How I Found My Soulmate in Life, Part 4: How I Realized Ken is The One for Me Forever

This is part four of my love series where I share my love journey, how I met my soulmate (Ken Soh), and how to attract authentic love into your life. If you haven’t, read Part 1: My Journey in LovePart 2: Appearance of Ken Soh (Someone I Knew Before) and Part 3: Addressing My Inner Demons first.

Frozen, in a moment in time

Frozen, in a moment in time (Photo from our Glasgow Engagement Shoot)

First 24 Hours After Getting Together

After Ken and I got together, I wasn’t too sure where things would go. I was happy that we were attached but I didn’t know what to expect with our new relationship status.

My plan was to take things slow. So much so that I shied away from telling anyone about our relationship, save for two close friends.  Later that night (still the same day), Ken and I spoke on the phone:

  • Ken: You know, earlier today you said that you told your two close friends about our relationship and they are very happy for you.
  • Me: Yeah?
  • Ken: I told my friends about us too and they are very happy for me as well.
  • Me: Really? How many friends did you tell? 
  • Ken: *gushing* Uhm, 20? :oops: (LOL)

Ken’s Sweetness

Ken’s excitement, forthcomingness and child-like attitude towards our relationship was (and still remains) very sweet. While most guys play things cool or hide their feelings, Ken isn’t like that at all.

He was so excited about our relationship that he couldn’t hold back from telling all his close friends, family, and relatives that day. While getting attached used to be just an “okay, that’s it” event to him, he was thoroughly excited by us getting together — something he had never felt before with any other girl.

(Ken had been in quite a number of relationships before and had seen his fair share of girls, to the point where he just stayed single after almost nine years of consecutive relationships. He just didn’t feel a need to be attached again anymore, until we met again.)

He referred to himself as being “truly in love” for the first time: a feeling he might have thought he knew before, only to realize he never did until we got together.

Little boy and girl running on the field

I was warmed by Ken’s love and enthusiasm. I loved his sensitivity, reliability, kindness, caringness, patience, and sweetness. He was a guy I could see myself with in life because of his emotional openness, big heart, and genuine care towards me.

Uncertainty

At the same time, I was unsure about our long-term future, primarily because we didn’t feel mentally compatible (as in, sharing the same consciousness level, having an interest in intellectual talk, and sharing a passion for growth).

In our early Whatsapp chats, we tended to chat about daily mundanes and what we were up to. It seemed normal since we were just reacquainting.

Ken asking me if I like cats

An example of our more casual exchanges; this one was on May 3, two days before we got together.

(Subsequently I adopted the nickname “kitty” in our relationship. Today Ken calls me “Maomao” (cat in Chinese), “Maomao Chua”, and “Kitty Soh”, among other nicks. =^..^= )

As we got closer, we would have more involving discussions, from talking about people, life, and events; to sharing about our lives; to sharing our opinions; to learning from each other’s sharing.

While our conversations would always be constructive and emotionally rewarding, I did wonder (before we got together) if Ken was capable of exchanges at a higher, more intellectual level. I ideally wanted a partner who was mentally compatible with me (on top of being emotionally compatible), so that we could have intellectual and consciousness-raising discussions and push each other to grow in life.

Ken is high on his emotional quotient and we connect very well on the emotional level, but I wasn’t sure if he was particularly conscious, highly intellectual, or passionate about self-development.

Seeking Mental Compatibility Cues

So I tried to sniff them out in him.

During the times we hung out with his friends, I observed his interactions with them. Nothing stood out in his exchange.

I kept my ears peeled during our chats, but there was nothing really intellectually ground-breaking.

I also observed his day-to-day activities outside work: clubbing, karaoke, daily lunch with his mom, and heading to the local mall to play arcade games. Lunch with mom suggested filial piety which I already knew and appreciated about him. However, there was nothing that might have suggested he enjoys brain work or is interested in personal development.

Disappointment

Initially I was disappointed. I thought it would be great if we were mentally compatible.

Girl at window, looking out

This was especially because we were actually very highly compatible on the other three areas that make up the ethos of our existence: emotional, physical, and spiritual.

Emotionally, Ken is beyond what I could have ever asked for. I had always wanted someone kind: Ken is not only kind, but also sensitive, reliable, open, caring, empathetic, patient, and sweet.

Physically, Ken is again beyond what I could have asked for. My physical criteria for guys had always been to be (a) at least my height (1.7 m) and (b) presentable-looking. Ken beat those criteria to a pulp by being 1.81 m tall, well-built, charming, good-looking, and takes care to dress himself well.

Spiritually, Ken is also a match. We began to dream about each other within weeks of reacquainting; I also felt increasingly drawn to him as we spent more time chatting, which I could only explain as a soul-level connection. I knew that this spiritual bond would only get stronger as we got closer.

How nice it would be if we were mentally compatible, I thought. He’s already a perfect match emotionally, physically, and spiritually; it’s a pity that we can’t be a 100% mental match too.

Self-reconciliation

After some thought, I realized I was okay with not having full mental compatibility. I realized what I truly needed in a partner was emotional availability, kindness, and caringness, and Ken was already all of that, plus some more. I couldn’t have asked for more.

I didn’t feel that I needed someone who 100% matched me on all four levels. That’s probably impossible, I thought. I can always turn to my more intellectual friends if I ever need mental stimulation. I figured I could just settle for a 20–30% mental connection with Ken and celebrate our 100% connection on the other levels. 

Maybe the mental aspect of me is something I’ll never get to share fully with my partner. 

That was what I surmised.

A Surprise

Bedtime Phone Chat

On May 7, two nights after we got together, Ken was waiting for me for our usual bedtime phone chat. I was working on some stuff then, so he patiently waited for me to finish before calling.

Number pad

Turned out that I was only done at 4am (very typical of me <.<). While I wanted him to sleep as he had to work the next day, Ken still wanted to chat a bit before turning in. So we did.

During the call, we updated each other on our day besides what we had already shared on Whatsapp earlier. We drifted into random topics, from his job, to my previous job, to his friends, to my friends. Our conversation was both constructive and emotional rewarding as it would usually be.

Into the Conversation

Somewhere along the call, I started sharing a deeper-level perspective to something we were discussing. Something about worldviews, life philosophies, and the importance of assuming control over external variables in one’s life to live a more fruitful life.

I wasn’t sure why I did that actually; we had never chatted at that level before. Our conversations were usually more discussions about people, things, events, and ourselves — never life philosophies, worldviews, intellectual theories, or ideologies.

I expected that Ken would not comprehend the depth of what I just said and he would respond with a casual remark, something which I would have been okay with. After all, that’s the kind response I get in my day-to-day conversations with people, since not everyone thinks in the same way I do (and I don’t expect them to either).

Beyond My Wildest Imagination

To my surprise, Ken actually picked up on my comment. In a voice different and more serious-sounding than his usual one, he began to address my viewpoint and offer an perspective and argument alternate to mine.

o_O

I was surprised. Did I just hear him right? I thought. Vocal similarities aside, this person sounded completely different from the person I had been chatting with for the past few weeks.

Slightly confused, I nonetheless responded with a build on my stance along with an analysis and detailed elaboration, while addressing his points. I thought our conversation was going to draw to a close now because the discussion was now heading into a level which I rarely, if ever, speak to people at.

To my surprise again, Ken promptly responded again, this time building on his perspective further and supporting it with the same detail in elaboration and providing his own analogies, while addressing my points. This back-and-forth exchange went on for quite a few more rounds.

A Mind-Blowing Moment

By the time we were done (and reached a common conclusion which matched both our stances), my brain had exploded in its skull. I felt like I had just sat through one of the most intelligent conversations in my life: our conversation had reached a level which I had never experienced before with anyone.

Not only that, I gained a new paradigm of thinking which I had never considered before (and so did he, I believe). I felt like I had just gained a one-up in my mental thinking.

I could only think, Holy molly mother of cows!!! This guy is actually very smart!!!!!

Shocked baby

This was how shocked I was, at 6am in the morning

Breaking of Dawn

At this point it was already early morning, 6am IIRC. With a look of disbelief, I asked, “Do you know you are actually very smart?”

Ken thought for a second and said, “Yeah.”

Me: “When did you start being, err, this way?”

Ken thought for a moment. “Hmm, I’ve always been very observant of tiny little details since young. From colors to words to little details of things, I would be aware of them and remember them very vividly. Initially I thought everyone was like that, but then I realized that it isn’t true.

“Then in school I would do very well (Ken was constantly the top student in his school) even though I hardly studied, fooled around in class and constantly played video games. Somehow I could easily breakdown and remember everything I read. Then every now and then I like to read books to further my knowledge.”

“Then how come you don’t appear like this when with others?” I asked candidly.

Ken: “Well, there’s no need to go all out because people may not understand what I’m trying to say. Preserving the group harmony is more important. However, I definitely don’t hold back when it comes to work, since I’m hired to give my best for the company.”

A Conversation That Would Not End

We proceeded to chat for the next… not one, not two, not three, not four, not five, but six hours.

Chatting endlessly under the stars

By the time we were done, we had talked for a full eight and a-half hours (filled with solid exchanges, not frivolous banter). We had chatted from 4am all the way to 12:30pm in the afternoon – without sleeping the day before.

And that’s not all – the reason we had to hang up had nothing to do with us feeling tired and wanting to sleep. It was because Ken had a work meeting to attend. In fact, we ended the call feeling all revved up from our exchanges, despite not having slept for the past 26 hours.

A New Realization; A Hint That There Was Something Special

By then I was blown out of my mind, because I could feel that there was now something really serious going on in this relationship. Not that I didn’t think so before (else I wouldn’t have agreed to be with him), but this was beyond anything I could have ever imagined.

With this eight-and-a-half-hour phone chat, our already-strong connection was bumped up to an all-new level. Not only are we emotionally, physically, and spiritually compatible, we are actually very mentally compatible, to the point where we can talk non-stop for eight and a-half hours without trying.

Personally, I had never had such a long phone call (or even in-person conversation for that matter) with anyone up till then. My longest ever phone conversation in the past was — I don’t know — three hours and forty-five minutes? Neither had he too (he said his longest phone conversation was one plus hour tops with his exes; even then they would be chatting about casual stuff, not deep exchanges like what we just did).

If not for Ken’s meeting, we would have gone on and on. We ended the call not because we wanted to, but because we had to.

This was the first time when I thought, Hey, I think this is someone I can see myself with… for life.

Smiling at the man of my life

Realizing Ken is “The One”

Subsequently, many things happened rapidly in the next few weeks which made me realize — beyond any reason of doubt — that Ken is the one for me.

If I was to explain in terms of our overall relationship dynamics,

  • Ken loves me for who I am, completely. He constantly tells me he loves me, how I’m perfect and the only woman he’ll ever want for the rest of his life, and how he loves everything about me: from my looks, to my personality, to my work.

    For example, while I don’t see myself as being more successful than him (we are both doing well in our paths), he told me before that he loves the fact that I’m a strong and confident woman and he has totally no issue if his girlfriend is more successful than him or earns more than he does (at that time we were not engaged yet).

    He said that not because I was actually earning more than him then (it depends) but because he wants me to soar to my greatest height. Unlike men who get intimidated by strong women, he’s thoroughly confident in himself and loves that I’m always striving to be the best that I can be.

  • He cares for me with every ounce of his soul. 
    • The look of anxiousness on his face over anything concerning me — you will never see this look on anyone except say, your next-of-kin. And he never gets fazed by anything else, being a highly calm and composed person (maybe because of his build and past martial arts training).
    • He fusses over me 24/7 and takes care of my every need: from cooking for me, to doing the laundry, to washing the dishes, to paying for our expenses, to tucking me into bed every night, to pouring a glass of water for me every morning after I wake up so that I get hydrated. And I have never asked him to do them; he just does because: “I just like taking care of you,” he says.

      Caesar Salad

      Home-made salad by Ken. He makes salad for me every day because he knows I like to eat that. :)

    • How much I matter to him. One time early on in our relationship, I went over to his house to give him a surprise. Simple gesture on my part, took no effort at all.

      Upon seeing me, his face changed from shock, to surprise, to 100% pure joy, all in one instant. In fact, he was so happy that he started blushing and getting a little teary. I was taken aback. It made me realize, Hey, I really matter to him.

  • He is always there for me rain or shine, night or day. Just some examples: 
    • One time I was feeling upset about something. He immediately packed his laptop and traveled from his house to my house (at that time we were not staying together yet) just to accompany me — at 3+am in the morning. This was despite me repeatedly telling him not to do so. See you in 30 minutes, he said on the phone, before appearing at my house a short while later.

      Note he actually had to work that day (and hence brought his laptop). Ken stays in Hougang and me in Teck Whye. For those of you not in Singapore, that’s quite far apart: one and a-half hours by public transport and 35 minutes by cab. He didn’t have to come see me but he did, because “I just don’t want you to go through this alone.”

    • The times I was sick, he was by my side 24/7 taking care of me, feeding me, changing my cooling pack, tucking me in, etc.
    • During my recent root canal treatments, he accompanied me all the way to the hospital and waited for me at the lobby until I was done (each treatment would be over one hour), before bringing me home. Since he had to work, he simply brought his laptop and worked while on the go (Ken’s job doesn’t require him to report to the office).
  • We can talk non-stop to each other about anything. From uttering complete nonsense, to bantering frivolously, to engaging in intellectual debates, we can just go on and on and on without stopping. There are often times when we lay on the bed chatting all through the night, only to realize morning is already here and we have not slept. When we are out or at home and not working, we would be just talking all the time about anything in the world. Talking aside, we can also be completely at ease being silent and just enjoying each other’s company. This is a kind of connection you do not find with anyone in the world, even if both of you have the intention to build a connection.
  • He is completely open with his emotions. No hiding, no closing off, no emotional unavailability. Ken wears his heart on his sleeve with me.
  • We can be our natural selves with each other. 
    • While we may have to self-monitor our behavior a little or exude a slightly different persona with others, with each other we are just totally ourselves. We can be goofy with each other, talk seriously, sound off whatever is on our mind (even the unhappy things), and be each other’s confidants.
    • And by goofy, I mean really crazy wacked out  behavior. Just the icing on the cake:
      • One time we were eating grapes and I had this crazy idea to throw grapes (one at a time) into his mouth from a distance and have him catch them. Ken’s mouth is the basket and he’s supposed to move around to catch the grapes too as I throw them. (I had many missed shots but eventually did get at least one in, haha! It was hilarious!)

        Grapes

      • A recurring theme between us is hide-and-seek, where I would hide in different spots of the house (whenever I get the opportunity to) and he would immediately know to look for me once he sees me missing. Some places I’ve hid before: Inside the wardrobe, toilet, storeroom, under the bed, and under the table (LOL).
      • Another recurring game between us is that I will sometimes be sitting on my office chair and start wheeling around in the house in the midst of work (with no one else at home of course). He’ll then drop whatever he’s doing to fetch me and wheel me back to my work desk as I pretend to be “driving” the chair, haha!
  • While I don’t need a partner who is romantic, he does the most romantic things for me (he never did these in his past relationships):
    • He sings me to sleep at night. 
    • When we are at home, we would slow dance to him singing ballads, such as Eyes on Me.
    • He likes to carry me around at home so that I can touch the ceiling.
    • When we are out, he piggybacks me because it’s fun.
    • He wishes me “Happy XXth month anniversary” when the clock strikes 12 on the fifth of every month. (We got together on 5 May.) He got me a beautiful bouquet of flowers on our first-month anniversary, even though we didn’t talk about celebrating the day at all. (Subsequently I told him not to buy anymore flowers because it’s expensive and I don’t want him to waste the money.)
    • He likes surprising me with heart shapes in our meals. For example:

      Heart shape in soup, made of vegetarian bacon bits

      Mushroom soup, my favorite. :) He cooked the soup and created the heart shape with vegetarian bacon bits. :)

      Peas, arranged in a heart shape

      Chickpeas, peas, corn, and a walnut, all arranged in a heart shape. :) This was after our second month together.

      Heart-shaped bread

      Wholemeal bread with nutella. He bit the bread into a heart. Haha. :)

    • He repeatedly affirms his love for me, even though I don’t need it. He’s always telling me every day that I’m his perfect woman, his soulmate; that we’ll be together forever; and I’m his one and only, the only person he ever wants to be in this lifetime, the next lifetime, and all other lifetimes till the end of time.
  • We resolve conflicts right away. Like anyone building a a close connection, we have conflict comments, though uncommon. When we do, we never leave the issues hanging for long. We resolve them right away, and we don’t just address them on the surface too: we deep dive and address the root cause(s).
  • He has made huge changes in his life because he wants the best for me. Note that I have never asked nor expected him to make any of these changes; he has made them because he chose to and he wanted to. For example:
    • Quit smoking: Prior to meeting, Ken was a heavy smoker who had been smoking for eight years (12–15 cigarettes every day). He had always wanted to quit, to no avail.

      A week after we got together, he quit smoking. Completely. 

      He had to tough out three weeks of severe coughing though due to detox from all those years of smoking, but he did it. He has not smoked a puff since then.

      Cigarette box

      No more cigarettes

      While he would say that he was able to quit because I helped him to uncover (and unchain) his underlying smoking triggers, I say he takes full credit for kicking the addiction because he’s the one who went through the whole detox and stopped smoking. Me, I’m just a catalyst and a pillar of support.

      His parents and good friends were completely flabbergasted because they (even his exes in past relationships) had always been telling him to stop smoking, to no avail.

      His reason for quitting? I want to be healthy so I can grow old and take care of you forever.

    • Reduced drinking: He used to be a heavy drinker, drinking eight pints every time he was out clubbing/socializing (which would be several times a week). He would also drink a fair bit while he was at home. After we got attached, he reduced his drinking a lot. Now he only drinks one glass every three weeks or so.
    • Stopped clubbing: He used to club three times a week because he loves music and dancing. Now he doesn’t club anymore because he wants to be a “family man” for me.
    • Became more family oriented: He spends a lot lesser time on other activities now because he prefers spending time together with me. He tidies his room (he never cared to before) because he wants to create a homely environment for me. Besides his day job, he wants to earn additional income (such as giving tuition) as we can create a better future together with more money (e.g., getting our new home).

I can go on and on, but you should get the point by now.

Because of our seamless match, our relationship flows very easily: it forges itself without us trying to do anything.

Two weeks after I got together with Ken on 5 May, I moved into his place (we alternate between staying at his home and my home nowadays; our parents stay with us). Many people reacted with fear-based reactions, which subsequently taught me not to share too much about our relationship without first setting the context because most people “simply wouldn’t understand”.

He subsequently proposed to me on June 25 (my birthday), less than two months after we got attached. We are planning to marry on May 25 next year (more in a later announcement). 

(More on his proposal, where he set 555 heart-shaped balloons into the sky after I said “yes”: The Day I Was Proposed To (Thank You Ken Soh :) ).)

Our Relationship Today

Today we have been together for almost five months. Each day gets better than the last.

The ring

Him holding my hand

A Soul-level Connection

While five months may seem short to many in Earth time, we feel like we are old souls who have known each other forever. Ken and I believe we knew each other from a previous lifetime (at least one; could be more). Our lives have seamlessly blended into one another’s, to the point where we now operate as one unit while having our independent lives and thoughts.

Looking back, too many things match up to the point where we suspect our relationship was planned right from the start, even before we were even born. I believe our spirit guides nudged us into place to make it happen.

Some unexplainable synchronicities include:

  • Us first meeting nine years ago only to reacquaint four and a-half years later, only to reacquaint another four and-a-half years later.
  • My tarot card reading in Spain in 2011 which (in retrospect) foreshadowed Ken’s entrance.
  • The exact lineup in our personalities and thinking. I’m a thinker, he’s a feeler; I’m intuitive, he’s sensorial; I’m the expressive extrovert, he’s the patient introvert; I’ve a more vibrant and creative energy, his is one of calmness and stability; and many more. We have never met another who fits each of us in the manner we do to each other, all at the same time. Not even close.
  • How Ken thought about being open to relationships again in about late Feb this year, which was the exact same period when I decided I was done looking for someone and was going to focus on self over finding love
  • Him suddenly thinking of organizing his contact list one night (he never ever thinks of doing that), which led to him seeing my name, which led to us reconnecting while I was in South Africa
  • How we got together on May 5, 5:55am (the number five has a significance to Ken; us getting together on that date/time was not planned).

On the bridge

Us on a bridge at Kelvingrove Park

We believe nothing happened in the first two times we met because we were still growing in our paths. We were not emotionally, mentally, physically, or spiritually ready to be together.

But our spirit guides didn’t give up and kept putting us back together. And third time is the charm.

By then, we have completely come into our own and built our lives, which was why we simply *clicked* and got together so quickly after that one “hello” message.

Our connection then quickly built on itself and simply spiraled higher and higher and reached its highest level (at our current consciousness level) within a few months, whereby we are now sailing through life together every day as one entity even though we are technically two different individuals.

Ken and I believe we are twin souls who have known each other from before and have pledged to come together in each lifetime. What this link says about Twin Souls describes what Ken and I believe to be the epicenter of our relationship to a strong tee:

Twin flames, also called twin souls, are literally the other half of our soul. We each have only one twin, and generally after being split the two went their separate ways, incarnating over and over to gather human experience before coming back together. Ideally, this happens in both of their last lifetimes on the planet so they can ascend together.

Each twin is a complete soul, not half a soul. It is their task to become more whole, balancing their female and male sides, and ideally become enlightened, before reuniting with their twin. This reunion is of two complete and whole beings. All other relationships through all our lives could be said to be “practice” for the twin, the ultimate relationship.

From: Center of Soul Evolution, on Twin Flames

Boyfriend, fiance, husband-to-be, husband, life partner, etc. — these are all just labels in the end. Ultimately, Ken is more than any of that to me: he’s my soul’s true mate. My soulmate. And so am I to him.

What Helped Me To “Find” Ken

Hand in hand, together forever :)

I’ve sort of littered these lessons throughout my story, but in short these are the things which helped me to find and eventually be together with Ken:

  1. By focusing on my path “over” finding someone (Part two)
  2. By first developing myself, coming into my own, and growing into my highest self (though I believe it’s possible to find your partner even as you are growing, since life is a work-in-progress) (Part one)
  3. By following the path of love vs. fear, taking a leap of faith, and not letting my fears get in the way of knowing and eventually being with someone (Parts two and three)
  4. By recognizing what is my most-valued criteria in a partner (emotional compatibility), which allowed me to get together with Ken (vs. filtering him away), eventually realizing he actually is my ideal partner all along (Part four, above)
  5. By quickly addressing all my personal issues and baggages early on in life so that I was ready to build my highest connection with Ken by the time he re-entered my life

What’s Next in The Series

Due to reader requests, I’m now planning a part five in the series where Ken gets to share his side of the story, Q&A style, so that you get to hear from the other person/guy’s perspective! I think this will be useful for those of us who want to get into a conscious relationship to get the full picture so we can better understand how our potential other half thinks.

So if any of you have questions you have for Ken (like how did you know Celes is the one? when did you know she is the one? How did you feel during the “interrogations”? etc.), then post them in reply to this comment thread!!

Update Sep 24 ’13: Okay, the questions section for Ken is now closed! Stay tuned for part five of the series where Ken will be answering your questions about love and our relationship! :)

Update Sep 29 ’13: The Q&A with Ken is now up! :D Read: Part 5: How Ken Realized I Was The One for Him (and Your Other Questions, Answered!)

Let me know what you guys feel about this latest part; I always love to hear from you!

Proceed to Part 5: How Ken Realized I Was The One for Him (and Your Other Questions, Answered!), where Ken answers your questions and shares his side of the story.

This is part four of my love series where I share my love journey, how I met my soulmate (Ken Soh), and how to attract authentic love into your life.

Images: Shots of Ken and I from our Glasgow Engagement Shoot, Kids running, Girl at window, Number padShocked baby, GrapesCigarette box



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  • http://www.middlefingerproject.com/ aimee@middlefingerproject

    Beautiful! Lovely to read.

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Thanks aimee! :)

  • Glenn Thomas

    Nice conclusion to the series! If it is that?
    And wow, he gets you a glass of water in the morning. I do that for Lydia as well. Every night I leave a big glass of water next to her bed for when she wakes up. That’s a caring thing for anyone to do. In my case, I didn’t want coffee to be her first drink of the day. I couldn’t stop her drinking it, but made water the most immediate option.

    Also, you’re not interested in clubbing Celes? It could be fun, a bit of dancing? I’d be curious to hear about what deeper topics you guys talk about too.
    Oh, and those hearts are much better than the dead crab shell one I remember you posted on facebook!

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Aw that’s really sweet of you Glenn! :D I like that you don’t stop her from drinking that but you try to positively influence in your own ways. Me too, I don’t stop Ken from drinking coffee or diet coke, but I try to influence in my own ways by not drinking them and also suggesting healthier drinks whenever we eat out together.

      Unfortunately not; clubbing is simply not my thing! And it’s not like I haven’t tried it before — I have multiple times. I just enjoy pure conversation and connecting with people, and clubbing is like the anti-environment for that thing with the boomz-uhz-uhz music and what not.

      Also, the fact that clubs have a natural bias for men on the prowl and what not (it is pretty true in SG; not sure about Australia) further deters me from the place.

      That said, it is perfect for letting loose and just dancing/being in the music. (I’ve done that once and it is enjoyable.) I have several friends who are awesome people who just love clubbing, so I know it’s not necessary a “bad crowd” activity.

  • Sharon

    Hi Celes, I hope you don’t find my comment offensive. I’m asking this out of pure curiousity and not malice. I’ve read dating books like Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars and all of them mention a feel-good hormone in the brain that acts like a drug and makes us feel in love. This explains the “honeymoon period” we layman say.

    How do you know that you guys are not in said period? I remember feeling like what you said with one of my ex, 100% of my heart felt like it was true love and then one day, many many months later the feeling just fades and things become clearer. Honeymoon’s over.

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Hey Sharon! I appreciate your question; thank you for asking! :) The honeymoon thing is a comment which many have used to downplay the significance of our relationship (I’m not saying you are, just saying that others have been doing that when they hear about how we feel towards each other).

      And to be honest, there’s no way I can address the viewpoint of those who think that way without them still thinking that way. Because to them, the feelings of excitement and happiness within X duration (where X duration is a short period, say under a year or 6 months) is simply just honeymoon period. That’s the belief system they operate in and they’ll continue to undermine any relationships under that X time period no matter what they see or hear. They cannot accept that there are relationships where couples can be honestly and truly recognize that the other party is their life partner despite having only spent X days/weeks/months together (very rare and something which I would have thought is bogus thinking until I personally experienced this myself).

      Myself, the only way I can analogize it is just like how I discovered my life purpose 7 years ago in 2006 and never told anyone because no one would have believed me.

      Or how I decided that I was going to quit my job in 2008 to pursue my passion and people felt I was just being whimsical, going through a phase, crazy, and all that kinda stuff.

      “She’s so young, what can she possibly know about life or what a life purpose is?” is what the critics thought but didn’t say. “She’s probably going back to her day job after a while.”

      But hey, 7 years later from 2006, and this is still my path. Nothing has changed. People are surprised but I’m not.There’s no reason why my life purpose or life direction would have changed; I have already done my thorough digging/processing back in 2006. I already *knew* that this is what I want to do back then. People didn’t and people threw doubt at me because they didn’t know what I went through and what I was thinking.

      There wouldn’t be any way for me to prove or disprove to anyone that I really knew what I was feeling and doing at any of those moments; the only way for me was just to live my life, do my thing, and leave people to their own thoughts. It’s kinda the same here actually (regarding this whole ‘soulmate’ ‘claim’ I’m making about Ken and I).

      The only way for me to best convey my situation and emotions is by detailing my thought process and emotions as possible (which I have tried to do with this four-part story); what the rest want to think and conclude is really up to them. I hope they will have more faith in the story and in the notion of true love some time down the road when they check the blog and see that we are still together. :)

  • Zoé Theoni

    Loved the Pics. Loved the Story.

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      I’m glad you do Zoe!! :) Thanks so much for your comment!

  • http://www.starsparklex.blogspot.co.uk/ Moonsparkle

    That’s great that you and Ken are compatible on all those levels. When I read about the things he does for you, I thought he sounds like a character in a book! lol.

    The synchronicities are interesting too. What you said about “growing into your own” makes a lot of sense. It wasn’t right before but now it is. I’ve read quite a lot about Twin Flames and people’s stories and they seem to be very painful connections but usually when people meet it isn’t quite right; one or both is in a relationship with someone else or one person (there tends to be one called a “runner”) runs away because the intensity of the connection is too strong. I suppose if you have two people who were already whole, complete and secure in themselves before getting together (for example you and Ken), who could both handle the intensity of the relationship, then it could work out ok, (or could work out very well) and be a positive experience. :)

    I’ve enjoyed reading this series. :) All that I might ask in another part is if you have any extra tips about finding your soulmate or preparing for a soulmate relationship that you haven’t already covered. I think with some of us there may be a lot of stuff to be sifted through before we could have this type of soulmate relationship but then again that’s a limiting belief! (I need to work on those, lol). As you said, life is a work in progress, so I also believe it’s possible to find your partner while you’re still working on yourself and to grow with them.

    Thanks for sharing your inspiring story. Good luck to you and Ken and look forward to hearing more in the future. :)

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Hey Moonsparkle! That’s interesting that you’ve read quite a lot about Twin Flames (and about people’s stories).

      What have you read about those painful connections? It’s interesting because I would never have associated Twin Flames/Twin Souls with pain or unhappiness. I do know that there are soul-level connections that can manifest themselves as enemies/nemesis/toxic people in our lives just to help us learn lessons in our life.

      And I hear you regarding extra tips about “finding” one’s soulmate! The five steps I mentioned at the end of the article pretty much rounds it all up. I’d imagine if I do write a part on this, it’d pretty much be a deeper elaboration of those points.

      • http://www.starsparklex.blogspot.co.uk/ Moonsparkle

        Hi Celes. :) With a lot of the people who believe they’ve met their Twin Flame, it doesn’t seem to end that well; it seems that a lot of the time they meet their twin when either they or the twin are in a relationship with someone else or one or both just aren’t ready to be together. Therefore it’s very painful because they feel that they can’t be together. And they have experiences such as telepathy, coincidences/synchronicities, connecting through dreams, feeling their chakras open up etc. For some people the connection is too strong, so they “run away”.

        I’ve also heard about the enemy/nemesis type soul connections, some might be friends who you fall out with or people you meet who are there to teach you a lesson. Some people believe there to be “karmic soulmates” who we have karma with and these are supposedly unhappy relationships with a lot of problems. I’ve also read about “near twins” where they might seem like your Twin Flame but they’re not and those relationships don’t tend to be particularly positive either.

        A lot of people go through what’s called the “separation” phase with their twin, where they can’t be with them. There’s a theory that a soul connection isn’t necessarily about having a physical relationship but about you learning and growing as a person, a sort of spiritual awakening. So during the separation you can work on yourself and be the best person you can be and you may end up reuniting with your twin or you may not. Maybe you’ll be together in another life. A quote I see a lot is this one:

        “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. ― Elizabeth Gilbert

        It’s not all bad though, some couples are together after working through their problems and Sarah Prout from SarahProut.com met her Twin Flame Sean Patrick Simpson on Twitter (she’s from Australia and he’s American) and they’re getting married this month! (Actually I think they just got married yesterday because on 9th Sept, Sarah said that they were getting married in 12 days). Here’s her story if you or anyone else are interested in reading it: http://sarahprout.com/2013/04/true-love-story-we-met-on-twitter/

        Also an interesting site about Twin Flames/soul connections is this one:

        http://www.mirrorspirits.com/table-of-contents/

        The webmistress Sebby calls them “Mirror Spirits”.

        That will be good if you do decide to write a post going deeper into the tips. :)

        • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

          Hi Moonsparkle!

          Actually I think you summarize their whole issue of pain very well with, “So during the separation you can work on yourself and be the best person you can be and you may end up reuniting with your twin or you may not. Maybe you’ll be together in another life.”

          I don’t think there should be an attachment to the notion of twin flames/souls having to be together right away every step of the way; attachment to this idea is probably what caused the pain for those people. The fact that they were not able to be together probably suggested the time wasn’t ripe for them (or maybe they weren’t even twin flames/souls but thought they were and wanted to hang on to that notion — just a possible thought).

          From my experience with Ken, our connection never required much effort (if at all) on our part; it just blended together automatically and kept spiraling higher and higher by itself. If it had required an exceeding amount of work on each’s end to make things happen, and if we were feeling anguish through the steps, it would be more suggestive of an underlying incompatibility/issue with the connection than anything.

          As you have rightfully pointed out, maybe the twins will be together in another life. The objective of the twin souls crossing each other’s path in a lifetime isn’t necessary to unite there and then. They get to incarnate over and over many lifetimes so their whole journey is really to become full/whole themselves rather than obsessing about the ‘when’ and ‘how’ or uniting with one another.

          I just posted an update to part four with a further elaboration on twin flames/souls at the end of the article. There’s a link for further reading if you’re interested.

          I really like how that page describes twin souls, about how it is their task to first become whole souls themselves first before uniting, and how them uniting becomes their “ultimate relationship” (everything before that is actually “practice” for this ultimate relationship).

          Funnily this is exactly how Ken and I have felt about our relationship within two months after we were together. I only knew about the concept of twin flames/souls today when wrapping up part four and was a surprised at how it basically surmised what we feel about our relationship. It was as if it was describing our entire connection and how we feel about each other, which I take as a positive sign definitely.

          • http://www.starsparklex.blogspot.co.uk/ Moonsparkle

            Hi Celes! Yes, it could be that it was attachment to the idea of being together every step of the way that caused the pain. I think when you’re involved in this lifetime it’s hard to think outside of that but maybe that’s part of the journey. :) Also like you suggested, it could be that they weren’t actually Twin Flames. It’s interesting to hear your perspective on it.

            It sounds like with you and Ken the connection “flowed”, it just naturally happened that way and that’s how I viewed soulmates originally, as a connection that felt natural and “right”. It sounds like you have a special connection, whatever name you want to call it. :)

            I’ll read the update and have a look at the link.

  • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

    Added a new snippet description on “twin souls” or “twin flames” in the article, for those who have never heard of the concept before. (I actually haven’t, prior to writing part four!)

    Twin flames, also called twin souls, are literally the other half of our soul. We each have only one twin, and generally after being split the two went their separate ways, incarnating over and over to gather human experience before coming back together. Ideally, this happens in both of their last lifetimes on the planet so they can ascend together. So you probably haven’t had many lifetimes with your twin.

    Each twin is a complete soul, not half a soul. It is their task to become more whole, balancing their female and male sides, and ideally become enlightened, before reuniting with their twin. This reunion is of two complete and whole beings. All other relationships through all our lives could be said to be “practice” for the twin, the ultimate relationship.

    From: http://www.soulevolution.org/twinflames/twinflames.htm

    • http://www.starsparklex.blogspot.co.uk/ Moonsparkle

      That seems a more positive way to look at it (two complete souls rather half a soul) because it doesn’t suggest that anything’s missing in you or that there’s something wrong with you that you need someone else to fix. Thanks for posting the quote and link. :)

  • Farnam

    Celes,
    I didn’t have internet access for some weeks, and I REALLY missed you and PE. The first thing after having my internet back I did, was reading your blog.
    And about the post:
    That is awesome, what is named here is the only love, I call “true love”. I am really happy for you and Ken, and whatever Ken(and you of course) is doing, is because of him appreciating you and your being.
    Wish you two eternal happiness.
    P.S.:: Your pictures are AWESOME. Thanks for sharing these beautiful moments, poses, scenes and love with us.

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Thanks for your sweet comments Farnam! :) I’m planning a series of new posts sharing our top favorite engagement pictures which we took while in Scotland last month. The pictures I’ve been sharing in this soulmate series are just a few from the collection and a teaser prelude, really: like you, I really love how they turned out!!

  • http://hackmyheart.com/ Calae

    I don’t have much to say here, Celes, but I still wanted to comment just so you know I’m keeping up with your posts. =)

    Right now I’m really tired (I just spent a long weekend meeting one of my boyfriend’s brothers for the first time — I was super nervous about making a good first impression!), but I’ll ponder if I have any questions/can think of anything I’d like you to talk about and make another comment if I think of anything!

    All in all, I think you and Ken are adorable!

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Thank you Calae!! :) I hope you have a good rest and that the meeting went well!

  • Qin Tang

    Thanks for sharing your life so openly. Love reading it and your pictures.
    Your writing and storytelling skills are amazing.
    I would love to hear Ken’s side of the story too.

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Aw thanks Qin Tang! :) Thanks for your suggestion. I may well do a new post (possibly Q&A style) to share his side of the story if other readers express interest as well. It’ll be interesting to hear his take as a guy for sure, and also insightful for those of us considering to get into a conscious relationship (I notice that many readers commenting seem to be ladies!).

  • Kiki Maria Valera

    I was giggling like a school girl while reading this post. Seriously, the things Ken does for you like the tucking you into bed, giving up smoking and other harmful habits, to making you food( heart shaped nutella sandwich. that’s genius)! Ah! be still my heart! This really touched the romantic in me! You are one lucky, lucky girl, Celestine! ^_^

    How strange! I had an epiphany today, and I told myself, ” I want to be the right person before I find the right one.” I para-phrase, but these thoughts did occupy my mind today. And it is so true! I love how you carefully evaluated aspects concerning compatibility including yourself(like the fear that tried to hold you back) before jumping into a relationship. Any many other things I want to address, but my computer is lagging today so I’ll cut it short.

    I really enjoyed this series; it’s inspiring and restores my faith in love and pure happiness. I think I speak for most people here when I say how your truly rewarding it is to read about your experience with Love. More people need to know that true love exist, and not only in a partner but in yourself. What’s even more rewarding is the message you send regarding placing a high importance on self value. It’s beautiful. Because if we neglect these things that make us whole, or human, we’re only going to receive to halves, or reject it. But, returning back to the point of these article, it’s inspiring because it makes one realize that there still is hope despite how grey the outlook is. I

    That’s all I have to say, but yeah. :) Yes, I agree, an article from Ken’s point of view would be most interesting!

    Oh, this might sound generic, but you two should do a boy/girl friend tag type video. If you want! Something goofy and silly. Just ask a series of questions like, “What’s my favorite hobby/movie/food.” That the other has to answer. I think there’s a pre made- list of questions floating around the internet.

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Dearest Kiki, you put your thoughts in such beautiful words. Thank you so much for reading this series and sharing your comments every step of the way! :) It’s so encouraging to read what you have to share each time.

      Haha a boy/girl friend tag-type video would be funny! Though I doubt I’ll do one unless we are invited to do so externally.

      Reason being is that (a) I don’t particularly see it’s direct value-add to PE’s message (I gather it’s more for entertainment value which would work well on an entertainment-type channel?) and (b) we actually know each other to an extremely high degree and many of such questions, we already know that we know w/o having to cross-check w/ one another!

      So the surprise may be low for us which may take away the fun factor usually present in such tag videos, hence making it less fun to the viewers!

      (Like just yesterday I was doing a few ruffles with my bean pillow for three seconds before stopping. (Just the ruffling sound, nothing else.) Ken then started laughing because he knew (without asking) that I was trying mimick the opening of the 20th Century Fox intro (which you see every time before their movies), which I actually was!

      It was utterly hilarious because it was nothing than a few ruffles and I didn’t give any clue nor said anything about trying to mimic the opening. We were just resting on the bed and I was thinking of the tune, so I decided to just push the pillow up and down a few times at that time to mimic it!

      Side note: This flute version of the 20th century fox intro is hilarious: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IsdCGQbbd8k)

  • Muna

    Hey

    I read the series and you amaze me as always with your flawless writing and clarity of thought. I followed all 4 of them l but didn’t have the time then to comment. I loved the way you wrote the whole story and (judging by the comments) it will inspire a lot of people to find their love. The story sounded much like a fairy tale. I also liked that Ken is so committed towards you and takes such good care of you and leaves his guy-ish lifestyle to be with u. However I would like to say one thing by experience that don’t let your man leave something for you. I know it must have been Ken’s choice since he is so smitten by you and your charms like you are by him. In the long run relationships blooms on trust and giving space to each other. I understood this in a very hard way and I would say that you should also indulge in the activities that are close to him. I know you abhor clubbing so find may be u ll find something else that is special to him. Obviously by saying this I do not mean that you should encourage him while chain- smokes or drives drunk.

    As my relationship with my boyfriend started we were so much into each other all the time that we ditched friends and family which was then understandable . However as time passed it drifted me away from my friends and him from his. My friends who were so supportive of me throughout started feeling that i have changed now and forgot our friendship. I took me a lot of effort to win them back and since then we both decided to be the people who we were when we feel in love with each other <3

    I also enjoyed the whole series and i noticed that you took very calculated steps before entering into the relationship. I think that it was a very good thing to do on your part and Ken is so lucky to have such a intelligent girl in his life. Also the way you two look at each other on the pics says a lot. Though I have little faith in the word soulmates but I would say (judging by your description of Ken) that you both definitely compliment each other.
    Thank you so much for sharing your life. It was a wonderful and inspiring one. Wish you eternal happiness and my best wishes.

    -Muna

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Hi Muna, thanks for your well wishes and sharing! :D I really love the points you’ve made; they are very valid and well-placed.

      I love your point that a relationship works both ways, because it really does. That’s definitely so for our relationship, and I just want to stress it here just so readers don’t develop the skewed notion that women should always expect the guy or one party to do everything (we shouldn’t; it can become quite a parasitical dynamic).

      Regarding your point about having your man leave something for you, Ken has a very strong core for himself (and that’s why he has never in any way been intimidated by my presence or what I do, unlike guys I met in the past). I’ve never expected him to make any changes in the relationship, even smoking actually. (I entered the relationship fully accepting that: “Okay, this guy smokes a lot and I will not judge. There is a chance he may never stop smoking, and I’m going to have to accept that.” (Though he did mention before we got together that he would like to quit sometime in the future.).

      Whatever changes he made (and will continue to make) are all decisions he made himself, after which I support them to my best capacity. E.g., after he decided to give a shot at not smoking, I then quickly stepped in to work with him one-to-one to break the addiction, which led him to successfully quit it. Before that I never once made or suggested things, “You should stop smoking” or “I don’t like that you smoke”.

      It’s just that since I’m writing from my side of the story, it’s possible that the story (how he gives and is there for me all the time) may seem a little skewed since I don’t really keep track of the things I do for him nor care to mention (e.g., me washing his hair for him and giving him head massages; I have gone clubbing with him before just to experience his world through his eyes; working with him through smoking among other stuff; taking the lead in our wedding arrangements since he has to work, etc.), since they are things I want to do voluntarily for him and they come second-nature for me. (It’s just like him cooking, washing clothes, etc. for me are things he automatically enjoys doing for me and he doesn’t give any special attention to them nor think of them as special at all.)

      But yes, a winning relationship IMO definitely has to work both ways. And I’d like all of us here to walk away remembering that and not look for a relationship where it’s just the guy (or even girl) being the provider. That wouldn’t be a healthy approach, especially because we should look at our partner as “our other half” (whereby half is not a literal half but a complete soul in itself).

      • Muna

        Hey

        I think you are right, since you write the story so you depict the other person more than you do yourself. And i clearly understand the ambiguity it produces. I definitely agree that a winning relationship is earned both ways and should not be looked upon like a provider-receiver relationship. By your reply and the series it looks that may be the time you spent with each other is less but definitely you have the connection and understanding that develops with time.Maybe it’s because you knew exactly what you are looking in a person.

        Again I would like to wish u best of luck and looking forward to read more from you..

  • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

    Hi everyone! I’m now considering a part five in the series where Ken gets to share his side of the story, in a Q&A format, so that you get to hear from the other person/guy’s perspective! I think this will be useful for those of us who want to get into a conscious relationship to get the full picture so we can better understand how our potential other half thinks.

    So if any of you have questions you have for Ken (like how did you know Celes is the one? when did you know she is the one? etc.), then post them in reply to this comment!!

    • Love from INFJ

      How Celes takes care of you? She mentioned all the great things which you do for her, so what is the inspiration source of all of this greatness? :)

      Does it comes from something Celes do for you? or something from inside of you?

      I hope you got my question because English is not my primary language so I cannot ask as I can ask in my primary language.

      P.S YOU BOTH ARE AMAZING PEOPLE :)

      • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

        Love your questions, INFJ! :) Will include them in the Q&A with him! :)

    • JadePenguin

      I’d like to know what he thought about you the previous times you met. Why he didn’t get in touch with you then but only recently. Was he a different person then, or you, or both? I’m guessing it wouldn’t have been the right time then but I always wonder why not and how people change :)

      • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

        Hi Jade, I can already address that one! (Though I’m still going to put this in the Q&A for him to share it in his own words!)

        We were really just very different people back in those two times; we have changed a lot since then. There wasn’t any special reason why he didn’t get in touch with me because we were simply just fleeting acquaintances (it’s just like some of the many random people you meet in life; you don’t follow up with them and there’s just really no reason why).

        We never knew each other enough to follow up with each other; and in fact I’d actually look at it as “Why did he get in touch with her now?” vs. a “Why did he not get in touch in the past?” The former is because he really just got a random thought out of the blue that fateful to organize his contact list (which I briefly mentioned in part four), after which he saw my name, had the faint recollection that I have been doing the whole P.D. thing, googled me/looked up my Facebook, saw that I was in S.A. and he decided to drop me a message. And yes, based on an act as random as that, things then started happening. (Which partly why we really think these are external forces — our spirit guides — at work trying to put us back together.)

        Also he had always been in relationships since he was in college (he was from all-boys schools from primary to secondary school) all the way till nine years later, so he wouldn’t really be in the space to think about meeting girls / getting to know new girls previously anyway. Not that he would have needed to do so because for some reason he always had no issue forming romantic relationships all his life (his own charisma maybe?). It was in fact his personal choice to just remain single after nine years of relationships because he had “seen girls of all looks and characters” (his own words) and had “seen enough” (my words), before our meeting almost one and a-half years later.

    • Muna

      I would like to ask him that

    • http://www.vishnusvirtues.com/ Vishnu

      Hey Celes – a couple questions – you might have answered them, maybe not. What was going on in Ken’s life when he decided to reach out to you? Maybe similar to what you wrote, what helped Ken find you:) (other than sorting his contacts :) )

      What inspired the romantic proposal? Had he always been thinking about it or had he been listening to clues from you? Did he ever imagine he would have such a romantic proposal or was it spontaneously crafted during the time he knew you and inspired solely by you:) ?

  • leslie

    wow~ amazing and a beautiful love story ,the passage is aslo so long,hah~ but i love it , giving me a lot inspiration ,thanks ! and congratulations ,wish your a more romantic future!

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Thank you leslie! :)

  • Mikey

    I’m so happy to read that you and Ken are at a such high level of compatibility, especially in mental capacity which I feel matters much to you!

    I’m starting to really like Ken (hi Ken!), and fully look forward to your Part 5. No questions from me. :)

  • Love from INFJ

    Thank you again for being so open and sharing with us… :)

    and the series is great… but in this series till yet the focus is on Ken, what he do, how caring loving and great he is ( WHICH I REALLY APPRECIATE). But can you write on what you do for Ken? or request Ken to write about you? because I think that we can learn a lot by this, if you can share about what are the needs of Ken, how you meet them, how you care for him, how you fulfill his values and everything related to it..

    I hope you got my point…

  • JadePenguin

    Interesting, that part about 100% compatibility. It’s awesome that you eventually discovered that side of him as well :D I also agree that even if not, it’s totally okay if one doesn’t share everything with their partner. Sometimes differences can also enrich a relationship, allowing both to see the world through a different perspective.

    My bf has quite a few traits different from me. When we reconnected back in winter, I thought I had changed so much that I didn’t have much in common with him anymore. I’ve since become more tolerant of differences in some fundamentals (mostly regarding veganism and money). As you said, there will always be friends who will connect to you on that level and you don’t have to get everything from the same person, although it’s lucky if you can!

    Thanks for writing this series! I like how you openly share things some people would consider too nosey asking about :D

  • PC

    Congratz Celes and Ken, for finding each other..

    Hi,Ken,
    Have a question for you.. As you know, Celes is a public figure, atleast for the 1 Million readers who follows her and reads her blogs/posts. Even interviewed in Singapore TV channels, so people know her. How you guys developed feelings for each other, how it grew from a mere acquaintance to marriage are all out there in Celes’s posts and open to public.. When you both have kids, I’m guessing Celes might come up with great posts on child care and stuff.. :) )

    Anyways, the question is : Are you comfortable with your life related matters exposed to all readers? Somewhere in your mind, did this thought ever cross you – of having a little privacy? Don’t get me wrong, just curious to know because I’m a “Pvt Ltd” person :) )
    Are you a public figure yourself ? If so, can you please share more details regarding those aspects? I’d love to hear..

    Many thanks,
    PC

  • Tan Chee Teng

    That’s really sweet, Celes! I have been curious for quite some time why a girl like you would decide to hand over your life to one man so soon and now i understood completely. The part which Ken quit smoking was just amazing! I am so happy for you both meeting each other and tying the knot soon! Congratulations!!! :)

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Thank you Tan Chee Teng!! :) I appreciate your kind wishes!

  • http://www.positivekaizen.com/ Alyssa

    Hi Celes,

    thanks for sharing this new series. It is really brave of you to open up and discuss such intimate part about yourself and your relationship. I think not everyone can do that. At least not me :D

    How old is Ken? and what are his intention (or rather what are the thoughts going on in his mind) when he first contacted you? Was it just to reconnect with a friend or he already has the intention to go after you?

    • http://personalexcellence.co/ Celestine Chua

      Hey Alyssa, thanks for your questions! :D I can answer the questions here already but I’ll leave them in the Q&A for Ken to answer in his own words (someone else also asked what triggered him to recontact me back at that point!).

  • Dr Sanchita

    HI celes..CONGRATS .. first of all let me tel you that d very first thought i had while reading d name of the topic of this post ..was… WAAOWW… a person who has just done sooo much of hard work to make this world a better place ..through helping people grow … truelyy deserves a Person like she is mentioning..!! I always believe those who have goodness..they are God’s favourite and always given bestest in their lives..i had read almost all your earlier posts….you deserve the best as you struggled too..!! Im realllyy veryyy very HAPPY for you n ken….. I wish u all the BEST things in life.. GOD BLESS YOU BOTH n touch wood to your Relationship.. stayy happy n healthy..always

    LOVE

    Dr Sanchita

    (New Delhi,India)