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself In Life. For those who have Personal Excellence Book Volume 1, read Discover Your Values, where you get to uncover your values via a simple exercise.)

Put on your reflection cap and let your thoughts flow. Below is an empty form which you can use to write your answers to the question. Treat it as your private 21DJC journaling “room”, if you will. You will be seeing this form every day, for the 21 days of the challenge. There’s a button for you to keep track of your word count too, if you’re interested.

(Note you will not see the form below if you’re viewing this in your email client. Visit the actual post online to see the form.)

What Words Best Describe You?

Your Task Today:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
  2. Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
  3. Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D

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  1. Alban Brice says:

    Better – Passion – Love

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  2. Arnold Tse says:

    I was asked to use 3 words to describe myself in a school application. I said that I am:

    Eclectic – because I try out many different activities, styles, and ways of thinking, and I make use of the advantages of everything I do

    Liberal – because I’m open to new experiences and would like to be exposed to culture from all around the world

    Indefatigable – because when I’m doing something I love doing… there’s no stopping me :lol:

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  3. Netta says:

    Open is the first word that comes to mind. I am always open to look at every side of a story and see things in a different point of view before making any harsh judgments about anything. I think that everyone has a reason behind what they do and just because it may not be something I believe in or how I would react doesn’t mean I can’t stand back and see their reasons. Also, I don’t hide who I am from anyone. I see my life as an open book. I don’t like anyone to take something they believe I’ve done and twist it to how they perceive it to be, so if someone wants to know about me, all they must do is come to me and ask.
    Creative describes me also. I enjoy making new things and have a creative side to me. I enjoy writing poetry, decorating my home, designing my scrapbook, helping with decorating projects my children bring home. I love writing and even finding clothes to match my style.
    Adventurous describes me also. I have been rock climbing, horseback riding in the mountains. I have jumped off a 40 foot cliff into a privately owned lake. I have done free falling in Tennessee. I am willing to do these things though I am scared of heights, I love the way my heart races when I am doing something a bit scary. I hurt my knees when I jumped into the lake in North Carolina and yet I would gladly give it another try.
    Pretty and Unique are two more words I use. I don’t claim to be beautiful but I do find myself attractive and I am my own person. I don’t wear clothes, make-up, style my hair, or change my thoughts to be like others. I dress how I feel each day and the people that know me will say they don’t like a certain outfit but it says me.
    Some negative words come to mind that I want to improve on. I can be jealous of my time with others and not want to share them. I tend to be hot headed and can get angry quickly. I would like to improve on that.
    Though I need to improve on areas in my life and within me, I am confident in who I am. Even knowing the negative sides of myself is better than not knowing myself at all.

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  4. Ish says:

    The words that best describe me are: Positive, optimistic, friendly, caring, loyal, smart, intelligent, reliable, responsible, hardworking, achiever, learner, knowledgeable, analytical, intuitive, stubborn, shy

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  5. One word to describe me is almost impossible, but then nothing is impossible because even the word tells us that~ I M POSSIBLE! I have been told so many including happy, gifted, anxious, helpful, wonderful, beautiful, stupid, foolish, impressionable, and many more. When I was born my had one constant pain from the time her water broke until the minute I was born in her labor with me. She named me Karman but used to call me, Constance. It was our private connection, our special.
    Words can mean so many different things, even the harsh ones. Depending upon the language they are stated in, the facial expression of the speaker, the voice inflection, many things can change the meaning of a simple word. So to come up with one word, hmmmmm, I would have to say that the word that describes me best is ECLECTIC.
    Eclectic is a mixture of all the good and all the bad that we present to people as well as ourselves, I think I am definitely ECLECTIC as I am all the things people think, say, and understand about me. And amazingly I am okay with that. ;) :D

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  6. Carl, somewhere on the email you receive it should have a link to unsubscribe, or just delete them and ignore them. You have to look at the bottom of the email. It is at the very bottom and in lighter letters, it gives links to update your profile or unsubscribe.
    Good luck to you and may your day be blessed.

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  7. Aletta says:

    RESPONSIBLE squared. I think I’m probably too responsible for my own good, enabling others to not be too responsible as I’d fill the gap.
    ROMANTIC: this is not something I’ve ever really thought about until a stranger pointed it out to me and I had to agree that, yes, it is the case.
    RIGHT: not a very flattering trait, but I’m right very often as I get to the crux of a scenario fairly quickly.

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  8. Barry says:

    What words best describe me?

    I suppose that answer would be most revealing if contrasted to what words OTHERS would use to describe me. Anyway -

    Thoughtful, pensive, polite.

    Cool (as in, not warm), aloof, distant.

    Competent, steady, calm, patient

    Passive – aggressive

    Intelligent Quick whit, Subtle wry sense of humor

    Understanding, sympathetic, forgiving.

    “……well, that’s enough about me……………. What do you think about me?” :-)

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    • Julia Shirey says:

      Are you saying that others would describe you as passive-aggressive, or that you would describe yourself as passive-aggressive? It is an interesting thing to find on your list, at least to me. So I guess I couldn’t answer your question about what I think of you until I knew the answer to my question.

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      • Barry says:


        All of those are MY assessments.

        OTHERS may have a completely different list that could reveal I am out of touch!

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        • Julia Shirey says:

          I have met plenty of passive=aggressive individuals in my life, but never one that would admit that about themselves. Or, generally, even recognized that about themselves. It is very interesting that you used that in your description. You sound like a very interesting person.

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          • Barry says:


            Since you find it interesting, I will share.

            My passive – aggressive “trait” is not “pervasive” and it does not rise to the level of a “disorder.” I prefer to think of it as a “style” :-)

            Mostly I just do not like to engage in conflict. Some people love to clash sabres constantly, some for sport some out of habit, some constantly on defense others constantly on offense.

            But since conflict seems inevitable, I prefer to approach it on my own terms.

            You see, with all that Yin, I can be calm, thoughtful, pensive, patient – just like a Lion, lying in wait – but that Yang is there too, and eventually the Lion pounces. It is “playing to win” – when forced in to conflict.

            I actually try very hard, in an open and fair effort to resolve issues without “major conflict” – and if I am wrong I am open to find that out and accept it, and deal with it fairly. But if I am right, and backed in to a corner by someone that won’t let up – I will rope-a-dope ‘em and give them the old “Olay!” – This is mostly in business, when I run in to real obstinance.

            In personal relationships that is considered “not fighting fair.” – Knowing this about myself, I do take conscious efforts to be watchful for this, and not go nuclear, when a frown or a puzzled look, or another question will suffice.

            I have found that I can communicate more well with some, than others.
            It is easy to communicate with those that “get you”, but takes more effort with others. Communication is an area where I need to keep growing.

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            • Julia Shirey says:

              I have to agree it is more of a style than a disorder, since you seem to understand it well, and can avoid it it situations where it is not necessary, or profitable for you. After all, in order to be classified as a disorder it really has to interfere with your ability to live in your own society successfully. It is unusual that you both know and understand yourself so candidly. Very refreshing. And thought provoking.

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  9. Mirna says:

    Let me give it a go:
    - creative
    - lazy
    - outspoken
    - irresponsible
    - tall
    - big lips
    - smart
    - tough
    - perfeccionist
    - sensitive
    - leader
    - fashion savvy
    - fun
    - curious
    - strong

    Why? Creative because I love to engage in new projects and let my ideas flow when I do them, not being afraid of going against the status quo.
    Lazy because I sleep in till noon, and I only do work when the pressure is on and it’s near deadline.
    Outspoken because I am afraid of speaking my mind or sharing my take on a situation, even if it differs from others.
    Irresponsible because I don’t follow through with my promises or anything like that. And I lose a lot of important things.
    Tall because I’m a girl and I’m 5″8.
    I have lips larger than most people’s so I’ve heard.
    Smart because I can get myself out of sticky situation using my own creative ideas. Sometimes crazy ideas.
    Tough because no matter how low things get, I pull through them.
    Perfeccionist because I seldom think that my work is good enough, so I keep running with it until I either have to accept it imperfect or quit.
    Sensitive because I get rather emotional about things such as cry in movies, children’s movies, and up until recently I took criticism personally.
    Leader because It seems to come naturally, I usually know what to do and I go d it.
    Fashion savvy because I have the concern to look my best everyday, making sure style emmulates the person I am on the inside.I also use my clothes to express ideas and make sure I’m always inspired by the great fashion bloggers I admire.
    Fun because I like to have fun, and do spontanious things sometimes, while sharing some good laughs.
    Curious because when I see something I like I go for it, look for it andfind out all there is to know about it.
    Strong in a emotional sense. I can hold up pretty well and heal emotional pain fast without destrying myself on the way.

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  10. Christine says:

    I am a complex person. I think and worry too much most of the time. I am a fussy, demanding, conservative, overcritical, practical, humorous, serious, determined, hardworking, loyal , easily-angered, jealous, impatient, bashful, confused/contemplative, moody, reserved, quiet, sensitive, ignorant, somewhat organized, analytical, panic freak and less adventurous.

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  11. Julia Shirey says:

    The words used most often to describe me by others are optimistic, intelligent, generous, calm, loving. The words I would use to describe myself are harder to think up. I guess I would describe myself with rational, inquisitive, self-doubting, decent, and acceptable. Oh, and stubborn.

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  12. Tony Cuckson says:

    Lovely invitation. I try to follow the instruction from my beloved Rumi who says

    Risk all for Love.


    I would choose the following words to describe me at my best – meaning when I am in touch with the true Self and not the ego that stuggles to make the world meaningful and filled with its own agenda,

    empathetic, creative, caring, supportive, compassionate, insightful.

    Better stop. My head is getting to big so that I can’t get out the door.

    Oh and funny is one other quality.

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  13. Kimberly says:

    Authentic. Inquisitive. Intelligent. Hard-working. Energetic. Passionate. Loyal. Dedicated. Trusting. Happy. Reflective. Dependable. Diverse-thinker. Quiet. Analytical. Patient. Persistent. Compassionate. Positive. Team-player. I truly feel that the reason I have been blessed with great friends and have experienced amazing things has been down to my authentic personality that I only recently became aware of. For me, it was just obvious, but I had recently completed a course on how to interact better with people (thinking I should try to stretch more in that area since I am a classic introvert but display extrovert characteristics from time to time, and only after lots of preparation) and the feedback I got over and over again from people who are so intrinsically different from me is that I am approachable and ‘the real deal.’ I really don’t like to try to sell something or be someone I am not (albeit sometimes I may wish to be someone I am not, but those moments are fleeting and I never act on them, but I do use those experiences as reflection moments to look at my own life and see how I am doing). I have noticed that when I interact with many new people, they really do not appear to be very authentic since they say one thing and do something else, or they change their story (more so than an acceptable amount of change, since it is okay to change your story if there is a logical reason behind it, we do not know the future you know). I yearn to have authentic conversations with anyone I meet, and when I find a like-minded individual, it fuels and strengthens all my adjectives above, except perhaps ‘quiet’ since I can get quite animated when engaged in an authentic ‘happening’ around me. Obviously all adjective at the top of this journal entry are positive. I do have a few negative words that describe me (luckily a few). I am moody (at times). I tend to procrastinate (although not as much as I used to, I have developed good techniques). I am sometimes very hard on myself, too much at times, and can be a bit of a perfectionist but it’s part of my hard-working approach. But sometimes as a joke I may describe myself to others, particularly new people, as a perfectionist, since it has a bit of an element of truth on how I can deliver quality results using my intellect, my passion, my energy, my dedication, my persistence, my hard-working approach to the task at hand.

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  14. Stella Zorro says:

    Intelligent, witty, independent, resourceful, tense, private, sad, lonely, weary, strong, unique, open-minded, loyal, faithful, honest, clever, watchful, reserved, expressive, organized, logical, illogical, interesting, healthy, low-maintenance, brave.

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  15. fufu says:

    Physical Appearance:

    Green eyes
    Very White
    Dark brown hair
    Skinnier than normal people
    Can’t get fat
    Big ears
    Small Lips
    Symptoms of Asthmatic
    Lactose Intolerant
    Allergic to nuts and dried fruits
    Straight hair(Sometimes long, other times short)
    Long nose
    Small forehead
    Good at jumping
    Can’t run or gets to agitated
    Beautiful in her own way
    Eats a lot

    Character Traits:

    Contradicts herself a lot
    Cold when it comes to romantic relationships
    Fast at moving on
    Caring when it comes to friends and family
    Selfish at times
    Believes she can achieve anything
    A bit of a liar or badmouth
    Fearful of Zombies/Hates horror movies
    Likes to be in command
    Hates feeling powerless
    Has problems imagining herself in others shoes
    Accepts others for who they are
    Dislikes unfair judgement and racism
    Calm and laid back
    Not dedicated all out with her studies
    Likes to be understood
    Loyal and polite
    Used to be self-sacrificing
    Rude and mean
    Has a hard time accepting she has good points about herself as you can see
    Is hard to make her laugh at a joke.

    Values/Life Beliefs:

    Anything is possible, you’re the limit.
    Death is a reality, which is why others opinions don’t matter at all.
    I live by my rules, my beliefs and my way.
    The people that laugh at me are just those that are afraid I’ll succeed in what they think they can’t.
    I like to live in drama and problems, because if everything is perfectly fine I’d be bored.

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