21DJC Day 13 – What Do You Fear Most?

This is Day 13 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge (21DJC) for Nov 2011. Read the announcement and details on the challenge here: 21-Day Journaling Challenge.

Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 13 of 21DJC! :) Yesterday’s question was: “What Are Your Biggest Goals in the Next Few Years?“. (Read the responses.)

It was really very exciting reading all your upcoming life goals! I love setting goals, because when we do them, we become architects of our life, envisioning what we want to see in our life, rather than living it based on what we have before us now. Goal setting is the first step towards living a conscious life of our creation. Read more: 6 Important Reasons Why You Should Set Goals

I have a lot of huge things which I’m very, *very* excited to start working on for the upcoming period. One thing is definitely Personal Excellence. Having reached the one million pageviews / month mark a month ago, I’m very excited to hit the next major traffic milestones: such as 2 million pageviews / month, 5 million pageviews, 10 million pageviews, and so on. After 3 years of running the site, I’ve come to realize that all my other business goals are ancillary to this goal, because when I hit a higher traffic, all other things naturally fall into place, be it helping others to grow, hitting revenue targets, receiving new business opportunities, media mentions, and so on.

The other thing which I’m very much looking forward is having my talkshow. Long-time readers would know I had a short-lived talkshow 2 years ago, The Celes Show (You can see it at CelesShow.com, though the site has been abandoned for the past 2 years and not updated). I stopped working on it because it took up too much of my time from PE, and I realized it wasn’t the right time for me to launch the show, because the foundations of PE was not laid out at that time (the blog was only 1 year old at that time).

But now, I think it’s time for me to consider bringing it back. I won’t be doing it right away now, because there are still other factors of consideration, and also because I still want to work on broadening the reach of PE first before I move into other projects. But it’s fair to say that I’ll look into it with a more serious intent sometime next year (2012).

That said, it’s one thing to set big goals and dreams, and another thing to take action to achieve them. Keep in mind what you have written for yesterday’s question, because we are going to get working on them really soon. In our upcoming Live a Better Life in 30 Days next month (Dec), we will be drilling into our life goals with more detail, and creating an action plan to achieve our goals. It’ll be an exciting month, an opportunity to review how 2011 has been for us, and an excellent way to end off the year of 2011 – with a big bang and a huge vision for 2012, which I see as a year of new beginnings. :D

With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!

21DJC Day 13

Today’s question is deviates from the 12 questions so far:

What Do You Fear Most?

What Do You Fear Most?

What are you living in fear of? What are you most afraid to see happen? And why?

(Today’s question can be found in #60 of 101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself In Life. For those who own Personal Excellence Book, Volume 1, be sure to check out How To Overcome Fear (3-part series), exclusively written for the book.)

Put on your reflection cap and let your thoughts flow. Below is an empty form which you can use to write your answers to the question. Treat it as your private 21DJC journaling “room”, if you will. You will be seeing this form every day, for the 21 days of the challenge. There’s a button for you to keep track of your word count too, if you’re interested.

(Note you will not see the form below if you’re viewing this in your email client. Visit the actual post online to see the form.)

What Do You Fear Most?

Your Task Today:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
  2. Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
  3. Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D

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  1. Jitender says:

    I fear my own powers.

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  2. Mirna says:

    What I fear the most is people not liking me. Yep, I know. This is a pretty crippling fear, ever since I was last picked at a game a long time ago in school, I am constantly worried that no one will like me or choose me or something.
    I get anxious everytime my teachers assign group work, I am terrified of no one wanting to work with me.
    I am working on conciously overcoming this fear and building up the belief that I am good enougj just the way I am, there is no need to overcompensate or become a “social worker”.
    So far so good, but it’s an everyday battle.

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  3. jola kapaj says:

    I have thins very big fear that I won’t be able to make my way in to my life. I am so afraid that I’ll just take what comes to me from life and not really control it. A lot of people who surround me just exist and don’t really live. I don’t really have any examples to follow and I really want to make my wishes true. I hope I’ll find all the help and support here cause I really need it. :)

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  4. Mastermind says:

    My major fear is losing control meaning I can’t do it. Ironically, I know I do not control anything. But, being overwhelmed, meaning I can;t do it is terrible.

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  5. Edrick says:

    I fear presenting my way in a negative way the most. I care about how others see me. When I am being perceived as bad or not good enough, it hits me. Being an emotional person, I will feel dejected, and I will look down upon myself. Fortunately, I have somewhat improved over the years, and now I behave in that manner less and less. I have people who would help me overcoming that in various ways, and I am really appreciative of what they do, although my personality is still forcing me to keep believing in my principles.

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  6. Stella Zorro says:

    Losing those closest to me…not being able to protect those closest to me.

    Being in a plane crash.

    That it has all been for nothing.

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    • Stella Zorro says:

      Right now, I am immobilized by the fear of having to ask a family member for money or my kids and I will be evicted.

      I am just as frightened of applying for assistance with food and medical coverage.

      I have anxiety attacks just thinking about it and it leaves me immobile and instead of dealing with our current issues, I do nothing but panic thinking about dealing with these people.

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    • I can completely relate to the idea that it has all been for nothing. My spirituality has been taxed to the extreme lately because I am finding that I fit nowhere and am struggling to find myself in the mix.

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  7. Kimberly says:

    I fear failure. I am a perfectionist and I want to see everything work perfectly. At the same time, I am realistic and pragmatic and know all too well that things will not always work perfectly. That is why we design into our projects Plan Bs and PlanCs or alternative driving routes or secondary subsystems to take over if the first one fails. I tend to live my life with a healthy dose of Plan B & alternative strategies in case the first one fails. But deep down, I do fear failure to achieve my goals and dreams. I work very hard at them, daily, weekly, long term, but if I were not to achieve them (and they are indeed pretty up there), I know I would not be very happy with failure. Obviously I should try to rationalize that even going for such goals is a great endeavour that most won’t undertake in their lives and I should even be glad to be trying. But that sort of rationalization does not work for me since I do not like the approach of comparing myself to others to make me feel better. I want to feel better from within and use my surroundings to enhance it, not be the basis of it. I also know that in order to achieve great things, you learn the most by failure. And I love learning. But I do not love to fail. When I do fail in things, I do look upon the situation at a “teachable moment” but sometimes those times come way too far after the event that it’s impact is not as effective. But it is still part of the process I have developed and used to legitimize failure since I do need to try and then fail in order to learn to be better, do better, etc. and then try again. There are times when the fear of failure actually is strong enough to prevent me to try. I do not like those times at all. I do not understand them either, but that is why I think it’s what I fear most since those times remain in my mind for years.

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  8. heather says:

    I fear getting a life threatning illness and leaving my family. I have had three very important people pass away in my life due to cancer and I have seen firsthand how this affects family members. The emotional turmoil, the financial burden, the hospital stays. My wish would be for no one to ever have to endure that, but of course I know, this is a part of life. I also don’t know if I would be able to cope with the fact that I would be dying. Some would argue that my relationship with God just isn’t strong enough. I just say that I am afraid to die!

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  9. Ish says:

    My greatest fear is losing my family and loved ones. My father died 10 years back and my grandmother 3 years back. In both cases, they were not sick and died suddenly. Since then, I also have a fear of planning my travels well in advance in case I have to cancel.

    Another one of my fears is losing my independence , having to depend on someone else. First, I fear losing my financial independence. I also fear being sick and having to rely on someone else for basic everyday things.

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  10. Andreea says:

    My biggest fear is the fear of losing someone I love, of being abandoned… of loneliness. I made a lot of compromises just because I was paralyzed by even the thought of being alone.
    I also fear of extreme poverty, like not having a roof above my head or enough food to keep me going. I understand that the only way to fight against these fears is my personal growth, my independence.
    Other fears that kept me from having a healthy life – fear of embarrasing moments in public and what other might think, fear of speaking in public. I still haven’t overcome my shyness and awkwardness in social life.
    I’m not afraid of dying, but I’m afraid of standing there in God’s presence, knowing I wasted my life and that I haven’t achieved anything.

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  11. Farhana says:

    I fear most about facing my Creator as believe in afterlife…and then comes the fear of losing my loved ones

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  12. Julie says:

    I think that today my fears are fewer than the ones I had in the past.
    But today I still fear to show to the one I love that I’m attracted by him, I’m quite puzzled and I question myself on how I should do and behave.
    I still have some nagging fears on my skills, doubt is always there not so far but it also acts as an incentive not to rest on my laurels.
    I slightly fear to be suffocated by others. I want to remain free of my choices, my desires…

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  13. Mary Jane Hoover says:

    I think m biggest fears in this world, is to not live life to its fullest and not reconciling my my past. Healing myself in heart mind and soul, and body.

    I want to take risks to be able to say that I have done things that I have regretted in passing up in years past,

    There were so many times that I have passed up thigs because I was under the control in abusive relationships,

    Now that I am free of those that have had control, I want to do and experience things,

    My biggest fear is leaving this world being ordinary. I WANT O BE EXTROARDINARY in something anything, I am already slightly eccentric, I just want to be considered Lovingly and eccentric and extroardinary,

    I haven’t been able to live in my past, so I want to live in my future.

    Dying without living and loving to excess is my second fear,

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  14. Ellen says:

    Hmmm…tough one! I’m not that fearful anymore.
    After thinking hard, I guess my biggest fear is not living my life’s purpose.
    Simple sentence, lot of work ;)

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  15. Sailingawaytoday says:

    I won’t change enough for my dreams to manifest.

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