Comments on: When Goals Stop Working

By: Dr Paul Dyer

Dr Paul Dyer — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 01:13:47 +0000

IMHO, goals that keep us motivated, are goals that align with our life’s true purpose. The goals that move us toward becoming the person we want to be and that correspond to our Calling, will remain motivating and exciting for long periods of time. On the other hand, goals that are disconnected from our life’s purpose, or are arbitrary, or were chosen just because they “seem like the right thing to do”, or were selected because someone else thinks that they should matter, will soon become burdensome and lead to feelings of self-defeat and goal-resignation.

By: Mike Wille

Mike Wille — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 18:57:00 +0000

Great Post Celes. I think that it is great to set goals but they have to be as organic as we are. Just as we grow and develop and change so should our goals. If we keep doing the same thing that isn’t working over and over we will eventually give up. Since we will rarely accomplish something worthwhile our first time, the key is to keep readjusting, tuning and trying again and again until we finally find the right strategy to accomplish what we want.

By: Mitch

Mitch — Mon, 31 May 2010 19:39:15 +0000

I’m at that point where I need to readdress my goals because I’m just not feeling them anymore. Truthfully, I don’t think my goals are geared towards a proper outcome, as I only have one long term dream, and it’s really not enough yet to compel me to greater heights.

I like this post; thanks, as it’s got me thinking again.

By: Jarrod - Cultivating Heroes

Jarrod - Cultivating Heroes — Sun, 30 May 2010 03:57:55 +0000

There is nothing quite as soul sucking then when your personal standards set to meet your goals start taking you along a path you no longer want to walk.

This is why I have constant review cycles (monthly at the moment) to review those big 1-5year goals I have setup. If it’s no longer what I really want then it is time to throw it out.

I particularly like your idea of throwing the goals out and starting with a fresh list. If it is dead then let it be, if it is something that you feel you want it will come back to life through its own course in your life.

By: Joshua Noerr

Joshua Noerr — Sun, 30 May 2010 00:54:18 +0000

Really good post Celes. I am a huge proponant of writing goals down. I encourage my readers to write them down twice per day, in a very specific format (ie the present, personal, positive tense), first things upon waking up, and right before you go to bed. It just allows your subconscious to work on them, and keeps you focused on them all day.

I also think it’s important to do just something small every day to move toward the goal. I think too many people want to accomplish everything all in one day, and then get discouraged. Goal setting and accomplishment is a marathon, not a sprint!

By: Clearly Composed

Clearly Composed — Sat, 29 May 2010 22:36:49 +0000

I agree that if purpose comes first, the goal process is much easier and going past the goal making to developing the plan to reach it is where the magic starts to happen. Good info here and good luck with the book!

By: Hulbert Lee

Hulbert Lee — Sat, 29 May 2010 22:03:49 +0000

Hey Celestine, your goal renewal session strategy is a great way to feel inspired to do our goals again. There are days where I don’t feel motivated, and when I’m writing, well let’s just say nothing really connects anywmore. Sometimes I have to get a clean piece of paper and find the meaning behind the goals that I had in the first place in order to feel inspired again. We don’t want to be driven by obligation like you say; we want to feel inspired to do what we do and I really liked how you outlined this for us. Thanks.