Kindness Challenge Day 2: Give Up Your Seat To Someone

This is Day 2 of the 14-Day Kindness Challenge for Nov 2012 where hundreds of participants from around the world get together in spirit to do 14 acts of kindness over 14 days. The challenge is now over, but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all Kindness Challenge tasks and posts.

Join the Kindness Challenge!

Hellllooooo everyone!!!! :D Welcome to Day 2 of the 14-Day Kindness Challenge!!! :D


First off, I want to announce that we now officially have OVER 690 PARTICIPANTS for the Kindness Challenge!!!

This officially makes our 14-Day Kindness Challenge the third largest challenge we’ve ever held at PE, right after 30DLBL (Live a Better Life in 30 Days) and 30BBM (Be a Better Me in 30 Days)!!! *throws party poppers again*

You guys ROCK. You guys seriously ROCK. I love how all of you are going FULL FORCE and jumping on board in this amazing movement!!!

1,000 Participants—Is It possible??

Now, the question comes to this—can we hit 1,000 participants?? Can we???

I think we can, if each of us get just ONE MORE, ONE MORE person to join the challenge itself!! Let’s all do our part to spread the word. Post the Kindness Challenge announcement link ( on your Facebook, Twitter, and blog. Let’s make this a WORLDWIDE movement, not that it isn’t already one!!!

IMPORTANT: Sign Up First Before Proceeding!

You HAVE to sign up, as part of a personal pledge, before you can be counted as part of the official rooster for the 14-Day Kindness Challenge. Sign ups are still open but won’t be for long. Here’s how to join now:

We Are in Lianhe Wanbao!

For those of you who got Lianhe Wanbao (a Chinese evening daily in Singapore) yesterday, Nov 1, you would have seen that we were on the papers yesterday, regarding Kindness Challenge!!

Media Feature in Lianhe Wanbao

Page 5 of Nov 1 issue of Lianhe Wanbao

The article talks about the 14-day kindness challenge, how it has just kicked off (Nov 1), how the first task is about hugging at least 3 people around you, and how this movement is currently praised and lauded by participants and people in the media.

Thank you all of you for your positive words of encouragement!! Let’s get the show going guys!! :D

My Day 1 Review: Hug everyone I see!

Day 1’s task was to give a hug to everyone you see!

My morning for Day 1 was spent in UFM 100.3 (a very large Chinese-language station in Singapore) as part of my promotional tour for the 14-Day Kindness Challenge as well as for a personality interview!

UFM100.3 Live Interview

Inside the UFM 100.3 studio

Interview in UFM100.3 Studio

Preparing to be interviewed in a bit! ;)

The interview was a complete BLAST. The UFM 100.3 listeners were SO sweet, SO endearing, SO positive, and SO encouraging!!! The interview was actually supposed to be just thirty minutes, but was extended to an hour because (I think) the deejays enjoyed talking to me and there were SO many smses, curious questions, and words of encouragement and support sent in by the listeners!!!!!

Hug: Xiaozhu (UFM 100.3 Deejay) and Celes

Me doing Day 1’s act of kindness on giving a hug to one of the deejays, Xiao Zhu (小猪)!

Hug: Yanwei (UFM 100.3 Deejay) and Celes

And here’s me giving another hug to another of the deejays, Yanwei!!! ;) Yanwei is the lovely sweetheart who approached me last week (while I was in KISS92 for my weekly segment) to come to UFM for an interview. Thank you so much for this wonderful opportunity, Yanwei!! :)

Guys, I’m telling you that I was literally SO HUMBLED as I sat in front of the computer screens and saw the smses pouring in. There was about a new sms coming in every five seconds or so expressing some form of encouragement and support for my work and/or to ask about my blog address/facebook page URL (the radio station had a policy not to give out external URLs on air, so listeners had to text in to ask for my URL).

If you are one of the listeners who texted in yesterday, thank you so much. Your interest in me/what I do was/is honestly very moving for me on a personal level!! I’ll continue to work hard to give my best for PE and for all of you!!

Group hug with morning deejays from UFM 100.3!

GROUP HUG with all the deejays in the UFM 100.3 Morning Segment 不给一口叮!!

I went about the day hugging every person I saw (and knew) for the rest of the day, and eventually raked up a hug count of 10!!

(PS: For those who are interested, will be posting recording of my interview with UFM in the Podcasts section later today. Stay tuned!)

Participants’ Responses for Day 1: Hugging

From the Day 1’s comments sharing, some of you participants actually did better than me—participant Luvena, for example, actually hugged 24 people on Day 1 itself!!

I was with a group of 20 people the whole of today — so as of now, I have hugged about 24 people – but no strangers. That was easy.. but over the day, I realised that some of the people needed a hug for no reason every now & then.. it was so fulfilling.. :)

Congratulations for the awesome work, Luvena!! :D

Some of you improvised and gave out virtual hugs to people in your social networks and readers at PE!

Participants giving out virtual hugs on Twitter

Participants giving out virtual hugs on Twitter. If you haven’t already, add me on Twitter @celestinechua!

Virtual hugs via PE Shoutbox

Participants giving out hugs via the shoutbox in the PE (Personal Excellence) sidebar.

I say, AWESOME work guys and I’m so proud of you for that!! :D

Here are some word-for-word comments from the participants for Day 1:

…came home from work had only eaten breakfast was so hungry found mum at home lunch already prepared ….gave ha d biggest hug of d day :) — Participant lucy

Thanks Celes, Level 2 (of Day 1’s task, which is to hug as many people as you can) is exciting. Stretching my comfort zone. Good idea to blog about it, that will help crank up my engine again after such a long time not blogging. Although my daughter and me hug each other regularly, it is good share how we feel about it. She felt cosy and I felt supportive since she is rushing for her project work in the Polytechnic. — Participant Dolly Yeo

…I truly felt the depth of the HUG…. […] I’m so glad for this task today…makes me feel that in this big big world am not all alone….I’ve got the world’s most supportive people around me…. — Participant ASLO

Just because it’s Day 2 today doesn’t mean that Day 1’s task has ended. As participant Daria very adeptly put it:

After reading today’s task I only saw mom and dad (excluding complete strangers in the street), so I hugged them both and gave them extra kisses :D

BUT this isn’t over … I want to reach level 2 or at least 1.5, so I’ll see if I can do it in the upcoming days. :)

Read more Day 1 comments:

Let’s continue to give out hugs to everyone we meet as we continue on with the next 13 days of the Kindness Challenge!! Let’s rock on guys!! :D

Day 2: Giving Up Your Seat

Do you give up your seat when taking public transport?

Do you give up your seat to someone who needs it more than you, be it when taking the public transport or out in the public area (food court, dining establishments, and so on)?

I’ve to be honest with you that I don’t always do that. There have been times in the past when I jumped to get a seat because I was tired and I simply wanted a seat for myself. Sometimes I simply didn’t care as I had thought of seats as a “first come, first serve” personal right. This mindset is something I’ve been changing of late.

I recall the few times when I gave up my seat in the past few months. As I gave up my seat to the person (sometimes it would be an elderly person while sometimes it would be a mother with kids), the person would look at me with eyes of gratitude, like it really meant the world to him/her. The point wasn’t that it made me feel good. The point was that the person was WARMED by that one simple gesture on MY part. That in that one second where I decided to give up my seat for him/her, his/her life was positively impacted, even if it was in a very minute, small, way.

This is why, today I would like to challenge you to do the task of giving up your seat to someone who needs it more than you do. Let’s get started!

Your Task: Give Up Your Seat to Someone Who Needs it More Than You

Your task today is to give up your seat to someone who needs it more than you.

It can be while taking the bus, taking the train, sitting in a public establishment, in your work place, at home while talking to your parents, or whatever.

Even if you drive, see if you can find a way to execute this act of kindness today! Crack your brain. Think outside of the box. If you haven’t already realized, the reason why I called this the 14-Day Kindness CHALLENGE is because this is to CHALLENGE us to find ways to weave in acts of kindness into our daily lives! I look forward to seeing what you guys can come up with!

(PS: If you really, really, can’t create the opportunity to execute this task today, improvise or park this task for a later day of the challenge, then return to share your results on Day 2 later on after you complete the task.

Just make sure you really try your best to execute the task today, vs. looking at it and immediately thinking, “I’m not going to get the chance so I’m not gonna think about this task at all today!” That wouldn’t be giving your all for the 14-Day Kindness Challenge, would it? :D

At the same time, continue to live up to Day 1’s task of giving hugs to people you see!)

Share Your Results!

Who did you give up your seat to today? Where did you give up your seat? How did you feel when doing this act of kindness?

Check out the responses of other participants in the comments section.

After you are done with Day 2, move on to Day 3: Write 3 Thank-You Notes to 3 People You Appreciate


  • Ngee Key

    Giving seat on public transport is one of the easiest to do, yet not all the people will do it.
    I can see some of them will pretend to fall asleep or indulge in their phone or tablets.

    I gave up a seat to an elderly lady as one of the young woman do not want to let go of
    the reserved seat.

    And then in a conference, I saw a lady who seems like looking for a place to sit while
    eating her lunch. And I ask her to come over and I make more space for her to sit.
    She appreciated it very much. And then we started to chat and found out that we are
    potential business partners for a project that I am evaluating. Sometimes you never
    know what your action will leads to… miracles do happen :)

    • Celes

      Wow, that’s amazing Ngee Key! Fantastic job. :clap: You managed to do the act twice in the same day, and one of them actually led to a potential business opportunity. :D Like you said, you never know what your actions lead to. :D Sometimes, when we open our doors, the universe will naturally usher in things for us. :D

  • Dolly Yeo

    Nov 2 Friday – Giving up your seat. I was attending a Conference the whole day with my buddy Ngee Key and almost forgot about the challenge. After that the follow up was another meeting with 2 other friends, I was very tired after only 3 hours’ sleep the nite before. In the MRT as I sat on the train, I was so relieved that there was a seat for me. Shortly, I noticed the train became crowded. I noticed a lady clutching something. Immediately I got up, she told me it’s OK and did’t seem to move towards me. She must have noticed that I am older than her, I was carrying my goody bag from the Conference and a large office cum handbag. Then it dawn on me in that split second that I would still give up my seat, in that split moment the ‘Kindness Challenge flashed my mind. I was very happy that I gave my seat up even though she appeared to not mind standing. I told her it’s 14 days Kindness Challenge. She could not hear me, she appeared surprised and had a warm happy face, looking down with a slight smile on her face. Then I noticed, that she actually had 3 bags on her lap and one more on the floor! Thank God I did give up my seat for her. I did not feel tired anymore. I felt happy too that I have made a little difference in some one’s life for that moment!! This is the 2nd time since the Kindness challenge started that when you have an intention to participate, opportunities arise. My first day experience was blogged in my website. Light attract light, kindness attracts kindness.

  • Fufu

    Well, yesterday the friend I had invited to hang out but couldn’t on Day 1 of the Challenge texted me randomly that he was on the neighborhood and if we could hang out so we did and I got 2 hugs!! :p We went to some swings in the park and at the moment I totally forgot about the challenge and he ended up giving his swing to me because he noticed the swing he was sat in was comfier than the one I was in. When I got home I remembered about the challenge and went “Snap! I forgot!! :(

    But he’s a gentleman so I doubt he’d had wanted to stay on his swing and even if I had denied his offer he would had probably kept insisting till I gave in and changed swings :sweat: But on the other hand later at night I did come up on an opportunity to give up my seat or rather couch ;) :

    Who did you give up your seat to today? Where did you give up your seat?

    I gave up my couch to my little brother who was sleeping in the same couch as my older sister. My sister is pregnant so it was causing her a lot of un-comfort for him to be on the same couch plus he hit her stomach with his fit which is dangerous for her and the baby! :( So I quickly told my little brother to sleep on my couch instead :D

    How did you feel when doing this act of kindness?

    I felt happy because I was able to allow my lil brother and sister to sleep better and to protect my sister and her baby from any serious injury since my little brother could actually hit her hard enough by accident if he stayed on the couch and even if if weren’t for the challenge I’d had quickly given up my couch since I’m always helping out my sister so she won’t strain herself or the baby but it was rewarding to do it in a conscious manner. Now for today’s challenge..the 3 thank you letters. ;)

  • ugi

    Hi everyone!
    I did not have the chance to give any seats to anybody becouse the bus was either empty or too full that I did not even have space to stand up:) So I took an alternative chance to be kind and gave a massage to my husband who was quite tired after carrying a lot of stuff for home. I also baked some cookies for him as a surprise. Besides, today one of my neighbors knocked on our door asking about the problem about tap water. Since we are living at ground floor we had tap water but they, living in 3rd floor did not. I offered them to give water in a few big bottles and they were really happy with my offer and accepted it. I felt very good about being of help to someone!

    Giving seats to people who need is a common practice for me already so I will keep doing this in coming days when I have a chance:)

    Have a good day everyone!

    • ugi

      I had a chance to give a seat yesterday! I was on the train, actually there was no lack of seats but one of the ladies sitting accross me was not comfortable because of sitting backwards (the opposite direction of trains traveling direction), she was telling this to her friend. I offered her my seat which was the same direction with train’s route, she said she would appreciate it since she feels sick sitting backwards. We changed seats. After 20 minutes travel, when she was about to take off, she thanked me again and wished me a good evening, I did the same and I felt very happy!

  • Netta

    This was a challenge for me because where I have no license and am also a stay at home mother in a very small town, we have no buses for transportation and I don’t get out everyday.
    However, I think I took on this challenge in a productive manner. I had company come to my home. Several close friends were here to visit, of course my children, my boyfriend, and one of his friends showed up. While we were enjoying hanging around in my computer room, I remembered this challenge because my computer room has limited seating choices. I have my chair at my computer desk. Then I have a small hope chest that serves as seating. I also have an antique stereo that only plays records. One of the models that is long and you can open the top to store records and to play records.
    So a few people were standing around. I offered my computer chair to my best friend. Then showed my close friend and her husband that they could share the hope chest. I brought in my 6 year old’s small Dora couch that will fold out into a small bed for her. It was for my children to share. I placed a cushion on my stereo and allowed my boyfriend’s close friend to sit on it.
    My boyfriend and I sat in the floor leaning onto the wall so we could see everyone and enjoy everyone’s company. It was a nice evening and one of my friends offered to take the floor so my boyfriend or I had a seat. It was touching. I told her I appreciated the offer, then shared this challenge with them, and I remained in the floor.
    Therefore, though it isn’t huge such as giving my seat to a stranger or an elderly person, I felt good that I could entertain everyone and at the same time gave my seat up so they were comfortable. It made me happy which allowed me to enjoy the evening even more.

  • Claire R

    Day 2
    I knew this would be a real challenge for me as I mostly drive and people often offer Me a seat as I
    have bad knees. It was fun. I let another woman in line before me at the supermarket and moved my purse and things out of the child seat of my cart so another woman in line could put down the things in her arms. She smiled and said ” why, thank you ”
    As I was in a large room with many chairs I waited a bit and let the others pick seats before I sat.I also stood up more to greet people and offered the seat. I liked what one of you wrote about letting the truck get into the lane and was very careful to let people pass and other cars.
    It seemed like all but one driver were more considerate, smiled more and drove more slowly.She yelled at me but instead of firing back I just felt poor thing must have been having a bad day.
    I liked what Netta wrote!
    And I have started my thank you notes to the people who have helped me with my garage sale.Its easy to spend a little extra time on these things. I want them to know how much all their help has meant to me.

  • Cheree

    Okay, this was a tough one for me. There is NO public transportation where I live, and I virtually never eat out. Maybe this counts, maybe it doesn’t. On my day off (Friday), I spent the first 1/2 of my day doing things for others instead of doing things just for me.

  • Qin Tang

    Whenever I am in China and take public transportation, I always give up my seat to people who need it. But here in the US, I don’t have public transportation near where I live.

    An opportunity to do an act of kindness presented itself when I went to the Farmer’s Market. It’s the end of the season and only a handful of vendors were left. The weather was very cold.

    At one stall, I bought $18 of winter melons. I gave the Hmong woman $20 and told her to keep the change. She returned my small act of kindness with her own act of kindness by giving me some extra.

    It is so true, kindness begets kindness.

  • PAW

    Howdy all,
    Had to think hard about this one, as I live in a rural town with no public transport. I went grocery shopping and the lady behind me in the line had a baby with her and only a few items so I offered my place in the line. She seamed very grateful. :D

  • Daria

    Thank you Celes for the honour of the highlight, it feels like receiving an Oscar! I don’t know what to say, but I’d like to thank my mom and dad for their infinite love and my old English teacher for her unwavering patience :D

    Regarding this day’s task, I “kind of” did it! While sitting in the computer lab at my community college, a fellow student who happened to be a mother with her daughter accompanying her, was searching for a seat closer to the printer so she asked me if she can have my seat and so I did. There were plenty of empty seats for me but the one I was sitting on was the most convenient for her.

    At first I felt good about giving up the seat but when i thought about it some more, I really couldn’t feel that it “counted” because I wasn’t the initiator. But then I helped her with some technical things and she was really happy about it and then so was I :)

    Sometimes I wonder of possible acts of kindness that can be done frequently, and this act fits the bill ! :)

    • Michael

      Please feel free to initiate at any time after the challenge. :)

  • Michael

    The Kindness Challenge is fun!

    Here in Hong Kong, seats are precious so only elderly or pregnant people gets a seat given to them. So when I was on a bus trying to give up my seat to let a standing parent sit next to her child, it surprised her and at first she refused.

    Later when another elderly came up, I stood up and left the seat empty. The elderly took another seat, and b/c I stayed standing, the parent recognized what I was doing and said thanks. :dance:

    Thanks to you too, Celes!

  • Elton

    I have given 2 seats during my trip, one during in bus during immigration and another in mrt. One lady looked at me as i am strange guy, but the ones in mrt look at me at gratefullness as it is an elderly lady who looks very tired

  • Angela Brent-Harris

    I don’t take public transportation, but I gave up my seat at the movies to an elderly couple and sat somewhere else in the cinema. I also gave up my front seat at a meeting and offered it to someone else.

  • Ezza

    Unfortunately, I don’t use public transport or have a chair I can offer up to someone but I did share a seat :clap:

  • Alexa

    This challenge is one that, unfortunately, has remained irrelevant for me even nearly two weeks later. I just never have a real situation to give up a seat in!

    I live on a college campus, so I don’t take public transportation anywhere. In my classes, we all have our “spots” where we sit so I can’t, say, give up my seat for a student (which kinda doesn’t make sense anyway, since I’m in the class too! XD). The closest I’ve gotten is offering to get someone a chair if we’ve run out of chairs at our lunch table, so hopefully that can count!

    At the very least, this will keep me more mindful of giving up my seat in the future if there’s ever a situation that calls for it. I feel that has to count for something! =D