Why I’m Retiring at 28 and Inviting You To Do the Same

With a Giraffe in Johannesburg, South Africa

Me with a giraffe in Johannesburg, South Africa

As of today, I’m retired from work and life.

What do I mean? I mean that I’ll no longer work or live life as conventional society deems me to. I’ll no longer concern myself with monetary needs, societal statuses, creating a lifetime of achievements, matching people’s expectations, and so on. I’ll just do my thing, act the way I want to act, and live the life I want to live, void of expectations and self-obligation—and trust that everything will work itself out in the end.

Why? I mean I’m just 28. Technically I still have a good four decades to go before I am considered fit for retirement. (The retirement age in Singapore is 65 now. It was 62 previously and was extended to 65 last year, and is probably going to be 68 or even 70 by the time I’m in 50 or 60.)

I guess I just realized that life is too short to be spent doing something, anything, I don’t want to do. Thinking back, a good part of my life had been spent living for someone or something else. From my studying years to my working years, I had constantly been in mad pursuit of goals which were both set by myself and by the society.

While the pursuit of these goals had made me a stronger and better person, the act of pursuing them had made me defer the present moment in wait of a better future. It made me constantly wonder “What’s next?” and look out into the future for greater happiness rather than actively live in the present.

Now that majority of my life goals have been achieved, I’m seeking for the next level-up where every moment of my life is pure bliss. I have realized that this requires me to organically create my life path from the present moment, based on my current passions and needs, rather than constantly think about how to manipulate my present reality to achieve a hypothetical future. The latter focuses a lot on delayed gratification (putting off your current needs), while the former is about being aware of your current moment and nurturing it into a better moment the next.

Living in obsession of future

How I was living in the past

Living in the now by building on the present

How I’m going to live, starting from today

*Diagrams and drawings by me. I know, not the most sophisticated of drawings — but it’s kind of what I’m trying to convey too: to live life in a child-like manner, based on today and now, rather than worrying about what should be or what others might think!

On the surface it may not seem as though anything is going to change. I’ll still be writing articles at the blog. I’ll still be creating videos for Celes.TV (subscribe to get my video updates). I’ll still be taking on media interviews to spread my message. I may still be creating new courses at PE (I’m thinking of an anti-procrastination course or a fear-crushing course next.) I’ll still be creating new business ideas because I love conceptualizing, strategizing, and creation. I’ll still be creating plans for my life because I love to plan.

However, on the micro-level, things will be different. Instead of asking, “What’s next?” or “What should I do today to achieve my goal?”, I will be asking myself, “What do I want to do today/right now?”. Then, I will proceed to do just that. It’s a slightly, but fundamentally, different approach to life that will create a different life experience altogether.

This is more than just semantics. This is something that’s going to change my life inside out. I’ve already begun living this way for the past few weeks and I’m really liking the shift so far. Gone are the days of negligent self-pressure, self-burdening, and life deferment. What I’m experiencing now is true inspiration and passion, from moment to moment. It’s like being in a perpetual state of flow.

To You

For you reading this, I encourage you to imagine you are retired now. What is the life you want to live? What is your definition of true bliss? What is a dream reality to you?

Then, think about how you can create that life right now, right now in this moment, rather than defer that life to some distant future.

Because you don’t live in the future. You live in the now. If you’re not completely happy today, in this present moment, then when are you ever going to be happy? Happiness starts in the now. If you want to live a happy life, you have to make happiness a present reality. Then, build on your present to create a greater future.

I’m done putting off my present in pursuit of a supposed better future. I invite you to do the same as me too—to live in the present, make happiness a present reality, then use that to create a marvelous life path as you move forward, rather than defer the current reality for the future.

I’ll end off with this quote by Confucious:

“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.” ~ Confucious

Here’s to living a great and fulfilling life for all of us! :)

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  • http://lifemosaique.wordpress.com/ Lina

    While this sounds good and I myself try to live more for the present rather than fearing&doubting the future, I think it’s easier for you to say that you’re going to do exactly what you feel like from now on, because you are financially independent, you don’t have to worry about whether or not you will have enough money to pay debt or school taxes.

    Please, don’t take me wrong, I’m not trying to be rude or mean, but this is how I see things.

    Reading this article made me feel warm and excited for a few seconds. However, these feelings quickly faded away when realizing that such a lifestyle isn’t (and probably will not be for some time) possible for me. No matter how many books one reads about making money and achieving financial independence, it’s not like you’re going to get money out of rocks; you must have something to begin with. And when you’re my age and living the life I’m living, your dreams remain just dreams.

    • http://hackmyheart.com Alexa

      Exactly how I felt, Lina! Just yesterday I made plans hoping to begin my journey to making my own money and becoming financially independent. But right now, with nothing in place, I can’t just “retire”. I’ve got my junior year of college to finish (and a lot of school work to work on at that!), before finishing up my last year next year. I’ve got those kinds of obligations, and meanwhile I’ve got to start doing -something- so that I have my own means to live!

      I suppose when I have free time, I can ask myself that question of “what do I feel like doing?”, but it’s not quite the same as living each day that way.

      Anyway, just wanted to wish you good luck as it sounds like we’re in similar situations! Hope everything is going well for you! =)

      • http://lifemosaique.wordpress.com/ Lina

        Thank you and wish you Good luck, too, Alexa! :)

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Lina, sure, that is a valid point. Do read my response to Alice on what I have to say in this regard though.

      Bottom line is to take responsibility for your problems and current life situation and think about how you can work out of it. I did not start off from a place of financial independence or financial freedom. These are things I worked towards since years ago, through sheer hard work and proper planning.

      I think it’s easy to sit and keep complaining about not having enough money and not having the financial freedom, etc. (I’m not saying you are doing this because you aren’t, and you are definitely not a complainer at all.) It takes more power and personal courage to look at what others are doing (that you personally want for your life as well) and ask yourself how and what you can do to accomplish that. The latter is what I strive to do through PE. The former is something I strive to eliminate through personally adopting the right attitude towards life and conveying it as much as possible through the material here.

      People who take offence with this post are likely reacting from their own grievances with their life obligations and the whole concept of responsibilities and retirement. I say it’s a good opportunity to explore these self-beliefs and issues and work through them to achieve the life that they want.

      • http://lifemosaique.wordpress.com/ Lina

        I read your reply to Alice, Celes. And yes, reaching this kind of mindset and freedom *is* something you work towards in time. However, sometimes it feels like things just don’t move in the direction that you want them to.

        So far, I’ve done my best with what I have now: I studied hard and earned a monthly full scholarship and I am now tutoring kids in English to earn some extra money. It was frustrating looking for a job all through January and February and not finding anything – still no job in sight. And although I earn a bit of money, it usually goes on something else that I need (and I’m not a materialistic person, I buy something only if I genuinely need it). Practically, my efforts have no greater result other than providing me enough money to cover some of my monthly needs. And I still live with my parents.

        That’s why I am kind of frustrated. Because I know it takes time to achieve something bigger,yet it seems like nothing I’ve done so far has lead to anything.

        • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

          Hey Lina, I’m sorry that you are feeling kind of frustrated at the moment. Regarding the job issue, how about taking this as an opportunity to build up your business in your passion (whatever it is)? While you continue to look for jobs and scour for openings, use this chance to dream up your ideal business and make plans towards it. With the internet now, anything is possible, and what you can do now is to plant many seeds in creating the future you want.

          If job openings are truly an issue (due to the economy where you live, the nature of the jobs you are looking for, or whatever reason), another possibility is to turn tuition into a bigger revenue source by taking on more students, tutoring more subjects, and so on (I’m just throwing random suggestions — you get the idea). You can also consider taking short-term odd jobs to tide you across, if money is truly an issue at the moment.

          The point is to look at the blockages now and find solutions to them, vs. letting them take control over your life and eat up your emotions. You are a strong girl Lina; I know you know what to do and you will work through this situation.

          • http://lifemosaique.wordpress.com/ Lina

            Thank you very much for your kind words, Celes!
            And for your suggestions, too :)

      • http://hackmyheart.com Alexa

        Hey Celes! After reading this (and the other replies you’ve made in the thread so far), I was thinking maybe you should mention something like this in this article? Like just a little addendum, “If you’d like to arrive to this kind of freedom someday, here are some steps you can take to work towards it:” Obviously you’d put it into much nicer words. =p

        I think the reason people seem to be reacting as they are is because after reading, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking, “Well I haven’t done anything to be able to live like this…” and then becoming upset, rather than able to share in your excitement. I’m sad to admit that my first thought was similar, something like, “Man, I’ve really slacked off. If I’d started actually working on my future sooner things would be so much better.” But after reading this and your other replies, it hit me: I just made an action plan for my future yesterday which involves creating my own income. Why should I be hung up on feeling sad about it, when I should be moving forward with that plan so I can get closer to “retirement” like this?

        I know you know best what message you’re trying to convey here, but maybe a short, “You can do it, too!” in regards to how you arrived here may help get the message across better? Again, just my two cents!

        • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

          Hey Alexa, actually that’s precisely what I have written (or at least have tried to drive across) in the last section of the article, under “To You”. In fact, half the article title is already about saying that all of us can retire ‘now’/’sooner’ than we want (“Why I’m Retiring at 28… ‘and Inviting You To Do the Same’”).

          I believe that most people who are reacting in jest (and repulsion for some) are doing so because their personal emotions/grievances towards the topic is clouding their ability to digest the message as it is. To those people, it wouldn’t really matter whether I write 500 or 5,000 words telling them “You can do it too”. My intention with this article is to plant the seed/message that all of us can retire if we want and I’m now doing it as an example that it is possible. If people want to give me flake for not being empathetic enough to their life situations, then so be it and that’s just how it is; I accept that as part of the consequence of writing this article. I will work on being more constructively impactful the next time.

          I’m really glad you took the time to process the comments and think about how you can work towards a life you want, where you create your income and move closer to your definition of “retirement”! That’s what make you different from most people your age out there, Alexa. Keep up with what you are doing and I’m so excited at how things are going to unfold for you this year and the next. :)

    • http://modernhealthmonk.com/ Alexander

      Hey Lina –

      For whatever it’s worth — regardless of where Celes came from before she was financially free, she spent YEARS building a huge asset (her site and community). She literally DID build it from just rocks, aka nothing, into something that is funding her entire life now. She had none of this before – some time ago she wrote the very first blog post that (however many years later) eventually resulted in today.

      “You must have something to begin with.” What do you mean?


      • http://lifemosaique.wordpress.com/ Lina

        Hey, Alex!

        Yes, I am aware of it, I’ve never said that she was suddenly struck by luck or anything. As I told Celes in one of my replies, I know it takes time to get to where she is right now.

        What I meant is that one feels overwhelmed and discouraged when circumstances aren’t favorable. In my case, I come from an average family, with average wages and average achievements. I want more for myself but there’s nothing to build on and no money to undertake something bigger (for example, I’ve always thought of writing a novel and maybe getting it published if it were considered good enough – writing is one of my passions; but even for this whole process you need money, funding; OR another example, I’ve made a blog of my own, a varieties blog, but it didn’t really “take off”).

        I’m not complaining to anyone, I actually internalize much of my discontentment and frustration, but no matter how down I feel, I’m still working or at least trying to move in the direction that I want to go, towards by dreams.

  • Alice

    Celes, this is a wonderful idea, and a mindset I try to adopt.

    However, this cannot be possible for everyone, simply due to financial constraints! How does this idea work if you are financially unstable? I cannot *not* plan for my future – I am still a student, now with mounting debt, and no career as yet.

    I cannot possibly ‘retire’, I haven’t even STARTED yet…

    I genuinely love your articles and advice, however I feel this one is extremely misguided and seems out of line with the usual straightforward, exceptional tips for personal excellence you provide. I do not mean this is in a hurtful way at all, just that I don’t think this is particularly practical. Spiritually, it is wonderful, but you have the opportunity to do this because you have the financial freedom to do so and others may not (yet).

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Alice, think of it this way. Over four years ago before I quit my job, I would not be in the place to say or do whatever I’m saying/doing now (through this retirement post).

      However, I worked towards my life now by taking action on my life over four years ago. From quitting my job, starting up my business with no monthly income, building it up over the years, detaching my income with time, working through my personal limiting-beliefs and emotional issues, and then now finally being able to take a “retirement” mindset towards life. This reality was something I “dreamed” up from years ago, and through direct action, am living it now. This is something you can do too.

      If you are currently not financially stable, then work out a plan to get your finances in order first. Then, once your finances are in order, work on the next goal. And soon you can be in the position I am in too. One issue at the time, that is the approach to go for. There is no rush. This is not a race. This isn’t a competition

      In writing this article, I knew that some would focus on the fact that I seem financially free now and debunk the message because of that. That’s just giving power to your problems though. I would actually appeal to all of you to think about how you can create a plan and achieve the same reality as I am today. I was not born into a financially free scenario. It was something I slowly worked towards from several years ago, when my finances was fully tied to a salaried, full-time job. It is not an overnight dream, but it surely is achievable.

  • http://www.chasingplacesbyjoann.org Joann

    I’ve been frequenting your blog for sometime now and I can say that it has been one of the tools that enable me to realize where my true passion is.

    While it is important to focus on the present, it is also equally important to think of the future to create that ‘balance.’
    There are people who might interpret your article differently and may do things that could have a negative effect both on their life in present and future.

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      I believe that if someone has a good head on his/her shoulders, he/she should be able to distill enough of the message to create an empowering change in his/her life. I have written this post from a place of pure intent to deliver the message and importance of living in the present and creating a magnificent future through nurturing the present; if one is to interpret otherwise or create a negative spin from what I have written, it is something that would be out of my control unfortunately.

  • Max

    Hi Celes,

    My heart almost stopped when I read the title of this article! “Oh No! No more PE articles??!” But that was me really underestimating your dedication to PE and personal development. I’m glad you’ll still be writing and doing your things.

    I have a feeling you were not expecting this amount of heated arguments when you published this post…. However, reflecting on some of the comments in contrast with your message of hope and passion-filled life is actually very interesting:

    Different words and messages are understood differently when people are on different levels of consciousness!

    Let me explain.

    To some people, “retiring, doing what you want on any given day” means becoming “selfish, uncaring, and an abuser of the world who doesn’t care about helping others.” This only shows that to some people being caring and helping others is an obligation, not something that they would ever do from the bottom of their hearts. :angry:

    But when you say, “retiring, doing what you want on any given day,” I think you actually mean (as I understand it) to stop doing things with only monetary gains and status gains in mind but actually focusing more into what your heart guides you to do on any given day: helping others. :dance:

    One message, two contradictory understanding that express a fundamental difference in belief about the world.

    And then, as other readers pointed out, you have worked hard to achieve the level of financial independence and well being that you have right now. This is what most of us would like to achieve and that’s why most of us read your blog in the first place: to become our own versions of personal excellence. You are only showing us what’s ahead of the road, and I find it inspiring.

    Best wishes on your trip :dance:

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Max, thanks so much for your positive message! :) I really appreciate the kind words you have to share about me and my work. I’m glad that you have found my example inspiring and I hope to continue to inspire through my actions and way of life.

      “I have a feeling you were not expecting this amount of heated arguments when you published this post…. However, reflecting on some of the comments in contrast with your message of hope and passion-filled life is actually very interesting:”

      I wrote the post to deliver a message and wasn’t expecting to get any positive/negative comments; it was really just from living in the flow (as I am advocating in the post). Personally I’m very glad for the feedback I’m receiving for this piece. It shows that what I have written is striking a chord in people’s hearts. Whether it’s negative or positive, that’s for people to take away for themselves. I do know there has been people like Alexa and Jade (and perhaps even you) who have been ‘inspired’ by the post and have used it as a trigger to push them towards creating that “retired” life they want. This is the positive impact that lets me know that I’m working in the right direction.

      “To some people, “retiring, doing what you want on any given day” means becoming “selfish, uncaring, and an abuser of the world who doesn’t care about helping others.” This only shows that to some people being caring and helping others is an obligation, not something that they would ever do from the bottom of their hearts.”

      “One message, two contradictory understanding that express a fundamental difference in belief about the world.”

      That is a very spot observation, Max! I realized that part of the conflicting responses is from a fundamentally different viewpoint of retirement. Retirement doesn’t and shouldn’t mean being selfish and throwing the world aside; I guess that is the image of retirement that society often paints though.

      “But when you say, “retiring, doing what you want on any given day,” I think you actually mean (as I understand it) to stop doing things with only monetary gains and status gains in mind but actually focusing more into what your heart guides you to do on any given day: helping others.”

      I would say it (the message of my post) is to stop doing things with the arbitrary future in mind but about learning to *live* in the moment, and then building this moment/the present up to create a magnificent future we dream of. Monetary gains and status gains are not necessarily the topics of contest here IMO. For me personally these are things which I don’t really care for anymore (but money *is* still very important and it *is* and *will* be something I will continue to work for in living an abundant life and achieving greater impact in the world), but there may be someone whose *present* need is money (like say, someone who is financially unstable now). If that’s the case, earning money should be top on the person’s priority list and it should be something the person should start doing now, while recognizing that this (earning money) is something that he/she *wants* to do now vs. seeing it as an obligation.

  • Vit Po

    Hi Celest,

    Great post and great vision and perception of the Life as such. You have understood it at 28 when the bulk of people cannot realize it even after their 40′s. In the comments above you´ve been pinched for being financially independent, but I see the situation a little bit differently.’ if we put extreme poverty aside and get down to our normal existence, we need not so many things. And our struggling and aspiring to meet other people´s expectations and even manipulations.
    But the major question, Celest , is ‘how to live such a life? How not to slip and wallow into the same mental routine once again? How can we start thinking in a new way? That is the question.needing answering.

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Vit, I think the most important part of the equation is to start taking responsibility for our life, our thoughts, and our emotions. The posts You are the CEO of Your Life and You Always Have a Choice will help steer such people in the right direction.

      As I mentioned in my response to David below, it’s all a matter of perception. Once we can correct our attitude, there is nothing that we can’t accomplish. Again, as I alluded to in this retirement post, it’s important to seek fulfillment in the present moment and nurture a better future from here (vs. deferring our present moment for a supposed better future). Once we do that, that will be what it means to be in a true state of flow and pure bliss IMO.

    • JadePenguin

      “How not to slip and wallow into the same mental routine once again? How can we start thinking in a new way?”

      I think it has a lot to do with habits. If you’re used to thinking negatively, it takes a bit of practice to adopt a new mindset. Try to catch yourself whenever you have a negative thought and challenge that. You might not always agree with yourself but it’s good to step back from bad situations and take a more objective view. Once it becomes the predominant mindset, things will be much easier.

      Also try to talk to positive people, read blogs such as this, subscribe to “living consciously” type pages on FB etc. PE’s daily quotes are a great reminder to start your day on a positive note ;)

      • Vit Po

        Hi JadePenguin,

        Everything you say is right, but we have to surpass soOO much that it is beyond of human nature sometimes. such attitude towards life sooner or later will lead to conflicts with the usual environment and perception of the world.

        I am trying to do it but there are a lot to do in …Notice that once again I am talking about the future. :p

  • Susan

    While I understand what you are trying to convey in this article, it seems hurtful to many of your readers. It seems like bragging, self promotion, and self-focus, rather than your usual focus of service to humanity. I wonder if you still live at home with your parents. If so, is this really retirement? I could retire too if I didn’t have a house to maintain and children to support.

    • Cary

      I don’t think she’s advocating dropping everything and pursuing what you “really” want to do; it sounds more like she’s encouraging the dropping of the “psychology of postponement”, which is when you keep yourself going by telling yourself “as soon as I do/get through X, things will be better”. It’s more about your mindset than your position. I’m sure most of us wish we could live exactly the way she does, but happiness and satisfaction don’t have to depend upon external circumstances. I’m sure there must be small ways for everyone to start doing the things that really interest them. And even if you’re trapped say, doing meaningless schoolwork or bogged down by endless responsibilities for your job and family, maybe there’s a deeper purpose behind that too. It depends upon how you look at it. Also, as Celes has pointed out before (though don’t remember which article), one’s lower order needs must be met before one can pursue self-actualization (Maslow’s hierarchy of needs). One way to look at your situation might be that your goal is the chance to pursue your goals, and so everything you do to crush your day to day worries is bringing you towards that goal (just be sure you don’t look at this as postponing your happiness; it’s supposed to make each act you perform more meaningful because of it’s place in your larger plan).

      Things may seem very difficult and unpleasant now, but when you look back at them with hindsight they probably won’t seem so bad, and you might even find yourself wishing you had enjoyed them more. When I think back to middle school and high school I wish that I’d had a better attitude. When I imagine going back with the knowledge I have now, I’d just approach everything differently. I’d smile and laugh more and worry less. I know from my journals that I wasted a lot of time back then hating everyone including myself and blaming the system that I was trapped in for sucking up all of my time and preventing me from doing what I really wanted to do. But the real problem was my interpretations of my situation, and not the situation itself.

      Sorry about the rant, I’ll leave off with the PE quote of the day from Friday: “Even the greatest fool can accomplish a task if it were after his or her heart. But the intelligent ones are those who can convert every work into one that suits their taste.” -Swami Vivekananda

      • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

        Hey Cary! Thank you for your comment and you are right that the message here is about dropping the “psychology of postponement”. How you put it, about “the goal is the chance to pursue your goals”, is impeccable.

        If we can live life based on the current moment, try to meet/satisfy our existing needs (be it monetary or self-realization needs), and realize that whatever obligations we have are in fact obligations we want to take on (if it’s not an obligation we want to accept, then why continue to hold on to it for?), then that in itself is already a form of “retirement” (living life on our own terms). We can then work towards the bigger vision of “retirement” we have in our minds (say a dream house by the lake, pursuing our passion as a business, or whatever it is) while living true to our present moment.

        Again (as I stated in my response below), here I’m assuming that readers have a tinge of morality/values and would personally want to care for their family/loved ones/kids (if they have kids) in their life of retirement. Being with their loved ones is something they personally want to do and see it as a part of their retired/ideal life. If a person’s definition of retirement is to abandon their family and leave them to die (if they are in sickness), then I think there is a separate issue at hand here.

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Why would it be bragging, self-promotion, and self-focus though? It sounds like there is a misunderstanding of what I’m writing.

      What I’m saying is that I’m now taking on responsibilities and obligations which *I* take ownership for rather than what is imposed on me by others. Which means that I now take care of my parents because I want to (which has always been the case). I pay for my installments and bills (have always been doing so) because I see it as something that is part of my life. I donate to the needy because I want to. And so on.

      If there is someone who can read this post and see it as a “I’m going to not take care of my parents and I’m now going to abandon my children” (by the way I’m not saying you are saying this; I’m just citing this as an example), that’s more reflective of that person’s lens and beliefs than anything the post is conveying. Nowhere in the post did I advocate ditching of personal morals and values. The distinction I’m trying to make in this post is to take ownership of your life and create what you want to create (I would assume people who read this site has certain morals like a personal desire to want to care for one’s family and children without anyone telling/expecting him/her to do so) vs. viewing life as one of self-pressure and obligations.

      In my life of retirement, I *want* to care for my parents. I *want* to support people in their growth and help them become better people (which is why writing at this site and the array of P.D. stuff I do like Celes.TV — which by the way, I do not earn anything from and have in fact spent quite a small fortune just on good recording equipment alone to deliver good quality content to the viewers/readers) remains what I’m doing now. I *want* to support my family. Retirement doesn’t mean ditching things like this. It means living the life of your dreams (where people and passions we care for will now be fully be in the equation vs. partially or not at all, of which the latter is the case for most people).

      • Susan

        Celes, I would like to answer the question that you asked, “Why would it be bragging, self-promotion, and self-focus though?” since you value feedback. I do understand the point of your article, as I have read many spiritual books including 5 by David Hawkins. This is my view only, sent as neutral feedback, and not with malice. My view is that the original title of the article, and some of the lead in comments, seemed to have a vibration (calibration) in the level of vain pride, which automatically invites critical comments and resistance, which in turn automatically is met with self-defense. The fact that the article elicited criticism and was then met with strong self-defense makes it self-evident that the vibration was vain pride, rather than genuine self esteem and joy. If the vibration had been at a true level of joy, it would not have required any self defense, and would not have caused a firestorm of resistance. This concept is from Hawkins book “Letting Go”, and I do not claim credit for the idea. I am merley the messenger, sending this thought with love, and hoping to inspire your deeper thought on the issue.

        • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

          Hi Susan, I understand where you are coming from. I also know you do not have any malice towards me and you have true sincerity in supporting my message and work.

          At the same time I also appeal that you don’t discount the message of the article because of various data points that suggest that the article was written from supposed vanity than true joy.

          I do not see critical comments as having anything to do with the consciousness the article was written from. Much of the work by Oprah, Steve Job, Ellen Degenere, etc. receive significant criticism as do many/all established/successful figures in this world. Strong criticism is part and parcel of any work. It’s something I cover in the blogging course and I see criticism as a sign that I’m moving in the right direction and reaching out to new, more people who do not agree with what I have to say (which is a good thing).

          I’m not saying that I have no responsibility in the criticism elicited and the article was written perfectly; I’m just saying that just because there is strong criticism shouldn’t discount the value of the article. Many great work receive lots of criticism; in fact some of the most impacting stuff get the most and harshest criticism of them all.

          In the same domain self-defense has nothing to do with vanity or pride. It does, however, have something to do with feeling attacked. I do feel attacked when people make false assumptions about me and/or when people infringe on my personal space and impose expectations on me (which happens quite often). Creating my own space/identity is something has been a challenge for me since I started the site. Just as some readers take what I do for granted, I had often sacrificed my needs in the name of giving/helping, which resulted in much negative backlash by me against myself.

          I react defensively because I do not enjoy people taking me for granted because I myself had taken myself for granted so often in the past. This defense can be seen whenever people cross the line in their communication with me; it’s not specific to this post. Sometimes I ignore and delete the comments; sometimes I respond to them to make a stand/stance. In this case I made a stance because this one individual went overboard in his comments towards me and I saw it as a good opportunity to let my stance be known. I appreciate the readers who felt indignation on my behalf and stepped in to support; I really do. Thank you.

          I also ask for some empathy to my situation as well. When you are writing a blog to help others, opening up a lot of intimate and personal details about your life to anonymous individuals (in full trust and faith) and still have to receive comments from people you don’t know calling you a “whore”, “idiot”, “delusional”, “bitch”, and so on, it’s natural to feel indignation when such attacks arise.

          On the last point regarding the article title, I often brainstorm on titles which are more “sensational” and pick the ones that will elicit the most curiosity, which will in turn inspire/interest readers to read it. Not all articles have the same “open” / “click” rates and it is my role to pick a title that will elicit the most interest. The angle “retiring 40 years before the world” is one which I felt would pique the most interest, and evidently it did. Eventually I removed it though because it was redundant — the part about “retiring at 28″ already delivered the very point across.

  • Rolf

    At some point over the last year this stopped being about personal development and just started to be about you, maybe less”I’m on the radio, join this dating site” would be helpful

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      If you don’t like what you are reading, then stop reading. The personal development lessons are distilled through my life journey and experience, and if you can’t identify the lessons through what I’m writing or you simply do not like to read about what other people are going through, then this is not the site for you.

      • Rolf

        I would think that the vast majority of 28 year olds could combine living independently and looking after their parents, your response ” if you don’t like it then go away” is child like, almost to say that if readers challenge what you write then they must shut up and go away. I thought you were better than that

        • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

          Apparently I’m not. And that’s just in accordance with your own expectations and views, which I have no need to live up to.

          Please do not confuse zero tolerance to rudeness to an inability to accept opposing views. Your original response was rude, disrespectful, and not reflective of a person I want to have dealings with. I would rather you not read my site if your mindset and attitude towards me is one of expectations, subsequently leading to sarcasm/insult/partial insult if I were not to meet your expectations. I do not owe you or anyone by creating this site. This site is borne out of my passion to help others grow, and I invite people to take what they want to take, and if they don’t agree with certain points, to create a constructive discussion rather than make personal attacks and/or impose their views on me.

          Many readers have challenged/posed alternative arguments to my articles with no problems. Take for example, the other responses to this article right now-none of them are as personally-attacking as yours. These readers are incredibly polite, and even if the post may not be in accordance with their personal life views, they try to integrate it with their belief system, then write about their thoughts/personal qualms with the concept introduced from there. Their comments remain on the site and I openly embrace their views.

          Just to be clear, my issue with you (or rather, your original comment) is your rudeness and attitude. I have little to zero tolerance for rude people.

          See you.

          • Rolf

            Good news for billions of people who don’t even have access to safe water…. Just retire!!! And 19,000 children who die everyday from malnutrition need to change their attitude and just “live in the moment” Stop wasting your time hoping for food and clean water, live for the here and now, Sorry but your writing from your “special space” in your parents house is a vile insult to the billions who will go to bed hungry tonight , I guess they should learn to create a passive income to free up some time…

            • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

              I’m not writing from my “parents’ home” now. I’m writing this in South Africa where I’m surrounded by ten thousands of poor people and where a good fraction of them are HIV-infected (even brushed shoulders with some of them) and need medical attention right away.

              Thank you and goodbye.

              • http://avene.org Glenn

                I wouldn’t worry about Rolf’s comments if I were you Celes :) And personally, I don’t think you needed to explain yourself either. A simple ‘Thank you for your comment’ would have been fine.

                • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

                  Hey Glenn, I gathered that there would probably be other readers who would think the same way as Rolf, and hence responded to it as a way of letting my stance be known when it comes to rude attitudes.

                  For further follow-up comments whether by Rolf or others, I wouldn’t be paying as much attention and will be either deleting them or giving a short reply, depending on what they are about. In fact I have already blocked further comments by Rolf because his follow-up messages have showed that he has nothing but contempt and insult for what I have to say.

  • David

    I Think Rolf makes a very valid point in so much that this post just excludes so many of the worlds people, it is cleary written from a position of privlege and no relevance to the vast majority.

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Everything lies in perception. I see the world’s poorest people who are living every day incredibly happily and from a place of being present in the moment. I also see people who have good wealth (by good wealth I mean not being in a state of poverty) who complain and keep thinking about themselves as being poor and unprivileged when they are clearly not. I suspect most people who are reacting violently/with offence to this post are probably from the latter group.

      At the end of the day, privilege or not is only a perception. What is privilege? What isn’t? A kid in South Africa who is born into poverty but without HIV (from a HIV-infected mom) is considered privileged to the other kids who are born with the disease. Someone who has a $2k monthly salary can be considered unprivileged if he/she chooses to dwell on how little that is compared to peers earning $10k/month or more (vs. thinking about how he/she can increase his/her financial abundance). I think it’s more important to reflect on oneself and think about how you can make your present reality a better one (if it isn’t what you like at the moment) vs. debunking ideas that challenge unideal scenarios and attempt to introduce hopeful possibilities into our lives.

      • john

        At the end of the day, privilege or not is only a perception. What is privilege? What isn’t? A kid in South Africa who is born into poverty but without HIV (from a HIV-infected mom) is considered privileged to the other kids who are born with the disease.

        , OMG OMG are you really saying being born without AIDS is a privilege? Jesus i hope you are joking? You really think not getting aids is the same as sitting on your fat ass in your mothers house writing a blog is equal? dear god you are scary…for your information dummie… being born with or without HIV in africa is a matter of scientific probability and nothing to do with privilege, you really are scary, i know you are not from a liberal western so feel free to delete opposing views.

        • Thomas

          Hi John,

          I wish you had taken the time and effort to put emotion aside and constructively contribute to this discussion. Instead, you chose to be rude and offensive to Celes simply because she expressed a view that differs from yours. That is inexcusable.

          I’m from a “liberal western” society and I value the right to express my opinion. However, if this were my blog I would have no problem deleting your comment, not because you have an opposing view but because you are abusive and you attack the writer on a personal level.

          PE is a blog “for people passionate about achieving excellence in life” and there is nothing excellent about willfully insulting others.

          • Helen

            Thomas I could not like this comment more :).

          • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

            Hey Thomas, turns out that John was just an alias created by a hater who is trying to drive his point across, albeit in a forceful and distasteful way (John = Rolf = David – read more here). I have blocked “their” access of the community so we can have a conscious discussion forum instead.

            Thanks a lot for your positive words. I’m very grateful to have readers like you around the site.

            • Thomas

              Thanks for the update Celes and you’re most welcome.

      • David

        Can’t help but think that Rolf has lit a fire under this debate that was needed, slavish confirmation and agreement may feel good but is ultimately unhealthy

        • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

          I don’t know how your comment adds to the discussion, David. If you can address the points raised in accordance to your earlier comment, it would be more helpful than simply responding with “confirmation and agreement may be good but ultimately unhealthy” which says nothing at all about what we are talking about here.

          • David

            Celes u take an interesting position “zero tolerance with rudeness” I would suggest such a precious view of what one should ever be exposed to will not really serve you outside of the comparitive media guetto that is blog land. In the real world you will have to defend your assertions , although 90 per cent of what you do is easily traced to it’s creative source(Tony Robbins ,Steven covey, the secret , who you never credit or support if you ever become like Tony Robbins and atract 15000 paying delegates as opposed to 12 crappy sexless hopeless “meet up” vegan losers then robbing all the work of others will be worth it. In other words DO YOUR OWN Work instead of copying others, of course you have done well in four years, you stole everyones work

            • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

              Turns out you, Rolf, AND John are the same person. All your I.P. addresses are a match.

              I’m sorry that you chose to convey hate in this forum. Even in your second opportunity to make a stance, you continue to attach to staunch views and make personal attacks rather than create a conscious discussion.

              Instead of spreading hate in this forum and making personal attacks at other people, why not focus your energy on building your own goals and creating a life that inspires you instead? I think that will be much more helpful.

              Update Apr 9, ’13: David/John/Rolf has proceeded to use a spoof IP to post new comments (under multiple new aliases) swinging from insults to praises. I have removed all those comments to create a safe and conscious community for everyone.

              Unfortunately due to his abuse of this forum, I’m removing his access of this site. Rolf/David/John, I hope you can find a better site which syncs with your personal life philosophy and viewpoints, such that you do not turn to personal attacks at others.

              Thanks everyone else for taking the route of conscious discussion to express your ideas, even if different from the article, rather than resorting to personal attacks and using multiple e-mail accounts/aliases to drive your point across. The latter is an approach of force while the former is an approach of power. Thank you. :hug:

  • JadePenguin

    Hehe, first I thought you would stop writing for PE but of course, you don’t consider this a job or obligation – just something you choose to do :D

    I could say I’m much closer to living that kind of life than most people at my uni. I don’t worry about my grades at all and still do well at my exams (probably because I don’t worry and leave more brainpower to actually doing the exam ;) ) I do a multitude of different activities, whatever I feel like doing. The only times I do things I don’t want to is essays and practical reports but there’s only 1 of each to go! Third year we’ll get more choices and it should be a pleasure writing those essays :)

    Financially, I do have a job but it’s web developing. I can listen to music at the same time, I have interesting and sometimes challenging tasks, I’m part of some actual research, which is pretty cool. I don’t worry about money because there’s so much you can get for free or for very little.

    I don’t know what the future will bring. I’m doing my best to plan for it now (I’ve got a year to go and I pretty much know what postgrad programmes I’ll be applying for) but I’m not worried about it :)

    And well, if I manage to support myself while also studying a degree, it should be even easier when I’m done with studies! Who knows, maybe at 28 I’ll also be doing something I love so much it doesn’t feel like a job ;)

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Jade, the day I stop writing here will be the day when I die. :D I’ll continue writing and sharing about my life if it’s the last thing I do.

      With regards to ‘that kind of life’, well Jade, if there’s anyone who can do it, it’d be you. Just keep doing what you are doing (growing and challenging yourself) and you will realize all your dreams in no time. The fact that you have already been reading about personal development and questioning your self-beliefs long before now is terrific; it’s something that I did not start doing till when I was about 21 or so. Continuously taking action and taking responsibility of your life/beliefs will be the key to living the great life that you want if you ask me; at the same time, remember that it’s about building up your life from your present moment too (and not neglecting your personal desires/needs).

  • http://www.selfempowerment.asia Dolly Yeo

    Hi Celes!!, I love your article and it is so interesting to read others’ perception of what you wrote.

    I have mortgage and bills to pay too, I know what you mean by ‘ to live life in a child-like manner, based on today and now, rather than worrying about what should be or what others might think!’ Thank you for the reminder:)

    Great article, great reminder. Too many people are conditioned to live others’ dream, to understand what you mean. I just wish the educational system would adopt your philosophy of life. There would be many many more happier people in the world.

    I was just thinking about you today after reading your meet up in facebook. I often ask myself, Celes is only 28 and she sound like an ‘old soul’. I am just amazed by your insights, you are so profound and really being authentic and living your values. I salute your discipline, courage and very amazed with your being. Thank you for being you, that gave me courage to be me too. You inspire me a lot.

    How many people can be like you? It took me more than 10 years to get here and I am 59!! I often tell myself too that I have so much to learn from you and I am open to it:)

    I am so proud of you Celes!! Living in the moment. It take a lot of courage to do what you do and to truly be your TRUE SELF. It is so liberating. I attempt living like that most of the time and I often get back to my old self and I know it is the environment that shapes me, the long years of conditioning of playing roles of daughter, employee, employer, wife and mother. Letting go of all my roles, took a lot, a lot of effort. It is about being very conscious and mindful to really be my true self. I am enjoying the journey and I know it is not a sprint, it is a marathon. It is all worth it. You and your blog would be my guide post!

    Thank you very much Celes. Love from Singapore, take care and enjoy yourself to the fullest!! :heart: :heart: :heart: :dance: :dance: :dance: :angel: :angel: :angel: :D :D :D

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hi Dolly, thanks so much for your positive words and comment! Your support means a lot to me. :hug:

      With regards to what you wrote about the education system, I do believe that things are changing. Though it might not be as fast as one might like, I believe that the system is becoming one that helps students to be more conscious and to learn to discover their personal wants and needs, vs. one that is rote-based and focuses on regurgitation-type learning. Given that the education system is one that is deeply embedded in our society and culture, it is natural that the change would take time. The good thing is that there are agents like all of us here (including you, whoever you are reading this) making this change happen.

      I’m really happy and impressed by how you adopt a child-like and free approach to living, even though you are 59 and you have so many responsibilities which conventional society would easily classify as “burdens”. The point here is to change how we see life, upon which our life experience will change naturally. I’m really happy to have known you (through Ngee Key) and I look forward to many great meetups ahead. Let’s catch up when I get back! :)

      • Carrie

        Hi Celes,

        I stumble upon your PE web-site and I must salute you for your inspiring write out. You are so young at 28 years old but you seems to have so much life experience and you write beautifully. I have forward your PE web-site to my close friends and sisters and hopefully, they can connect to you through the web-site…. Keep it up ….. Always your fan. ;) :D Cheers and keep writing

        • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

          Aw thank you Carrie. :) I really appreciate your kind words. Thank you so much for forwarding the site to your close friends and sisters too; I appreciate you for sharing the material with them. Please keep reading and I’ll continue sharing more of my life with all of you.

          Keep smiling and being true to who you are! :hug:

  • Helen

    Hi Celes,

    I’m sorry you’ve been receiving such negative feedback to this article. As Max said, I think this does come in part from different levels of consciousness and perspectives that people are coming from.

    The fact that we are all sitting down on our computers to write a response to this article show that we are in the top tiny percentage of “lucky ones”. Putting Celes down or feeling jealous will not change that. Obviously we all have difficulties and I am also just starting out, but the message of living in the present and not letting yourself or society put pressure on you or influence your choices is an important one.

    A difficult balance I’m struggling to achieve at the moment is between goal-setting and thinking of what I want to achieve in the future and living the enjoying the present. An excellent book I’m reading at the moment “The Rules of Life” described this in a good way: basically that the only “real” You exists right now in this moment. The future You and your future life is not real, just a dream. Having dreams is good, but I think you’re absolutely right that your present happiness should not be impacted on to a huge extent for some future hypothetical happiness.

    Peace and love! :)

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Helen, don’t worry about the “negative” comments! :) I have written before that receiving criticism is a good thing, as long as it doesn’t border on personal insult/attack or pointless drivel, of which the latter I would 86 away right away because I have no interest nor time to deal with those. As you said, the fact that people are sitting to respond shows something; I see it as a sign that the message in this article stirred up something in their souls which would hopefully blossom into great things in the future/near future.

      Regarding “lucky ones”, I see it as this: if we have the time to be on the internet, have access to the internet/a computer to begin with, and are able to read/respond to a “personal development” article, then we are already, by virtue of this, luckier than many, many people out there. Think about the homeless people right now in New York who are freezing their skin off in the winter time and trying to hide out in the subway stations because they have nowhere to go; no homes to return to. I saw many of them when I was in NY; many of them didn’t even have jackets thick enough for winter time. I felt really bad when I was there.

      Thanks so much for your positive words of light Helen! I appreciate what you have to share and I’m grateful that you are working on embracing and living in the moment as well. Here’s to conscious living and being in the present. :)

      • Helen

        You are so lovely Celes :) Keep smiling!

  • http://bipolarcoaching.org Kim Connors

    Hi Celes,

    What you have discovered, is being mindful. I’ve been practicing living in the moment for quite sometime. I even have “in the moment” tattooed on my foot. Having bipolar I have found that this is the only way to live if I want to maintain my stability.

    Best of luck spreading your message.


    “Our attitude of mind not circumstances, is the ’cause’ that determines our quality of life.” ~ William James,

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Kim! That is really beautiful that you even have that message tattooed on your foot! Thank you for being such an inspired and inspiring soul, and thank you for taking the time to leave this comment.

      I have known about a few people who are bipiolar, but never had direct contact with them. I would love to learn more about the condition from you one day; it is something that I have interest in learning about. If you can drop me a note one day (via my contact page), that will be very much welcome. I wish you have the best day and week ahead. :hug:

      • Kim Connos


        I left you a @tweet, wasn’t sure if you would see it or not, so I thought I would reply here just in case. I would be happy to talk to you about having bipolar. Feel free to email me at your convenience.


        • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

          Hi Kim! Yes I got your tweet and shall do that when I get the chance to. I’m thinking to gather my thoughts first before I do that. Thanks so much for opening up the window for conversation. :hug:

  • Ivona

    Living like that requires a lot of character. I think most people would simply get lost in lazy hours.

    I am 21 and I am excited about creating my life in all areas – education, career later, family, friends…. And while some of my goals are to make passive income resources, and to eventually work 5-6 hours per day instead od 8+, I know that that ‘mandatory’ work is making me productive and also, provides a nice contrast with the ‘play’ time.

    Oh, and I didn’t get scared that you’ll stop PE, like some people said above, I know it’s your life passion ;)
    It’s just making me confused – i thought you already retired from the course of life expected by society, when you quit P&G years ago…

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      > It’s just making me confused – i thought you already retired from the course of life expected by society, when you quit P&G years ago…

      Hey Ivona, yes you are actually partially right there! I would say that was the first “step” of my retirement process. However after that, I still continued to subject myself to a lot of “non-retirement” thinking. E.g., always thinking that I *must* do *this* and *that*, imposing a lot of obligations of myself (which resulted in self-pressure rather than inspired living, abusing myself by neglecting my needs such as getting sufficient rest, and so on.

      This life of “retirement” I’m talking about is about living an inspired life based on active awareness and action on current needs, and nurturing/creating a better future than anyone can ever dreamed of (because it’s by addressing our current needs that we have the power/energy/inspiration to walk the path ahead).

      If we can view life as true play, in happiness/fulfillment, living will become a much more organic and powerful process (rather than a pressured process which most people in the society are viewing it as today). We are not born on earth to suffer; we are here to uncover our greatness, be the best we can be, and live the life that we want to live – but first we have to address our personal mental blocks and barriers towards living such a life.

  • Ginny


    It’s funny that you published this post the exact same day I made a similar decision for myself (to live every moment consciously, with awareness and staying true to my bliss)

    Ignore haters and rude people. If they knew better, they would do better. Forgive and follow your bliss :)

    love and light, have fun in Africa! :hug:

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Ginny, same to you too. Thanks so much for your positive words of light and encouragement. Let’s all live consciously together, and thank you for all your support! :hug:

  • http://www.lifemoreperfect.com Melanie

    Hello there Celes! I have been visiting your site these past few days and found it to be appealing. I would you to know that you inspires me everytime I visit your blog.

    As for your plans of retiring, I salute you for that! With that age of yours, kuddos to you. I am 33 now and still working out my way to retiring soon too. I am working for my own, have my own website too. I can see that we have the same views when it comes to embracing the future. I am also not comfortable working on a day-day job that which we call a rat race.

    I was surprised by the comments of your other readers with this post. It only means that we really have different views when it comes to retiring especially if the one telling this is way too far from the age where we normally know when to retire which is at his/her 60′s ( Here in the Philippines, 60y/o is the retirement age).

    Well, keep it up Celes! May you continue to live the life that you have always dreamed on.

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Melanie, thanks so much for your kind words! I’m really glad that you’re working out your way to “retiring” and I wish you all the best in it. (I’m sure you are going to do it sooner than later, especially since you are embracing solid views in this area already!) It is true that many of us have different views surrounding retirement; also topics such as living one’s dreams and the notion that it *is* possible to live a free life tend to reverberate with people’s belief systems (causing people to react with strong emotions, be it anger or hope). I invite everyone to explore the notion openly for themselves as you are doing for yourself.

      Please keep reading the site and sharing your comments; I appreciate all your support and what you have to say!

  • http://avene.org Glenn

    Hi Celes, I think this is pretty much how I live my life. My free time is my priority, and any work I do is done in my spare time. Kind of the opposite of how most people would do things.

    Although to be honest, retirement has no relevance to me. When I’m 80 or older, I expect to still be doing the same kind of things I’m doing now. Like Mimi Kirk. She’ll be 75 this year, and she’s doing Youtube videos and has just put out a new cook book.

    It’s sad how a lot of people view retirement. When they retire, it’s like they give up on life. They may still go on holidays and social outings, but that’s it. And normally they just take things easy, sit back and watch tv until they die. I’m definitely not going out like that!

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Glenn, word on what you said! The point of this post is to drive home the importance of living a life on our terms, in alignment with our needs and wants, such that the notion of “retirement” no longer has any relevance. Yes, we still “work” (in conventional terms of earning money from the value we generate from our “labor” and actions, but because our “work” is in alignment with our interests and passions, it’s no longer “work” in the truest sense.

      “Retirement” isn’t about going on holidays and lazing/relaxing as conventional society likes to believe it. It’s about creating a life of our terms; a life that is 100% what we want to be in. I’m really glad that you shared your thoughts; it has helped to push the point I’m trying to bring across.

      • http://avene.org Glenn

        Yes, exactly! People just need to get out of that way of thinking. I guess it gets back to people focusing on doing something that they could be doing for the rest of their life.

        Here in Australia they have superannuation, which is money that’s taken out of people’s income to pay for their retirement. Mine has been dormant since I quit my last ‘proper’ job in 2006. Some extra money may be nice when I’m 65, but I don’t like the idea of having something like that which could make me feel like it’s ok to stop what I’m doing, sit back and put my feet up.

  • Debanjan Roy

    Dear Celes,

    I found your article to be remarkably insightful….the whole tenor and philosophy of this article makes me deeply self-introspect on my own life…hence, many thanks for sharing this.

    Keep it up…Cheers!

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Debanjan, thank you so much for your comment. I’m really glad you found the article insightful for you. :hug: Keep up with what you are doing as well!

  • vincent

    Hi Celes,
    Hv you come across the book the Power of Now?


    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey vincent, I’m aware of the book and have listened to the audio book for it many years ago. :)

  • Kevin

    Hi Celes,
    Howz going? This is Kevin from Perth,Australia.
    I ve been reading every single articles of you since I’ve came in touch to your web. Today I’ve to admit that most of ur articles are on practical life situation based and I’ve learnt a lot lot and lot from it.
    I do appreciate and kindly thankful to you and ur articles. U doing great job. I was going through the hardest time of my life here and ur articles were always like a Ray of Hope for this depressed and frustrated Kevin.
    Please keep doing this great work. I’d personally love to catch up here in Perth, Australia.
    Thanks a lot and all d best. Please keep spreading this inspirations for the people like me and those who needs in their life to move on from their current life.
    Good luck and thanking you indeed,
    Warm regards,

    • http://personalexcellence.co Celes

      Hey Kevin, that is really sweet of you to say that. Thank you so much and I’m so glad that you have learned a lot from the material. Please stick around and I promise to share more of my life and personal experiences with all of you. :hug:

  • Laurel

    Hi Celes, This was a very interesting, albeit, controversial article ;) Personally, I connected with the message as it is something I have been striving for for a long time. It’s important to emphasize that living the life we want to live, and asking “what do I want to do Today,” does not mean shirking our responsibilities. For example, in the past few years I have been living with a tight financial situation. Although it’s hampered my ability to indulge in some pleasures, such as traveling or expensive purchases, it has helped me to zero in ton what’s truly important in my life, and how surprisingly little that costs. I think that many (not all) of the people that object because of obligations are using them as a shield. Keeping up with the Jones’ is not an obligation, nor is feeling pressure to comply with achievement milestones at various points in your life. Also, if your family’s needs are inextricably tied to you own at the moment, why not sit down and discuss this together? My mother and I live together, and we regularly discuss our dreams and ideas so we can work together.
    All we really need is food, shelter, and love :heart:

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