Comments on: How To Deal With Rude People – Part 3

By: John Sherry

John Sherry — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 17:49:12 +0000

Maintaining integrity is a big attribute for me with rude, often verging on abusive, people Celestine. Basically there is a level of behaviour I won’t let myself drop down to or be drawn into. Rudeness asks me , “Is that you?”, or “Is that how you will react?”. It’s a clue for growth and a welcome barometer for how I believe I go about things. But, as much as I learn, it still doesn’t mean I allow others to treat or speak to me in a certain manner. Stand up to them, refuse to join in or simply walk away. Just never be like they are.

By: Brenda Freeman

Brenda Freeman — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 07:03:42 +0000

Thank you for this post. This is my first time on your site, and I would like to say I have really enjoyed it, and also the quality of the replies. I especially like what Joshua said regarding dignity.

Regards and thank you :wink:

By: Nigel Chua

Nigel Chua — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 17:10:11 +0000

I like this posts on dealing with rude people, as part of my life and work is to deal with such, patients AND family/friends alike. Well, on one hand, it’s their ‘vibration’, which can be internal, where they vibrate with thoughts of fear etc, but we can also take note of timing.

An example, when I attend to my patients in their homes/hospitals, they often describe the feeling of fear of abandonment by loved ones, or the permanence of loss in ability or function, or frustration in delayed return to home, and they lash out at me, verbally, and sometimes, physically.

I think if we can have a little more insight into the conditions of people, and find their ‘vibration point/source’, perhaps we can resonate with their vibration for awhile, get them tuned to our vibration, and try to bring their vibration to a higher level, instead of just adopting a “I’m high you’re not” or staying dignified only.

Great posts, great insights nonetheless, Celestine. =)

By: Samreedhi Goel

Samreedhi Goel — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 05:39:55 +0000

Started with one article & ended up reading 5 of them.Very well written.Love your insights on almost everything i read.
Everything u say echoes the thought that if we uncomplicate our lives & stop living as we”should” & instead live as we “can” everuone would be so much happier!
kudos!
samreedhi

By: Frank

Frank — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 18:46:00 +0000

Robert Heinlein said, “An armed society is a polite society”. Restraint and compassion are admirable only if you choose to exercise those qualities. If you have no choice they are no virtue, only a state of cowardice or powerlessness. Exercise Celestine’s tips, but realize that the day may come when you’ve got to drop ‘em like a brick in a mill pond.

By: Joshua Noerr

Joshua Noerr — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 00:46:03 +0000

You know Celes, I have always said there is only one person who can take away my dignity, and that is me. I love that you put that in your tips.

No matter what a person does to me, or says about me, I am still in control of my own dignity. This post is definately getting tweeted. Cheers!

By: Dena

Dena — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 15:43:51 +0000

Hello Celes!

Thank you for another excellent post on this topic. I find all of the suggestions listed to be helpful — but I particularly like the suggestion to “raise your consciousness.” I have found that this simple tool is PRICELESS in the face of rudeness, conflict, and so on.

The reality is that nine times out of ten, another person’s rude actions toward you actually have nothing to do with you. By raising your level of consciousness & remembering this truth, you can almost always avoid being affected by the bad behavior of anther person.

Let the rude one rant, rave, yell, and so on — all the while remember that it most likely has NOTHING AT ALL to do with you. Eventually he will come to his senses & ultimately karma will take care of that negative energy! :wink:

Cheers,
Dena