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How To Handle Molestation: A Real Encounter
Have you ever been molested before? I have, and today’s article is about how to handle molestations.
My Molestation Encounter
Last week, I was on Amtrak (the railway network in US), going from New York City to Los Angeles. It was a 3-day train ride (Jan 5-8), with a transit in Chicago.
Not all the passengers were going from NYC to LA. There were multiple stopovers, where passengers would depart, and new passengers who would get onboard. This meant I was sitting with different people throughout the ride. I was in the coach cabin, with an aisle and 2 seats on each aisle.
On the first night, there was someone seated beside me, so I slept on my seat. While the seat itself was fairly spacious, could recline a fair bit and came with plenty of legroom, it was not as comfortable as sleeping on an actual bed. I made the best out of the space given, curling up in my seat, while the person beside me did the same too.
On the second night, after transiting in Chicago, it turned out there was no one seated beside me for the night. So I occupied both seats and used them as a bed. It was as comfortable as it could…
Published Jan 14 2012
Filed: Awareness & Growth, Character Building, Emotional Mastery, People Skills, Travel
Tags: bully, bullying, fear, how to handle molesters, molestation, molester, sex offenders, sexual abuse
How To Handle Bullying: An Important Guide
This is part of the Dealing With People series.
- How To Deal With Energy Vampires
- 7 Tips To Tackle Naysayers in Your Life
- 8 Helpful Ways To Deal With Critical People
- How To Deal With Dishonest People
- How To Deal With Rude People (3-part series)
- 10 Tips To Make New Friends
- How To Handle Bullying: An Important Guide
Have you ever been bullied before, whether as a kid, teenager, or adult?
What did you do about the bullying situation? Did you let it go? Did you stand up for yourself? Did you suffer in silence? Did you seek help from others?
Today’s article is an important, 6,600+ word guide on how to handle bullying.
Bullying
What constitutes bullying? Here’s what Wikipedia has to say:
Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior, which may manifest as abusive treatment, the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when habitual and involving an imbalance of power. It may involve verbal harassment, physical assault or coercion and may be directed persistently towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability.
The “imbalance of power” may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a “target”.
Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional,…
Published Nov 18 2011
Filed: Awareness & Growth, Character Building, Emotional Mastery, Family & Friends, Love & Compassion, People Skills, Relationships, Singlehood & Dating
Tags: bully, bullying, CBP, customs border protection, energy vampires, fear, grounding, immigration, rude people, shielding
How To Overcome Procrastination – Part 5
This is the last part of a series on How to Overcome Procrastination.
- Part 1: Why Overcome Procrastination?
- Part 2: Procrastination – Symptom of An Issue
- Part 3: 1st Root Cause – Lack of Desire
- Part 4: 2nd Root Cause – Fear
- Part 5: How To Overcome Procrastination
- Part 6: 11 Practical Steps To Overcome Procrastination (exclusive article in Personal Excellence Book)
If you have read this far, I assume procrastination is a problem you face and want to address. In this part, you’ll learn how to overcome your procrastination through an introspective exercise. Time to stop procrastinating and get the problem nipped in the bud!
Exercise To Uncover Why You Procrastinate
As with all our exercises, grab a notebook and pen or open up your processing document. Set aside about 20 minutes or so for this. We will be doing a fair bit of writing for this exercise.
Think of your mind as containing thousands of layers of information. At the bottom of this lies your subconsciousness. Every day, more layers get piled on as you face new contexts. In order to get down to your subconsciousness, we need to clear off the layers (done through steps 2-4) and get down to the depths of the mind.
Ready? Here we go 
1) Start off by identifying something you are procrastinating on, even…
Published Sep 5 2009
Filed: Productivity & GTD
Tags: desire, fear, overcome procrastination, overcoming procrastination, Procrastination
How To Overcome Procrastination – Part 4
This is part-4 of a series on How to Overcome Procrastination.
- Part 1: Why Overcome Procrastination?
- Part 2: Procrastination – Symptom of An Issue
- Part 3: 1st Root Cause – Lack of Desire
- Part 4: 2nd Root Cause – Fear
- Part 5: How To Overcome Procrastination
- Part 6: 11 Practical Steps To Overcome Procrastination (exclusive article in Personal Excellence Book)
Fear, 2nd Root Cause of Procrastination
Fear is the second underlying cause of procrastination. While you can have a desire to do something, if you have a fear stronger than your desire, you will face procrastination. This fear can be any fear – fear of pain, fear of uncertainty, fear of hardship, fear of not having control, fear of being incapable, fear of rejection, fear of being alone.
While this may sound bizarre, if you examine areas in your life you are procrastinating on today (even though you do want to do them), your answer is likely related to a certain fear you face. This is especially common among perfectionists, whereby procrastination is a common resultant behavior as they fear doing something in a ‘less perfect’ manner than they envisioned, and thereby impacting their idealized images of themselves. (more…)
Published Sep 1 2009
Filed: Productivity & GTD
Tags: fear, overcome procrastination, overcoming procrastination, Procrastination
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